Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Emotional Triggers In Marriage
Jan 5, 2026
Ron and Nan Deal, a marriage therapist and former teacher duo, share their journey of healing through emotional triggers in marriage. They discuss the importance of identifying these triggers to improve conflict management. The couple recounts their initial counseling experience that unveiled deeper pain beneath their arguments. Ron emphasizes humility as a precursor to change, while Nan shares how their new practices foster peace and understanding. By modeling trustworthiness, they explore building safety and connection, offering practical steps for couples seeking growth.
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Suitcase Ultimatum Sparked Change
- Nan threatened to leave with an empty suitcase and demanded help, forcing Ron to find a counselor immediately.
- That moment launched their long journey of healing and self-discovery together.
Conflict Is Driven By Hidden Pain
- Coping behaviors are surface arguments while deeper pain points drive them.
- Identifying underlying pain (e.g., abandonment, inadequacy) reframes repetitive fights into personal work.
Choose Humility Before Correction
- Humble your heart before trying to change your spouse; pride blocks progress.
- Seek humility because grace and cooperation follow a humble posture.
