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Chad Johnson is a CEO, Entrepreneur, Coach, Speaker, Husband and Father of 11. His family has taken on the role of Global Ski Ambassadors and their vision is to introduce 1 MILLION families to the joy of skiing together. This dadAWESOME conversation covers clarifying priorities/values, the benefits of working hard as a family and the life changing freedom that is available to every dad through breaking the chains of sexual sin. Conversation Notes: 2:54 - Chad introduces his family 3:34 - Imperfect fatherhood - there are no perfect husbands and there are no perfect fathers 4:00 - "Man, it would be awesome to have 10 kids... And you can see what happens when you keep saying one more" 4:40 - This fathering thing never stops... now they keep adding new kids as their kids get married 6:17 - The Big Ski Family - "it would be so fun to have a family entrepreneurial whim" - Global Ambassadors for Family Skiing 9:00 - The Giant Five Framework - top priorities 1) Faith - it's foundational 2) Marriage - must be on the same page fighting together 3) Children - Aspire to raise them to be all God created them to be. 4) Heath - being fit, healthy and active 5) Career/Work/Ministry - Using God given Unique Abilities to earn, serve, and bless others 16:30 - Chad reflecting on his father 18:10 - My dad has always prioritized his relationship with God and my mom. 21:15 - The value of working hard as a family... "Ability to tackle hard things. To not run from a project" 25:10 - "I'm ok stirring the pot. I don't want my kids to have a sterile, safe, protected, isolated environment." 27:01 - Chad reflects on the pain of sexual sin and how it impacted his family. 30:05 - "My young children were at risk when I fell" 31:00 - "You want to talk about ripping your heart out. I knew that I was hurting my wife and I hated it. I despised it. And then I realized that I was brining it into my children's lives somehow" 32:15 - "I was believing the lie that my wife and my children would be better off without me" 33:15 - The driving mission of helping men hear the message of freedom in Christ and the solution that only God can bring. 34:00 - Christ in me the hope of glory 34:40 - I needed power for the right now. Ability to walk in power of the Holy Spirit. 36:20 - Fatherhood, Family, Freedom - they all intersect and if we walk in freedom, our kids get freedom 37:00 - Resources - "Sin No More & Sanctification"by Michael Pearl 38:00 - Coaching words for us - "Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he." 39:15 - God made you a masterpiece 40:53 - "The world is crying out for men and dads who are on fire. That love what they're doing and their giving it their all" 41:53 - "Live life like a movie you'd want to watch with your children and grandchildren" 42:00 - Chad's prayer - Jude 24-25 "Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, To the only wise God our Savior, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen." Episode Links: www.StrategicCoach.com (Coaching the world's best Entrepreneurs and Business Owners as an Entrepreneurial Coach) www.TheBigSkiFamily.com (On a mission: Introduce 1 MILLION families to the joy of Skiing together) www.CeramicDecoratingCo.com (Wine Bottle Screen Printing Company Since 1934. Growing our 85 year old, 3rd Generation, family owned and operated, glass bottle/container printing business, as CEO. Focused on the wine industry, CBD Oil, Craft Beverage, and Specialty Food Industries.) Instagram (Chad @thegiant5guy) Instagram (@thebigskifamily) DA Ideas: Andy Dauer's DA idea Helping kids calm down 1) Get down on their level 2) Listen first and validate their feelings. Value them 3) Ask them to look you right on your eyes 4) Take a breath in through their nose and then out through their mouth 5) Blowing out the candles with your fingers 6) Trace their hand taking breaths with each finger - like a roller coaster Submitting dadAWESOME IDEAS: We are gathering tools, games, strategies, dad hacks and other ideas that need to be shared to help all of us take a step towards awesomeness in our fatherhood. If you’d be willing to share an idea or two, please reach out so we can share them: Call and leave a Voice Message: 612 293-5086‬ Send an email: da@dadawesome.org Send us a text: 612 293-5086‬

John Burns: This is part 2 of the dadAWESOME conversation with John Burns. (here's the link to part 1 Episode 92) John and his wife Helen pastor Relate Church in Vancouver, Canada and are featured on “Sex, Love and Relationships” on the Hillsong Channel. They have been married for 45 years and have three daughters with eight grandchildren. Episode Notes: 2:22 – John walks us through a not so awesome dad moment 3:05 – His daughters began making excuses to not go on their daddy daughter dates... It was because John was boring them with his questions. 3:35 - He was putting too much pressure on his daughters to answer his questions 4:40 - The mistake of trying to get our kids to act like other kids 5:00 - "I decided that I was going to enjoy my girls just the way they are" 5:09 - "You know honey, you're my hero. When I grow up, I want to be just like you" 5:20 - "You've got to look past the childishness and see the awesomeness in your children and then speak to it. And as you do, it just confirms it in them" 5:58 - Proverbs 13:21 - "A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children, And the wealth of the sinner is stored up for the righteous." 6:10 - We are way too nearsighted and we need to look further and focus on the generations. 7:00 - The younger generation are hurting. They have information, but they don't have connection and wisdom. 7:30 - The importance of the connection between grandparents and grandchildren 8:25 - The importance of pouring into your kids friends and build bridges to reach your kids 9:15 - Psalm 92:12-14 "The righteous will flourish like a palm tree, they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon; planted in the house of the Lord, they will flourish in the courts of our God. They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green" 9:50 - "Your kids will follow your heart. They wont always follow your ideas, but they will read your heart." 10:15 - The two most important things to do to transfer your faith to your kids: 1) Love God 2) Love your church 10:25 - "When your kids see your heart for God in worship" 11:15 - Church is messy and family is messy. Your kids need to see how you negotiate your life and church. 12:20 - Loving your wife in front of your kids. 13:00 - When kids see their dads love waning for the local church, they will question their love for God 14:13 - Sex is the celebration of love 14:40 - Loving your wife is giving, not receiving 15:30 - Sex is all about giving. Love is not about feelings. 16:20 - The importance of your kids knowing about sex 17:00 - The most important thing in sex and marriage is talk. We must sit down and talk and learn how each other are doing. 17:35 - Intimacy is first emotional. It starts with talk. 18:30 - It's your job as a dad to approach the more difficult areas of marriage. Sex or finances or other areas. 19:25 - Date your wife. Date her often. 19:30 - "Build your wife up and praise her and tell her how amazing she is" 19:45 - Use the word HELP... Ask your wife for help. Take time to listen to her and invite her to help. 21:00 - John's prayer over us dads Conversation Links: John’s Church – Relate Sex, Love & Relationships show on the Hillsong Network Book – “Miracle in a Daddy’s Hug” DA Ideas: What gets recognized gets repeated You've got to catch your kids doing what you want Be a cheerleader Idea submitted by Stefan Brinkley  Submitting dadAWESOME IDEAS: We are gathering tools, games, strategies, dad hacks and other ideas that need to be shared to help all of us take a step towards awesomeness in our fatherhood. If you’d be willing to share an idea or two, please reach out so we can share them: Call and leave a Voice Message: 612 293-5086‬ Send an email: da@dadawesome.org Send us a text: 612 293-5086‬

John Burns: John and his wife Helen pastor Relate Church in Vancouver, Canada and are featured on "Sex, Love and Relationships" on the Hillsong Channel. They have been married for 45 years and have three daughters with eight grandchildren. Episode Notes: 3:12 - John introduces himself and his family 5:00 - “As dad, a great place to start is to say I don’t know, but I want to know” 5:45 - Top dad advice = Get a calendar 6:25 - Get a real calendar. A paper one. A big one... and on that calendar you need to write the names of the most important things to you. Those things have names. 6:50 - Dating your children is the very top of the list for fathers. 9:34 - Be careful not to make dating your kids just a normal thing Four tips for dating your kids: Make it Special It must be planned Time - It needs to be a portion of your life that you prioritize You must connect 10:20 - The importance of listening and being interested 10:30 - “dads - you have no idea just how important you are” 10:45 - The power of words 11:10 - The intro story from John’s book “Miracle in a Daddy’s Hug” 12:15 - Hearing his Heavenly Father say, “it’s going to be ok” 12:45 - Transferring the miracle of what God had done in John down to his daughter through a hug 13:45 - Keeping on the look out for miracle moments 17:00 - Keep believing for your children. Keep praying and keep believing. 18:15 - The prayers of a parent are powerful 19:24 - John’s time machine advice to himself 19:40 - Do more out-of-the-box things with your kids Conversation Links: John's Church - Relate Sex, Love & Relationships show on the Hillsong Network Book - “Miracle in a Daddy’s Hug”

Submitting dadAWESOME IDEAS: We are gathering tools, games, strategies, dad hacks and other ideas that need to be shared to help all of us take a step towards awesomeness in our fatherhood. If you'd be willing to share an idea or two, please reach out so we can share them: Call and leave a Voice Message: 612 293-5086‬ Send an email: da@dadawesome.org Send us a text: 612 293-5086‬ Aaron Shust: Aaron Shust joins dadAWESOME for a vulnerable conversation fatherhood and trusting God in difficult moments. Aaron is a song writer and worship leader who records songs that magnify the name and nature of God. Nothing To Fear, just released in September 2019 and is Aaron's Ninth full-length album. Aaron lives with his wife Sarah and three boys in Nashville, TN. Conversation Notes: 3:37 - Aaron introduces himself and his family 4:42 - His son experiencing bullying at school 12:20 - Focussing intentionality around rhythms 15:15 - The challenge of transitioning from touring as a musician to being home with his family without a schedule 15:50 - "Lord help me to be flexible" 16:30 - The number one thing is prayer 17:55 - "I am losing this battle Lord and I admit it. I need your Spirit to step in and Supernaturally do what you do" 17:40 - Dad mistakes... being too rigid and inflexible 19:45 - "I need to get down on my knees in front of my boys and say I'm sorry... I want my boys to see their daddy being vulnerable." 20:00 - Marriage tip - say "I was wrong" 20:10 - "Whatever I do is their definition of what a dad does... whatever I do is their definition of a man" 20:45 - "Will you forgive me?" 22:07 - Trusting God in difficult moments - lyrics from "My Savior, My God" "I am not skilled to understand. What God has willed, what God has planned. I only know at his right hand. Stands one who is my Savior" 22:40 - Crying out to God for his son 23:10 - James 5:14 "Is anyone among you sick? Let them call the elders of the church to pray over them and anoint them with oil in the name of the Lord." 23:50 - God healing his youngest son and now he can hear 24:50 - "It's not about the level of faith. It's got to be about God's plan" 26:16 - God has the power to answer your prayers, but sometimes he doesn't and we need to trust that God's plans are good... "We need to trust that God knows what He is doing" 27:10 - Testimony Videos:  Nicky's Miracle Story Aaron Shust shares Michael's miracle story Aaron Shust, Testimony, and sings "No One Higher" 27:45 - Nothing To Fear - Hebrews 4:16 - "Let us then approach God's throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need." 28:20 - "Fear always becomes more prevalent and rises whenever my focus is on myself" 29:08 - "Set your eyes on the Word of God and watch the fear dissipate" 30:00 - Ephesians 6:4 "Fathers, don’t exasperate your children, but raise them up with loving discipline and counsel that brings the revelation of our Lord." 30:40 - "If you want to know how our Heavenly Father acts, just read the Fruit of the Spirit. That's His calling card. That's who He is. God is love" 31:00 - Aaron's closing prayer Episode Links: https://www.aaronshust.com DA Ideas: (From Erik Romsaas) 32:40 - Change Up The Environment... Change it up. When it feels like you're stuck as a dad, change the atmosphere and try connecting again.  

Follow dadAWESOME: Web dadawesome.org/ Instagram @dadawesome Facebook /dadawesomepodcast Twitter @dadawesomepod dadAWESOME Daily: Simply text "dad" to 33222 to begin receiving an encouraging daily text with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration. About Mark Foreman: Mark Foreman lives in the San Diego area and is the lead pastor of North Coast Calvary Chapel. The question Mark and his wife Jan Foreman are most often asked is: How did you raise your kids? Never Say No takes you on a personal journey to learn first-hand how they raised Jon and Tim of Switchfoot. Mark’s been married to Jan, his “best friend and favorite Bible teacher,” for over 46 years. Together they love surfing, sailing, travel and especially being with their family. Conversation Notes: 3:00 - “You are the same today as you’ll be in five years except for two things the books you read and the people you meet” Charlie “tremendous” Jones 3:45 - Mark introduces himself 4:50 - Bring your kids along for the adventure. Authenticity is an important ingredient. 5:40 - Agreement with their sons that they can all talk about anything they want. All topics are fair game because Jesus touches everything 6:30 - Surfing/Fatherhood comparison 7:15 - We must isolate the different variables of fatherhood and isolate some of them and then work on the variables that you really want to change 8:40 - "If you win 5000 people to Christ and you lose your own son, how does that feel?" 9:40 - The mistake of carrying around the wooden spoon and taking on the rigid disciplinarian role 10:50 - The importance of filling our kids love tanks 11:00 - "Time, Touch and Eye Contact" and the importance of wrestling 12:20 - The importance of listening and letting your kids dream 12:35 - "I Enjoy You" and the power of these words and the wonder it brings to children to hear them 12:05 - The surprising fact that a lot of people don't "like" their children 13:45 - The more time we spend with our kids, the more we enjoy them. We tend to like the things that we invest in 14:00 - It starts with understanding that God enjoys me 16:25 - book The Second Mountain (David Brooks) // We must go through a valley of pain before we can move to the 2nd mountain of serving and living for others 19:00 - Overview of the book Never Say No 20:30 - Process of thinking backwards and working backwards... What are we hoping for when our kids launch from the home at 18 years old? 21:10 - Most parents primary goal is safety. Most are scared to death of their kids getting hurt by the jungle of this world 21:40 - "Raising kids who own the jungle. Raise kids who change the world rather than run from the world" 22:25 - Raising artists. Every kid is raised in the image of God. He's a creator. He's the greatest artist. 23:30 - "Wonder happens when we get closer to God"... Humility and serving others also comes when we get closer to God. 24:15 - Reading books that stir up wonder 25:45 - Am I accidentally cutting the wings of my kids wonder and creativity 26:38 - Book Quote: "“How do I feel about God? Am I satisfied? Comfortable? Cynical? Disappointed? Indifferent? Am I on fire? That torch in my hand will be passed to my children more substantially than any religious education. If I want my children to grow spiritually, I must stay alive." 28:40 - It must be in me before I can hope something is in my kids. 29:00 - Mark's sons seeing him spending time reading his Bible 30:30 - "We are the caretakers of our kids hearts" 32:15 - "We're launching our kids from the moment they're born if we really believe we are raising kids that will change the world" 34:00 - Entire dadAWESOME episode on the book Never Say No with Ross Manders: https://dadawesome.org/episode48/ 34:20 - Slow down 35:30 - Mark's prayer for us fathers. Links: Never Say No (Mark and Jan Foreman) Switchfoot (his sons band) Mark's church Mark on Twitter

Terry Lijewski is a business leader, family man, mentor and passionate believer in doing hard things for the benefit of others. He's the Vice President at Scott Equipment Company. Terry loves focussing on investing his energy and resources in others as he follows God's footsteps. He's been married 32 years and is the father of three adult children. Conversations Notes: 3:25 - Terry intro 4:40 - Value of mentors in every season of marriage 6:30 - Scott Equipment Company 8:06 - Fatherhood advice 8:30 - “Be all in on your kids interests and passions” 9:40 - Windshield Time - intentional conversations while on the road 11:05 - Terry sharing dad mistakes 11:30 - Take the vacation and get away to build memories 12:12 - Story of too much focus on house projects and skipping his daughters event 13:22 - Story of the painful cancer battle that his son walked through while in college 16:35 - The gift of people standing together with their family in prayer and support 17:25 - The struggle of being a father and feeling defeated and wanting to be his sons strength. 18:45 - Hosting a Chemo Kick Off Party 19:40 - “If I look back, it’s never the mountaintops when I’ve grown, it’s always the valleys” 22:07 - The power of friends in moments of hardship 23:20 - Seeing God’s goodness in the struggle 24:09 - Advice for helping friends know how to show support when others are walking through a valley 26:20 - Terry’s reflections on his father and the contrast between his dad and the fatherhood journey that Terry wanted to live out. 28:10 - He never heard his dad say “I love you” and still today Terry texts his kids everyday to say “I love you”. 29:45 - Terry’s encouragement to fathers who feel discouraged 30:00 - “Humble yourself and go ask for forgiveness” 31:20 - "Commitment baby. Ain’t no substitute” 31:40 - Just encourage your kids to commit and do their best and see it through 32:10 - Deciding to do hard things on behalf of others Link to Venture Expeditions 32:50 - FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS June 20, 2020 33:30 - God spoke to me not to just write the check, but to actually go and join what God is doing 35:45 - Terry’s parting words... Always bring your kids with you for opportunities to serve… Transferring generosity and compassion to your kids 37:06 - Terry’s closing prayer Episode Links: Venture  Scott Equipment Company Follow Terry on Instagram

About John Bolin: John Bolin is an entrepreneur and storyteller passionate about encouraging others to use their talent to create opportunities to be remarkable and make an exponential impact. As a speaker and consultant, he works with companies to help them clarify and amplify the stories of their customers. With over twenty years of experience in theater, publishing, and film, John is a trusted voice on faith and culture. Conversation Notes: 3:29 - John introduces himself  4:53 - The elements of "story" weaves into every part of our life 5:05 - Conflict changes people. The process of conflict or tension and then release. 6:00 - The hero of the story meets the Sage or the Guide. The parent is the guide. 7:45 - Stories of pain and difficult times 10:05 - Parenting is a long game. We must learn to embrace the tears and pain. 11:10 - Parenting mistakes 12:10 - Family values. Creativity, Hospitality, Spontaneity, Entrepreneurship, Travel, etc  13:15 - Stories of his kids being entrepreneurial  15:00 - The challenges of 5 kids and the adventure of a long extended month long family trip to Europe  16:35 - Travel tips for family adventures  17:00 - Schedule first what matters most. It took prioritizing.  17:57 - John shares reflections about his father 18:20 - Learn to make what matters to your kids matter to you 20:21 - Time machine advice. Spend more time investing in your kids. Ask more questions. Play more. 21:55 - John shares his top fatherhood resources  22:10 - You must have friends to walk this dad life out with. The Perfect Father (Rob Stennett) Focus on the Family (Jim Daly’s podcast) Business Authors: Seth Godin, Jeff Goins, Ryan Holiday, Stephen Pressfield, Michael Hyatt, Tim Ferriss even Gary Vee 25:11 - You are the perfect dad for your kids. God put your kids in your family for a reason. You have everything you need to parent your kids the way god wants you to... You’ve got what it takes. Don’t compare yourself to other dads. 27:20 - You can’t lose. We all make mistakes. There is hope. No matter how far you’ve drifted. 27:50 - Be willing to listen. Don’t be afraid. 28:50 - God redeems us. God carries us. 29:30 - We can’t live our kids story. We can’t take their burdens. All we can do is carry them. 30:00 - John’s Prayer  Conversation Links: John's website John's books John on Instagram

Leary Gates is a leadership coach, business creative, entrepreneur, bi-vocational leader, podcast host and non-profit leader. Leary's primary interest has been to unearth a person’s (or firm’s) core value and find creative ways to grow it. He is the founder of BoldPath Life Strategies co-host of the Bold Idea Podcast. He's a husband of 39 years and dad to four kids. Conversation Notes: 2:55 - Leary introduces himself 4:15 - Leary explains his passion to chase bold ideas. "So many ideas, so little time" 5:40 - Put your faith to work. Don't get stuck. 6:30 - "To redeem something is to release it from captivity" 9:01 - "What makes me a strong dad is having a strong marriage" 9:55 - Having a strong relationship with our spouse can give us clarity on our blind spots. Our spouse can see things that we can't see 11:49 - Dad Advice >> The book he would send back to himself - Carol Dweck's Mindset 12:20 - We do not need to prove ourselves to be worthy. It's not about performance, it's about effort. 13:08 - "Understand the impact of shame on your own life and how easy it is to impart it on your kids" 13:25 - Reinventure Me Podcast on Mindset 14:58 - Reflecting on how his dad was an anti role model 15:44 - The need to find other role models when his dad was not able to play that role 17:54 - The commitment to be opposite of what his father was. To connect and pursue his kids. 20:01 - We ask God what He wants to teach us... Asking "pain escape" questions. 20:29 - Maybe God isn't trying to get us to learn anything. Maybe God just wants us to be faithful role models for our kids to see what it's like for their parents to go through a challenging time. 22:12 - Leary explains the benefits of journalling. Creating self-reflection time. It helps him get outside himself by getting his thoughts on the page. 23:00 - The importance of making sure both parents are aligned. It's the child's job to get agreement from both parents. 23:40 - "We are more interested in unity than we are interested in your needs being met" 24:38 - The First Four Minutes - a business principle and a family principle. The first 4-minutes of any interaction sets the tone for the entire interaction. When Leary got home, the first 4-minutes were for him to connect with his wife. 26:00 - The Relationship Test - Blog Post 27:50 - The pursuits that we invest in can either enhance or detract 28:35 - The need for rest. We can't just keep pushing for more and more. 29:39 - Stories of failure as a dad 30:05 - Becoming overly frustrated with his son. Triggering each other into arguments. 31:53 - The honor of being a dad. We can't see this when we're right in the middle of parenting. 32:45 - Just stay with it. Lean into the dad life. Embrace this role as a holy calling. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Take care of yourself. 34:50 - What Leary hopes his kids will say about his life at his funeral someday. That his kids will feel listened to without being judged. The gift of being present and not judging others. 35:56 Leary's prayer Episode Links: www.learygates.com/ Bold Idea Podcast Leary's Book List Mindset: The New Psychology of Success Paperback (Carol S. Dweck)

Charles Lee is the Founder and CEO of Ideation, an idea agency that specializes in helping organizations and businesses take their ideas and make them remarkable via creative strategy, branding, design, and marketing. He is also the author of Good Idea. Now What? - a book that guides people in implementing ideas well. Charles regularly speaks around the country on topics such as creative process, idea-making, innovation, branding, new media, and compassionate justice. Conversation Notes 2:44 - Introducing Charles Lee Timed talk format from Charles' Youth Specialties presentation = PechaKucha 4:44 - “My life mission is to reduce the number of people who take their good ideas to the grave.” - Charles Lee 5:00 - God designed us and has aspirations for us. We can pursue things that God has birthed in us. 7:36 - Charles on the influence of his family 9:05 - Less about life-balance and more like a fulcrum. Move your attention to where it is needed in specific seasons. 11:12 - Teaching resilience to our kids: modeling stewardship 12:48 - Learnings from painful moments - coming to terms with our limitations 14:46 - Trust God that he has something bigger planned 15:40 - Priorities in Charles’ family: continued generosity and the gift of encouraging their kids to engage with adults 16:43 - Parenting mistakes: failing to put ourselves in the position of our kids and increase empathy for them 18:28 - How to reserve creative energy for our family: It’s about pace 19:46 - “The way that innovation works is often two or more unrelated concepts intersect. So if I can put [my kids] in environments that they’re not familiar with, I’m hoping it will trigger an unexpected connection in their thinking.” - Charles Lee 21:01 - Charles summarizes his book Good Idea. Now What? and why he wrote it 22:29 - The Third Eye Principle applied to the dad-life 24:23 - How the concept of limiting/trimming relates to parenting 25:01 - “Don't become a wandering generality. Be a meaningful specific.” Zig Ziglar 25:42 - “Since we are finite beings with finite time and resources, we need to prioritize regularly what really matters to us.” - Charles Lee 26:01 - “We will always make time for things that we value... If [being a dad] is a priority, then our actions should reflect that commitment.” - Charles Lee 26:36 - The importance of writing down our ideas 28:08 - Encouragement for dads 28:47 - “If I will be faithful as I can be… God will still make His path straight for our kids… He loves them far more than I do.” - Charles Lee 29:38 - Legacy Question: What Charles hopes his family would say at his celebration of life service 31:01 - Charles’ closing prayer Resources Charles’ website: https://charlestlee.com “Ignite” timed presentations - http://www.ignitetalks.io Charles’ company website: https://theideation.com/ Charles' book: Good Idea. Now What? How to Move Ideas to Execution - http://goodideabook.com

Invitation: We're looking for 9 volunteers to help us create the dadAWESOME Fruit of The Spirit small group curriculum. Would you be interested in volunteering 2 or 3 hours of your time to listen back to a previous week's episode and take notes and gather more resources on your assigned Fruit of the Spirit? Please email da@dadawesome.org for more information.   This is the second part of our dadAWESOME conversation with Paul Cole. If you missed last week, here's the link to episode 84. Paul Cole is a dedicated champion for raising up successful young leaders, and committed to challenging and helping men be great dads. He's the President of the Christian Men’s Network Worldwide and is active in 138 nations, connecting over 86,000 leaders. Paul writes, speaks and travels extensively encouraging and advancing the men’s movement around the world. Conversation Notes: 4:55 - Book Point Man by Steve Farrar = "Don't screw up this fatherhood thing" 5:40 - "You are your child's hero. What God the Father is to us, a source of provision, a source of discipline, security, affirmation, value, love" 5:55 - "True discipline doesn't come out of anger, it comes from love" 6:40 - 1 Corinthians 10 gives a picture of God trying to grow up his people 7:20 - "Every great culture is built on the character of it's hero's and the courage of it's warriors" (Isaiah 3:1) 8:25 - Dads need to show their daughters what a real man looks like 8:50 - "The most important thing for you to work on as a dad is YOU and then after working on you, disciple your children" Proverbs 22:6 "Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it." 9:30 - Gideon failing as a farther (Judges 8:30-33)... not one of his sons stood up for what was right. 10:50 - "Legacy isn't what you do in life, it's what you put into motion" 12:30 - Story about a failure as a father... His daughter felt like she was an agenda for her dad. He had compartmentalized his life. 14:10 - The importance of just saying yes and being present with your kids... Be careful not to build walls that lower your connection. Top Books for young dads: The Well Played Life & The Boy Crisis & Phil Pringle Podcast  Just a Bartender book by Paul Cole 17:30 - "One of the most important things you can do for your kids is to let them see you live your life and invite them into seeing you make choices, decisions and mistakes" 18:55 - "It has to be normative that you can pray together at anytime throughout the day. It does not have to be at special moments" 20:00 - Powerful story of changing the culture of Uganda through men's discipleship 21:00 - "They weren't famous men, they just started. The most important thing about discipling your kids is to start. Don't try to figure it all out, just start" 24:30 - "David reproduced what was in his heart. As a father, you don't just reproduce what's in your hands, you reproduce what's in your heart. Your children may not always listen to you, but they will always imitate you" 25:05 - Spread the word about dadAWESOME - share www.dadawesome.org with other dads 25:35 - Paul's prayer Episode Links: Christian Mens Network Worldwide Paul's website Paul's books