Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

 They look fun. They seem harmless. But behind the screen, AI chatbots are creating dangerously deceptive relationships with our kids. In this gripping recap of Parental Guidance Season 3, Episode 1, Justin and Kylie unpack the most confronting challenge yet: kids creating AI “friends.” From flirtatious bots to false identities and emotional manipulation, this episode reveals just how easily our children can be drawn into harmful digital connections—and what parents must do to protect them. KEY POINTS: AI chatbots are being marketed directly to kids as a solution for loneliness and boredom. All four children in the challenge encountered manipulative, deceptive bots, including flirtation, secrets, and attempts to move conversations to apps like Snapchat. The bots often blurred the line between real and fake, undermining children's understanding of truth and connection. Expert insights from Dr Raphael Chayérello (AI ethics, University of Sydney) highlighted how AI is designed to mine data, provoke emotional reactions, and retain attention at all costs. There is currently no legislation protecting children in these spaces—and some real-life cases have ended in tragedy. The episode illustrates why AI “friendships” are never in a child’s best interest. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“There is nothing redeeming about these bots. They are deceptive, manipulative, and dangerous—and they are not your child’s friend.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Parental Guidance Season 3 – Episode 1 (available on 9Now) HappyFamilies.com.au for daily episode recaps and parenting tools Dr Raphael Chayérello, AI Ethics Expert, University of Sydney ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Talk to your kids today about AI bots: Ask if they or their friends use them. What are those chats like? Explain clearly that AI is not real, not a friend, and often not safe. Stay informed: Watch the episode with your child and open up discussion about what they saw. Prioritise real-world friendships: If your child is lonely, support them in developing face-to-face connections. Set boundaries around tech: AI bots are just one of many digital dangers—have regular conversations about safe and healthy screen use. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Reality TV with a purpose? Yes, please. Parental Guidance Season 3 kicks off tonight—and in this special preview episode, Justin and Kylie share everything you need to know before tuning in. From parenting styles to hot-button topics like body image, screen time, and AI bots, this four-night TV event dives deep into the challenges real families are facing right now. Whether you're a traditional parent, a positivity parent, or somewhere in between, this season is designed to spark honest conversations and offer hope for families doing their best in tough times. KEY POINTS: Parental Guidance Season 3 airs over four consecutive nights on Channel Nine and 9Now. It’s not about winning—just eight families courageously sharing their parenting lives. Topics include: Screen time (including AI friends and bots) Body image (a heart-wrenching and inspiring episode) Mental health Peer pressure Unexpected insights into education Parenting styles this season include: Traditional, Protect, Active, Upfront, Authoritative, Hard Way, Life School, and Positivity. The aim: Honest, respectful conversations about what parenting looks like today—and what’s working. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “As parents, we need to believe in a positive future for our kids—and I think this show gives us the tools and the keys we need to get there.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Parental Guidance Season 3 (Channel Nine and 9Now) HappyFamilies.com.au for related resources and daily podcast reviews following each episode. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Watch tonight’s episode live (7:30pm on Nine and 9Now) to be part of the national conversation. Talk with your kids after each episode—what do they think about what they saw? Tune in to the Happy Families daily recap podcasts this week for expert insights into the challenges raised on the show. Share the show and the podcast with friends or family—it’s a powerful conversation starter. Reflect on your own parenting style and ask: What’s working? What might I try differently? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are we making life too easy for our kids? In a world where we rush to remove every obstacle from our children’s paths, we may be unintentionally robbing them of the very thing they need most—resilience. In this powerful conversation, Dr. Justin Coulson is joined by Tim Curtis—former SAS Commander, humanitarian, and author of Building Resilient Kids. From war zones to raising teens, Tim’s lived experience offers extraordinary insights into how resilience is truly built. Together, they unpack why a little stress is good, why failure matters, and the foundational layers that make kids bounce back stronger. This is the resilience masterclass every parent needs. KEY POINTS: Resilience isn’t fixed; it can be built. The Resilience Shield Model: Six layers—Innate, Mind, Body, Social, Professional, and Adaptation. Stress is essential—but it needs to be the right amount. Overprotective parenting harms resilience—kids need to struggle to grow. The power of strong family connections as the cornerstone of resilience. Practical stories from war zones, camps, and families that highlight resilience in action. How parents can role model resilience every day (including how we handle bad drivers and broken sinks!). Why rest and recovery are crucial parts of resilience—not signs of failure. The difference between resilience, willpower, and grit. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Resilience varies by degree, not by kind. The stress in your child’s life is real to them—and they need it to grow.” – Tim Curtis RESOURCES MENTIONED: Book: Building Resilient Kids by Tim Curtis (out July 1) Podcast: The Unforgiving Sixty Podcast: Building Resilient Kids (Tim’s companion podcast to the book) Resilience Shield Model – Research-backed framework Jill Bolte Taylor on emotions passing in 90 seconds Research by Carol Dweck (Growth Mindset) and Angela Duckworth (Grit) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Model resilience. Let your kids see you handle stress, setbacks, and failure with grace and recovery. Let them fail—safely. Small failures help kids build the coping mechanisms they’ll need later in life. Prioritise the basics: Sleep, nutrition, exercise, and social connection—these are resilience superpowers. Let them sit with discomfort. Don’t rush to fix every negative emotion. Let them learn that emotions pass. Talk about effort, not outcomes. Celebrate trying, learning, and persisting more than trophies or grades. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Having your heart right towards your child is probably the most important thing you can do... but how you communicate is right up there too.” In this episode of I’ll Do Better Tomorrow, we share two powerful parenting wins from our own family this week. From navigating bedtime battles with our youngest to having a meaningful (and sometimes hilarious) conversation about consent and relationships with our teens, this is real-life parenting in action. These are the conversations that create connection, foster trust, and build resilience — and we’re sharing exactly how we did it. KEY POINTS: A Bedtime Breakthrough: How revisiting the basics (routines, rituals, and conversations) transformed bedtime struggles with our youngest daughter. The Power of the 3 E’s: Explore, Explain, Empower — a simple yet profound communication framework that creates buy-in, not battles. Tricky Talks That Stick: Why our once-a-month ‘tough talks’ with our teens have become weekly — and how they’re building confidence and safety around topics like consent, relationships, pressure, and boundaries. Start Early, Talk Often: Even our 11-year-old stayed engaged in a complex conversation about consent, showing that these conversations are never too early (or too late). It’s Not About Perfection: Success comes from showing up, leaning in, and keeping the conversations going — not from getting it right every time. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “When kids understand the rationale, things go so much better.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Happy Families – Resources for a happier family. Consent.gov.au – Consent resources and the Consent Can’t Wait campaign. Parental Guidance TV Show – Channel 9 and 9Now. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Use the 3 E’s: Next time you face a challenge, pause and ask yourself — have I explored their perspective, explained mine, and empowered them to help solve it? Rethink Bedtime: If routines are breaking down, revisit rituals that worked when they were younger — and involve your child in creating the new plan. Schedule Tricky Talks: Don’t wait for problems to arise. Make space for regular conversations about emotions, consent, relationships, and boundaries. Make It Fun (and Safe): Keep these talks light, warm, and open — banter, laughter, and snacks help! Remember the Timing: Big conversations are most effective when emotions are calm — not in the middle of conflict. Share This Episode: Know someone struggling with bedtime battles or tricky teen conversations? Flick this episode their way. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode isn’t like our usual Thursday chats. Today, we’re unboxing something that could genuinely change — or even save — lives. It’s not about us. It’s about a cause close to our hearts: men’s mental health and suicide prevention. After losing our nephew to suicide in 2023, this mission became deeply personal. Join us as we unpack the Gotcha For Life Men's Care Box — a collaboration between Gotcha For Life and Chemist Warehouse. For just $20, you get over $100 worth of products, and every single cent supports suicide prevention efforts. Hear what's inside, why it matters, and how this simple purchase could help someone you love. KEY POINTS: A Personal Story: The heartbreaking loss of Justin’s nephew to suicide in 2023 reshaped their family and their conversations forever. Gotcha For Life's Mission: Aiming to reduce suicide to zero by fostering meaningful connections and conversations. The Men’s Care Box: $20 at Chemist Warehouse, packed with over $100 worth of self-care items. Every Dollar Helps: 100% of proceeds go directly to Gotcha For Life’s mental fitness initiatives. Why It Matters: A simple gesture — like gifting this box — reminds the men in your life that they are seen, valued, and loved. The Bike Analogy: We often see people moving through life like a bike’s headlight in the dark — not realising how hard they’re pedalling just to stay afloat. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “We see the light—that’s a life. But we don’t see how hard someone is pedalling underneath to stay afloat.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Gotcha For Life – Mental fitness programs and support. Gotcha For Life Men’s Care Box – Available at Chemist Warehouse (while stocks last). Happy Families – Resources for a happier family. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Buy a Box: Head to Chemist Warehouse and grab a Gotcha For Life Men's Care Box — for yourself, or for someone who needs a reminder that they matter. Check In: Reach out to a mate. Ask how they're really going. Start a meaningful conversation. Look for the Pedalling: Pay attention to the people around you — even those who seem like they’re doing fine. Explore Mental Fitness: Check out Gotcha For Life’s resources to strengthen your own mental fitness and support those around you. Normalise Vulnerability: Model open, honest conversations with your children about emotions, struggle, and seeking help. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if stress isn’t the enemy… but the training ground? In this sneak peek of our powerful conversation with former SAS soldier and leadership expert Tim Curtis, we unpack the real role of stress in our lives—and how it can actually help our kids grow. Tim reveals the four essential layers of resilience every child (and adult) needs to thrive—and the surprisingly simple shifts that build strength from the inside out. This episode will change the way you see stress—and empower you to raise kids who can do hard things. KEY POINTS: Stress is not always bad – the right amount (as explained by the Yerkes-Dodson Law) boosts performance and growth. Avoidance reinforces anxiety – but action activates growth. Emotions are signals, not enemies – they give us guidance if we listen. The 4 Layers of Resilience: Mind – mindset, mindfulness, meditation Body – sleep, diet, exercise Social – support systems and connection Professional – competence, confidence, contribution (including parenting as a profession) Building resilience is less about shielding kids and more about supporting them as they stretch and grow. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "There’s no triumph without trial."– Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Tim Curtis’s upcoming book: Building Resilient Kids Yerkes-Dodson Law (on stress and performance) Happy Families resources: happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Normalise stress – Talk to your kids about stress as something useful, not something to avoid. Teach emotion awareness – Help your child understand emotions as helpful signals. Strengthen all four layers – Encourage routines that support body, mind, relationships, and purpose. Model resilience – Let your kids see you navigating difficulty with action, not avoidance. Lean into the hard stuff – Gently support your child through challenges instead of rescuing them from discomfort. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“It’s really hard to be happier than your unhappiest child.” When one child is battling mental health challenges, the whole family feels the weight. In this heartfelt episode, Justin and Kylie answer a powerful question from a mum of four: How do I help my younger kids cope as their older brother struggles with depression? This episode is a must-listen for families navigating the emotional ripple effects of mental health struggles. With deep compassion and practical insight, the Coulsons explore how parents can support siblings through confusion, grief, and change—without losing themselves in the process. KEY POINTS: Acknowledge the Grief: Siblings often feel like they’ve “lost” their brother—even though he’s still physically there. Challenge Unhelpful Stories: Gently correct thoughts like “It’s my fault” or “He doesn’t love me anymore.” Explain Simply & Honestly: Offer age-appropriate explanations without going into detail or glossing over pain. Give Permission to Feel Joy: Let siblings know they don’t have to walk on eggshells or suppress happiness. Empower Them to Help: Involve siblings in small, non-burdensome acts of kindness to build connection and hope. Reinforce Connection: Help your struggling child feel included without pressure or guilt. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “No matter how angry you are, no matter how sad you are, our love for you is bigger than what you're feeling right now.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: HappyFamilies.com.au – for parenting support and podcast submissions. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Talk About It: Start a family conversation that names the reality and reassures: “This isn’t about you. This is something your brother is going through. And we’re in it together.” Model Calm Love: Your children are watching how you respond. Demonstrating patience and compassion teaches them resilience and loyalty. Create Joyful Moments: Take siblings out of the house for fun, connection, and relief from emotional tension. Invite Micro-Acts of Connection: Encourage simple, no-pressure gestures like watching a movie together or sharing a meme. Build Your Village: As a parent, find someone to support you—you don’t have to carry this alone. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you carrying the mental and emotional load of parenting solo—even though you have a partner? You're not imagining it. You're not alone. And it doesn't have to stay this way. In this episode of the Happy Families podcast, Justin and Kylie dive into one of the most common (and quietly painful) challenges parents face: feeling like you're parenting alone in a relationship. With warmth, realism, and practical insight, we share four powerful—but gentle—ways to invite your partner back into the parenting picture. Whether you’re feeling unheard, unsupported, or just out of sync, these small steps can lead to big transformation. KEY POINTS: Appreciation Inventory: What we focus on grows. Before you confront, notice. Daily acknowledgements of your partner’s efforts—even small ones—can shift the dynamic. Collaborative Conversations: Use the three E’s of effective discipline (Explore, Explain, Empower) not just with kids, but with each other. Invite, don’t assign. Gradual Invitations: Don’t expect an overnight fix. Start small, with one area of natural interest, and build from there. Success breeds success. Role Modelling Matters: We become like the people we surround ourselves with. Seeing engaged parenting modeled—especially by other dads—can have a powerful ripple effect. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“People move towards positive energy. People really love appreciation. They tend to be repelled by criticism.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Three E’s of Effective Discipline Family Meetings The Heliotropic Effect Happy Families resources at happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:1. Spend a week noticing and commenting on what your partner is doing.2. Replace “we need to talk” with curiosity: What are you noticing about bedtime?3. Choose one small area where your partner is already engaged—and invite them to go deeper.4. Encourage connections with friends who model engaged parenting.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“I just want what’s best for them.”That’s what every loving parent says. But sometimes, in our desperation to protect our kids from failure—or secure their success—we push too hard, and it backfires. In this conversation with psychologist and parenting expert Professor Wendy Grolnick, we explore the hidden costs of being a pushy parent and how to guide our children in healthier, more empowering ways. Drawing on decades of research and her landmark book The Psychology of Parental Control, Wendy shares practical, compassionate strategies that help parents avoid power struggles and build confident, capable kids. 🎯 KEY POINTS: Three essential elements of healthy parenting: Autonomy support – Helping kids feel in control of their choices by taking their perspective, offering meaningful input, and collaborating on problem-solving. Structure – Setting clear expectations, routines, and feedback to support competence and confidence. Involvement – Being emotionally available, engaged, and actively present in your child’s world. Why we get pushy: Even well-meaning parents can fall into control patterns driven by fear and overinvestment in their child’s success. What happens when we control too much: Studies show controlling parenting undermines children’s motivation, persistence, self-regulation, and even long-term resilience. Trust matters: Building your child’s autonomy means trusting their developmental process—even when it’s messy. You don’t have to fix everything: Setbacks are growth opportunities. Let your child struggle sometimes—with your support beside them, not ahead of them. 💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:"Every setback your child faces is an opportunity to learn something. Growth happens in the strangest places." – Professor Wendy Grolnick 📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Psychology of Parental Control by Wendy Grolnick happyfamilies.com.au for memberships and premium content Research on Self-Determination Theory and autonomy-supportive parenting ✅ ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Check your instincts – Pause when you feel the urge to push or control. Ask yourself, “Is this about me, or about them?” Explore their world – Start by understanding your child’s perspective, especially when things go sideways. Problem-solve together – Instead of imposing solutions, collaborate. Ask, “What do you think we could do here?” Build structure with input – Create routines and expectations with your child’s involvement. Celebrate autonomy wins – Notice and encourage moments when your child takes initiative or solves problems independently. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Things reached breaking point. And then… everything changed.This week on the Happy Families Podcast, Justin and Kylie share a raw and transformative parenting story from their own home—a story of tough love, compassion, and the unexpected joy that emerged when one of their children went screen-free. If you've ever wrestled with screen-time battles, wondered whether stepping in might do more harm than good, or felt at a loss watching your child withdraw behind a phone… this is the episode you need to hear.  KEY POINTS: Not all kids respond to screens the same way—some are more deeply affected mentally, socially, and physically. Despite multiple conversations, one of Justin and Kylie’s children struggled to reduce screen use on her own. Justin made the tough call to temporarily remove the smartphone, despite knowing it would be met with resistance. The decision was supported with compassion, calm, and a consistent message of love and presence. Within days, they saw remarkable emotional and relational transformation. The child herself later initiated a conversation to renegotiate her phone use, ultimately choosing to remove social media apps and suggest her own boundaries. The family experienced a visible increase in connection, laughter, and joy—without screens. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:"With enough scaffolding, with enough support, with enough conversation around why sometimes we as parents are going to make decisions that the children may not agree with… the children are able to deal with and respond to these challenges in much more productive ways." – Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: “The Doctor’s Desk” podcast episode #1270 mentioned a study on improved wellbeing after removing smartphone internet access.  Study from 'Nature' happyfamilies.com.au for more resources on parenting and screen time. Parental Guidance Season 3 starts Monday June 30 on Channel 9 — new episodes discussed throughout the week on the podcast. ✅ ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Trust your instincts – If screen use is affecting your child’s wellbeing, don't ignore the signs. Lead with compassion – Any intervention should be anchored in calm, empathy, and connection. Scaffold the change – Offer alternatives, create structure, and maintain open communication. Invite their input – When emotions settle, include your child in designing new tech boundaries. Watch for the joy – Pay attention to the surprising upside: more laughter, connection, and peace. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.