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Paul Cole is a dedicated champion for raising up successful young leaders, and committed to challenging and helping men be great dads. He's the President of the Christian Men’s Network Worldwide and is active in 138 nations, connecting over 86,000 leaders. Paul writes, speaks and travels extensively encouraging and advancing the men’s movement around the world.  Conversation Notes: 3:25 - Paul Cole introduces himself 4:30 - "If things aren't based on the Word of God, if we don't have a true north centering us, then we move all over the place" 4:50 - The Global Fatherhood Initiative 5:14 - "If we change the hearts of men, we change the soul of a nation" 5:25 - "We live in a world that seems to be more concerned about the calorie content of our children's lunches than the character content of their hearts" 5:50 - Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." 10:45 - 1 Corinthians 4:15 "Even if you had ten thousand guardians in Christ, you do not have many fathers, for in Christ Jesus I became your father through the gospel." 11:40 - "An instructor tells you what he knows, but a father gives you who he is. A father will teach by example with his life, while an instructor gives you his words. There's a lot of people who will tell you where you've done it wrong, but there's very few who are willing to take the time and effort to help you grow up." 12:05 - "Fatherhood and the spirit of fathering is actually what will undergird a reversal of the trend in our culture away from Christ" 12:43 - Many of the father to child handoffs are not done well. Many people mess this up. 13:20 - "The role of a father is to reach into a child's heart, pull out their future and show it to them... A father says don't let them look down on you because you are young" 14:20 - Paul was setting Timothy up in a generational ministry - 2 Timothy 2:2 14:50 - Jesus spent 30 years preparing for 3 years of ministry 15:50 - All men by nature are selfish 16:15 - "The enemy is always trying to rip men off of their destiny" 17:45 - "The conversion process of following Christ is what changes us from selfishness to giving, to generosity. IT moves us from the negative to the positive." 18:00 - "Fatherlessness is a form of selfishness. And selfishness in it's working out is childishness" 19:30 - The importance of being engaged when you get home from work. "When you walk in the door, you belong to your family" 20:05 - The importance of touch. What did Jesus do for people? He touched them. 20:18 - Let your kids see you love their mom 20:30 - Words have great power Episode Links: Christian Mens Network Worldwide Paul's website Paul's books

Zack Curry is the Executive Pastor at Jesus Culture and he's the host of the Man Camp Podcast. For the past 15 years he has been ministering to students in high school and College. Zack’s passion is to see student leaders raised up to go into all areas of society to release the kingdom of God and see cultural transformation. Zack and his wife Melissa have three beautiful little girls Grace, Olivia and Ellie. Conversation Notes: 2:48 - The Man Camp Podcast 3:03 - Zack introducing himself (wife, 3 girls & a male Goldendoodle) 3:40 - Amazing adventure of ministry with Jesus Culture 4:05 - "Our legacy as parents and as a dad is one of the greatest measures of success and what real fruit looks like" 4:20 - The need for a healthy balance of ministry and dad life 5:00 - Zack talks about some recent adventures with his girls 5:10 - "We're raising strong confident women... I don't want my girls to not know who they are or to be looking to a man when they get older to validate them..." 5:40 - The hashtag #dateyourdaughters 6:00 - Using adventure to teach his girls to overcome fear or to be confident 7:20 - "The challenge for us, as dads, is to be disconnected and not present" 8:45 - We grow through hardships 8:50 - The painful moments of his mom battling cancer 11:00 - Story of his daughter wanting to pray for her grandmother 11:50 - We should have faith like a child 12:04 - Moment of weakness when his daughters showed their faith to pray 12:30 - "What we model, what we teach, what we invest in our kids will come out of them." 13:30 - When we sow, we reap what we sow and not just in our life... it's in our kids life. 15:02 - The miracle story of Zack's mom being healed 15:44 - Living fully alive does not mean that we're doing crazy wild adventures 16:30 - Move ourself into dependance. Refuse to coast. 17:45 - Moments of just trying to get through the day. The hard moments. 18:30 - "Our heart matters and we need to live fully alive. And that is not separate from your role as a dad. It's important that you take care of yourself because you're modeling something for them... You've got to have something you're looking forward to. Make sure your heart is alive physically, spiritually and emotionally" 19:20 - Caution about not centering your life around our kids 20:10 - "My goal is to stay connected to my daughters heart. I want to do stuff together and I want her to want me to be part of her world." 21:31 - There is a tendency to isolate as men, but we need other people. We can't do this alone. 22:00 - The importance of brotherhood 23:00 - Make sure you're known. Be known. Share your story. Make sure at least a hand full of other guys know your story. And share your dreams. 24:10 - Do you have something that you're looking forward to? If not, that's a RED FLAG. 24:45 - When was the last time you went on an adventure? Do you have an adventure you're looking forward to now? 26:20 - The power of reminding dads of who they are 27:50 - The areas that Zack is working on in his fatherhood (loosing his patience & not being present with his kids) 29:00 - Missing moments that won't always be there 30:05 - Parenting is not easy. "Being a dad is one of the hardest things I've ever done and the most rewarding thing" 32:00 - Intentional rhythms and focusses Values (Character, Integrity, Love Jesus, Work Ethic, Gratitude) 22:50 - "We want our kids to know their identity, to know Jesus and walk in a confidence through every season" 33:20 - It's taught... It's not just learned. 34:12 - "Are we aware of what's influencing our kids and are we being intentional?" 34:40 - "God want to use our kids now, not just later in life" 35:50 - Planting seeds in our kids that we are confident will come to fruition in the future. We will reap what we sow. 36:32 - Time Machine Advice = Take more time to be present and enjoy the moments 37:23 - John Eldridge book: You Have What It Takes 37:40 - "You have what it takes. Don't compare yourself. There is no one else who can take your place. Just you being in the game is more than many kids have" 39:10 - Zack prays for all of us dads Episode Links: The Man Camp Podcast Jesus Culture Zack's Instagram: John Eldridge Interview  

Sam Collier is a speaker and host at Northpoint Ministries (founded by Andy Stanley) as well as the Director of City Strategy for The reThink Group (founded by Reggie Joiner). Sam is also the host of nationally syndicated radio-podcasts “A Greater Story w/ Sam Collier” and “The Countdown w/ Sam Collier”. Sam lives in Atlanta, GA with his beautiful wife and daughter! Conversation Notes 2:12 - Introducing Sam Collier 5:23 - Sam's family and summer of his current roles and projects 8:35 - "Sometimes a story can do more for our development and direction than principles." 10:23 - Sam's backstory and the influence of his father 15:40 - Sam shares what is going well in his dad role 17:12 - God's call as a step-dad (Bonus Dad) to honor his daughter's biological father 19:00 - Supporting mom in the discipline acts of parenting 21:40 - Unlocking wonder in our kids 23:30 - The importance of intentionality in parenting 25:08 - With intentionality, something is better than nothing. But if you want to get to that next level, you need to plan. 27:35 - Sam on influence in the dad-life 28:03 - "You are being influenced by something whether you like it or not… Something is influencing you, so you might as well get intentional about it." 28:51 - Introducing 3 key areas of influence Influence of Friends 29:05 - "Our desire to fit in often outweighs our desire to stand out. Therefore, we become what our friend group demands." 30:05 - "God created you for acceptance and community… you will always choose acceptance over being great… let's stop trying to change that principal.. embrace it and rearrange our lives to fit around that." 30:27 - "Who are you hanging around? Every great dad that I have met hangs around great dads." Influence of Leaders 31:40 - "Not every mentor is supposed to mentor me in everything." 32:25 - "You want to control that circle. Hang around great dads as peers because they will rub off on you. Get some older dads… to be your leaders to help mentor you, so you can be everything God has called you to be." Influence of Followers 32:45 - "Followers are the mirror into our souls and into our gifts. They help reflect back on us what God has put in us." 33:12 - Ask your followers and fans what they love about you and then turn that dial up 33:40 - Ask others what our blind-spots are, and use it to examine our parenting 35:27 - Current culture is beginning to realize the importance of parenting too 36:52 - "Only you can raise your kid." 39:23 - "I want to raise the bar and punctuate the idea that parenting and fatherhood is the most important thing you'll do outside of serving God." 39:51 - Sam's closing prayer Resources A Greater Story Podcast & Radio Show Sam’s Books:  The Essentials & Find Your Voice https://www.samcollier.tv/ Orange Ministry - Orange Leaders Blog

dadAWESOME DAILY: Receive an encouraging daily text message with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration. The resource is free and the initial test group of dads has LOVED these simple daily fatherhood encouragements. Simply text "dad" to 33222 to join DA Daily.   To finish out this summer's Fruit of the Spirit 9-part series, we have Tim Bohlke joining us to discuss the theme of Self-Control. Tim is a husband, a father, a grandfather, a disrupter, and dreamer. He has spent three decades investing in leaders and helping forge a new path that will serve leaders, their families, and their organizations well. As the executive director of a large youth ministry, a pastor, teacher, coach, counselor, and founder of Harbor, Tim has continued to pursue SPACE and seek Thin Places where he can be refreshed and restored.   Conversation Notes: 2:15 - Jeff’s introduction of Tim 2:40 - Seven city blitz tour for Harbor Ministries 3:24 - Tim introducing his family and ministry 4:00 - Harbor Ministries overview 5:00 - Overview of the RHYTHMinTWENTY and Rogue groups 7:46 - Tim shares his passion for fatherhood 8:20 - “My dad had the ability to invest in significant ways and significant times. He was present” 8:45 - “How can I create key moments with my kids? Create milestones and ceremonies to celebrate the transitions” 9:30 - Specifics around key conversations with his kids 10:30 - the power of combining intentional conversations with fun memory making trips 11:25 - Creating significant memories takes investing resources and time and intentionality 11:40 - Asking multiple people in his kids life to write specific words for his kids at the age of 18 13:20 - Book “Thin Places” 14:05 - “A thin place is a time when Heaven and Earth collide and just for a moment we see God for who He really is and we see life for what it was meant to be” 14:45 - Slow down and embrace moments 15:40 - Story of Tim’s trip to Iceland and searching for a specific cliff (Video of the Cliff featured by Sigur Ros) 18:40 - What does being a cliff chaser look like? 18:55 - “God loves risk takers. Men who are willing to step out and do things differently and think differently. Maybe step out of the box. And that sometimes takes a different level of intentionality and resource. It takes stepping off of the treadmill and adjusting the speed of what we are doing and how we are living life. The oppressive work… If we are inviting our kids into Thin Places, we need to invite them into quieting down and listening and slowing down enough in their own lives and turning off the phones long enough and turning off the noise. But first we have to be willing to do that ourselves." 20:10 - We are designed to be on the open waves, but we need to slow down and come into harbor 21:04 - Theme of Self-Control 21:15 - "It's key that we understand this idea of harbor as dads. The idea of bringing people in. Because if we're living constantly in open water, and on mission. If work becomes too much in the context of our lives, we can't survive out there just like a ship. If you don't come into harbor ever, you're worthless. You're dead in the water. Whatever your mission is no matter how important it is. It isn't going to happen. And if we're not modeling this at some level to our kids, they're just going to carry on with what they've seen. We must model for them how to come in and create sabbath and rest and turn off the noise" 21:40 - Modeling rest and sabbath and shutting off the noise for our kids 22:10 - Inviting men to find space… find quiet time to shut off the noise and be still. 23:00 - Self-control… every other Fruit of the Spirit require Self Control 24:00 - Creating the discipline of quiet and rest helps us be prepared and not operate in reactive mode 24:35 - James 1:19 "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” 26:00 - Practical guide to taking time for space, silence and listening to God = Look back and look forward 29:06 - “I was starting to take people to a place in their spiritual journey that I was not going myself” 30:10 - Luke 9:33 - deny ourselves and take up our cross and follow him 30:50 - specific challenge: Take 2-hours and slow down and listen for God’s voice 31:30 - John 10:10 32:00 - Jeff thanks Tim and encourages the dads to explore Harbor Ministries 32:52 - Tim’s last word = take the TWO HOUR CHALLENGE 33:25 - Tim’s prayer over every listener   Episode Links: Thin Places Harbor Ministries RHYTHMinTWENTY Rogue Episode 51 of dadAWESOME w/ Tim Bohlke   Quotes from Thin Places Book: “One of my hopes was to wake up leaders who were coasting, who were settling, or backing away from dangerous pursuits. When the faith of a leader loses its edge, when we doze off and get bored, or forget what it was like to take risks and pursue this mysterious God and all He has for us, everyone loses. We lose. Our families lose, and those we lead lose.” “Often it’s not the struggles or the hard times that derail leaders, but times of extended prosperity, success, coasting and safety that can take us out spiritually" “Sometimes faith is just hanging on. But if we continue to pursue a relationship with Jesus through our lives, just maybe we can do more than hang on. Maybe we can do more than survive during the hardest of times. Maybe we can actually thrive during those times.” “The farther we separate ourselves from our powerful encounters with God, the more the memories of his tangible presence fade, the more likely we are to settle and to coast to the finish line” “We were designed for the reckless, heart pounding pursuit of the Edge of the Wild, not a boring routine of dos and don’ts” “I want to fight for, cheer lead, and encourage my wife and my kids to chase their dreams…” “Is there a step you need to take to light a fire and engage yourself and others in a more passionate pursuit of this wild mysterious God?”  

Episode 80 continues our nine-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit listed in Galatians 5:22-23. We get to hear from evangelist Matt Brown who reminds us about Gentleness: “The greatest joy we can experience in our life starts with how we treat our family.” Matt Brown is an evangelist, author, and founder of Think Eternity, a ministry dedicated to amplifying the gospel every day to millions through podcasts, devotionals, videos, live events and more. Matt and his wife Michelle and their three children live in Minnesota.  Conversation Notes 2:30 - Introducing guest Matt Brown 6:45 - How having kids changed Matt’s understanding of the LOVE of our Heavenly Father 9:49 - "Part of spiritual maturity is understanding God's love and a deeper and greater way your life and in your walk" 10:03 - "that to me is what fatherhood is… it is a love and depth of love that goes beyond anything you can put into words." 11:13 - Most of our life is playing with Legos, Hot Wheels, and GI Joes… being a dad brings us back into the fun zone 11:45 - Matt reflects on the example of his dad in his life 13:38 - "Our kids aren't going to do what we tell them to do, so much as they do what WE do." 14:52 - "If we work too hard, if we are too driven, if we don't know what's driving us in our motives or in our desire to succeed and do well, sometimes that pace of life can lead to less peace and being more aggressive to people." 16:04 - "No Dad is perfect, but there is something really powerful about being willing to apologize and admit you are wrong, especially as a father… in a leadership role. It means more that way." 18:25 - Jeff talks about how we’re not after perfection, but we still are intentional to reflect our perfect Father to future generations 20:33 - Matt’s time-machine advice to his past self: enjoy the journey, capture the moments, and take care of yourself. 23:42 - Matt talks about how the fruit of the Spirit applies to dads 24:09 - “The fruit of the Spirit are so simple we almost forget about them, but it is so important as believers that we come back to the basics.” 25:04 - “Focus on starting with your own home … because true success is when people who know you the best respect you the most.” 25:23 - “The greatest joy we can experience in our life starts with how we treat our family.” 25:47 - Matt on gentleness 27:38 - “What is it like to be on the other side of your leadership?” 27:45 - “A lot of times we carry more authority and more weight, and so when we say things that are a little bit intense it comes off as ten times as intense… It is so important to be gentle.” 28:08 - “[Gentleness] is one of the things God works in your life when you’re truly getting closer to Him… and submit to the Lord. It is not our natural flesh response. It is something the Bible calls us to work towards… not just hope it happens. Work towards being gentle with others starting with our kids.” 29:02 - “The way you live you live your life not only affects you, it affects your children and their children and generations to come. You are setting the pace right now with how you’re faithful in the little things that has a ripple effect that you won’t even realize until eternity.” 29:34 - Matt’s thoughts on prayer 30:10 - “Only you can pray a father prayer over your children” 30:32 - Themes Matt prays over his children: Be people of the fruit of the Spirit Be people of wisdom Know the joy of knowing the Lord Be humble servants Be generous serving others Spend their life pursuing the Lord 31:20 - “We want to teach our kids truth, but we also want to live it out in front of them (so it is caught more than taught). But there is also some things only prayer can do.” 32:28 - Matt’s closing prayer Links @evangelistmatt thinke.org Book: Truth Plus Love

Paul Anderson joins dadAWESOME for a chat on the topic of FAITHFULNESS. This is the 7th part of our 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit. Paul Anderson graduated from UCLA and Luther Seminary. He pastored in Southern California for twenty-five years before moving to Minnesota to direct Lutheran Renewal. During his tenure he founded The Master’s Institute and the Alliance of Renewal Churches. A young adult community called Communitas met in his home for eleven years. Now a house church gathers there on Sundays. Paul authored five books and enjoys writing his blog. He and Karen have six children and fourteen grandchildren. Conversation Notes: 1:15 - Social Media links for dadAWESOME Instagram: www.instagram.com/dadawesome Facebook: www.facebook.com/dadawesomepodcast/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/dadAWESOMEpod 4:40 - Top dad advice = Intentionality 5:25 - Apologizing to his kids 5:53 - Teaching kids to appreciate being together  6:25 - Question jar for dinner conversations 7:02 - Being intentional about teaching kids to work and to love work 7:30 - Saturday morning work party as a family. Making work fun and adding music and marching to kick off the work together. 9:35 - Paul describes the special moments of celebrating birthdays by affirming and speaking encouraging words over the person. 11:00 - Paul shares about the powerful conversation when he asked his kids how he had failed them as their father. 12:30 - His kids were kind enough to tell him how he had failed. 13:30 - Intentional meeting with his kids to follow-up. Two questions he asked them: What you like about the family What you don't like about the family 14:05 - "You need to find out where you have failed and if you're willing to ask, your kids will tell you" 15:06 - Talking about generations. "It's about generational righteousness" 15:30 - "I pray for my kids grandchildren that don't yet exist. We're in this for the long haul. We're in this for the legacy. We're in this to change the culture. And when you get a legacy and four generations of righteousness there is a greater potential to change the culture" 16:24 - Paul telling a story about faithfulness and his wife's parents and their current role of praying for their great grandchildren. 17:40 - The powerful moments of seeing the fruit of obedience and faithfulness and passion. 18:15 - Seeing gentleness in his parents and then pass that on to our kids 18:40 - Seeing a love for God's word and his church and seeing that passed along to our kids. 19:45 - "I think of faith as believing in God and if faith is the lips of our obedience, faithfulness is the legs. Faithfulness walks out what you believe in your heart." 21:15 - Story of Paul's daughter yanking the flowers up out of the ground one by one. 23:40 - "I'm struck by the faithfulness of God. I'm not struck by my own faithfulness but I'm really really struck by the faithfulness of God" 24:00 - "You'll do what you can, but God will will do what you can't because He is faithful to his promises" Episode Links: Paul Anderson's Blog Paul Anderson's Podcast  

This is the sixth part of our summer Fruit of the Spirit series and our guest Tyler Reagin explores the topic of GOODNESS... Tyler was the President of Catalyst, a leadership development organization that exists to unify and equip leaders who love the Church through resources and experiential events. He remains the Brand Ambassador and also runs his own leadership company called The Life Giving CO. (lifegiving.co). Conversation Notes: 4:50 - Becoming a student of leadership. "We are all called to lead. We're all called to steward our influence well" 3:37 - "Help find the uniqueness, that God-given Psalm 139 uniqueness in your kids and start encouraging that out... calling that out" 5:55 - Color Chart personality profile tool https://www.colorcode.com/ 7:40 - Diving into Emotional Intelligence 7:55 - The difference between self-awareness and self-regulation  8:30 - Apologies do not take away consequences  9:30 - Creating layers to our kids' foundations so that they are prepared and not crushed by the storms of life 9:45 - “Leadership isn't easy. It's difficult because it matters. It changes people. It's valuable. And things of value require sacrifice.” 10:50 - Story about their family moving and the difficult transition for Tyler's kids 11:30 - When employees or people we lead or our kids are having a difficult time, ask yourself what you have done to lead them to their current behavior 13:35 - When it comes to chores, do what you can to MAKE IT FUN and then watch the results. 14:19 - Calling out adventure in our lives and feeling fullness 15:08 - "This life is full of adventure. This God we serve is full of adventure. How do we show attributes of God through our day to day life? A lot of that for me is showing a God who is fun and plays with us and is full of adventure..." 16:03 - The power of their weekly rhythm of going to church as a family together every Sunday. 16:35 - Be on the lookout for unique opportunities to steal away and create moments as a family 17:30 - Process big life decisions and career decisions with your kids so they can see how you seek God for wisdom and direction 19:00 - John 10:10 - the paradox of Good vs. Strife & Struggle 20:01 - Great leaders give life to people. An outflowing and an overflowing of life. 22:50 - Conversation about legacy. Fighting to give life and care to his boys. 25:40 - Calm is contagious 26:20 - Presenting attractive qualities for his boys (like the Fruit of the Spirit) that they want to emulate when they grow up 27:25 - Leading from your truest self... Be ok with yourself. Don't copy others. 28:30 - it's ok to have flaws. Keep working on your role as dad and don't be afraid to talk about it. 28:50 - "One thing I'm really proud to be is Carrie's husband and their dad... And I'm going to fight for those things" 29:50 - Conversation about the Fruit of the Spirit 30:30 - "When I think of GOODNESS, I think of a depth of love displayed in action" 30:55 - "When I think of my Heavenly Father, I think of someone who wants good things for me" 31:50 - Goodness is a posture. It's a heart condition. It's coming from a place of abundance. Psalm 139:14 "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."  32:55 - Connecting God's goodness in creation for our kids to understand. Watch them come alive. 35:15 - Advice for himself back 8 years ago. 36:30 - Tyler's dad loved him unconditionally. His dad said "I love you and you matter." Links: https://www.tylerreagin.com Book: Life-Giving Leader https://lifegiving.co/ https://www.catalystleader.com

Ryan Skoog joins us for the 5th part of our dadAWESOME Fruit of the Spirit series. Ryan is an entrepreneur, ministry leader, world traveler and adventure dad. He started Fly for Good, Volunteer Card, Yonder Travel Insurance, and the non profit Venture.org which helps people do tough things to help people in tough places around the world.  Conversation Notes: 4:20 - Story of the first moments after their son was born 4:50 - "That was our welcome to parenthood. Welcome to getting on your knees and crying out to God in prayer" 5:34 - "I want to stay fighting on my knees like this all of the time for my kids" 6:30 - Story of travel and being exposed to those in need around the world 7:50 - Story of Ryan's dad and mixing love for travel with love for evangelism and serving others  9:25 - The impact of waking up and finding his dad reading his Bible every morning (praying through Psalm 91 over his family) 9:55 - Praying Ephesians chapter 1 and Ephesians chapter 3 over his kids 10:40 - Ryan explaining his career journey and the story of launching Venture 14:15 - the other organizations that Ryan leads: https://www.faithventures.com https://www.flyforgood.com/ https://www.volunteercard.com/ https://www.insureyonder.com/ 16:20 - "As parents, we shouldn't just have experiences where we celebrate together with our kids. We also need experiences where we struggle together. Where we sacrifice together" 17:28 - "Instead of being an amazing leader and a decent dad, I want to be an amazing dad and a decent leader" 18:30 - "I wanted to be able to create experiences, key moments for my kids surrounded around our families core values" 18:50 - Ryan explains the step by step plan for creating these 1-on-1 moments with his kids Age 6 or 7 -- Adventure in the woods. Create a cross. 20:05 - Rock Climbing while learning about character and values. Character anchors us like a rope anchors us 20:40 - Cliff jumping for learning about courage  21:40 - The set-up for the adventure the night before. Burnt edge paper with a note. 24 hour blitz trips. 22:30 - Climbing up a mountain for a sunrise. Holiness and Purity. "It's tough, but it's worth it" 23:50 - Mother/daughter trip to Chicago for tea. 24:35 - Trip to a church in Alaska with Ryan's dad and his son. A prayer moment. A moment about legacy. 25:15 - An adventure when they spend a night on the streets. Learning about compassion. 25:45 - Mission trips to difficult places in third world countries have transformed their kids. Their kids pray every night for these kids without mommy's and daddy's 28:20 - Normalizing in a good way intentional parenting 28:35 - The family dashboard of values and mission and prayers they are praying as a family. 29:30 - Memorizing scripture as a family 30:05 - "We should not, as parents, have a mentality that outsources faith to the church. They should reinforce what we are doing as parents" 30:30 - Every member of their family has a Fruit of the Spirit that they're working to grow in 32:10 - Introducing the focussed Fruit of the Spirit - KINDNESS 34:30 - Story of the early church adopting babies left in the trash - "The church was started on kindness" 35:15 - Inviting our kids to be able to call us as parents out when we are violating the Fruit of the Spirit 37:40 - Catching your kids doing something good and celebrating it 38:40 - Daily prayer focus 39:30 - Having the interviewing questions with our kids. Asking for feedback from them on how we are doing as dads 40:00 - Using code words to express large emotions with a short phrase 40:30 - "If you pray for something for your kids, you will see it start to happen" 41:00 - "God is actively wanting to answer prayers from parents for their kids. It's pretty amazing." 41:55 - Ryan's last words... Add more intentionality to your dad life. 42:50 - We need each other Recommended Books: The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place Hardcover (Andy Crouch) Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children (Henry Cloud and John Town) Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No Paperback (John Townsend) The Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way (John Townsend) Take entrepreneurial business books and apply those principles to being a dad Links: Chosen: A 30 Day Devotional Venture Expeditions  https://www.faithventures.com https://www.flyforgood.com/ https://www.volunteercard.com/ https://www.insureyonder.com/

Regi Campbell joins dadAWESOME for the 4th part of our summer Fruit of the Spirit series. Regi is a serial entrepreneur who has founded 15 companies and has now devoted this phase of his life to creating a mentoring approach that produces incredible leaders and deep discipleship.  He is currently leading his 18th mentoring group and has now personally invested in 144 men and indirectly, in their marriages and families. Conversation Notes: 4:40 - “You’re just doing what Jesus did... He handpicked a group of men for a season of time and invested in them” 5:25 - “My goal is 5 generations of multiplication. If that happens, more than a million men will have been equipped to manage life better” 6:00 - “The only way to leave a legacy is for Jesus to use you to pour into others who have a hunger to pour into others as well” 6:50 - Regi shares his goal of investing in mentors who mentors others 7:50 - The key to something being sustained is that it must be motivated by selflessness and it must have intentionality 8:50 - Anything you care about should have intentionality 9:15 - The importance of raising kids who are becoming good adults 9:45 - Basic principles of Radical Mentoring 10:50 - Make sure that your kids know that you love them 11:25 - I realized that I have a perfect Heavenly Father who loves me 13:50 - There is always something that you don’t know 14:35 - Story about Andy Stanley putting his kids to bed and asking about their heart 15:15 - Be firm, but don’t lose track of their heart 16:05 - Make time in the morning to connect one-on-one 16:30 - The importance of sharing with our kids what is going on in our life if we want them to share with us 16:45 - Talking to your kids like they are adults and really connecting with them 17:20 - Be a dad who is in your son or daughters presence 18:25 - Be careful not to exasperate your children Provoke Stir up anger Do not irritate Do not be hard 20:50 - The importance of keeping our kids emotional tanks full 22:00 - The danger of jumping to conclusions 24:45 - The value of a slower pace and limiting activities and a hurried life 26:20 - Sadly we don’t have many spiritual mentors and hero’s that we want to be like 27:00 - Matthew 28:19-20 The Message (MSG) "Jesus, undeterred, went right ahead and gave his charge: “God authorized and commanded me to commission you: Go out and train everyone you meet, far and near, in this way of life, marking them by baptism in the threefold name: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Then instruct them in the practice of all I have commanded you. I’ll be with you as you do this, day after day after day, right up to the end of the age.” 29:20 - Encouraging dads to be intentional and initiate... lead yourself 29:35 - You get what you glorify. Whatever you glorify, that’s what your kids will lean into. 31:00 Story about intentionality and helping his kids find good friendships 34:00 - Curating Your Kids Friends 35:30 - Proverbs 24:3-6 "By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. The wise prevail through great power, and those who have knowledge muster their strength. Surely you need guidance to wage war, and victory is won through many advisers.through wisdom and knowledge it’s filled with treasures" Knowledge is just data Understanding is context Wisdom is taking data and filtering it through context and being wise with decisions Links: Regi's Website Radical Mentoring Mentor Like Jesus and Regi's other books  

Joshua Becker joins us for part 3 of our summer 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit. Joshua is the founder and editor of Becoming Minimalist, a website dedicated to inspiring others to find more life by owning less. Joshua lives in Peoria, Arizona with his wife, son, and daughter. Conversation Notes: 3:51 - How cleaning out a garage led to exploring minimalism 6:00 - "Not only was everything I owned not making me happy, even worse, everything I owned was taking me away from things that did bring me happiness and purpose and meaning and significance and joy." 6:54 - Possessions have become a big distraction in a lot of people's lives 8:00 - Ideas on how owning less can help us be more effective in our parenting. 9:28 - When we focus less than the things we do not have we have opportunity to appreciate the things that we do have. 10:31 - "It is about aligning our lives around our values as opposed to being distracted by things that do not matter in the long run" 12:05 - More stuff never resolves our discontentment 13:18 - Jesus  said, "Take care, and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions." Luke 12:15 13:40 - Examining our motivations behind work and collecting more stuff 17:12 - How minimalism opened Joshua's eyes to a new passion and approach to orphans and adoption. 18:30 - The Hope Effect 20:30 - Multi-generational influence of Joshua's family 22:50 - “I want to be as engaged and live each day as meaningfully as I possibly can” 23:50 - The big mistake of how much time and energy was invested into chasing the wrong things 24:30 - The mistake of wanting his kids to have the same qualities and attributes as their dad 25:10 - “So much of parenting is being intentional. So much is just studying our children and learning who they are.” 27:20 - Joshua describes two types of peace - peace in our circumstances and peace with the life that we’re living 28:25 - “We can find peace in how we know that we’re doing our best even though our best isn’t perfect. I can still find peace in the life that I’m living.” 29:33 - “When the world is turning upside-down, when we’re in these moments of trial and turmoil, we can know that there is a God who loves me, who is watching out for me, and a God who knows best.” 29:56 - “The things that are taking place around me may not bring me happiness; they may not bring me joy; they may be very difficult. But I always have that rock that I fall back upon. I can know that no matter how hard the wind is blowing… I have an anchor, and there is a God who loves me and is taking care of me and is watching over me.” 31:41 - Joshua talks about the benefits of fewer toys (both for kids and adults) 32:30 - Research about fewer toys leading to creativity and imagination and problem solving and contentment 35:00 - “Kids who don’t learn boundaries become adults who don’t define them for themselves.” 36:00 - “We overcome envy by focusing on the blessings we have, focusing on our uniqueness and what makes us special, and knowing we’re directing our resources on what matters the most. This is where we overcome envy and start to find peace in our lives.” 37:06 - “We we find our greatest peace when... we know we're being intentional with our time and our money and our schedule and our space... when we can say I'm doing in this moment what I think God would have me to do... that this is where we find peace in our lives." Resources Top 10 Blog Posts - https://www.becomingminimalist.com/most-popular-posts/  Joshua’s Blog - https://www.becomingminimalist.com Joshua’s books - Links to purchase at his website: https://www.becomingminimalist.com/books The Minimalist Home: A Room-by-Room Guide to a Decluttered, Refocused Life The More of Less: Finding the Life You Want Under Everything You Own The Hope Effect - http://www.hopeeffect.com - changing orphan care by providing family-based solutions