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I'm trying to reawaken something inside you. I'm trying to reawaken something that was lost. And this is who you are and and this is trying to stop it. Keep going. Keep hunting. Do it...   dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Seth Dahl   Seth Dahl is a writer and worldwide speaker to adults and children. He is known for his powerful wisdom communicated through a contagious joy and childlikeness. Seth and Lauren love to empower families to build a strong connection that fosters peace and creates a thriving family culture. Seth, Lauren and their three children homestead with a large garden and handful of animals on a small farm in Texas. With over 15 years experience working with children and being a children’s pastor, Seth has cultivated a passion to help parents create a thriving family culture at home. Sometimes parenting is overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be! Seth and Lauren love being able to equip people with the practical and spiritual tools they need to create the thriving family culture they’ve always dreamed of.   Show Notes:   Previous Seth Dahl Interviews on dadAWESOME 137 | Spirit-Filled Parenting, Hearing God’s Voice, & Shaping our Kids as Arrows (Seth Dahl) 151 | Raising Spirit-Led Kids Part 2 (Seth Dahl) 5:09 - South Austin State Park for hiking and seeing the Waterfall: McKinney Falls State Park 6:34 - "what am I taking my focus off of?" 7:06 - "I want to get my focus off of all the extra stuff right now" 7:48 - "What's what's the most priceless valuable thing that we have? The presence of God, right? And God is not distracted. God is not unfocused. I think he's far more present to us than we are to him, and we only discover his presence when we become present with him as well" 9:00 - "My focus is on becoming focused on being more present and unfocused on all the extra stuff" 11:43 - "I think we need to push back on this a little bit and we need to go, Hey, let's get outside. Let's let's climb the tree, build a little treehouse platform..." 12:49 "Every time I go hunting, there are so many opportunities for me to receive shame. So, you know, hunting is very connected to being a man, being a provider...." 15:27 - "So on the plane, I'm just like. Here I come, Lord, and I go to him and he's like, look, don't don't throw this out. I'm trying to reawaken something inside you. I'm trying to reawaken something that was lost. And this is who you are and and this is trying to stop it. Keep going. Keep hunting. Do it..." 19:42 - "Kids need to explore dangerous stuff safely." 20:56 - "Why My Kids Will Lead Yours" -- It's a school in Switzerland that allows children to use real knives, real blades. " 21:00 - Seth explains the process of teaching his kids to safely use a knife   Episode Links:   https://sethdahl.com/ Seth on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sethdahl/ Raising Spirit-Led Kids: Guiding Kids to Walk Naturally in the Supernatural  Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Derick Zwerneman   With a life of unique experiences, Derick has served as a husband to 1, father to 3, a firefighter for 25 years, outreach pastor for 9 years, and a network development leader for a disaster relief network for 3 years! He has never met a stranger, and the Joy of the Lord is his strength! His passion is connecting people, and his experiences in emergency services and leading teams. Combining the two is what he does to make connections to further the kingdom of God! Life Quote: "It's Gonna Be Great!"   Show Notes:   2:27 - "We are NOT a family that are going to be influenced by our surroundings, we're going to influence our surroundings. And you probably heard over and over again, we're not going to be the thermometer as the thermostat. Not in a way of arrogance, but in a way of we're confident" 3:06 - "If you don't come in with the confidence of knowing that that that you have control over the situation because you have Christ in you." 4:25 - "Looking back, there was a turning point in that which was incredible. And it's, you know, due to an incredible wife, I've got to give her all the credit. You know, as far as like literally throwing a Bible hit me in the back of the head with Psalm 127" 6:19 - "it's those little drops of what you do that your kids are picking up as you walk through life." 9:16 - James 1:2-4 - "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." 12:25 - "there's things that life are going to. Throw at us as fathers, and we can either take those on our shoulders, let them waist down and just get buried in them, conveying that spirit that hard into our children, right? Or we can take a couple of minutes for a walk in the door. Throw that stuff down, give it to God, say, man, I'm going to. I'm going to pray that this does build endurance and strength in me. But right now I've got a family to lead" 16:22 -  The vision of the straight line.and an intersecting squiggly lines that kept coming across that middle line. 25:53 - "You may have a knee jerk reaction to like go to the worldly way of dealing with it. But it was in that moment there was like, OK, God, this is the talk that's got to happen, and dad's the one that gets to do it."   Episode Links:   Austin Disaster Relief Network: https://adrn.org/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/   Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Don Manning   30+ years of parenting experience, 7 kids of all ages... Don is the CFO of a real estate company and serves on the elder board of Valley Creek Church, a church he and Suzanne helped start over 25 years ago. Suzanne has invested her time as a teacher, wife, mom, homemaker, mentor, girl’s minister, speaker, writer, and most importantly an encourager to everyone she meets. We have a passion to help families rethink the way they do family-one relationship at a time. Fun Facts On Our Journey Over 40 pets Over 140 teeth lost Over 3,200 sporting events… and counting Over 50 overseas mission trips… and counting Over 44,000 diapers purchased… no more counting!   Dallas dadAWESOME Meet-Up   Join us at 7:30pm on Thursday, January 27th for the Dallas Area Meet-Up RSVP here   Show Notes:   4:55 - "God's ways are crazy. God's ways are different and we really do. What we found in our parenting journey is is that we really did have to do things in a crazy way, really relationally. 5:44 - "...When family works, it's the best thing you'll ever do in your life, but it beats any sort of ever done. It beats anything because you know when you when your kids love Jesus and they love you and they love each other. It really is crazy. Cool. 10:23 - "If you're become a student of your wife instead of her critic, you'll be amazed what you learn about family." 10:36 - "I started seeing relationships being so connection being more important than my instruction." LINK TO FAMILY DASHBOARD - https://crazycoolfamily.com/relationships/ 13:49 - "Other than leading your kids to Jesus, getting your kids to be best friends, hardest thing you'll do as a dad and mom and dad, but it's worth it. And it just it started dripping in just that influence" 16:31 - What I've learned from coming out of my parenting into my own faith is just how to do relationships at a different level. 18:33 - "what we found was, if we build that in our home, we build this culture where relationships can flourish, like a greenhouse, like the plants would. And we found four elements that were super critical to that." 18:50 - "we encourage extravagantly and we correct carefully because most parents flip it and they're more critical and less encouraging. And even they qualify their encouragement..." 21:53 - "when you build that culture, family just works, you know, and we tend to be so concerned about the outside. And I tell parents all the time, it's like if you build it on the inside, well, they're going to face anything on the outside. But because they're ready. I mean, God's with them. And you know, it works." 29:13 -"our example is more important than your instruction" 29:35 - "OK, kids, what do we need to do? What do we need to talk about? They said, You know, what do we do that was helped you? They said all you did was you walk with Jesus and you talked about it. Episode Links: Crazy Cool Family: Rethink the Way You Do Family https://crazycoolfamily.com/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/ Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Matt Anderson   Matt and his wife, Robin, have been leading in local church ministry for almost 25 years. They’ve served churches in Indiana, Ohio, Oklahoma, and Arizona. Matt and Robin met in college, at Anderson University (Indiana). They love desert living with their three boys: Connor (2001), Calvin (2004), and Charlie (2010). Together, Matt and Robin love traveling to new places, exploring great restaurants, and long walks. Matt loves being outside - hiking, running, and golf. He’s a fan of college sports (War Eagle!) and all things SEC even though they live in the southwest. Matt and Robin love being a part of the local church and God’s mission to redeem and restore all people through the love of Jesus.   Dallas dadAWESOME Meet-Up   Join us at 7:30pm on Thursday, January 27th for the Dallas Area Meet-Up RSVP here   Show Notes:   2:35 - Andy Stanley Quote: "Relationships are built on small, consistent deposits of time. You can't cram for what's most important. If you want to connect with your kids, you've got to be available consistently, not randomly" 3:18 - When it comes to parenting, you can't get near the end and just cram a bunch in and hope that it sticks. It's more about the long game...  these little investments of time over time, which will pay off in the long haul." 4:02 - ... "his goal of parenting and what they kept in their minds was they wanted their kids to come home after they left home. They wanted their kids to have a relationship with them that they could invest over the long haul. 5:36 - "We would go away some summers for three weeks and no distractions out of town. So we're not here where work is calling and the different things are calling. And it was this summer rhythm that our kids grew to love and we grew to love because, I mean, uninterrupted, two to three weeks with your family in a place away from home, away from the normal, I would say that's one of the things I've been most thankful for..." 7:45 - Story of Matt's dad and his grandfather 9:34 - "I grew up without a grandfather on that side, and my dad never knew really the approval of his father that all of us need. I think we all need to know that our our fathers look at us and say, I approve of you. You know, I'm I'm proud of you. I love you. And so my dad intentionally because he didn't get that, did that with us. He he continually. We never we never doubted that our parents loved us." 11:35 - "I think we all grew up in an environment. We all grew up with a certain perspective. And if we're not intentional, we just repeat so many rhythms of our past, including the painful pieces that can can really hurt kids over time" 12:02 - Story of when Matt's parents divorced 13:33 - "For Robin and I, I think we've really said we're going to choose our family. You know, we we choose each other even in the difficult moments. Like I said, her and I are opposites, so we we see things very differently. Our perspective on parenting many times is very, very different. But we remind ourselves we're on the same team. At the end of the day, we've we've chosen each other and we're going to continue to choose each other and we're going to choose our family over just about everything else because we believe this is how God will be honored in our lives, in our kids lives. And so we just choose it. We make a decision to choose our family" 15:32 - "The the way that I was parenting my oldest was destroying our relationship mine and his relationship. And I remember sitting down as a hard conversation. I remember Robin saying to me, You're you're you're going to to ruin your relationship long term with Connor if you don't change some things." 16:06 - "Robin and I made a conscious decision to, in a sense, switch roles that was early high school with him, late middle school, early high school. I step back for more the authoritarian type role, and she stepped into that role and I stepped more into a relational role with him through that season." 17:11 - "I was the one always on him about homework, about tests that were coming up, even about sports, you know, practicing and all of those things. And I intentionally stepped back, disengaged from much of the homework discussion, much of the test discussion, not all of it. Like, I didn't become a hands off dad, but I step back, let her step into that role and I step more into the encouraging, just supportive. Anything I can help you with kind of a role. 18:35 - "my number one thing that I would coach on is what you are modeling is what they're going to repeat..." 21:29 -  "kids need to see their dad's emotions. The gentle emotions that the the emotions of pain they need to see their dads cry at times and not in a in a fake way, but they need to see that we're emotional people." 23:59 - Normalizing conversation Message from Matt and Robin on Parenting 27:10 - You know, when's the right time? And we felt like in that fourth to fifth grade age range and in the sixth grade, they were going to start hearing plenty on intimacy and sex and all of that. And so we wanted to try to get on the front end of the conversation. 28:34 - "that's really our responsibility as we get to introduce our kids to God and the way that we parent. We're saying a lot. We're teaching our kids a lot about who their Heavenly Father is..." 29:01 - "Just be intentional. Don't just go with the flow. And Paul says this in Romans don't just go go with the flow of culture, because if you go with the flow of culture, you're going to end up in a broken place. So be intentional. Let God, you know, change you by transforming, by changing the way that you think. So be intentional. Open your mind to God's spirit. Be intentional in your parenting" 29:46 - "Just don't quit like it. The stakes are too high. Don't give up yet. Like, keep parenting, stay engaged. Parenting changes. You've got to change the way you parent when they get in middle school and high school. But don't don't quit parenting. Don't try to be a friend too early. The friendship will come later, which I'm finding is true as the kids get into. As my oldest is in college, we have this different kind of relationship that's more of a friendship, and I still get to mentor and parent in some ways, but it's so beautiful to see. Don't start too early. Like, stay in the game." 30:28 - Matt's Prayer   Episode Links:   https://mcdowell.church/ MESSAGE WITH THE PRACTICAL PARENTING TIPS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/ Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook    Show Notes:   0:59 - "As turn the calendar and look to the year 2022, I want to take an episode and set up some worship and a perspective of how big God is and how little our current stresses are..." 2:37 - My Daughters Share a Video Recording to encourage mommy to trust God to Provide 3:10 - Matthew 6:25-27 - “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[a]? 3:50 - "My daughters helped remind us of this promise. That worry does not help things. Worry is not setting us up for God's best. Worry is trusting in ourselves, and I want to start the year 2020 trusting God" 4:22 - This song is by Sean Curran, and it's called bigger than I thought  4:38 - Guys, our heavenly father is for us. Our Heavenly Father wants to remind us this is not about us figuring out what we can accomplish under our own strength. And there's the bridge to this song talks about I will rest in the father's hands, leave the rest in the father's hands like we don't have to carry it all that we are called to store or touch. We're dads of action DadAWESOME. We're not sitting back and just saying it'll all be OK, whatever. But God does not want us to start 2020 to God does not want us to to lead this fatherhood journey from a place of we're stressed out, we're worried and we're relying on ourselves.   Bigger Than I Thought Speak to me When the silence steals my voice You understand me You understand me Come to me In the valley of unknowns You understand me You understand me You understand me, God You understand me So I throw all my cares before You My doubts and fears don’t scare You You’re bigger than I thought You were You’re bigger than I thought So I stop all negotiations With the God of all creation You’re bigger than I thought You were You’re bigger than I thought You were I believe But help my unbelief You understand me You understand me Help me reach The faith that’s underneath You understand me You understand me I will rest In the Father’s hands Leave the rest In the Father’s hands WRITTEN BY SEAN CURRAN, NATALIE SIMS & ALLEN SWOOPE © 2019 Worship Together Music / sixsteps Songs / Sounds Of Jericho (Admin. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) / Lead And Yellow Publishing (BMI) (admin. by Round Hill Music) / This Is Swoope’s (ASCAP)   10:27 Here's what I think happens when we have a small perspective of God and we have this big perspective of ourselves and the weight that we need to carry. I think we make a mess of things. We make a mess of our lives, of our families... when we put all the weight on our own shoulders. We trust in ourselves 11:00 - Story of my daughter Zara and the mess she makes when she eats 13:56 - "This is my life. God is trying to give me good gifts at a good rate, at a good pace that I can handle for my age and my responsibility level, right? God is trying. He's setting us up with blessings. " 14:23 "I'm not managing stresses. I'm a manager of good gifts, good blessings. That's what I'm managing. It's so easy to complain about what's going on in life. When I am managing God's good gifts that he is, he is trickled into my life and I'm complaining about it. Like, it's so common that we we enter a worry and we make our lives a mess because we don't trust our heavenly father. We don't trust him." 15:06 - 1 Peter 5:1-11 (Advice for Elders and Young Men) 1And now, a word to you who are elders in the churches. I, too, am an elder and a witness to the sufferings of Christ. And I, too, will share in his glory when he is revealed to the whole world. As a fellow elder, I appeal to you: 2Care for the flock that God has entrusted to you. Watch over it willingly, not grudgingly— not for what you will get out of it, but because you are eager to serve God. 3Don’t lord it over the people assigned to your care, but lead them by your own good example. 4And when the Great Shepherd appears, you will receive a crown of never-ending glory and honor. 5In the same way, you who are younger must accept the authority of the elders. And all of you, dress yourselves in humility as you relate to one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”a 6So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. 7Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. 8Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. 9Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith. Remember that your family of believers all over the world is going through the same kind of suffering you are. 10In his kindness God called you to share in his eternal glory by means of Christ Jesus. So after you have suffered a little while, he will restore, support, and strengthen you, and he will place you on a firm foundation. 11All power to him forever! Amen.   17:39 - "I pray that we would start the year 2022 to with a posture of worship versus a posture of worry, a posture of trusting God versus a posture of struggle and trying to do it on her own. A posture of God's bigness. He is so much bigger and we need to keep that perspective of he knows best. His ways are bigger and wider and deeper and strong. Guys, we have a limited perspective. Let's choose to worship versus worry." Episode Links:   Worship Song = Bigger Than I Thought (SEAN CURRAN) Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/   Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Matt Fogle   Matt grew up as a wild middle child in rural IL and now lives in AZ with his wife Jen and 4 kids. For over ten years Matt has been a pastor in TX & IL & AZ. He’s a spiritual director, pastor, and retreat guide that works with multiple non-profits in the areas of leadership development and spiritual formation.   Show Notes:   LIVE WITH RHYTHM. LEAVE A LEGACY. FINISH WELL. https://harborministries.com/ Episode 81 | Adjust the Pace, Live with SELF-CONTROL & Hear God’s Voice (Tim Bohlke) 3:57 - Matthew, 11, Jesus's invitation in Matthew, 11:28-30 “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” 6:00 - "I've been in a radical pursuit of trying to figure out how do I learn not only how do I learn these unforced rhythms, but how do I demonstrate in a way to others that makes them feel like, oh, I could enter into that rhythm of life too" 6:49 - "learn to live or to live freely and lightly or, as most translations say. Take my yoke upon you, you know, because I am gentle and humble in heart. So that's where Eugene Peterson, when he translates the message that we're gentle, unforced, right, unforced rhythms" book mentioned: Gentle and Lowly: The Heart of Christ for Sinners and Sufferers by Dane C. Ortlund 9:00 - "What's God's heart gentle and lowly, humble... And to be a parent like that to enter into a relationship, whatever stage? Or I mean, even if you have a grown kids to constantly be in a posture of gentleness towards them. It doesn't have to go my way." 9:36 - "Maybe God is the primary agent of my kids spiritual formation, not me. And so it's my job to ask good questions and listen and be patient along the journey" 10:22 - speedboat versus sailboat 11:48 - "I love that illustration when it comes to life in rhythm with Jesus is, are we developing a motor boat mentality? By the way, we're living, are we in control or we telling God what direction we want to go and how fast we want to go? You know, specifically with our marriages and with our kids, are we the ones telling God, I want you to do this in my kids life and I want you? I want him to look like this or her to look like that? Or are we hoisting up our sails every day and saying, God, however you want to blow into my sails, however you want to blow into their sails helped me to be a good, like, non anxious cooperative friend" 13:48 - "in small ways and big ways, we can hoist up our sales daily and trust that the wind of God, the spirit of God, is going to blow into our sales and move us in the direction at the pace that he is setting, which is so un-American." 17:16 - Parker Palmer Clearness Committee - short video: https://vimeo.com/139027540 17:24 - "We gathered some friends. So remember there was a handful of friends that didn't have any emotional attachment to our decision. So that's key. Yeah, is find people that just are working for your good and for discernment" 22:01 - "I'm a huge believer in that. Jesus meets everybody in the gospels where they're at and invites them to take the next step from where they're at..." 25:39 - Lazy Dad Games 26:06 - "We learned early on that when we prepare for the morning, the next day, we're teaching our kids how to set intentional things out for the next day. So the next morning is an anxious and hurried right." 26:42 - Imaginative Prayer: A Yearlong Guide for Your Child's Spiritual Formation ( Jared Patrick Boyd ) 27:50 - Winnie the Poo -- "Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart" S2 Episode 5 | Gospel Clarity on Parenting -- Life in Rhythm Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/lu/podcast/s2-episode-5-gospel-clarity-on-parenting/id1545668466?i=1000535126316 29:02 - "we put these heavy. Things on ourselves that God is not laying on us at all. And we put pressure where there doesn't need to be pressure, we put obligations on it. And honestly, it turns into a pride thing. Not a humble thing" 30:22 - "Proverbs 4:23 that out of the overflow of the heart like, comes everything. So guard your heart above all else for from it flows springs of living order." 30:55 - "if you want your kids to overflow with life, you've got to be connected to living water and you are parched. And it really is nobody else's responsibility. But yours to say no to a lot of good things..." 31:30 - "it's going to take intentionality and it's going to take you guarding your heart above all else. For from it flows living water. And this is meant to be an overflow journey, not one of scarcity, but one where you are being filled up daily to be poured out like a reservoir to fill your kids up and your wife and you can do it. And it's an invitation piece. It's not... God's not going to ever make you do this. You've got to take him up on his invitation."   Episode Links:   https://www.disciplepathway.com/ Book - Field Guide for SPACE  Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/   Conversation Transcript   Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Show Notes:   1:35 - "Part of the dad life is you have expectations and you think it's going to be like this and it's like that. And that is the story of Christmas, and that is the story of Joseph. So Jesus earthly father Joseph, he experienced disappointment beyond what we could ever imagine. I wanted to just I wanted to riff on the story of Joseph for just a few minutes" 2:44 - "I want to grow in these areas and be more like Joseph, the father of Jesus. So here's these three fatherhood insights from the life of Joseph" 2:55 - Matthew 1:19 "Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. 19Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly." 4:35 - So he did not react in the moment. He paused. That's the first fatherhood principle. He paused. Joseph paused. 4:53 - "I have a I have a problem with pausing. Often I react my. My first reaction, guys, is to react in a reactive fatherhood, reactive. In my marriage, being a husband who is reactive in the moment responds with emotion and frustration causes so many problems. And if Joseph could in this kind of setting, if Joseph could pause..." 5:37 - Story - hiking Sabino Canyon in Tucson, AZ 9:20 - Matthew 1:20 "But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream" 9:42 - He went beyond the pause to a consideration he considered he. He pondered he he thought about what's the right course of action forward" 10:57 - Matthew 1:24 "When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife" -- Guys, I think the consideration in the pause are the set up for God revealing direction for us in our fatherhood. That's what happened with Joseph. His pause in his consideration led to the Lord appearing to him in a dream. An angel appeared to him in a dream and gave him clarity, gave him insight that took the devastation and put it back to a place of hope and of I'm a part of a bigger miracle. 12:05 - "What starts is devastation. The woman I'm engaged to, this is Joseph thinking. The woman I'm engaged to, has betrayed my confidence, has broken this pledge has has become pregnant from another man. Instead of that, she. Instead, the pause in the consideration led to Joseph realizing he's right at the center of a miracle." 13:56 - We need these three things these fatherhood principles the pause, the consideration, and we need guidance. We need to follow that guidance, not follow our own insights and strategies, especially when devastation. Don't trust your own. I don't want to trust my own insights and guidance when when it when it when loss or a change of plans caused me to be emotionally reactive. I want to pause. I want to consider and I want to follow God's will lead God's guidance." 14:35 - Joseph had three other miraculous dreams. 15:01 - Joseph actually has a pattern of multiple times hearing angelic, miraculous guidance in his dreams, and I believe it's from a posture of his heart was at a place where he had calmness in the place of devastation. And it's from pausing and considering and following the voice of our heavenly father. 15:24 - God trusted Joseph with his son, Jesus, and got his trust in each of us with these precious kids in my prayer for you" 16:13 - Jeff's Closing Prayer   Episode Links:   Another Podcast Episode about JOSEPH (Becoming A King - Morgan Snyder) Christmas book - The Indescribable Gift. Blending tradition, biblical story, historical fact, and sanctified imagination, Richard Exley uses words like chisels and scalpels to unveil the heart of the Incarnation. You don’t want to miss a chance to add this collection of beautifully imagined eyewitness accounts to your holiday library. Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Zack Curry   Zack Curry is the Lead Pastor at Jesus Culture San Diego. Zack experienced a significant move of God in high school that marked his life forever. His passion is to see love released on campuses and see schools transformed by God. For the past 15 years Zack’s ministered to high school and college students, raising them up as leaders heading into all areas of society to see cultural transformation. He is passionate about community and family. He believes healthy people and thriving relationships are the true measure of success. He leads from a desire to see lives and cities transformed by an encounter with Jesus. Zack and his wife Melissa delight in their three wonderful daughters.   60-Day Fitness Challenge   Join the dadAWESOME MURPH on Saturday, February 12th, 2022 WHY? Winter is an easy time to step back and take it easy. We are challenging dads to get stronger this winter. WHAT? We are launching a 60-day MURPH training plan leading up to Saturday, February 12th, 2022 WHEN? It starts this week and the actual event can be on or around Saturday, February 12th. WHERE? Anywhere. Your basement, gym, playground, RV or wherever you can find open space and a pull-up bar. HOW? We will support you through a SLACK group with a professional athletic trainer creating workout plans and answering your questions. (we will send you an invitation to SLACK after you register) DIFFICULTY LEVEL? You can do a 1/2 MURPH or FULL or add the weight of your kids to make it harder. Here's the standard challenge started specifically to honor Navy Lieutenant Michael Murphy, who was killed in action in Afghanistan on June 28th, 2005: 1 mile run 300 air squats 200 pushups 100 pull-ups 1 mile run KIDS JOINING ME? We are adding a gamification system to encourage you to include your kids in the actual February 12th, 2022 workout challenge. Place them on your back or on your shoulders... Strap on your baby to add some weight for the pull-ups. Invite your kids to run or bike along with you on your two 1-mile runs. JOIN the 60-Day Challenge   Show Notes:   Episode 83 - https://dadawesome.org/episode83/ 6:21 - "For me, as a father, it's prioritizing that role, this sacred role, privilege of being a father" 7:21 - "This is a sacred call, an honor. And to you have to prioritize it" 8:41 - "one of my indicators and the lights that come on for me is when I get frustrated or angry" 10:56 - "as a dad, I care for my kids deeply and I'm in scenarios where I actually don't know what to do. So I feel out of control. And so then my default is frustration" 18:58 - "We love the concept of adventure. But I think for a lot of us in our own lives, the unknown can paralyze us and keep us where we know we're safe, we have control..." 20:36 - "we could just sit here all day and tell stories of why do we believe God's real? Because we've seen it in our life over and over when we couldn't do it in the big and the small way?" 22:07 - "we want to do it for them or fix it or solve it when you know we can actually help guide them through and say, Hey, OK, is that is that true? Is like, what is God say about that? And then like, Hey, we're like teaching them to bring it to God, invite God and teach them to say, OK, yeah, it is impossible from you can't do it. But what would happen if God helped you like? Then it becomes these, you know, like in the Old Testament, where you have these memorial stones that you build and say, Oh, OK, and you're and you're along their journey teaching them to say, Hey, remember when God did this for you? Not for me? They're watching us. But you're like, Maybe when you did that for you, that's a memorial stone in your journey. Look back..." 23:40 - "one of the values for me with my daughters is to be connected to their heart. So like, so they feel I just want them to always be able to talk to me" 25:22 - "teaching them to dream a little bit bigger, not just settle with, OK, yeah, what? What's the truth? What does God say" 27:06 - "we did this challenge. There were four parts to it. We said, Hey, we want to build a rhythm of adventure, which is like taking care of our soul for us individually and for us, for our kids. We're like, Hey. So it's kind of broken up into a weekly, monthly, quarterly and then yearly." 27:30 - once a week, go on an adventure 27:48 - monthly, go do an overnight or full day type of activity 28:05 - quarterly is like planned, like an adventure that is substantial 28:13 - a once a year epic kind of trip 33:56 - "this is probably my philosophy on parenthood. And, you know, as a dad is just invited to be a part of it. So we just we were outside of a need, you know, for anything healing provision, any of those areas we teach our girls that God is good, that he's powerful, that he you know, he. He's alive and moving like these are truths that are true in every season. Good, bad, hard..." 37:21 - do the work to grow, to go deeper... Don't run away from the hard things or not to label it as failure or yourself is failure. But listen, we have this is the kingdom of God." 38:13 - "Don't run away from it. Dive into that because in it, your pain, your weakness actually...Paul said that his power is made perfect and our weakness"   Episode Links:   Jesus Culture San Diego https://jesusculture.com/podcasts/show/man-camp/ https://dadawesome.org/strong/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/   Conversation Transcript   Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Simon Osamoh   Simon Osamoh is a British American, raised in Reading, England. When he emigrated to the States in 2011, he took charge as Head of Counter Terrorism at Mall of America in Minnesota... Born to a Nigerian father and British mother, his parents separated before he was born. Growing up mixed race in white neighborhoods, and without a father he battled validation and his own identity for many years.  Simon now coaches young men to never give up, and that adversity can become your greatest gift. He is a nationally known speaker, entrepreneur, author, mindset and podcast coach, and the Host of the Who I Became Podcast where he interviews impactful individuals who share their life stories.   Show Notes:   https://dadawesome.org/tour/ 4:36 - "I've never met the man that brought into my world. I'm a color of skin for someone I've never met and it just has a lot of questions and challenges. But I've had in my life, but I have never considered myself to be a victim. I sort of move past adversities and sure to come out through part of my my story today." 7:33 - "what I knew I wanted to do when I became a husband and a father is I wanted to try and give my sons what I was missing. But that hasn't come without challenges..." 16:38 - "my son knows because he can always hear me. What he remembers about his games is that my dad was the loudest. My dad was shouting, and it's intentional. The reason why I do that, I scream over every other father there because I want Mason to remember when he's 21, 25, 40, 70, whatever it is, and I'm no longer there. His memory would be, You know what? My dad was the loudest... My dad was the loudest person at my game, and that's the memory, because that's what I never had." 17:55 - "I might not always communicated it because I'm human and I make mistakes. But please never underestimate the significance that you have to me " 20:14 - "I believe in you. And I always knew that if you could walk in the light, but you could achieve greatness" 20:25 - "I started to say to myself, If not me, then who" 21:21 - "I asked myself, if not me, then who? If I'm not going to be that role model for a stranger, then who is, you know, I'm feeling called to make sure people know the best someone they're rooting for them might not always be to give you the answer, but you want to hear. But if not me, then who? And I believe we can all start a lot more in our own lives." 23:41 - "I was seeking validation from a father that never came." 26:36 - "Let's focus on what I can control. I can't control the past, but I can control the future. And there's going to be a time when my sons, as they do now at eight and 11, they're going to ask me questions about my dad and I need to give them some, some answers." 29:57 - "what I try and say to my sons and I would encourage your listeners is to just keep driving forward. Sometimes we set really large goals, but I don't. I just move, you know, one percent. How can I get one percent better each time? And that's what I say to my sons son's."   Episode Links:   https://www.simonosamoh.com/ FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/ Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Tony DiLorenzo Tony DiLorenzo is the Amazon bestselling author of 7 Days of Sex Challenge, Connect Like You Did When You First Met, and other books. Tony believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. Listen to his weekly podcast, ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show, at OneExtraordinaryMarriage.com, where nothing is off limits when it comes to the many aspects of marriage. Tony has been married to his beautiful wife, Alisa, for 25 years and together they have a son and a daughter. He lives in San Diego, CA   Show Notes:   https://dadawesome.org/tour/ Episode 201 - PART 1 Book - The 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to an Extraordinary Marriage Emotional Intimacy This Pillar involves a closeness created through sharing each other's feelings, thoughts, and desires. This is both verbal and non-verbal communication. It’s more than just, “Can we talk?” Physical Intimacy Think of this Pillar as every type of loving touch. This can be holding hands, a hug, a kiss, or even cuddling. You were designed to be touched. It's answering the question, "How do you like to be touched?" Financial Intimacy This Pillar is the sharing of your financial situation. It's developing a plan for your finances, from how much you spend on date night, to joint accounts, to planning for retirement. This is more than, "We need to talk about the budget..." Spiritual Intimacy Think of this Pillar as religious beliefs and observed religious practices. This can be as simple as praying together, going to church together, or discussing spiritual issues as a couple. This answers the question, "How are we spiritual together?" Recreational Intimacy What you do together at home, or on dates, or just for fun, is what this Pillar is about. It's the plans the two of you make to spend time together, doing things you enjoy. When this is working, you don’t sit in the driveway playing the "What do you want to do?" game. Sexual Intimacy This is the Pillar that encompasses everything about your sexual connection with your spouse. This can be romance, initiating, foreplay, and sexual intercourse. There’s no two ways about it: Sex is h-e-a-l-t-h-y. But this intimacy goes way beyond, "Hey, wanna have sex?" https://www.ramseysolutions.com/ You Need A Budget: https://www.youneedabudget.com/ 4:10pm - Proverbs 27:23-27 -- Know well the condition of your flocks, and give attention to your herds, for riches do not last forever; and does a crown endure to all generations?    Episode Links: The 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to an Extraordinary Marriage https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/ Tony's Podcast FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/   Conversation Transcript   Coming Soon!