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dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Matthew Hooper Matthew's personal and professional pursuit of holistic growth are at the center of his life and work with others. He holds degrees in Communication from Biola University (1994) and Christian Ministry and Leadership from Talbot School of Theology (2001). Spiritual Development and Pastoral Counseling were the specialized emphases of his graduate work. Matthew also received a certificate in spiritual direction from the Archdiocesan Spirituality Center in Los Angeles. Currently, he is studying to complete a doctoral program in Higher Education Leadership at Azusa Pacific University. Over the past 17 years, Matthew has cultivated his vocation toward influencing the holistic development of emerging adults, leaders and professionals. In 2016, Matthew launched a professional consulting business (TRACK 3 Leadership Development) integrating insight from leadership, psychological, and theological perspectives for the purpose of holistic growth in individuals and groups. Recently, Matthew has excelled as a primary group facilitator for Growth Skills Foundation. He finds unique inspiration for his work in creation, music, spiritual friendship and the daily pursuit of humility as the highest virtue for human growth and spiritual flourishing. Matthew, his wife, Sheela, and their three children, Annie, Breeana and Jarren, live, work and play in Sutter Creek, CA. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the text list and for all dadAWESOME day updates! Sign up for the F4F 100 mile Ride by 5:51 - Traveling with 6 people to 48 states in 4 months 7:54 - Four principles to order our thoughts and decisions 8:58 - Principle #1: Missional - Bringing Christ's kind of love and and the peace and joy and life of the kingdom, wherever we went 11:07 - Principle #2 - Being Adventurous - meaning to kind of push ourselves to do things we weren't normally doing 11:31 - Principle #3 - Positivity - "if we're going to be missional and adventurous, we need to stay positive because we know that at some point this experience is going to be stretching." 12:11 - Principle #4 - Stretching - "Life is stretching and what we need to do is own that that is true and not live in an illusion that life is not that. So life is stretching. If we stayed here, there would be elements that would be stretching about that. If we go, that's going to be stretching and maybe even be more stretching. But the reality is life is stretching." 13:17 - "the daily pursuit of humility as the highest virtue for human growth and spiritual flourishing." 13:52 - Flourishing as a dad 13:58 - "When you tilt your mind and heart toward flourishing with your intense thinking and your intentions, you are aligning with the power of God's image in us and for Christ followers and the power of the Spirit in us and between us in terms of his his community as people." 16:41 - What is stopping dads from flourishing? Pride (lack of humility) and lack of vulnerability 17:08 - [Humility is] Seeing ourselves accurately in relation to ourselves, God and others." 20:46 - Book recommendations for flourishing, humility, ownership: John Townsend - Hiding from Love & Henry Cloud - Changes that Heal 22:17 - Tips and tricks to traveling as a family in a trailer Episode Links: TRACK 3 Leadership Development FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript

dadAWESOME \We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Mark Batterson Mark Batterson is the lead pastor of National Community Church (NCC) in Washington, DC. One church in seven locations, NCC owns and operates Ebenezers Coffeehouse, the Miracle Theatre, and the DC Dream Center. NCC is currently developing a city block into the Capital Turnaround. This 100,000-square-foot space will include an event venue, child development center, mixed-use marketplace, and coworking space. Mark holds a doctor of ministry degree from Regent University and is the New York Times bestselling author of twenty books, including The Circle Maker, Chase the Lion, In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day, and Whisper. He and his wife, Lora, have three children and live on Capitol Hill. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the text list and for all dadAWESOME day updates! Sign up for the F4F 100 mile Ride by June 27th. 3:35 - The Circle Maker book by Mark Batterson - inspired by his father in law Bob Schmidgall 4:02 - Things Mark learned from his father-in-law - Fun surprise ideas for the family and setting boundaries with ministry. 8:21 - How Parkinson's law influences fatherhood 9:00 - So I am really challenging dads to establish boundaries. But I do want to recognize that life doesn't come in nice, neat boxes where every day or every week looks like every other day or every other week. I don't. It's really hard to challenge work and home or vocation and family. I would argue that you're never 100 percent balanced. You're always counterbalancing. 10:13 - Establishing boundaries in dad life 10:34 - Why set life goals? 10:40 - you won't accomplish one hundred percent of the goals that you don't set. And so faith is being sure of what we hope for, Hebrews 11. And I just think that goal setting can be an expression of faith. 11:54 - One thing I learned is you can't just set the goal, like you got to reverse engineer it and figure out what are the daily habits that are going to get you to those goals. And that's where the magic happens. That's where the hard work habits. And that really is the key to going after those goals. 15:42 - Seven kind of character traits of being the man, playing the man (Episode 146) Virtue #1 Tough Love Virtue #2 Childlike Wonder Virtue #3 Will Power Virtue #4 Raw Passion Virtue #5 True Grit Virtue #6 Clear Vision Virtue #7 Moral Courage 17:04 - prayer does turn parents into prophets and you can shape the destiny of your kids with your prayer life. And they're going to be moments in your life where that's all you've got. 16:22 - "The deepest desire of my heart to be famous in my own home and it's hard to be famous in your own home and you're never home." 18:13 - Draw the circle book - 40 days of prayer 19:21 - Prayer for healing for our friend, Brian. Episode Links: Mark Batterson Win The Day dadAWESOME Day FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript https://dadawesome.org/179notes/

Today is dadAWESOME Day... It's a decision day and a declaration day that this coming year is going to include movement toward becoming more dadAWESOME for my kids. It's the first day of the dad year and we're offering four options for adding specific intentionality to your dad life. This video (https://bit.ly/DAdayVID) outlines the 4 dadAWESOME Day Challenges and we are praying that you step into this year saying YES to becoming dadAWESOME. JOIN the dadAWESOME Day Challenge by texting one of these four keywords to (651) 370-8618 1) I am LOVED - text the word "loved" to (651) 370-8618 2) I am INTENTIONAL - text the word "intentional" to (651) 370-8618 3) I am FREE - text the word "free" to (651) 370-8618 4) I ENJOY my kids - text the word "enjoy" to (651) 370-8618 MORE INFO: https://dadawesome.org/day --- learn about making a DONATION to dadAWESOME: https://dadawesome.org/give --- Download the 2-page Mission/Vision/Invitation Overview for dadAWESOME: https://bit.ly/2021dadAWESOME

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Mark Batterson Mark Batterson is the lead pastor of National Community Church (NCC) in Washington, DC. One church in seven locations, NCC owns and operates Ebenezers Coffeehouse, the Miracle Theatre, and the DC Dream Center. NCC is currently developing a city block into the Capital Turnaround. This 100,000-square-foot space will include an event venue, child development center, mixed-use marketplace, and coworking space. Mark holds a doctor of ministry degree from Regent University and is the New York Times bestselling author of twenty books, including The Circle Maker, Chase the Lion, In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day, and Whisper. He and his wife, Lora, have three children and live on Capitol Hill. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the text list and for all dadAWESOME day updates! 1:52 - Monday, June 21st. Just write down DadAWESOME day - our launch pad to a year of becoming dadAWESOME. 2:42 - Minneapolis Fathers for the Fatherless - signup deadline is June 27th. Sign up at F4F.bike 3:49 - Mark Batterson's new book: Win the Day 5:15 - Going from "This is crazy!" to "This is awesome!" 7:10 - "Your actions are perfectly designed to achieve the results that you're getting." 7:38 - Discussing the idea of the grand gesture: choosing to change upstream, because we know we want to see a desired change downstream 9:51 - "A grand gesture...It's just doing something that signifies, I'm making a move towards solving this problem or accomplishing this goal." 13:03 - JMD, Just manageable difficulty - if something's too easy you actually lose interest. 16:06 - Every move we make, every risk we take sets the stage for someone else. Your brave is someone else's breakthrough. 20:14 - Habit number 2, Kiss the Wave - the obstacle is not the enemy. The obstacle is the wave. 21:18 - "I do think that it is some of the suffering that makes us appreciate the gift that life is and helps us identify with a God who suffered, who went to a cross, a God who loves us enough to go through Gethsemane. And so sometimes I need to be willing to walk through some of that suffering." 22:49 - DadAWESOME day is a declaration day. It's a decision day to make the next three hundred and sixty five days a decision towards becoming dadAWESOME. 23:47 - "If you do little things like they're big things got as a way of doing big things, like they're little things" 24:29 - "time is measured in minutes. Life is measured in moments. It's Wind the Clock habit number 6. 25:34 - "God wants to turn the hearts of the fathers towards their children. And I think when that happens, then revival happens." Episode Links: Mark Batterson Win The Day FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Becky Thompson Becky Thompson is a bestselling author and the creator of the Midnight Mom Devotional community, gathering over one million moms in nightly prayer. Speaking hope into the struggle of balancing life as a wife mother, and daughter of God, Becky has become the voice of modern Christian motherhood. You can learn more about Becky's top Christian podcast, Revived Motherhood, or find more of her work by visiting BeckyThompson.com. Becky lives near Nashville with her husband, Jared, and their three children. Dr. Mark R. Pitts Dr. Mark R. Pitts is a graduate of the University of Tulsa Law School. He is an ordained pastor and a well-known Bible teacher in the Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, area where he lives with his wife, Susan. They have been married for 41 years and have two adult daughters and three grandchildren. In 2019, Mark created the Midnight Dad Devotional online community with his daughter, Becky Thompson, the creator of the Midnight Mom Devotional. Mark enjoys teaching Scripture and praying for dads. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the text list. Monday, June 21st. Just write down DadAWESOME day 02:25 - Midnight Dad Devotional One Hundred Devotions and Prayers to Connect Dads Just Like You to the Father. 3:47 - What if our kids inspire us to be dream chasers? 3:55 - "I love that because to me, being a dream chaser is being a God chaser. You know, I don't think that we can ever separate the two." 5:30 - Learning the Father's love from her dad. 7:14 - We don't just have a heavenly father that parents us. We have a heavenly father who fathers us. 9:21 - "That's and that's also whole all scriptural that we are supposed to improve, if you will, improve our children, if they are supposed to be, we want them to be better than us. We don't just want them to have a better life, be more fortunate, be more prosperous. We want them to be better than us. We want them to take what we have to give them what God has breathed into them, into into us, and therefore we breathe into them and that they are going to take that and go much farther than we could have ever gone." 10:42 - "Our prayer is that men will see themselves as God sees them. We've already talked about that as they are as the warriors they are, fighting in the trenches for their families against all odds, overcoming every trial that comes their way." Quote from Midnight Dad's devotional 13:03 - "You, father, dad, are going where you're going. This is supposed to help you know, that you have a heavenly father who's going to get you there, who's going to help you accomplish that, where no other human can help you as well as your heavenly father can help you." 15:16 - "So here's the thing about Noah is that he invited his sons to build with him, that it was a family build, that Noah got the download and it required the help of his whole family to create what would be for the whole family. And so I think as dads are listening and they're like, well, this is what God has called me to. It's not just for them. It's with them that there isn't anything that God calls a parent to, that he doesn't also call the children to participate in." 16:45 - "It's the difference between that and fathering, which says I'm going to intentionally stay relational with you. I'm going to care not about what you did today, but how it made you feel. And then I'm going to invite you into my story of what God is doing in me. And the only way for a child to see the impact of what God is doing in the father is if he intentionally makes the decision to include his children in what he's going through and how he feels about it. And and I think that's what it means to build with it." 22:14 - "it was the promise of presence, which is I am certain that I will see and experience this goodness of the Lord in the land of the living, not just know about it, not just here about it, not someday." 22:52 - You can never have more. It's the one thing you could never fully possess because there's always more to gain that the act of having more means that you have to always be reaching and going and trying. - Quoting her dad You can never achieve more, you can never actually hold more. I want to tell him that this is going to be a lifetime journey. 26:57 - "I have made spectacular failures as a as a parent. I have never made a failure as a father because my heart is pure, my heart is true. And what I want for my children is what my heavenly father wants for me." Episode Links: Midnight Dads Book - on Amazon Midnight Dads Webpage: https://beckythompson.com/midnight-dad-devotional/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript:

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Terry Esau Terry has over 10 years in the non-profit sector, having exercised his leadership as the founder of FB4K in 2010. In addition, Terry has been instrumental in catalyzing the move from a Minnesota-only platform to the 12 US cities that FB4K currently calls home. Terry has been recognized for his societal contributions both nationally (USA Today Make A Difference award) and internationally (Guinness World Records). In his spare time, Terry is a published author and speaker on various topics, including the 'Wellbeing of under-resourced kids in America.' In addition to his bicycle advocacy, Terry is an avid cyclist, musician and artist. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Show Notes: 1:50 - Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the text list. 2:16 - Monday, June 21st. Just write down DadAWESOME day 2:53 - Free Bikes for Kids 4:44 - How to teach kids to ride a bike with a balance bike 5:58 - I kind of feel like we should live our lives with this adventure and hope and excitement. You know, it's like instead of instead of living cautiously, it's just it's just not a great way to live. '7:18 - Sharing his dad's story of being on his own at age 16 and then serving on MN Legislature for 16 years. "He didn't let the problem of not having that education hold him back. You know, he kind of took things into his own hand and he said, I can educate myself by reading books, you know, so. So he did that. And he was you know, he was a flawed man, and a flawed father, just like I am. But you know what he he modeled? He modeled boldness and courage, and I think that's what has helped me." 12:20 - "I look at the Holy Spirit not as a dove, but as a sharp elbow. And, you know, and our job is to keep tender ribs so that we feel the nudge of that sharp elbow." 19:35 - Terry's book: Surprise Me: A 30-Day Faith Experiment & Be the Surprise: Experiments in Spontaneous 25:11 - Free Bikes for Kids website - (picture of the smiling girl) 26:17 - Setting the Guinness World Record for most bikes collected in a day (5,512 bikes on year, then 10,000 the next year) Episode Links: Free Bikes For Kids Terry's book: Surprise Me: A 30-Day Faith Experiment & Be the Surprise: Experiments in Spontaneous Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript:

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Matt Norman Matt Norman is President & CEO of Norman & Associates. Through Norman & Associates, he helps people think and work together more effectively. Matt's mentorship has helped Fortune 100 corporations, non-profits, and entrepreneurs change the way they engage with their employees and clients. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Show Notes: 2:23 - New Text Message platform! Text the word "DAD" to 651-370-8618 3:09 - Save the date for June 21, 2021 - dadAWESOME day 5:48 - Creating a pathway for unlimited screen time and how that has contributed to more productive activities for the 13 yr old sons 8:42 - How marriage counseling and being a part of a mens group helped pull out of the darkness of the season of infertility. "I'm part of a men's group that, you know, has been a very important part of my life. And it's been sitting around with those men in a non fixing, non rescuing, non minimizing environment." 11:18 - Book: The Four Patterns of Healthy People 13:08 - "I just I can't emphasize enough for myself and other people that I've journeyed with the value of finding authentic people that are willing to tell the truth and have grace and love in that." 13:50 - Three questions: (1) Where are we often stuck? Where do I shrink back? (2) What's not working for me in some of my relationships? (3) Where am I getting triggered? Where are my hot buttons? 17:41 - Pete Scazzero - The Emotionally Healthy Leader podcast 18:20 - "And even in our families where we hurt each other....Sometimes we slight each other or wound each other in in intentional ways because we're hurting ourselves and we want to, you know, make ourselves feel better by hurting someone else. But sometimes ...we're wounded. And so we're going to put on this armor and I think that armor... blocks us off from having...more intimacy with the Holy Spirit, more intimacy with our other important relationships, more effectiveness in whatever work may be, because as we work with others, we need to let others in and allow ourselves to be seen if we're going to have 'vulnerability-based trust' in the workplace." (from Patrick Lencioni's Five Dysfunctions of a Team) 20:22 - Favorite leadership book, A Failure of Nerve by Edwin Friedman - "The most important characteristic of leadership is to be a non anxious presence." 23:36 - Noticing that positivity can be tied to defensiveness 25:17 - What he hopes his kids say at the end of his life? 28:15 - How do we measure our day? Scoreboard and checklist or relationships and community? 31:35 - "We do all these things to rationalize, justify and excuse ourselves. And yet freedom and joy and connection lies on the other side of growth." Episode Links: http://MattNorman.com Four Patterns of Healthy People: How to Grow Past Your Rooted Behaviors, Discover a Deeper Connection with Others, and Reach Your Full Potential in Life and Business Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript: https://dadawesome.org/175notes/

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Tim Burt & Danny Gutierrez Thankful for this father-in-law / son-in-law conversation about intentional fatherhood. More about Danny. More about Tim. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Registration is NOW OPEN for the FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100-mile bike rides. —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Show Notes: 1:24 - Episode 16 - Danny Gutierrez. Episode 23 - Tim Burt. Episode 69 - Renee Burt & Stephanie Gutierrez. 2:25 - "Affirmation is a powerful biblical encouragement for us to participate and to encourage one another and to lift up one another." 3:53 - Tim - "I just always exhorted her, always encouraged her. I always encouraged that she could do those things that were on her heart. And and I think Stephanie would probably say that the affirmation she's received over the years is it's been a real strength in her development." 5:24 - Tim's daughter Stephanie, "My dad not only loved me, but he liked me." 8:02 - "We get to step into being what maybe we didn't receive and that we didn't have modeled for us." 12:28 - Tim talks about the benefit of listening and drawing out connection from his kids and how he wishes he would have done that more. 15:45 - Advocating for a special needs child 19:24 - The multiplication effect when you're learning for others. 20:22 - Tim - "Pay attention to how God uses you and just go with that." 21:19 - Tim - "People are all good at different things, and it's just not something you're good at. It's something that God can take to another level." 24:51 - Tim - "If you will just make a commitment to do something, you're going to find out what you shouldn't be doing and what you're absolutely not good or gifted at. And you're going to discover the things that you are gifted and you're good at. And the discovery is part of the whole thing. But it doesn't happen without taking some kind of a commitment, and as a pastor, I'm going to say God wants you to commit to serve in the local church because it's not for the church, it's for you. It's all about him developing you." 26:50 - Danny - "Be intentional with your interest, because I think right now we live in a world where everything's asking for it and we give it away so easily... And I think if when we put interest in our kids and what they're interested in and what their hopes and dreams are and what some of their, what they like to do and what's going through their little minds or what season of life they're in, when we give intentional interest to that, I think it becomes molding us into the kind of dads they need us to be in those particular seasons. 28:17 - Tim - "And if you will just be very conscientious about asking God for help all day long, every day, you'll constantly be taking off some of the burdens of fear or inadequacy or anything else that you're facing in your life. And all I would say is just try to remember some of the things you asked because he answers a whole lot more things than you're paying attention to. And if you'd pay attention to him, you'd know how much he works in your life, which is the proof of how much he loves you. And he would be so much more real to you." Episode Links: Danny Tim Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript:

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Pete Stanley Pete & his wife Kaycee are the founders of The Reel Hope Project. He believes family is one of the most powerful forces on the planet. Kids need family, and Pete considers it an honor to play even a small role in helping to make that happen. Plus, he's married to Kaycee (Reel Hope's executive director), so ignoring The Reel Hope Project would be like trying to avoid candy if you lived with Willy Wonka. Pete speaks on behalf of The Reel Hope Project each week at events and faith communities, sharing about Minnesota's waiting kids CREATING VIDEOS OF MINNESOTA KIDS WHO ARE WAITING TO BE ADOPTED... In Minnesota, there are 1,000 kids awaiting adoption into a forever family. They work with counties and adoption agencies to mobilize the faith community to bring foster kids into forever families. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Registration is NOW OPEN for the FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100-mile bike rides. —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 9th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Show Notes: 1:02 - May 14th - Early Registration deadline for F4F Minneapolis ($25 discount). Sign up at F4F.bike 1:33 - Reel Hope Project 4:24 - "It seems like the moments that I really get excited about in terms of being a dad come after I've had to give a hard word to my son." 6:00 - "Family is one of the most powerful forces on the planet." 06:15 - "And so I would I would distill that further and say that you learned it around the dinner table and you can't have a dinner table without family, without community. And I think that's how you learn how to have disagreements, how you learn how to have arguments, how to learn how to take turns, to talk about your day and interact with other people. And and so I think that that is like that is sort of the the the the foundation for for all of these things that we're trying to build, like all these beautiful things that we're trying to build in the world, take root in healthy whole families. 7:29 - The importance of having a team of people around you when entering the adoptive world. 9:18 - How to handle the friction that comes into marriage when adding kids, or adoptive kids to the family. 11:23 - Speaking highly of his wife 13:17 - Why men/dads still need to grow up 13:57 - "The father wounds that you're going to inflict on your children are already healed. Like God is, God has worked that out. And so that sort of gives me, that gave me, that gives us permission to dive in, head first to the relationship that we have with our kids." 19:13 - Recommendation: setting up therapy for your kids, benefits of therapy as a dad. 22:54 - What is the Real Hope Project? Making super high quality videos of kids in MN who are waiting to be adopted. A thousand kids have no family and need to be adopted. 25:29 - Praying about adoption while starting an adoption ministry. 28:00 - Misconceptions about adoption. (1) It can be expensive. (it actually can be virtually free.) 28:33 - "The kids don't get put into foster care because they're bad. They're in foster care because someone important in their life didn't do something that they needed to do for them." 31:00 - thereelhopeproject.org 31:52 - Finally Home - Fort Collins, Colorado 33:30 - Book recommendation: The Connected Child by Karen Pervis Episode Links: thereelhopeproject.org Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript: https://dadawesome.org/173notes/ ‎

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Adam Griffin Adam Griffin is the Lead Pastor of Eastside Community Church in Dallas, Texas. Adam is the cohost of the Culture Matters Podcast and the coauthor of the book Family Discipleship. In 2018, Adam completed his Doctor of Educational Ministry Degree at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary where he designed a strategy for churches to address racial reconciliation in Dallas. Adam lives in Lake Highlands with his wife Chelsea and their three sons Oscar, Gus, and Theodore. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Registration is NOW OPEN for the FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100-mile bike rides. —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 9th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Show Notes: 2:21 - Join the momAWESOME Challenge - Send a text with the word "MOM" to 651-370-8618 3:03 - May 14th - Early Registration deadline for F4F Minneapolis. Sign up at F4F.bike Article: "Raising Kids the World Will Hate." Adam Griffin: "I'm seeing some of the fruit of the labor we've put into our kids to the point now where for us family discipleship, which is really what we're talking about, has become so normal that if I remove myself from a situation, my kids can lead themselves through it." 6:58 - Family discipleship at bedtime 7:29 - "I feel especially passionate and saying I don't want my oldest son to be the only one who's got leadership experience in this family." 7:53 -I'm trying to, like you said, build in not only them to be receivers, but then to be leaders and already I'm thinking about them as fathers. I'm thinking about them as husbands. I'm not just thinking about them as my kids with some obligation I have to mention Jesus as we put them to bed. But I'm trying to grow men." 9:22 - Choosing scriptures for his kids. "Be on the alert, stand firm in the faith, act like a man and be strong and let everything you do be done in love.".... "Be strong, show yourself a man, keep the charge of the Lord, your God, walk in his ways and statutes." ...."He's told you, O man, what's good and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, love, kindness and walk humbly with your God." 11:50 - "I believe is that there's a countercultural nature to the way Christians are called to parent, to lead, to live, and that's that we are not of the world, even though we're in the world, it's that we will be hated because Jesus is hated." 12:20 - I want them to stand by what they believe, regardless of what the world would say about it or how small the minority of people is who believe that." 13:05 - "Do Griffins follow the crowd? And my sons will say that to me only if the crowd is following Jesus." 14:12 - Book: Family Discipleship and the idea of being "dads who take the lead." 16:22 - "If when you think about leading your wife or you think about leading your kids, you're thinking about how can I lay down the gifts God has given me of strength or wisdom or insight or of time in order to meet the needs of those people that the Lord has me living with right now? And so leadership, to me, it has to be servant-hearted and it has to be service-oriented because that's the way we see Jesus lead and that's what he's called us to do." 17:22 - Family discipleship - Critically important, but mostly ordinary. 18:38 - "So what they need from you, dads, is a demonstration of what it looks like to be an imperfect person who follows a perfect God. They don't need you to be their savior. They have that in Jesus Christ. But what they what you can serve is an example of like, well, here's how dad makes mistakes and repents. Here's how dad tries and fails. Here's how dad tries and succeeds." 20:45 - Modeling, Time, Moments, Milestones - the framework for discipleship 22:32 - "And it's in those significant times where it's going to be memorable that we have the opportunity to point to God's faithfulness, no matter what the circumstances, and to create something bigger." 23:55 - I really believe in the concept of family discipleship that we help you walk through. What is modeling look like in your house? When are you going to do family discipleship time? What language can you use in your household around moments? And then what's your plan for milestones? What do you want to build towards or when you want to be doing? 27:51 - Quote from Charles Spurgeon, "we sow, we reap... Let us expect our children to know the Lord. Let us from the beginning, mingle the name of Jesus with their ABCs." - making family discipleship as important as education. 30:43 - Quote from Charles Spurgeon - "Aspire, dear brethren, to shine widely as a candle set upon a candle stick gives light to all that are in the house. First see to it that you are truly saved yourselves. Then cry out, cry to the Lord for your own kith and kin and labor for them until they are brought to the redeemers feet and then let your light shine throughout the neighborhoods where you dwell. It is. It is a poor lamp which cannot be seen outside its own glass." 34:59 - Deut 6 - Be diligent in impressing these things to our children. Deut 4 - Be diligent in the care of our souls. Episode Links: Adam Griffin - https://www.eastsidedallas.org/adam Book - Family Discipleship: Leading Your Home through Time, Moments, and Milestones Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript: