Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy

She needs more foreplay and he doesn’t wanna lose his erection. Women need a slow patter of arousal to reach the best climax. Men when they’re on sildenafil (viagra, etc.) need to use their erection - soon. This is a familiar dilemma for couples in their 50s. George and Laurie role-play a couple who learns how to talk about this problem.Check out our great sponsors:Foriawellness.com/foreplay or use the code foreplay at checkout for 20% off your first order! These oils help improve your orgasm ladies...You'll thank me later!North Texas EFT -- If you are a psychotherapist, come down to Texas to have face-to-face training time with George and Laurie as they train about sex and attachment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Libido is shared between the couple. The pursuer afraid of being rejected, almost starts every initiation with an edge of criticism. So the sexual moment starts the partner off without even being given much of a chance at feeling desire. In our case example, she’s not turned on because she hears the edge and then she’s blamed. On the flip side is a lack of engagement. The withdrawer can nearly erase the whole idea of sex because it’s safer. But unfortunately this sends the purser a message that they don’t care.And send the pursuer the whole responsibility for the sexual relationship.Thanks to our sponsors:Uberlube.comUberlube.com with the coupon Foreplay for the slipperiest, safest silicone lubricant I've been recommending for 2 decades!For delicious tasting, convenient meals go to GreenChef.com/foreplay135 for the #1 Meal Kit for Eating Well and $135 off the first 5 meals! Delicious!Dameproducts.com and enter code FOREPLAY today for 15% off site for Aer -- the suction vibrator and their hands-free couple toy Eva! Keep it hot baby! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In most of our episodes, we use the emotional and sexual cycles to bring coherence to the issues that plague committed relationships. We wanted to explore and summarize the emotional and sexual cycles in one condensed episode. Many couples feel like they are facing unique, specific troubles, when the reality is, these relational upsets are all manifestations of the underlying sexual and emotional cycles. A clear understanding of how these cycles power your relational upsets provides an avenue for hope and change; rather than dealing with hundreds of different issues, you and your partner can team up to clarify the cycles and understand your partner better. Please check out our sponsor Foria! Their Awaken Arousal Oil and Intimacy Sex Oil (both with CBD) help relax you and heighten your orgasm and sexual pleasure. Laurie recommends these great products and you can get 20% off your first order by going to Foria’s website and using the coupon code Foreplay. Attention all therapists! Join Laurie and George in North Texas August 12 & 13 for a 2-day training on integrating sex therapy and attachment theory. We’re tired of Zoom meetings and are so excited to be with colleagues in person to train and have fun! Go to www.northtexaseft.com/upcoming-events or click the link below to find out more.Great Love Great Sex for Couples- Integrating Sex Therapy and Attachment Theory Training for Therapists Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There can be so much disappointment even shame when a couple is in a sexlessness marriage. Couple can tune out and shut down their need for flesh on flesh and over time it gets harder and harder to get back. They don’t know how to repair or even talk about normal failure and so they ignore the failures. This doesn’t happen just with aging. It’s people who resign themselves to not talking about it and both withdraw. George and Laurie talk about how to get back in bed! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Laurie and George define secrets as issues, fantasies or alliances that block connection. We certainly have a right to privacy and sometimes our private erotic thoughts makes our world sexier and makes us more available to our partner. Certainly some people choose and open marriage but they do it with… openness. we think talking about your fantasies or actual affairs with your a partner while incredibly difficult makes it possible for YOU not to be carrying the guilt of a secret that you find unethical and against your promise. Sponsors:Uberlube -- Go to Uberlube.com with the coupon 'Foreplay' for 10% off!Bluechew - BlueChew.com, promo code Foreplay to receive your first month free!Dame Products -- DameProducts.com with the coupon 'Foreplay' for 15% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“I’m just not attracted to you anymore.” - OUCH!!!I Sounds like a showstopper doesn’t it? But Laurie and George have hope for you to get it back.We use our favorite acronym BEST SEX Conversations - to explore why people might lose attraction for the partner they’ve committed to and some ideas about getting it back. We go through the primary areas of sexual attachment from a holistic viewpoint to discover what is causing lack of attraction. Then we offer ways you can feel the gas - how to increase the turn-ons! and then we talk about ways to release the brakes on the things that turn you off.Sponsors:Bluechew.com - promocode FOREPLAY for your first month freeForiawellness.com/foreplay or use the code foreplay at checkout for 20% off your first order,  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Confidence is essential for a great relationship. But how to you grow in confidence if you've lost it or never had much of it? Confidence is the end result of a string of successes. We discuss moves you can make to help yourself -- and your partner -- build their confidence by how you interact, particularly in the difficult conversations. Learn new moves to help you be successful -- and grow your confidence.Check out our sponsors:Blue Chew -- use the coupon code 'foreplay' to get your first month free (with only $5 for shipping)! Manscaped -- the Performance Package 4.0 is here! Great grooming products for 'down under'! Coupon code 'foreplay'.Uberlube -- Our favorite silicon lubricant to make everything smoother! Use coupon code foreplay for a discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most of us grew up not talking about sex. But the more detailed you get, the more power you can have to change things. Go play-by-play and have more choice and agency about shaping your experience and connecting with each other. One woman’s grimace during oral sex or another person’s turning of their head during sexual intercourse send messages to their partner that in our example are indeed misinterpreted. Knowing exactly what happens - the detail- helps the couples discover what is really going on. A look, a certain touch, a sigh may turn us on. Or these very same actions can be misinterpreted We can get triggered into the negative cycle. Join Laurie and George as they talk about getting down to the nitty-gritty details when you counsel someone or when you communicate with your partner.Sponsor:BetteHelp.com/FOREPLAY for 10% off your first month of therapy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Everyone wants to feel desired certainly.But the research shows that for women - being desired, hearing their partner's verbal admiration and open "want" - is very important to their turn on. When men are dating they instinctively know how telling their partner how sexy they look, sending flirty messages, giving their partner longing looks - tells her she's hot! George and Laurie talk through the shut down to this process and encourage men to go for it again.#couples #eft #sexpodcast #marriage #desire #secureattachmentSponsor:BetteHelp.com/FOREPLAY for 10% off your first month of therapy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Touch is vital for intimate communication. We learn so much with touch - pleasure, safety, exploration and curiosity! So often we don’t put it into words and then we find ourselves in intimate relationship with a partner without really explaining what we need and want. For instance, tickling may be fun and erotic or triggering. There are lots of ways me might miss each other in the conversation but Laurie and George explore people’s reservations and offer ideas of how to communicate about intimate touch better.#EFT #Couples #Marriage #Sex #SexPodcast #SecureSexualAttachmentBest Lubricant - Uberlube.com/Foreplay for 10% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices