The Overwhelmed Brain
Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert
Get to the root of emotional issues and learn the best way to relate to yourself and others by honoring your personal boundaries and making decisions that are in alignment with what's most important to you.
This is not a "common-sense" personal growth and development show. You won't be told to think positively or create affirmations. The Overwhelmed Brain is about accessing that deeper mental and emotional strength inside you so that you can decrease or even eliminate old fears and evolve into the person you want to be.
Learn what your parents or caretakers never taught you about emotional wellness and creating strong, non-toxic bonds with others.
If you want the exact instructions that will help improve your life, you're in the right place.
This is not a "common-sense" personal growth and development show. You won't be told to think positively or create affirmations. The Overwhelmed Brain is about accessing that deeper mental and emotional strength inside you so that you can decrease or even eliminate old fears and evolve into the person you want to be.
Learn what your parents or caretakers never taught you about emotional wellness and creating strong, non-toxic bonds with others.
If you want the exact instructions that will help improve your life, you're in the right place.
Episodes
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Nov 2, 2025 • 40min
The most empowering question to build your self-confidence
Self-esteem and confidence come naturally to some. For others, the bridge to confidence is long, full of obstacles, and not worth the trip. There's one important question to ask yourself to be able to cross that bridge. That's today's topic.
Oct 26, 2025 • 33min
Everything is good except the idea of marriage
A woman shares her struggle about getting married, feeling as if she isn't special because her partner has been married in the past. What is making her feel this way? Can this be overcome?
Oct 19, 2025 • 39min
My abusive ex wants me to sit next to him at our child's wedding
A mom doesn't want to sit next to her abusive ex during her child's wedding but doesn't want to come across as selfish. Is it selfish to make healthy choices that will keep you happy and safe? Important discussion today.
Oct 12, 2025 • 38min
Why is finding and connecting with others so darn hard sometimes?
If you feel like an outsider in a world that seems unrelatable, could it be because you're yearning for authenticity in your connections? I know I am. Making friendships and romantic relationships can sometimes seem like a lesson in futility.
Oct 5, 2025 • 46min
When it's always your fault
If you find yourself constantly being blamed for everything going wrong, it's time to question whether you're being manipulated into believing what may be a deflection. In this episode, I tackle the sometimes tricky dynamics of responsibility and blame.
Sep 28, 2025 • 51min
The childhood trauma we try to leave in the past
If returning to your childhood hometown stirs up memories you'd rather leave behind, does that mean you're not ready to face them? I'll dive into this area with a heartfelt question from someone seeking closure from past trauma, wondering if revisiting their roots could be the key to healing and rediscovering their lost self.
Sep 21, 2025 • 35min
The intense pain, longing, and pining over the one who left
If you're struggling with the feeling of emptiness after a breakup or loss, is it really about them, or something deeper within you? I'll share my own experiences with heartbreak and loneliness, and why understanding our emotional dependencies might just be the key to healing and building healthier relationships.
Sep 14, 2025 • 36min
Waiting and waiting for others to change
How long will you wait for someone to make changes to treat you better? At what point do you decide enough is enough and move on without them in your life? And is there anything you can do if change seems impossible?
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Sep 7, 2025 • 54min
10 Life lessons that will help you in your pursuit of happiness
This episode dives into a thought-provoking exploration of ten essential life lessons aimed at enhancing your happiness. It emphasizes the importance of honest communication in relationships and how past behaviors can shape present actions. The discussion highlights the power of empathy and the complexity of forgiveness, especially self-forgiveness, as a crucial step toward personal growth. Prepare for some uncomfortable but necessary insights that could lead to deeper fulfillment in your life.
Aug 31, 2025 • 45min
How do I know when I'm ready to love again?
How do you know when your heart is ready to embrace love again after weathering the storm of a toxic relationship? What should you be prepared for at the start of a new relationship? I talk about that and the draining effects of toxic relationships in this episode.
