

Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage
Focus on the Family
Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.
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Sep 15, 2025 • 56min
The Importance of Having Friends
Whether you’re seeking new friends or wanting to deepen existing relationships, this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage will help women and men build their respective friendships. Erin and her friends discuss how deep, supportive female friendships are vital for navigating life’s challenges, providing encouragement, and fostering spiritual and emotional growth. Then, Greg and his friend Bill discuss the unique challenges men face in forming deep friendships, such as busyness, reluctance to be vulnerable, and prioritizing family. We also answer a listener’s question about a sexless marriage. The Friendships of Women A Free Digital Download: The Skit Guys - Building Healthy Friendships Among Men Find out more about Hope Restored Support this Show! ENGAGE WITH US If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Sep 8, 2025 • 55min
Are You REALLY Ready To Wed? - The Young Married Focus Employee Panel
Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss various aspects of marriage preparation, adjustment, and conflict resolution with four young married employees of Focus on the Family. They share their insights and experiences about preparing for marriage, dealing with marital changes, finances, and communication styles. Whether you've been married for a long time or a short while, there's useful advice on understanding conflict as an opportunity for growth, maintaining individual emotional health, and continuing to learn about each other in a relationship. Ready To Wed Call our Counseling Line at 1-800-A-FAMILY Take The Free Marriage Assessment! Support this Show! ENGAGE WITH US If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Sep 1, 2025 • 56min
Men Living Focused, Fulfilled & Fearless
On this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley delve into the importance of men adopting lion-hearted characteristics in today's culture, inspired by Brandon and David Lindell's book 'Lion Hearted: A Man's Guide to Living Focused, Fulfilled, and Fearless.' We'll talk about the challenges faced by men stepping into leadership roles within their families, the significance of intentional living, and the need to understand and guard the heart. We'll also look at animal behaviors, illustrating lessons applicable to strengthening marriages. Then we'll answer a listener question about their spouse's weight gain. Lionhearted: A Man's Guide To Living Focused, Fulfilled, and Fearless Truth Rising Support this Show! ENGAGE WITH US If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Aug 25, 2025 • 49min
Create A Marriage You'll Love, Pt II
Join us as we continue to discuss how to deal with conflict on Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, with part two of our discussion with Dr. Bob Paul and Tara Lalonde. They'll share their experiences of dealing with reactive cycles in their marriages, emphasizing the importance of self-control. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley ask about conflict styles like fight-fight, fight-flight, and flight-flight, detailing how unresolved issues can amplify present conflicts. We also go over the 'Care Cycle,' a five-step tool to help individuals manage their emotions. Plus, we'll give you some Marriage History, and answer a listener email about a husband who doesn't take his wife's advice. Empowered To Love: Discovering Your God-Given Power to Create a Marriage You Both Love Hope Restored Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter! Breaking the Reactive Cycle Article Take The Reactive Cycle Assessment Fight Your Way To A Better Marriage Support this Show! ENGAGE WITH US If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Aug 18, 2025 • 55min
Create A Marriage You'll Love, Pt I
In this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of personal responsibility with Dr. Bob Paul and Tara Lalonde, who share their extensive experience in marriage counseling through the Hope Restored program. Bob and Tara explain concepts like the reactive cycle and the importance of seeing your spouse through the eyes of God. They also provide actionable tips for balancing family expectations and maintaining a strong marital connection, even during challenging times. We'll also introduce you to the concept of Micro Moments, as well as answer a listener voicemail about balancing marriage and family obligations during a family crisis. Hope Restored Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter! Breaking The Reactive Cycle Article Take The Reactive Cycle Assessment Connect With the Community! Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail. If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Aug 11, 2025 • 43min
Married with Adult Children
Greg and Erin discuss maintaining a strong marriage during the transition to the empty nest phase with the one and only Dr. Gary Chapman, author of 'The Five Love Languages' and 'Your New Life with Adult Children.' We explore the emotional challenges couples face as children leave home, and the importance of communication, intentionality, and empathy in navigating this transition. Dr. Chapman shares insights on balancing personal and marital growth, and the need for parents to listen and validate their children's experiences. We'll also help you rekindle connection and affection through a fun game idea called 'Jazzed Up Jenga'! Share this episode with anyone you know who has children that will soon leave the nest. Your New Life With Adult Children Questions For Jazzed Up Jenga Learn more about The 5 Love Languages Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail. If you enjoyed listening to Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Aug 4, 2025 • 58min
What Your Marriage Can Be
On this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Patricia Ashley shares a deeply personal testimony about how her marriage, once perceived as dead and nearly at the point of collapse, was revived through their mutual journey and commitment to Christianity. Over time, through shared prayer and a growing understanding of God's intentions for marriage, the Ashley's rebuilt their relationship, focusing on mutual respect and love. We also answer a listener email about how often 60+ year olds should be having sex. And we share a great idea involving a Time Capsule Love Letter to draw you and your spouse closer. Nurturing The Heart of Your Spouse Collection Hope Restored 10-Day Couples Prayer Text Campaign Truth Rising Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Jul 28, 2025 • 52min
His Brain & Her Brain: The Differences and the Delights
Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley have a great conversation with Dr. Joannie DeBrito, about the common differences between partners that impact marriage, such as intellectual and processing differences, emotional versus logical thinking, and varying approaches to stress and grief. She emphasizes understanding and leveraging these differences to strengthen your marriage, and highlights the contrast in how men and women multitask, manage stress, and handle sexual differences. Practical advice includes recalling initial attraction, managing discussions during non-stress times, and using therapy when needed. We'll also answer a listener question about what to do about an ongoing addiction. His Brain, Her Brain How to Pursue A Healing Separation The Perception Questions Exercise Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Jul 21, 2025 • 55min
My Spouse Is On The Spectrum
On this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Greg and Erin speak with Dr. Stephanie and Dan Holmes about being in a marriage effected by autism. They discuss the evolving dynamics of their relationship, the importance of communication strategies, and how neurodivergence impacts their daily lives. Stephanie highlights the significance of understanding and valuing each other's strengths, while also stressing the need for neurodiversity-informed support when seeking marital help. Dan reflects on the value of empathy and the necessity of recognizing different perspectives. Together, they offer practical advice and emphasize the importance of support systems, shared values, and strategic communication for couples managing similar challenges. Embracing the Autism Spectrum Marriage Assessment A Neurodiverse Marriage: One Wife's Story How To Identify and Relate to A Spouse on the Autism Spectrum Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Jul 14, 2025 • 52min
The Ultimate Date Night Show
On this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of regular date nights for marital happiness, stability, and sexual satisfaction with Jay and Laura Laffoon. They share personal anecdotes about their own date nights provide insights from their 40-year marriage on keeping the spark alive through dating. You'll learn how to overcome barriers to date nights, the significance of trying new activities together, and later, we even talk about renewing wedding vows. We'll also address a listener's question on how to support a chronically unemployed spouse, emphasizing patience, compassion, and practical advice. Ultimate Date Night: 52 Amazing Dates for Busy Couples Conversation Starters For Couples Support this Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.