

Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage
Focus on the Family
Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.
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Aug 18, 2025 • 55min
Create A Marriage You'll Love, Pt I
In this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of personal responsibility with Dr. Bob Paul and Tara Lalonde, who share their extensive experience in marriage counseling through the Hope Restored program. Bob and Tara explain concepts like the reactive cycle and the importance of seeing your spouse through the eyes of God. They also provide actionable tips for balancing family expectations and maintaining a strong marital connection, even during challenging times. We'll also introduce you to the concept of Micro Moments, as well as answer a listener voicemail about balancing marriage and family obligations during a family crisis. Hope Restored Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter! Breaking The Reactive Cycle Article Take The Reactive Cycle Assessment Connect With the Community! Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail. If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Aug 11, 2025 • 43min
Married with Adult Children
Greg and Erin discuss maintaining a strong marriage during the transition to the empty nest phase with the one and only Dr. Gary Chapman, author of 'The Five Love Languages' and 'Your New Life with Adult Children.' We explore the emotional challenges couples face as children leave home, and the importance of communication, intentionality, and empathy in navigating this transition. Dr. Chapman shares insights on balancing personal and marital growth, and the need for parents to listen and validate their children's experiences. We'll also help you rekindle connection and affection through a fun game idea called 'Jazzed Up Jenga'! Share this episode with anyone you know who has children that will soon leave the nest. Your New Life With Adult Children Questions For Jazzed Up Jenga Learn more about The 5 Love Languages Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail. If you enjoyed listening to Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Aug 4, 2025 • 58min
What Your Marriage Can Be
On this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Patricia Ashley shares a deeply personal testimony about how her marriage, once perceived as dead and nearly at the point of collapse, was revived through their mutual journey and commitment to Christianity. Over time, through shared prayer and a growing understanding of God's intentions for marriage, the Ashley's rebuilt their relationship, focusing on mutual respect and love. We also answer a listener email about how often 60+ year olds should be having sex. And we share a great idea involving a Time Capsule Love Letter to draw you and your spouse closer. Nurturing The Heart of Your Spouse Collection Hope Restored 10-Day Couples Prayer Text Campaign Truth Rising Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Jul 28, 2025 • 52min
His Brain & Her Brain: The Differences and the Delights
Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley have a great conversation with Dr. Joannie DeBrito, about the common differences between partners that impact marriage, such as intellectual and processing differences, emotional versus logical thinking, and varying approaches to stress and grief. She emphasizes understanding and leveraging these differences to strengthen your marriage, and highlights the contrast in how men and women multitask, manage stress, and handle sexual differences. Practical advice includes recalling initial attraction, managing discussions during non-stress times, and using therapy when needed. We'll also answer a listener question about what to do about an ongoing addiction. His Brain, Her Brain How to Pursue A Healing Separation The Perception Questions Exercise Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Jul 21, 2025 • 55min
My Spouse Is On The Spectrum
On this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Greg and Erin speak with Dr. Stephanie and Dan Holmes about being in a marriage effected by autism. They discuss the evolving dynamics of their relationship, the importance of communication strategies, and how neurodivergence impacts their daily lives. Stephanie highlights the significance of understanding and valuing each other's strengths, while also stressing the need for neurodiversity-informed support when seeking marital help. Dan reflects on the value of empathy and the necessity of recognizing different perspectives. Together, they offer practical advice and emphasize the importance of support systems, shared values, and strategic communication for couples managing similar challenges. Embracing the Autism Spectrum Marriage Assessment A Neurodiverse Marriage: One Wife's Story How To Identify and Relate to A Spouse on the Autism Spectrum Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Jul 14, 2025 • 52min
The Ultimate Date Night Show
On this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of regular date nights for marital happiness, stability, and sexual satisfaction with Jay and Laura Laffoon. They share personal anecdotes about their own date nights provide insights from their 40-year marriage on keeping the spark alive through dating. You'll learn how to overcome barriers to date nights, the significance of trying new activities together, and later, we even talk about renewing wedding vows. We'll also address a listener's question on how to support a chronically unemployed spouse, emphasizing patience, compassion, and practical advice. Ultimate Date Night: 52 Amazing Dates for Busy Couples Conversation Starters For Couples Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Jul 7, 2025 • 43min
Trading Trauma For Truth
So, what HAVEN'T you told your spouse? On this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley discuss the impact of past trauma and secrets on marriage and relationships. We'll also hear from Elizabeth Good who discusses her book 'Speak the Unspeakable,' exploring the impact of adverse childhood experiences, or ACES. Greg and Erin encourage you to play a movie-themed game of 'Never Have I Ever,' and they'll answer a listener's question about handling a potential pornography addiction in a spouse. Speak The Unspeakable Understanding and Overcoming Trauma with Dr. Gregory Jantz Redeeming a Marriage and Childhood Wounds with Russ & Tori Taff Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Jun 30, 2025 • 59min
Supporting Military Marriages
On this episode of 'Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage' Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley celebrate our troops and their families, and talk with Beth Runkle about the challenges military spouses face and the dynamic of military home life -- which includes frequent moves, loneliness, saying goodbye for deployments, and the emotional strain of maintaining relationships. Beth shares personal experiences about resentment towards military life, the importance of communication, and how finding faith helped her marriage survive. We'll give you practical advice on self-care, forming community, and supporting mental and emotional health, too. We also will take a question from a listener who is dealing with anxiety. Another Move God? Here are resources to help military families! Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Jun 23, 2025 • 57min
Myths Wives Believe
On this episode of 'Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage,' Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley discuss common myths about marriage. Do you have misconceptions about what makes a marriage successful? We'll talk with Rhonda and Steve Stoppe who discuss Rhonda's book 'If My Husband Would Change, I'd Be Happy.' We'll hear stories about their marital challenges and how they resolved them through faith and open communication. The episode concludes with advice on dealing with chronic illness in marriage and the importance of maintaining self-care and balance. Plus, we have a fun activity to create music playlists for your spouse to foster connection and intimacy. If My Husband Would Change I'd Be Happy Weekend Get Away 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Jun 16, 2025 • 56min
Better Marriage - Better Life
Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley interview Dr. Gary Chapman, renowned author of 'The Five Love Languages' and other marriage-related books. On this episode we discuss practical insights from Chapman's new book, 'A Simple Guide for a Better Marriage.' Highlights include addressing common communication issues in marriage, the importance of humility, techniques for handling conflicts, and the role of apologies and forgiveness. Dr. Chapman shares his wisdom from 60 years of marriage, emphasizing the need for mutual respect, understanding each other's love languages, and consistently working on the relationship. The episode concludes with a celebration of Greg and Erin's 33rd wedding anniversary, highlighting their ongoing commitment to growing in love and supporting each other. A Simple Guide For A Better Marriage Conversation Starters For Couples Here's a link to the Narcissism episode Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.