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Ken Coleman joins us for part 2 of our summer 9-part series on the Fruit Of The Spirit. Ken is a career expert, best-selling author of "The Proximity Principle" and national radio host of "The Ken Coleman Show". Pulling from his own personal struggles, missed opportunities and career successes, Coleman helps people discover what they were born to do and provides practical steps to make their dream job a reality. Conversation Notes: (4:55) Living a purposeful life through our work - we were all created to do work that matters (5:24) The Proximity Principle book (5:55) Passions for leadership tie into principles of being a dad (6:30) Taking his kids with him on speaking trips (7:13) We want our kids to see us invite people into our home (6:20) Things he loves to do with his kids (8:08) There is a lot of togetherness. We're a close knit group (8:35) Dad advice - you’re going to need to own what you did wrong and say sorry. Many times. This will do more for your relationship with your kids. (8:50) Kids need to see their father ask for forgiveness. (10:30) Painful moment - he thought he was helping his son by pushing him, but was actually pushing him away. (13:29) Small rhythms have big long-term impact - parenting for strengths. (14:15) "Use what you do best to do what you love to do most... That's the sweet spot. That's the calling of God" (14:42) Help our kids be self-aware adults - do you know who you are? (15:15) Psalm 139 - you knit me together in my mothers womb. Talent and passion. (15:35) Help our kids understand their role to the father and their role in this world. (16:18) The power of intentional questions - you’ll get more out of them if you ask a question vs tell them. (19:33) Why is joy important for dads and kids? (19:40) Difference between happiness and joy (20:18) Joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5) (22:00) Other tools to help kids step into joy: help them understand the journey of faith. (22:50) That moment of pain needs to be put in greater context of the bigger broader story. (24:35) The Proximity Principle - “in order to do what I want to do I’ve got to be around people that are doing it in places that it is happening” (25:55) In order to be a great dad I need to be around great dads and be in places where great dads are hanging out Ken Coleman Show (28:14) Assess the peers you’re hanging out with. (28:50) Don’t do dad life alone. Get around other dads who are ahead of you to ask advice. (29:18) Analogy: Training for a race - running with people a little pace ahead helps us to go farther. You don’t want to be the fastest guy in the group. dadAWESOME groups Links: The Proximity Principle: The Proven Strategy That Will Lead to a Career You Love One Question: Life-Changing Answers from Today's Leading Voices The Ken Coleman Show Ken's Twitter Ken's Instagram Ken Online Ken's Facebook 

This episode kicks off our dadAWESOME 9-part series on the Fruit Of The Spirit as described in Galatians 5:22-23  Paul Van Coller is a phenomenal communicator of God’s Word and the pastor of Hope Church in George, South Africa. He is a great storyteller and inspires people to have more faith and risk more for God. His passion is planting churches in all corners of the world. Paul and his wife Marinette have been married for 16 years, have two awesome boys and both have been in active ministry for over 20 years. Before they re-planted Hope Church in George, South Africa in 2012 they were missionaries for 10 years with The Zambia Project which they pioneered and continue to lead.  Conversation Notes GIVE to the Fathers for the Fatherless 100 mile ride - webpage here We’re now offering a daily dadAWESOME text message with encouragement, prayers, Bible verses, dad tips and other fatherhood inspiration. Simply text “dad” to 33222 to receive DA Daily Texts. (4:41) Paul introduces his family and ministry (5:44) Our mission as a family is to honor God and see God's kingdom grow. (6:03) Cultural differences on fatherhood (7:14) Fun things Paul enjoys doing with his boys (8:12) Illustration of aligning arrows (priorities) in our lives and families (9:50) John 3:30 "He must increase, but I must decrease.” (10:38) Understanding our calling as a family (11:34) "We are together in this mission... I can't succeed as a dad or as a person in serving God and fulfilling what I feel God has called me to do unless we all fulfill what God has called us all to do." (12:15) "We're on this journey together. We celebrate the wins. We pray together for various things." (13:05) Paul describes how painful experiences brought him closer to God (13:57) "God is such a big God, and he loves us so much. He is for us. When we come to Him and bring our pain and suffering to Him… surrender it to Him, He is able to patch it all up and do something amazing with it" (14:35) Allow the manure of pain and past mistakes to become the fertilizer for reaping great relationships (15:23) Paul talks about what he learned from a past mistake (15:35) Be adaptive in our leadership and parenting because our kids are continually changing seasons in their lives. (16:30) Beginning conversation about the Fruit of the Spirit of LOVE (17:30) Biblical love is different than our cultures “romantic” love. Biblical love is sacrificial. (17:38) Love puts our families above our own needs and desires. We as men need to be willing to "die" first. (19:00) Find the balance between self-sacrifice and making an idol out of our families (20:05) Don't just pray that God would bless and grow our kids, but also pray to hear from God about our kids. (21:20) Story of coffee and intentionally slowing down (21:54) We need to force ourselves to stop, reflect, process, and get ready for what is coming next. (22:33) “The mistake that I was making, and that I think that many of us make, is that I was rushing from one thing to the next.” (23:13) If we take the time to stop with our kids it can leave to some of the best conversations. (23:28)  Living lives of love does not happen in a rushed state (24:08)  Make sure we are really present with our kids and we're really there in the moment. (24:29)  Some people talk best while we're doing something. The conversation starts moving while we do something together. (25:25)  Paul's time machine advice to his younger self would be to "Listen more and have more fun." Be intentional about making positive memories. (27:54)  "My dream is that they would one day say I showed them what it looked like to radically follow God." (28:00)  "Be full of faith, putting God's kingdom above our kingdom, and have fun along the way." (29:06) Parting advice: have fun, don't take yourself too seriously, and admit your mistakes. (30:10) "I pray that you would continue to give us the grace to love as you love us, God." Links: Paul on Instagram Hope Church The Zambia Project

Susie Larson is back for part 5 of Mom Month with the powerful second half of a vulnerable conversation. Susie is a talk show host, national speaker, and author of 16 books. Her passion is to see women everywhere awakened to the value of their soul, the depth of God’s love, and the height of their calling in Christ Jesus. In case you missed last week's episode, here's the first half of this interview in Episode 71.   Conversation Notes: GIVE to the Fathers for the Fatherless 100 mile ride - webpage here We’re now offering a daily dadAWESOME text message with encouragement, prayers, Bible verses, dad tips and other fatherhood inspiration. Simply text “dad” to 33222 to receive DA Daily Texts. (2:14) Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion and Joy We’re now offering a daily dadAWESOME text message with encouragement, prayers, Bible verses, dad tips and other fatherhood inspiration. Simply text “dad” to 33222 to join DA Daily (3:05) "Sadly, once we’ve secured our eternity, far too many of us live like the rest of the world… When we forget, or become too busy, to tap into the provision and power God has made available to us, we find ourselves weary, rushed, earthbound people who merely react to our circumstances. From the outside looking in, we look like everybody else - tired, overworked, and underjoyed…" (3:54) Are we living to be loved or are we living from love? There’s a difference in their eyes, in their level of joy (4:25) Live out of the love of the Father because his love changes everything (4:37) Soren Kierkegaard quote: "You have loved us first, O God... You have loved us first many times and every day and our whole life through. When we wake up in the morning and turn our soul toward You – You are the first – You have loved us first..."(4:50) Ephesians 3:17-19 "so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. Then you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to comprehend the length and width and height and depth of His love, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God" (5:05) Three types of yeses: the Sloppy Yes, the Shackled Yes, and the Sacred Yes. (5:13) Sloppy yes - you don’t see the value of your life and your calling. You’re busy. Sloppy in what you say yes to. Not sustainable, exhausting, not able to bear fruit, and makes you spiritually vulnerable - a dangerous and joyless way to live. (5:18) Shackled yes - fear of man - misusing time, treasurers and talents to manage a persona and other people’s opinions. Captivity. Won’t bear fruit. (5:59) Proverbs 29:25 "Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe." (6:05) You may go through a season where you have to be content to be misunderstood and you'll have to say no. (6:28) “You will never accomplish anything of substance as long as man’s opinion holds more weight than God’s.” (6:40) Sacred Yes - living with a single-minded focus and living for an audience of one. (6:52) Psalm 90:12 "Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom." (7:07) “I’m not who I was, I’m not what I do, I’m someone He enjoys.” (7:39) Some blind spots for dads (8:40) We have a natural tendency to attach our identity to the things we do (9:15) "You're going to be giving thousands of chances to die to yourself and you should take every one. Because that's where the resurrection power will come." (9:50) The impact generationally of us choosing to die to ourselves (10:50) "In Genesis we read about how Esau gave up his birthright for a bowl of soup. He let himself get so exhausted, so extended, so hungry that he lost sight of the bigger story of his life. He traded his birthright - something that would impact future generations - for a bowl of soup. Soup! Yet that’s exactly what we do when we extend ourselves to the point of exhaustion and reduce our choices to options that just get us through the moment… We deprive future generations the blessings God has promised us…” (11:10) How many Heavenly storehouses remain untapped because we're racing around just trying to get through the moment." (12:20) The Lord said to me, "Most of my children are scratching the surface of what I've made available to them." (13:50) Two of three times per year we'd sit down and write out everywhere our time was going (14:25) "When you just go on cruise control or autopilot, you disengage your heart" (15:00) Four boundaries that Susie has set up around her life (16:20) Holy Confidence Humble Dependance Kingdom Passion Calvary Love Please leave a REVIEW of dadAWESOME on Apple Podcasts (linked here) Episode Links: Episode 71 - PART 1 with Susie Larson dadAWESOME Episode 29 (Kevin Larson) Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion and Joy https://www.susielarson.com/

 dadAWESOME Daily: Receive an encouraging daily text message with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration. The resource is free and the initial test group of dads has LOVED these simple daily fatherhood encouragements. Simply text “dad” to 33222 to join DA Daily ---------------- Susie Larson joins dadAWESOME for part 4 of Mom Month. She is a talk show host, national speaker, and author of 16 books. Susie’s passion is to see women everywhere awakened to the value of their soul, the depth of God’s love, and the height of their calling in Christ Jesus. Conversation Notes: Taking intentional time to develop friendships. Placing your friends above yourself (2:40) Proverbs 12:26 "The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray." (3:25) The benefits of hindsight... seeing the fruit in their family after all they've sown into their boys and seeing the grace of God in the ways they missed it (5:12) "I don't like to say I'm busy because busyness means I'm out of control. I have a full life and I'm careful with my YES." (5:35) The story from her husband Kevin's perspective - listen to dadAWESOME Episode 29 (6:50) You must have an intimate thriving walk with the Lord (7:33) "If you want to walk in the miraculous, you have got to hook up to the power source." (7:55) As a couple - pray together every single day (8:05) You have to grab ahold of your identity in Christ and you have to declare it every single day (8:15) People are misusing their time, treasure and talents to try to prove something that God has already proven and then it's a colossal waste of time (8:25) You've got nothing to prove & all of eternity to live for (8:35) The importance of family meetings (9:40) Let's talk about Christmas. It's about Jesus, not about you. What does entitlement look like? What does gratitude look like? (10:10) She would tell her boys, "You're a Christian first and a teenager second," because we can't be blown by the culture we live in (10:30) "We cannot grow beyond our ability to receive correction." -Francis Frangipane (11:04) You are not your performance, but how you perform matters. You've got to leave places better than you found them. You've got to be a giver and not a taker (11:15) The importance of a family meeting and each person sharing a growth area and a strength area with each other (11:40) Hearing from her son "Mom, you worry too much and dad you work too much" (12:30) Susie talking about her husband Kevin (14:00) Kevin working 2 or 3 jobs and the pain of him working too much (15:00) I want couples to know it's worth it. Work through the hard times and don't give up on your marriage. You'll have the strongest and most enjoyable marriage after the fact. (15:30) Kevin telling Susie, "You're not going to one doctor appointment by yourself." (16:05) Kevin mentors his adult sons and they each have lunch with him every month. (17:20) Susie reflecting on her father (18:49) When you're overcompensating, so often it's coming out of a heartbreak or trauma or fear of some kind (20:45) Susie's dad: "My whole life I've thought I had to earn God's love and at this age, I finally found out that it's free" (21:10) What if we have pain from the relationship with our father? (22:20) God wants to make us whole... Psalm 23:3 "He restores my soul" (22:45) "God goes to the hardest places in our souls and He untangles them so that you're trauma-free" (22:55) "As Christians, we don't have the option to sit in unforgiveness and hold onto bitterness" (23:45) "Pain that is not transformed is transferred" -Dr. Shane Wood Susie reflecting on some mom-mistakes (24:50) The pain and confusion with two of their three sons wandering from the faith (25:10) "Parenting is not a formula that guarantees an outcome" (26:06) God takes our offering and He's not done with us yet (27:05) Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion and Joy "Sadly, once we’ve secured our eternity, far too many of us live like the rest of the world… When we forget - or become too busy - to tap into the provision and power God had made available to us, we find ourselves weary, rushed, earthbound people who merely react to our circumstances. From the outside looking in, we look like everybody else - tired, overworked, and underjoyed…" People who have begun living from love vs. living for love (28:40) Episode Links: dadAWESOME Episode 29 (Kevin Larson) Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion and Joy https://www.susielarson.com/

BREAKING NEWS: We're now offering a daily dadAWESOME text message with encouragement, prayers, Bible verses, dad tips and other fatherhood inspiration. Simply text "dad" to 33222 to join DA Daily. ---------- This is part three of Mom Month and Kristen Welch joins us for a conversation about chasing dreams, living with gratitude and the dangers of living with ourselves in the center of our own universe. Kristen is a blogger (Wearethatfamily.com), author, podcaster and founder of an incredible nonprofit ministry in Kenya.  Conversations Notes: Showing our kids unconditional love (1:35) Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (2:20) Living for my family alone led to a child-centered home (7:35) My husband could see the emptiness in me and he hurt for me (11:00) The trip to Kenya woke me up... I literally woke up from the American Dream that had become a nightmare for me. The cycle in me that there was never enough. (11:40) Story of a young orphan boy in Kenya who in the worlds eyes had nothing (12:50) Why was this boy filled with joy? Why was he smiling when he had nothing (13:50) I have everything because I have Jesus (14:30) A response of doing nothing is still a response (16:18) We must acknowledge what we have done in the past that has led our families to where we are at (17:08) My choices changed. The way I shopped, consumed, lived and served (17:40) It revealed my own entitlement. How much I expected and felt like I deserved (18:00) "I don't want to add Jesus to my life like salt and pepper to a meal. I want him to be the main course!" (18:50) The can't have a child-centered home and a Jesus-centered home at the same time (18:55) Service was not part of who we were. We did not serve others (20:35) "It is really hard to change the direction of a ship [your family]. It does not happen overnight. It is slow and steady and consistent." We began making service a normal part of our lives (21:20) Instead of keeping everything to ourselves, our response was to start Mercy House (21:45) The reason you feel empty is that you're keeping these blessings to yourself (22:10) We simply took small steps towards saying yes everyday (23:30) Moving from a joyless person to a purposeful person (24:15) Where do we have extra to share? Spare seat at the table? Open seat in the vehicle? Room during the holidays? We're sitting on this incredible secret that generosity changes lives... it makes us grateful (25:55) Story of her husband helping her chase her dreams (26:55) My husband was way ahead of me. He was leading our family spiritually. He was asking questions that made me uncomfortable... He was seeing a pattern in me that was unhealthy (28:25) My husband said to me, "What happened to the girl that wanted to change the world?" (29:25) The heart of a husband that wanted to bring out the best in a wife... he didn't want motherhood to kill her dreams (32:20) I said let's do something radical and my husband said, "let's do it" (33:00) "God had to take me all the way to Kenya and wreck my heart so that when I came back I would be on the same page as my husband" (33:30) The real tension of needing her husband to lead in ways that were best for their family (34:00) This life isn't about me or even my family. This life is about the Gospel. We exist to make the Gospel known and glorify God in what we do. (36:30) "Wait for life's sweet spot where your passion and our skills collide with God's timing" (37:30) Be grateful. Gratitude can turn the hardest days into the best days. (38:30) Gratitude is a lifeline in our lives. It truly reminds us of what we have and a global perspective also helps us realize what we have (39:20) Episode Links: Wearethatfamily.com Moving Mountains Podcast Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World: How One Family Learned That Saying No Can Lead to Life's Biggest Yes Raising World Changers in a Changing World Mercy House Global

Happy Mother's Day! This conversation is part 2 of our Mom Month and we had the privilege of a double awesome conversation with Renee Burt and Stephanie Gutierrez. We explore the power of a hug, speaking words of life, modeling our Heavenly Father's love and praying for miracles while living with love and thankfulness. Episode 69 Conversation Notes: Living with expectancy and joy (1:52) Romans 8:15 "This resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave-tending life. It’s adventurously expectant, greeting God with a childlike “What’s next, Papa?” (2:32) My dad not only loved me, but he liked me (4:43) When you know your parents like you, it changes everything... My dad came home from work excited to play with us (5:05) If Jesus would want to be your kids best friend, then why would I as their mother not want to be their best friend (5:50) Love and like your kids (7:22) A dad who prioritized teaching his kids the Bible and not in an oppressive way, but in a life-giving way (7:50) My dad looked at me with such love that it helped give me an understanding of God's love (8:35) He loves to play with his daughters and get into their world, but he also loves to invite his daughters into his world (9:10) Our kids feel so safe in their dads love (9:45) My daughter says that she's not going to settle for a guy to marry unless he's at least as good as her dad (9:45) Speaking positive words over your wife (10:45) You have a huge impact on your wife's parenting. Even if you don't see it, keep affirming (11:25) Seeing a dad who cries over the work of God in his daughters life... The Generation curse was broken (11:50) Every morning they would wake up believing for a miracle... Every day their first look at their daughter was disappointment (13:30) Reading in Romans revealed more of the love of God. The lack of healing in their daughter was not their fault as her parents (14:25) "I didn't have to wait to fully accept her and fully love her until she walked in healing. God loved her right now and right then." (15:00) The shock of learning that her kids were moving away to the mission field in Peru (16:30) God whispered in a soft voice, "I have not forgotten you" (17:25) Sharing her testimony... the raw and vulnerable version (18:10) God’s lessons are bigger than ours. He never forgets us (1835) Tell your story and you will impact their story (1820) What is better than that? Seeing God take the pain in your life and turn it around to help someone else (2005) Tell your daughters how beautiful and valuable they are (2034) Every little girl wants to hear that they are beautiful and if they do not hear it from their dad, they will go to others to find it (21:10) Tell your daughter every single way that they are awesome and tell them all the time (21:30) Learn about the love languages of your kids (21:35) Look for ways that you can speak love in ways that are meaningful to your daughter (21:10) The importance of the hug and the embrace of a dad (20:25) The desire for a hug and embrace. We want it from our dads and we wanted from our heavenly father (23:00) You might be speaking love loud and clear, but if it is not the type of love your wife wants, it can be grating for her (23:50) An ideal Mother’s Day for Stephanie is not needing to do anything. Acts of service is her love language (24:18) Renee explained that receiving flowers brought back pain from when she was a daughter. Her dad would bring flowers anytime he had an affair. Flowers meant an apology because of her family history (25:10) It really comes down to communication... If you are in doubt, ask your wife. Don't guess (26:10) The wife really needs to tell the husband what she wants. Help a guy out. Make a list of things you would like and give that list to your husband (26:45) Major on the major and minors on the minors. Don’t spend too much energy on things that are not a big deal (28:10) Focus on the character and the qualities of your kids heart (28:35) Limited attention span‘s and being intentional with cell phone usage. When you are with your kids, really be with them (29:45) Work life bleeding over into home life (30:15) The ability to focus and really listen to your kids when your phone is buzzing is very difficult (30:25) Set the phone down and really listen to your kids (29:45) The temptation to let your eyes glaze over and stop really listening to your kids... don’t let your mind drift off and go someplace else in your head (31:05) If your kid talks a lot, listen and look for the treasure buried in the long winded conversation (33:10) The importance of finding common ground with your kids. Find a way to connect (35:00) Help each child know individually that they are special (36:05) Find things with each child that are “just us” moments... Special Time (36:40) Take 10 to 15 minutes every day for individual one on one time with each child (37:00) Love Languages Stephany and Danny's Missions Website (Peru):

This is the first part of Mom Month and we're thrilled to take the month of May to gather wisdom from some incredible women. Laurel Bunker is the Dean of Campus Ministries/Campus Pastor at Bethel University in St. Paul, Minnesota. As campus pastor, Laurel serves as the primary preacher in chapel and leads a team that is dedicated to providing transformational ministry opportunities for the Bethel community. She is a member of the President’s Executive Leadership Team, providing strategic guidance on issues related to the spiritual formation and personal development of the student body. She also teaches and trains at colleges, churches, and para-church organizations in the areas of leadership, spiritual development, biblical issues in the 21st-century, and more. Laurel and her husband, Joshua, have two daughters. Conversation Notes: Never underestimate the importance of your life and your roll as dad in life and in your children's world (7:15) Culture and the demonic work of Satan are trying to break men (7:50) Having kids gives you a place to be emotional (8:30) What your child wants from you is not perfection. What they want is your time and your love. (8:45) Your computer your phone your hobbies your job and are not as important as your kids (8:50) Love your wife well in front of your kids (9:15) He rarely calls his girls by their name. He calls them beautiful (9:50) Work hard, but don't let your job come before your kids (9:55) I can be strong and beautiful in the eyes of my father and my Heavenly Father (11:10) Get down on your knees when you are talking to your little kids. Your voice is louder and stronger than you are aware of (11:45) Their girls seeing pain through youth ministry and hard tragic events of suicide and teen pregnancy (14:15) Calling their girls into painful moments and processing pain together (14:35) Walking with their girls through pain and trusting the heart of our Heavenly Father and His grace and mercy even when we're not sure (15:50) Pain can be an opportunity to be vulnerable... Don't just shuttle away the emotions (16:50) Take daily things and bring God's word into those moments (20:00) Holman Field Restaurant https://www.holmanstable.com/ Boys, Boundaries and "Bexpectations" (22:35) Using rhythms of daily life to apply the Gospel (23:10) Business creates blinders... when you are consumed with your own vision for what you need to do (24:10) Little girls don't always need superman. They just need daddy to lay on the floor and let them crawl all over him (24:50) Please don't introduce your kids to technology too early (25:25) Guard your hearts in your own sexual lives (25:35) If there's brokenness, find a group of brothers to find freedom with together (25:50) The kingdom of God operating in all it's fullness with men and women working together (28:26) Don't give us. Forgive your dad if you need to. Seek the Lord to find healing so you don't drag all that muck into your relationship with your own kids. (28:50) Links: Bethel Campus Ministries Team: https://www.bethel.edu/christian-formation/staff Facebook

Steve Argue is associate professor of youth, family, and culture at Fuller Theological Seminary and applied research strategist at the Fuller Youth Institute. Steve researches, speaks, and writes regularly on topics surrounding adolescence, emerging adulthood, faith, and spiritual struggle. This is the 4th conversation in our Creativity Month (April 2019). Conversation Notes: 3:05 - We wanted to raise confident females who were comfortable in their own shin. Who knew their own voices. 3:25 - looking at the world differently through our girls eyes 4:05 - keep reminding our kids who they are and whose they are 5:15 - the pain of moving as a family and the impact on their girls 5:55 - my daughter is feeling pain and I can't take this away. 6:00 - it's never too early and never too late to be the best can you can be in this moment 7:45 - early on the assumption is that your kids will always be pursuing you... And then we get lazy as dads and the relationship is changing. We must continue to pursue them. 8:35 - story about the post-it note "They're not going to knock forever" 11:05 - accidentally turning our kids into the identifying patient. 11:40 - what type of father do I need to be today for my kids 12:09 - growing with parenting is a mutual journey of intentional growth for both ourselves and our children that trusts God to change us all 12:50 - FREE chapter of book Growing With and free quiz for dads: https://growingwithbook.com/dadawesome/ 14:10 - "Withing" and Family Warmth >> we need to realize that the relationship is going to change. 15:07 - Relational warmth is more important that teaching. They need to be loved and cared for and seen and relationally present more than anything. 16:05 - never give up... the next day is a new day and we can step closer to our kids and try again. 16:58 - Fatherhood research about the impact of a dad... 17:40 - dads play a really important role... We as dads must be careful in drifting towards passivity 18:12 - looking to an adult figure is how kids learn about what their Heavenly Father is like 18:40 - we need to go for it. Don't hold back in talking about your faith. 19:05 - do something crazy for Jesus and give God credit for it 20:05 - going out for coffee and dad buys and then they talk about serious things 20:30 - "Tell me something you believe about faith that you don't think dad believes" 20:40 - "Tell me something you used to believe that you no longer believe" 22:00 - Learner stage, Explorer stage or a Focuser stage and what type of parenting is needed in each of these stages? 23:10 - Try to say YES more than NO... I think we should respond with YES more often. Why not? 24:02 - We must make room for creativity. A rushed life has no room for creativity. 24:35 - Living filled with WONDER 25:00 - Nobody says, when I'm in my 60's or 70's I'm going to be inflexible and a sour puss. It sneaks up on us. 25:15 - How do we make sure we're infusing wonder in our own lives? 25:27 - How do we show genuine interest in our kids? 25:40 - "If you could describe your day as a dessert, what kind of a day did you have today?" 26:50 - avoid putting all our eggs in one epic basket. Look for the epicness in the little things along the way. 28:40 - You were made to be a dad and your kids need you. Help them find their voice and never give up 29:20 - you're not alone. Seek out another dad to take this fatherhood journey together with. Don't father alone. Episode Links: Free Chapter and Parent Quiz Growing With: Every Parent's Guide to Helping Teenagers and Young Adults Thrive in Their Faith, Family, and Future http://www.stevenargue.com/  

Jeremy Pryor is a business owner, creative entrepreneur, author, podcaster and a builder of multiple movements with family at the core. We're incredibly thankful for this conversation with Jeremy about his time in Jerusalem, welcoming his children into creative roles in his company and the long term iterating of their family sabbath. This is part 3 of our Creativity Month. Resources from Jeremy Pryor: https://familyteams.com/podcasts/ The Skill of Fatherhood Masterclass https://epipheo.com/ https://familyteams.com/resources/ https://www.1kh.org/ http://www.storyformedlife.org/ Conversation Highlights with Jeremy Pryor: Meeting his wife in Jerusalem (7:55) Jewish dads and the intentionality of men with children ((9:30) The life of Abraham and his role as a father (9:45) Asking a dangerous question- is there a connection with Abraham and how he saw family? (10:40) The Bible exclusively sees family through a fatherhood and family lens Abraham saw family as a multigenerational team on mission (11:30) Fatherhood insights from Jerusalem - Encounter, consider it, be influenced, adopt these principles (12:00) Story about Jeremy’s daughter joining him on mission with his podcast (13:20) It’s ok to sweep your kids into your own quirky obsessions (14:20) >> Strategically propagandizing his kids Superhero movies and the explosion of interest with the mythical (15:40) They read the same 5 passages of scripture each week as a family (16:50) Book Life together by Bonhoeffer Deuteronomy 6 Bible Midrash (17:30) Friday night epic meal to kick off the sabbath (18:00) Friday feast - Iterating on their sabbath for 15 years (18:20) It’s a skill to learn how to honor God with the sabbath (19:45) Entering Rest Cleaning up as a team. Make it a dance party (20:15) Sabbath - if your kids don't see the sabbath day as their favorite day of the week, then you're doing it wrong" (22:00) The sabbath is the Zenith of the week. Make it fun and make it meaningful and give yourself lot's of grace. The goal is for the sabbath to be life giving Goal - for his kids to all want to honor the sabbath when they are grown A mentor told Jeremy that he wasn't connecting with his sons heart (25:00) My bar was not at the right place with regards to what it meant to really have your kids heart at every stage (26:50) Are you partnering really well with your wife in this current season?  (28:50) Don't be passive. Be a leader. Be a directive leader. (29:00) Be a strong central presence in the home in the stage of young kids. (30:00) Be a culture setter in the home (30:20) Creativity is within the mandate of Genesis 1 (30:45) God had a creative challenge and he set loose the family (31:30) There in nothing more central to the mandate of the family than being creative (32:20) Thinking about family as an investment with a much longer time horizon (34:00) We are not the center of our story. We're part of a much bigger multigenerational story (34:45) When dads start thinking multigenerational (35:20)

We're thrilled to have Frank Bealer joining us for part 2 of our Creativity Month. Frank is the Executive Director of Leadership Development at Orange / The reThink Group and CEO of Phase Family Centers. Prior to Orange he was the Family Pastor at Elevation Church in Charlotte North Carolina where he oversaw family ministry at more than a dozen locations. He recently released his first book, “The Myth of Balance”. Conversation Highlights: I want to be proud of what I do at work and share that with my kids (7:50) Story of Frank's son flipping his truck and the scary moment of seeing his son broken, scared and crying (10:15) Life 360 app (12:00) Screen time setting for needing approval for downloading apps (14:25) Independent, Christ followers that want to come back and spend time with us (16:30) Creating warm memories... consistent things done over time (17:10) Monopoly for Millennials Board Game   Earn opportunities to connect and guide (19:00) The mistake of imposing personal wins on his kids (19:50) When this, then that strategy (24:00) The Myth of Balance book (Amazon link) The planning of their kids perfect Saturday (31:10) How would you plan the perfect day with a $25 budget (32:00) Teaching creativity inside limited constraints (32:20) What if I'm too maxed out for intentionality and creativity? (33:15) The importance of tracking your time and finding pockets of time for connection (34:20) Serving his family with as much passion as he puts towards serving others (35:45) 1 Thessalonians 2:11-12 "For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into his kingdom and glory." (36:35) Encouraging Comforting Urging Connect with Frank Bealer Frank's website - https://www.helpingleaderswin.com/ The Myth of Balance book (Amazon link) Blog post about Frank joining the Orange Team Family Phase Center