

Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage
Focus on the Family
Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.
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Jan 26, 2026 • 35min
Question & Answer Session
Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley address listener-submitted questions about various marital issues. They emphasize the importance of connection over pressure, advise on navigating financial transparency in relationships, and discuss handling mismatched sexual desires. They also provide guidance on dealing with snoring issues, setting boundaries, and striving for better marital satisfaction. We're advocating for open communication, self-awareness, and seeking professional help when needed to strengthen the marriage bond. Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Book New Hope Restored Focus On The Family Marriage Center in Cave Creek, AZ! Check Out The Marriage Assessment Tool Check Out The Reactive Cycle Assessment Tool Healing Separation Information Resources About Sex Contact the show! Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter Send us your email or voice mail here! Send Us A Review! Support the show! Suicide Prevention Hotline If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Jan 19, 2026 • 53min
Life Like You Were Reborn To Live
Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of placing more faith in God rather than your spouse with Dr. Gary Thomas. They address various marital challenges, including the impact of adversities, providing both spiritual guidance and practical advice, and they offer recommendations for self-care and self-compassion. Dr. Thomas emphasizes the significance of drawing strength from God and uses personal anecdotes to illustrate how adversity can strengthen marriages. Greg and Erin also tackle listener questions, offering insights on handling emotional abuse and the potential for a healing separation. The episode concludes with critical components in sustaining healthy relationships. The Life You Were Reborn To Live Call Our Counseling Line at 1800-A FAMILY New Hope Restored Focus On The Family Marriage Center in Cave Creek, AZ! Contact the show! Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter Send us your email or voice mail here! Send Us A Review! Support the show! Suicide Prevention Hotline If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Jan 12, 2026 • 44min
Coaching Your Marriage
Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of couples working together on their goals, which research shows leads to higher levels of happiness and progress. We discuss the Marriage Champions program that you can get involved in to coach and support other couples. Our guests are the leaders of Marriage Team, Matthew Zoller and Alan & Autumn Ray. They share key coaching techniques involving communication skills, handling anger, resolving conflict, and planning for relapses. We also will share some practical exercises for couples to evaluate their relationship, appreciate each other, and plan for the future. Plus we answer a listener question what to do when your spouse walks away from their faith. Learn More About Marriage Champions Take Our FREE Marriage Assessment Take the Free Reactive Cycle Assessement Contact the show! Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter Send us your email or voice mail here! Send Us A Review! Support the show! Suicide Prevention Hotline If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Jan 5, 2026 • 55min
Emotional Triggers In Marriage
Ron and Nan Deal, a marriage therapist and former teacher duo, share their journey of healing through emotional triggers in marriage. They discuss the importance of identifying these triggers to improve conflict management. The couple recounts their initial counseling experience that unveiled deeper pain beneath their arguments. Ron emphasizes humility as a precursor to change, while Nan shares how their new practices foster peace and understanding. By modeling trustworthiness, they explore building safety and connection, offering practical steps for couples seeking growth.

Dec 29, 2025 • 58min
Side Stepping Newlywed Pitfalls
Whether you're newlywed or if you've been married for years, you may have unspoken and sometimes unrealistic expectations that can lead to disappointment, conflict, and resentment. On this episode, Greg and Erin help couples develop better conflict resolution techniques such as pausing during escalated arguments, leaning in during moments of conflict, and utilizing empathy in apologies with Christian counselors Chris and Jamie Bailey. They underscore the importance of mutual support, adjustment to changing life circumstances, and maintaining fun and friendship throughout marriage. We also have a tool to help you set boundaries in your marriage, and we answer a listener question about how to encourage a husband to lead his family. Newlywed Couple's Devotional 12 Pieces of Advice I'd Tell Newlywed Me 5 Traditional Marriage Vows: What They Mean & Why They're Still Important Contact the show! Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter Send us your email or voice mail here! Send Us A Review! Support the show! If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Dec 22, 2025 • 47min
Christmas Miracles & God of the Impossible
MERRY CHRISTMAS from everyone at Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage! This episode features a special presentation by Liz Curtis Higgs, who shares faith-filled stories of Zechariah, Elizabeth, Mary, and the miraculous births in the Bible, emphasizing that nothing is impossible for God! Greg and Erin encourage you to look for the love languages of your friends and family at Christmas, and we answer an email from a listener who wonders if she and her husband are managing conflict correctly because they DON'T fight; which leads to a conversation encouraging couples to communicate effectively and grow spiritually together. The Women of Christmas New Year, New Purpose In Your Marriage article Mastering Your Spouse's Love Language article Call our Counseling Line at 1-800-A-FAMILY Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter Send us your email or voice mail here! Send Us A Review! Support the show! If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Dec 15, 2025 • 54min
What Sex Really Means - Pt 2
We're continuing our conversation with Dr. Juli Slattery on how God designed sex and sexuality. We're going to discuss the detrimental effects of pornography on both individuals and marriages, as well as highlight the importance of addressing sexual issues through a Christ-centered identity and real, accountable recovery programs. Have you ever thought about how Christians need to differentiate discussions about sexual ethics based on people's beliefs about God and creation? If you're wanting healthier intimacy in marriage and a deeper spiritual relationship; if you're confused about your sexual identity, or know someone who is, listen to this episode and let us know your thoughts. Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes Everything Help For A Pornography Addiction Gen Z's Marriage Misunderstanding Article Biblical View on Transgender Identity: A Primer - Focus on the Family Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter Send us your email or voice mail here! Send Us A Review! Support the show! If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

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Dec 8, 2025 • 52min
What Sex Really Means - Pt 1
Dr. Juli Slattery, a pioneer in Christian sexuality and founder of Authentic Intimacy, joins the Smalleys to explore the profound meaning behind sex in marriage. They delve into the covenantal symbolism of intimacy, emphasizing that sex reflects God’s love and commitment. The discussion touches on common sexual struggles couples face, the impact of trauma, and practical steps for rebuilding intimacy. Juli also provides insights on fostering healthy communication around sex, addressing shame, and cultivating a shared vision for a fulfilling sexual relationship.

Dec 1, 2025 • 43min
Honestly Discussing Domestic Abuse
Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley delve into the critical issue of supporting friends in abusive or oppressive marriages with Darby Strickland, an expert counselor and author. Darby explains an insightful definition of abuse as 'oppression,' framing it as the antithesis of God's design for marriage. The discussion addresses the common mistakes helpers make, identifies the patterns of abuse, and offers practical advice for those who may be abusing subconsciously. Is It Abuse? Article: What You Need To Know About Domestic Violence and Abuse Domestic Abuse Hotline 800-799-7233 - Text BEGIN to 88788 Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter Send us your email or voice mail here! Send Us A Review! Support the show! If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.

Nov 24, 2025 • 42min
Habits for A Happy Marriage, Pt. 2
Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley continue with the great conversation they had with Dr. Randy Schroeder about simple habits couples can adopt to strengthen their marriage. Starting with the critical role of forgiveness in healing and sustaining relationships, with specific language that you can use. We also touch on managing conflict, expressing kindness, and the value of having specific disagreement guidelines. If your marriage needs help, pick up Dr. Shroeder's book, and call our counseling line. We'd love to help you. Simple Habits for Marital Happiness Take the Free Marriage Assessment Take The Free Reactive Cycle Assessment Conversation Starters Send us your email or voice mail here! Send Us A Review! Support the show! If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, please give us your feedback.


