DadAwesome

"We have to break the spirit, disciple these kids and send them on risky, crazy adventures so that they can get their own stories so they can keep telling the miraculous amazingness of how good and amazing our Father is."   dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Gary Black   Gary and Lisa Black have been married for nearly two decades. Raising their blended family from pre-school to now adults with their own families. When they married, Lisa was a young widow with two young daughters, and Gary lost his first marriage and took full custody of his three small boys. When they married, their sixth treasured child, Noah, was quickly added. In 2013, the tragic suicide of their 19-year-old son Michael Ryan Black threatened to silence the Black's voice through grief and despair, yet only furthered their resolve to fight for those who feel lost and unseen amongst the chaos of a broken world. Their past and future journeys of overcoming the loss of loved ones would turn out to be the gift and calling of their lives together. Together, Gary and Lisa-Marie have not only raised a family, but travel the world to teach, impart and mentor the generation that they have vowed to serve. The Blacks have invested their time, hearts, and lives into thousands of people through their coaching, mentoring, writing, and speaking to the World Race and G42 Leadership Academy. The Blacks believe with passion that we were all born to be loved by our Creator, and impart that message to those who find themselves stuck in religion, shame, and life's challenges.   Show Notes:   2:50 - The phrase "Horrible. Wonderful." 2:58 - Richard Roar quote; "pain that is not transformed gets transmitted." 3:27 "I started studying initiation of young men and what that actually looks like because America is the only country that hasn't. And then, you know, reading his (Richard Roar's) book Adam's Return, The Five Promises of Male Initiation 4:35 - "How are you going to hold that? If you're allowing God to transform that pain in you and wound your wounds? You're going to handle a good call, a bad call to say it's not going to throw you off emotionally." 5:15 - Gary's story 15:43 - Gary sharing the story of his son dying 21:38 - Further explanation around anesthetizing and numbing away pain 22:04 - "I challenged him, are you just replacing one numbness to another numbness, something that you could just do so you're not left alone in your thoughts?" 22:45 - "Father. Let this hit my spirit, not my soul." 24:30 "every single morning I've learned to work from rest. I don't need the weekend. I don't need the vacation. I mean, those those things are awesome. But every single one" The BEMA Podcast - https://www.bemadiscipleship.com/ 27:20 "If you can get to that spot and say because He's good and I'm good, I was born to be loved. I wasn't born to be right. I was born to be loved. " 28:08 - The Stages: The lover... the warrior, the sage. The king 29:15 - Four YouTube Videos - A Fatherless Generation Fathering, Mothering, & Parenting | Fatherlessness Epidemic Part 1 Who is a teacher and who is a Father | Part 2 Fall out of Fatherlessness | Fatherlessness Epidemic Part 3 How to Break the Curse of Fatherlessness | Fatherlessness Epidemic Part 4 31:17 - The Differences of the BOY verses the MAN 33:19 - Boys look for momentary pleasures and men look for true lasting fulfillment. They build memories. Unpunishable: Ending Our Love Affair with Punishment by Danny Silk 36:52 - "If I'm going to punish my kids and send him to his room, I'm teaching him to be better at me and sit in his anger. No, I'm going to go with him. And after his punishment has been 30 minutes of just what they love, right? If they're young kids, we've just got to shift our thinking as parents that, yes, discipline. But yeah, we love you even more." 37:37 - Malachi 4:5-6 "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents; or else I will come and strike the land with total destruction.” 41:07 - "We have to break the spirit, disciple these kids and send them on risky, crazy adventures so that they can get their own stories so they can keep telling the miraculous amazingness of how good and amazing our Father is." Video Series: "adding LIFE to the Dad Life"  https://dadawesome.org/life/   Links from Gary Black   Gary's Website: https://garyandlisablack.com/ World Race: https://www.worldrace.org/ G42 Leadership Academy. https://generation42.org/ Four Video Resources for Fathers: Fathering, Mothering, & Parenting | Fatherlessness Epidemic Part 1 Who is a teacher and who is a Father | Part 2 Fall out of Fatherlessness | Fatherlessness Epidemic Part 3 How to Break the Curse of Fatherlessness | Fatherlessness Epidemic Part 4   Links from dadAWESOME   https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/  

"the best way that I can be a strong father is to be the the most profound loving husband I can be... Children need to know to the degree that they're able that those two people. Love each other deeply"   dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Dick Foth   Dick Foth is an author, storyteller, and popular speaker. He holds a master’s degree from Wheaton College Graduate School and a doctorate from Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary. He and Ruth have invested the last twenty-five years working in the marketplace of business and government to encourage leaders in their personal lives. Dick also serves on the teaching teams of four congregations, including the multi-site National Community Church pastored by Mark Batterson in Washington, D. C.   Show Notes: 0:48 - Jump back to Episode 217 - PART 1 of this conversation with Dick Foth 01:21 - FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS spotlight: We ignite your calling by connecting you physically and spiritually with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS changes lives by exposing men to a cause beyond themselves. They are propelled to challenge themselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father’s heart for the Fatherless. https://f4f.bike/ 2:59 - Jeff asks about the 3 yr old moment with his daughter Jenny - The Grand Design Move 4:34 - "I watched that that physical action of lifting her arms to be picked up by her father move into the metaphor and the eternal action of lifting her hands to the most high God saying up, daddy" 6:30 - Paraphrasing the Bible for our kids - frame Biblical stories in your own language 7:50 - creating stories and characters and incorporating Biblical lessons and moral lessons 9:10 - Dick explains his friendship and mentorship with Mark Batterson - the term Spiritual Father is Mark's term - divine chemistry 10:28 - "there was chemistry... The Lord put it together, but I think I think both of us are curious. I think both of us are readers... And both of us are adventurers." 11:01 - Mark Batterson wrote: "our Father-Son friendship is not the means to some other mission. Our friendship is the mission." - this article - The Heart of Spiritual Parenting 13:41 - John 13:14 "There is no greater love than to lay down one's life for one's friends. ... Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends" 14:27 - Band of Brothers example of deep sacrificial friendship 16:52 - "We decided we would take a one year self-imposed sabbatical. I was 50 years old. To figure out what to do with the last half". 18:06 - "the challenge with going up the corporate ladder is that you the how you go, the more competitive it gets, the closer you play your cards and you get to the top of the heap and you have a thousand acquaintances and no friends" 19:27 - "Stepping out in faith never changes. If you know where you're going, you don't need to trust God." 22:31 - "the question is: where do they(my kids) come on my priorities and how do I frame my time in order to make them first? 23:39 - "the best way that I can be a strong father is to be the the most profound loving husband I can be... Children need to know to the degree that they're able that those two people. Love each other deeply" 25:00 - Dick closing prayer We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life"  https://dadawesome.org/life/   Links from Dick Foth   Dick's Website (book, blog, videos, podcast) - https://www.known.fm/ Known: Finding Deep Friendships in a Shallow World Influence Magazine Article - The Heart of Spiritual Parenting -- Turning meaningful experiences into life-changing adventures   Links from dadAWESOME   https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/  

"Why is it that people, you give your prime time to people you hardly know? And the kids and I get the leftovers?"   dadAWESOME We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Dick Foth   Dick Foth is an author, storyteller, and popular speaker. He holds a master’s degree from Wheaton College Graduate School and a doctorate from Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary. He and Ruth have invested the last twenty-five years working in the marketplace of business and government to encourage leaders in their personal lives. Dick also serves on the teaching teams of four congregations, including the multi-site National Community Church pastored by Mark Batterson in Washington, D. C.   Partner Spotlight: Restoration Project - www.restorationproject.net/dadawesome You want to be a good dad. But fathering often feels like a dumpster fire. Especially when you don't know what to do. That's why each month No Regrets dads receive the following resources to fuel their fathering: Experience Blueprints - Practical, plug and play experiences for you to connect with your kids Fathering Tools - These are specific PDF's to give you insight for specific issues (when my kids says I hate you) Private Podcasts - Fuel your fathering with further conversation on that month's blueprint and toolbox resource   Show Notes:   We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life"  https://dadawesome.org/life/ 2:55 - Dick Foth reflecting on his 80th birthday (the day before the recording) 4:59 - "I think the I think that the the fact that we struggle along the way and learn by our struggles, that's the place people connect with us. People don't connect with my victories. People connect with my suffering" 7:07 - Story about friendships and asking other men to come with him to the hospital as a young pastor 8:29 - Relationship Baseball Dimond concept from (Lyman Coleman) 9:27 - First Base = history giving  11:05 - Second Base = affirmation  12:31 - Third Base = covenant, which is we do stuff together 13:34 - Fourth Base = know your dreams and hold you accountable for your dreams  14:15 - Why is our culture so lonely? (Jeff asks) 15:18 - Importance of the family dinner table  16:30 - PARTNER SPOTLIGHT - Restoration Project No Regrets membership 18:37 - Generational Observations about the state of fatherhood 19:00 - story of Dick's parents divorce 19:30 - powerful story of his father-in-law affirming Dick and offering to come along-side in early marriage. 20:15 - "when my father walked away, my father in law walked in." 21:03 - Observations that Dick is seeing in his son and sons-in-law -- "what I see in our our sons in law sends a lot and our son in terms of attention, paid time invested. They're not perfect. Clearly, I mean, who can be? But they're they're focused in a way I don't think I was." 22:30 - story about Dick's wife leaving him and saying she will never come back 23:30 - Assuming the stance of a LEARNER 23:46 - "I think I learned that I wasn't paying attention. I was paying attention to a lot of other things and people because of my drive to succeed. I think that was part, you know, I say, Well, I want to build a kingdom, but I don't know where build a kingdom and personally succeed, where that line is crossed. I don't know. You know, I think it's I think it's a mishmash, actually." 24:27 - Question from Dick's wife Ruth - "She said, why is it that people, you give your prime time to people you hardly know? And the kids and I get the leftovers?" 25:30 - "I need to reverse my priorities... it's the it's the idea of who, who is the person and or persons in my world who have covenant it with me." 16:30 - PARTNER SPOTLIGHT - Restoration Project No Regrets membership We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life"  https://dadawesome.org/life/   Links from Dick Foth:   Dick's Website (book, blog, videos, podcast) - https://www.known.fm/ Known: Finding Deep Friendships in a Shallow World Influence Magazine Article - The Heart of Spiritual Parenting -- Turning meaningful experiences into life-changing adventures Links from dadAWESOME:   https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/  

"I just want to pour in... I don't want to be the guy who's over on the couch. Whose mailed it in and thinks that everything's going to be great. I want to be 100 percent in the game. Are they on my calendar or are they on my prayer list? Are they people I'm spending time with? I just want to keep honing..."   dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Chad Johnson   After twenty-eight years of joyful marriage, author Chad Johnson is still pursuing the woman of his dreams, the lovely Jenise. Chad is a successful entrepreneur and business coach to elite-level business owners. He is the founder of TheAchademy.com, co-founder of NewlywedCoaching.com, and MarriageMaximizer.com. Chad is also an entrepreneurial coach with Strategic Coach, helping clients build and strengthen their businesses. Chad and Jenise love their eleven children and five grandchildren. They enjoy traveling with their family and including them in the family business, Farmhouse Candle Shop. You can watch their adventures on their YouTube channel The Big Ski Family.   Show Notes:   We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life"  https://dadawesome.org/life/ 3:37 - "there's nothing like the heart of a daughter and a daddy in that bond, and I'm just excited for you." 4:07 - 11 children on a family front, the oldest is twenty seven and down to nine years old. Three of our daughters are married and grandbaby number seven is on the way.  Proverbs 10:22 - "The blessing of the LORD enriches, and He adds no sorrow to it. King James Bible The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it." 5:45 - FIVE things that God has placed in my heart and these five priorities I call them, but I call my giant five. And Jeff, remember to be talking about that to me. So many of us as men, as fathers, as business leaders or ministry leaders or whatever, we're confronted with so many competing things for our attention, for our time, for energy, for our resources, and how do we filter, how do we prioritize? 6:00 – The Giant Five Framework – top priorities 1) Faith – it’s foundational 2) Marriage – must be on the same page fighting together 3) Children – Aspire to raise them to be all God created them to be. 4) Heath – being fit, healthy and active 5) Career/Work/Ministry – Using God given Unique Abilities to earn, serve, and bless others 9:55 - Chad discussing worshipping God as a Family 17:00 - Chad explains building a business as a family 20:00 - Mothers Day Gifts -  Farmhouse Candle Shop 21:17 - "I've always been a dreamer jobs, and I know I can recognize another one or a mile away. And you're that guy." 100 Dreams: Years ago I wrote down my dream list…marry the perfect woman, have a big family, grow a business, earn a ____ $ a year, travel to Austria, write a book, run an Ironman, memorize the book of James, get my pilot’s license, teach the entire family to ski, coach and speak, and many more. Pulling out the list this week I removed, fly my own jet, and added, be the world’s best grandpa, and live in a tree house. Next step, pick 3, put on the calendar and get going! 24:12 - "God is so good. When you become a parent, you're one for life... And I see that in the way that I get to pour into my older young people and my married kids. Now I'm on a Zoom call every week with my sons in laws and my older sons that are in their 20s." 24:46 - "I just want to pour in... I don't want to be the guy who's over on the couch. Whose mailed it in and thinks that everything's going to be great. I want to be 100 percent in the game. Are they on my calendar or are they on my prayer list? Are they people I'm spending time with? I just want to keep honing..." 25:26: How to Win a Heart: One Man's Adventure in Finding and Winning His Lifelong Love -- GET THE FREE - Simple Guidelines for Intentional Dating -- this will equip you to navigate your adventurous journey of finding and building a love that glorifies God and delights you for a lifetime. https://howtowinaheart.com/bonus-guide 27:57 - "Chad, where are you? Where are you with the Lord? OK, where are you with your knees? And if if it's not right, want it to be, it's always done me. It's dad. It's always on us. It is night where you want it to be today. If it's not fine, if it's not joyful, if it's not romantic, it's not rich, not real. If you're not close. It's on me, not her. What do I need to do to bring that closeness?" 31:54 - "My daughters are unbelievable? They are rare. They are so precious. They are so precious and so rare because they're not doing it the way the world is doing it. They're listening to what God's word says and the guys who find my daughters... He is bringing men. Godly men who are unbelievable..." 34:00 - Newlywed Coaching 36:49 - "At the end of my life, it's truly about my relationship with God and my relationship with people. That's it. And am I investing there truly like crazy all out, investing there with my time, with my energy, with my creativity, with my, with my life." 38:35 - Read Deuteronomy 28 one through 14. Read Psalm one chapter. Read what God wants to do to a man or woman or husband or wife or family whose hearts are set on him to believe in him trusting him because he wants to bless you. He really does. He wants to bless and pour out his favor. 39:38 - chad's PRAYER   We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life"  https://dadawesome.org/life/   Links from Chad Johnson:   Chad's Book - How to Win a Heart: One Man's Adventure in Finding and Winning His Lifelong Love NewlywedCoaching.com MarriageMaximizer.com Farmhouse Candle Shop www.StrategicCoach.com (Coaching the world’s best Entrepreneurs and Business Owners as an Entrepreneurial Coach) www.TheBigSkiFamily.com (On a mission: Introduce 1 MILLION families to the joy of Skiing together) Instagram (Chad @thegiant5guy) Instagram (@thebigskifamily)   Links from dadAWESOME:   https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

“The world is crying out for men and dads who are on fire. That love what they’re doing and their giving it their all”   dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Chad Johnson   After twenty-eight years of joyful marriage, author Chad Johnson is still pursuing the woman of his dreams, the lovely Jenise. Chad is a successful entrepreneur and business coach to elite-level business owners. He is the founder of TheAchademy.com, co-founder of NewlywedCoaching.com, and MarriageMaximizer.com. Chad is also an entrepreneurial coach with Strategic Coach, helping clients build and strengthen their businesses. Chad and Jenise love their eleven children and five grandchildren. They enjoy traveling with their family and including them in the family business, Farmhouse Candle Shop. You can watch their adventures on their YouTube channel The Big Ski Family.   Show Notes:   We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life"  https://dadawesome.org/life/ 2:54 – Chad introduces his family 3:34 – Imperfect fatherhood – there are no perfect husbands and there are no perfect fathers 4:00 – “Man, it would be awesome to have 10 kids… And you can see what happens when you keep saying one more” 4:40 – This fathering thing never stops… now they keep adding new kids as their kids get married 6:17 – The Big Ski Family – “it would be so fun to have a family entrepreneurial whim” – Global Ambassadors for Family Skiing 9:00 – The Giant Five Framework – top priorities 1) Faith – it’s foundational 2) Marriage – must be on the same page fighting together 3) Children – Aspire to raise them to be all God created them to be. 4) Heath – being fit, healthy and active 5) Career/Work/Ministry – Using God given Unique Abilities to earn, serve, and bless others 16:30 – Chad reflecting on his father 18:10 – My dad has always prioritized his relationship with God and my mom. 21:15 – The value of working hard as a family… “Ability to tackle hard things. To not run from a project” 25:10 – “I’m ok stirring the pot. I don’t want my kids to have a sterile, safe, protected, isolated environment.” 27:01 – Chad reflects on the pain of sexual sin and how it impacted his family. 30:05 – “My young children were at risk when I fell” 31:00 – “You want to talk about ripping your heart out. I knew that I was hurting my wife and I hated it. I despised it. And then I realized that I was brining it into my children’s lives somehow” 32:15 – “I was believing the lie that my wife and my children would be better off without me” 33:15 – The driving mission of helping men hear the message of freedom in Christ and the solution that only God can bring. 34:00 – Christ in me the hope of glory 34:40 – I needed power for the right now. Ability to walk in power of the Holy Spirit. 36:20 – Fatherhood, Family, Freedom – they all intersect and if we walk in freedom, our kids get freedom 37:20 – Coaching words for us – “Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” 38:08 – God made you a masterpiece 39:40 – “The world is crying out for men and dads who are on fire. That love what they’re doing and their giving it their all” 40:48 – “Live life like a movie you’d want to watch with your children and grandchildren” 41:01 – Chad’s prayer – Jude 24-25 “Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, To the only wise God our Savior, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen.” We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life"  https://dadawesome.org/life/   Links from Chad Johnson:   Chad's Book - How to Win a Heart: One Man's Adventure in Finding and Winning His Lifelong Love NewlywedCoaching.com MarriageMaximizer.com Farmhouse Candle Shop www.StrategicCoach.com (Coaching the world’s best Entrepreneurs and Business Owners as an Entrepreneurial Coach) www.TheBigSkiFamily.com (On a mission: Introduce 1 MILLION families to the joy of Skiing together) Instagram (Chad @thegiant5guy) Instagram (@thebigskifamily)   Links from dadAWESOME:   https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/   Conversation Transcript   coming soon

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Robert Lewis   Few have had as significant an impact on discipling men in the past forty years than Robert Lewis. As a pastor, speaker, and author, Robert’s passion for leading men to grow in biblical manhood led him to produce the Men’s Fraternity film series in 1995. This three-year men’s curriculum quickly spread into churches, businesses, colleges, and even correctional facilities across the United States and later to over 20 countries. Today, Men’s Fraternity and its follow up series, 33, have impacted millions of men worldwide. Author of numerous books including best-selling The Church of Irresistible Influence, Raising a Modern-Day Knight, and Rocking the Roles: Building a Win-Win Marriage, Robert is known for helping men build their lives on practical biblical truth that gets real-life results. Now, in authoring the “BetterMan” curriculum, Robert offers a new way for men, especially younger men, to get their hands around God’s timeless design for authentic manhood.   Show Notes:   :52 - we just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life"  https://dadawesome.org/life/ 5:34 - "When the wedding day came, I was wondering where dad was or dad was at home drunk in bed before the wedding went on without him." 6:20 - "My wife and I just celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary together, and what we did for our wedding anniversary is we had all the grandkids. I have 10 of them and our kids come out just to us and we replayed our marriage ceremony." 8:10 - Serial monogamy. Robert explaining how marriage is a series of marriages to the same woman 10:12 - Community -  "I got with two other dads this we had seven sons" 10:51 - "We designed ceremonies for sons. We came up with four ceremonies, one that we would do when they became a teenager. 13. One when they got their driver's license at 16 independence. One when they left home. Hopefully for college with total independence from Spain. We have 18 and then one when they graduated from college at twenty one. So that was four ceremonies. And over the next 20 something years we did twenty eight ceremony funds and we are so glad that we did because all seven of us sons are strong believers doing well in all of their forties now." 12:50 - "two things that remain friends... drawing wisdom from them and that season lives and their friendship. And the other thing is staying close to God personally, those two things. And then you have the two essentials  14:07 - "God gave me two men, but we became close together and we both had the same desire to be good at family, good at parenting, good at our marriage." 15:27 -  Phases to Knighthood. 16:13 - "what if we raised our boys to be in a culture Knights to their world? 18:44 - Application to moms and daughters 19:36 - Five Essentials to Engage Today’s Men - Barna and BetterMan -- "There’s no denying that today’s men face unique cultural challenges in life, work, and ministry. That’s why we partnered with Barna to create a comprehensive resource for pastors, men’s ministry leaders, and mentors looking to effectively reach today’s men. Filled with eye-opening statistics and thought-provoking insights, this study is catered to empower you as you support men on their journey towards better." 32:07 -  "sons are looking for the substance of life, as I hope to prove they hunger for the best things in the absence of these anchors, sons drift. But when loving dads add these into the manhood mix, their sons flourish. They become noble men, gentlemen, men of valor, principled men, knights." 34:37 - Proverb 17:6 says; "Grandchildren are the crown of the aged, and the glory of children is their fathers...and "glory" word as the implication of weight. And I remember when I read that I thought, that's interesting the weight of sons, which their dads, and all of a sudden I realized what dads give their sons weight, which stabilizes them. You have those inflatable dummies that you can get up in the air." 36:40 - Robert's prayer   Episode Links:   Raising a Modern-Day Knight: A Father's Role in Guiding His Son to Authentic Manhood BetterMan Barna Study - BetterMan - https://betterman.com/barna-report/   https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

"sons are looking for the substance of life, as I hope to prove they hunger for the best things and in the absence of these anchors, sons drift. But when loving dads add these into the manhood mix, their sons flourish. They become noble men, gentlemen, men of valor, principled men, knights.   dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Robert Lewis   Few have had as significant an impact on discipling men in the past forty years than Robert Lewis. As a pastor, speaker, and author, Robert’s passion for leading men to grow in biblical manhood led him to produce the Men’s Fraternity film series in 1995. This three-year men’s curriculum quickly spread into churches, businesses, colleges, and even correctional facilities across the United States and later to over 20 countries. Today, Men’s Fraternity and its follow up series, 33, have impacted millions of men worldwide. Author of numerous books including best-selling The Church of Irresistible Influence, Raising a Modern-Day Knight, and Rocking the Roles: Building a Win-Win Marriage, Robert is known for helping men build their lives on practical biblical truth that gets real-life results. Now, in authoring the “BetterMan” curriculum, Robert offers a new way for men, especially younger men, to get their hands around God’s timeless design for authentic manhood.   Show Notes:   :52 - we just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life"  https://dadawesome.org/life/ 5:34 - "When the wedding day came, I was wondering where dad was or dad was at home drunk in bed before the wedding went on without him." 6:20 - "My wife and I just celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary together, and what we did for our wedding anniversary is we had all the grandkids. I have 10 of them and our kids come out just to us and we replayed our marriage ceremony." 8:10 - Serial monogamy. Robert explaining how marriage is a series of marriages to the same woman 10:12 - Community -  "I got with two other dads this we had seven sons" 10:51 - "We designed ceremonies for sons. We came up with four ceremonies, one that we would do when they became a teenager. 13. One when they got their driver's license at 16 independence. One when they left home. Hopefully for college with total independence from Spain. We have 18 and then one when they graduated from college at twenty one. So that was four ceremonies. And over the next 20 something years we did twenty eight ceremony funds and we are so glad that we did because all seven of us sons are strong believers doing well in all of their forties now." 12:50 - "two things that remain friends... drawing wisdom from them and that season lives and their friendship. And the other thing is staying close to God personally, those two things. And then you have the two essentials  14:07 - "God gave me two men, but we became close together and we both had the same desire to be good at family, good at parenting, good at our marriage." 15:27 -  Phases to Knighthood. 16:13 - "what if we raised our boys to be in a culture Knights to their world? 18:44 - Application to moms and daughters 19:36 - Five Essentials to Engage Today’s Men - Barna and BetterMan -- "There’s no denying that today’s men face unique cultural challenges in life, work, and ministry. That’s why we partnered with Barna to create a comprehensive resource for pastors, men’s ministry leaders, and mentors looking to effectively reach today’s men. Filled with eye-opening statistics and thought-provoking insights, this study is catered to empower you as you support men on their journey towards better." 32:07 -  "sons are looking for the substance of life, as I hope to prove they hunger for the best things in the absence of these anchors, sons drift. But when loving dads add these into the manhood mix, their sons flourish. They become noble men, gentlemen, men of valor, principled men, knights." 34:37 - Proverb 17:6 says; "Grandchildren are the crown of the aged, and the glory of children is their fathers...and "glory" word as the implication of weight. And I remember when I read that I thought, that's interesting the weight of sons, which their dads, and all of a sudden I realized what dads give their sons weight, which stabilizes them. You have those inflatable dummies that you can get up in the air." 36:40 - Robert's prayer   Episode Links:   Raising a Modern-Day Knight: A Father's Role in Guiding His Son to Authentic Manhood BetterMan Barna Study - BetterMan - https://betterman.com/barna-report/   https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

And you could do that as an awesome dad to just hover. I think that's the first thing God did over the Earth. He just hovered. Hover over each person your family like, what is kid number one need that I could only uniquely provide them. Because if they need a ride, they could get Uber to provide. They'd give em a ride. But just say, is there something else they uniquely need that only I could provide and then hover over your spouse and hover over a couple of friends for a moment? And did you say, like, what are they uniquely need that only I could provide.   dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Bob Goff   Bob spent decades as an attorney, trying to figure out how to live a whimsical, impactful life. These days, he calls himself a "recovering lawyer" because after practicing law for 25 years, then becoming the Honorary Consul to Uganda, he gave up his law firm to pursue writing and speaking full time. He's a New York Times bestselling author several times over, runs a popular weekly podcast, and recently turned farmer at The Oaks just outside San Diego, California.   Show Notes:   Focusing on the context of the moments and seasons with our families helps focus on what is important. 3:45 - It's just like, give context, you're only here, so wanting to be these memories that they're going to drop into a relatively small box of mental pictures they'll have of, of what it felt like to be raised in your family. And so super intentional about that, but curious and always looking for context.  4:55 - Having ideas to surprise his kids - keeping things secret to 8:00 - Living a "no capes" kind of life. 7:50 - So there's some rationale behind living a "no capes" kind of life to not make a big deal about it. If faith is important to somebody listening, then Jesus talked about that. And you know, if you stand on the street corner, make a big deal about it. Yeah, then you get a little golf clap here. But if you just don't, dude go live a no capes kind of life, then you get to talk to Jesus about it forever, which is really a problem for a guy like me who writes books and speaks because I talk about everything, right? And it's not because I'm trying to make people think I'm swell, I just am talking about the thing of the day. And but I realize in doing that, Jesus's words like, you've had your reward. And so I would do a couple of capers that you haven't told anybody about. Just do it because it'd be awesome. 9:37 - Fainting goats and Sweet Maria 10:20 - Jeff Zaugg - Adding a "label that adds life" over our kids and spouses 10:40 - What if we had nicknames for the people we loved? 12:56 - "And you could do that as an awesome dad to just hover. I think that's the first thing God did over the Earth. He just hovered. Hover over each person your family like, what is kid number one need that I could only uniquely provide them. Because if they need a ride, they could get Uber to provide. They'd give em a ride. But just say, is there something else they uniquely need that only I could provide and then hover over your spouse and hover over a couple of friends for a moment? And did you say, like, what are they uniquely need that only I could provide." 14:44 - How Bob managed to stay connected to his daughter attending college in Seattle. 16:43 - Four-part framework for intentional fatherhood -- Sign up at: https://dadawesome.org/life/ 17:52 - The story of the Wake Up Fairy from Love Does for Kids 18:47 - Jeff asks Bob to be the "Wake Up Fairy" for dads 19:19 - A challenge to dads:  "Quit your job. Like, literally that's it. I would say nine out of 10 of the people I know, male and female, are in jobs that were great on the day they got them, but they've changed. New Day, New You. And still, there you've changed. And the job didn't. And so I would just say just quit." 21:32 - Story of a pediatric brain surgeon who quit his job.  "No, he actually really loves what he does. He just needed to reconnect with his family. And when he got that right, then everything sort of fallen into place." 22:24 - Sometimes we wait for, you know, just all the right things to line up before we make a move. What about make the move and then say, OK, so this is a fixed point. What needs to change and you're going to figure it out. All the things that made you successful in the previous job will make you successful. 22:59 - "That was a stupid economic move, but it was an awesome new creation move, and I think that's where we want to do. Start making some really neat new creation moves... to actually live in it... why not actually live like see yourself in the mirror is like, what is Bob possible? 25:09 - "Constantly saying; "what's possible", not what's familiar, but sometimes the familiar will get in the way of what's actually possible" 28:02 - Bob's stories about what he is learning from his time at San Quentin State Prison 32:19 - "There's something really beautiful. I think we can do that as you continue with this work, you're doing with DadAWESOME that everybody gets fed. Somehow they get what they need, but you got to know what you want and you got to overcome what's just merely available and say, get your head on a swivel and say, What's actually what could I do to influence what I want?" 33:27 - Bob's prayer The Intentional Forty   Episode Links:   Bob's NEW Book - Undistracted: Capture Your Purpose. Rediscover Your Joy. Bob's Other Books Bob on Instagram   dadAWESOME Links: https://dadawesome.org/intentional/ https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

40 new experiences; things I've never done in my life... Instead of moving towards comfort and rhythms and things I've already done before, I am intentionally adding new things because I want to stay curious. I want to be a learner... I want to stay humble. I want to be in this growth mindset.   dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Jeff Zaugg Jeff and Michelle Zaugg will celebrate 16 years of marriage this coming July. They currently live in a 37 foot RV with their 4 young daughters. After 10-years of entrepreneurial non-profit ministry leadership, Jeff served as a pastor at Substance Church in the Twin Cities for the past 7 years. In Fall 2020 Jeff took the leap and went full-time fatherhood ministry. He is the founder and lead cheerleader at dadAWESOME & FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS. When he’s not wrestling or playing hide and seek with his daughters, you might find Jeff out for a bike ride, making a pour over coffee, sitting by a fire with his wife or challenging some friends to a game of Spikeball.   Show Notes:   :49 - if you missed the last two weeks episode 211 and 212 Seth Dahl 1:36 - I turned 40 a few days ago and I've actually been off social media for the past 40 days... an anticipation season, trying to narrow my focus, spend time with my family, try to push away some distractions 01:58 - Today as we drop this episode run day 98 of the dadAWESOME RV tour, we're in Orlando, Florida right now and so grateful we are still traveling... 2:28 - "I think in general, as I get older and as most of us dads get a little older, it is easy to play it safe and to coast." 3:01 - STORY about the RIP TIDE -- Byron Bay, Australia 6:31 - "The reason I shared this Riptide story in Byron Bay, Australia, is, I think at the age of 40 at the age... at every single new season, new chapter we can. If we're not careful, we will end up being drawn and we will drift and be pulled in the direction of the world. In the direction of comfort, in the direction of of more is better. In the direction of this is just the direction we get pulled in the next phase. More busyness, more hustle. And I think intentionality requires us to fight against the pull that we're drawn towards." 7:43 - I've decided to take on what I call THE INTENTIONAL FORTY. It's a challenge. The Intentional Forty - https://dadawesome.org/intentional/ 7:53 - "My girls right now this season of my life, they can notice they're old enough now to notice Where's dad's focus? Where where am I running after? What am I? What am I putting extra energy towards? And do they see me coasting and drifting and being drawn in the direction of every other dad? Or do they see a dad who with courage says, I'm going to chart a different course?" 8:53 - "My girls, when they turn 40, are going to know that their dad put emphasis on these four areas, and the intentional 40 just gives a practical reason to get intentional in these four areas." 9:04 - "So 10 of my 40 experiences are going to be with my wife, Michelle" 9:36 - "Ten of these experiences are with my daughters." 11:00 - "The next 10 are with friends, so I've friendships are so important. My girls, when they turn 40, are going to know their dad was intentional with friendships." 11:32 - "the final 10 or with mentors. So I'm going to intentionally. Most of my mentors are kind of in the 50 to 80 years old  season of life, and I'm going to pursue them and ask them where you spent a couple of hours do this experience." 12:06 - "I am going to do 40 new experiences, things I've never done in my life and as a 40 year old. Instead of going towards comfort and rhythms and things I've already done before, I am intentionally trying to do new things because I want to stay curious. I want to be a learner, I want to. I want to stay humble. I want to be in this growth mindset." 12:41 - These are four building blocks. These are anchors to what I think are the most important things mentorship, friendship, marriage in my time with my girls. So so I'm doing this intentional 40 challenge. 13:44 - https://dadawesome.org/intentional/ 14:25 -- 1 Peter 4:7-11 TPT "Since we are approaching the end of all things, be intentional, purposeful, and self-controlled so that you can be given to prayer. Above all, constantly echo God’s intense love for one another...." 15:23 -- Proverbs 24:3-4 TPT "Wise people are builders — they build families, businesses, communities. And through intelligence and insight their enterprises are established and endure. Because of their skilled leadership, the hearts of people are filled with the treasures of wisdom and the pleasures of spiritual wealth." https://dadawesome.org/intentional/   Episode Links:   https://dadawesome.org/intentional/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/  

"Peace is the atmosphere of heaven... peace is the oxygen of heaven. It's everywhere in heaven. It is just like righteousness, peace and joy are the kingdom of God. It already belongs to us, Jesus said, I give you my peace, I leave you, not as the world gives..."   dadAWESOME We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook   Seth Dahl   Seth Dahl is a writer and worldwide speaker to adults and children. He is known for his powerful wisdom communicated through a contagious joy and childlikeness. Seth and Lauren love to empower families to build a strong connection that fosters peace and creates a thriving family culture. Seth, Lauren and their three children homestead with a large garden and handful of animals on a small farm in Texas. With over 15 years experience working with children and being a children’s pastor, Seth has cultivated a passion to help parents create a thriving family culture at home. Sometimes parenting is overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be! Seth and Lauren love being able to equip people with the practical and spiritual tools they need to create the thriving family culture they’ve always dreamed of.   Show Notes:   Part 1 of this conversation with Seth Dahl - https://dadawesome.org/211/ 2:09 - Facebook Messenger for Kids 4:18 - Documentary - The Social Dilemma - https://www.thesocialdilemma.com/ Joshua 1:9 "I've commanded you to be strong and brave. Don't ever be afraid or discouraged! I am the LORD your God, and I will be there to help you wherever you go." 7:37 "I need to take one step at a time... I need to step back from social media and then get a better look..." 15:36 - "I watched those movies so I can intentionally shut the door... I'm not afraid of it. I want them to learn this with me before they're out there learning it on their own...." 16:17 - "I do at the movies. I'm probably going to have to do it. They're just like, I've done it with the knives. You're not going to go play with knives by yourself and hide because you can play with your knives with me and you're you're trusted and you're safe and you've developed it. And I feel totally confident my kid carrying a knife when he's old enough in his pocket and being fine." 17:49 - Peace is the atmosphere of heaven... Bill Jones would say peace is the oxygen of heaven. And so it's, you know, it's everywhere in heaven. It is just like righteousness, peace and joy are the kingdom of God. So it's. It's important it matters." 18:25 - "the world is like, Hey, you can have peace when everything's good and God's like, No, I'm going to give it to you in the middle of the storm so you can not so you can survive the storm so you can change the storm... So the storm can't survive you. Peace is not like the world. So when all the problems are gone, then you have peace. But God is like no. In the middle of all the problems, I will give you peace so you can not just be OK, you can actually do something about it." 19:33 - There is a difference between peacekeeping and peacemaking, right, and sometimes peacekeeping means it's not actual real peace." 20:57 - "We bought this notebook that's called, "people I want to punch in the face"... this doesn't sound very Christian." 22:07 -  "We are going to respond in the opposite spirit and we are going to pray for them and I ask him, I say, Do you want to hold on to all that or do you want to let it go? I want to let it go. Do you want those things to start driving the decisions that you make in the way you treat people? Or do you want to be in charge of who the decisions you make and how you change? I want to be in charge. OK, let's let it go. Let's do it. Let's forgive. And so we pray"   Episode Links:   https://sethdahl.com/ Seth on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sethdahl/ Raising Spirit-Led Kids: Guiding Kids to Walk Naturally in the Supernatural Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/   Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!