

Modern Anarchy
Dr. Nicole Thompson
Modern Anarchy is your weekly invitation to reclaim pleasure, sex, and desire as radical acts of liberation. Hosted by Queer Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist and Researcher, Dr. Nicole. Trained in psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy, she the leading academic voice on non-monogamy and embodied pleasure. Modern Anarchy explores intimacy, erotic sovereignty, and healing through raw conversations with pleasure activists, artists, therapists, and rebels from around the world. Are you ready to dive in?
Learn more: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Learn more: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
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Jun 22, 2022 • 1h 16min
62. Public Sex: Out of the Closets and Into the Streets with Gem Cut
On today's episode, we have a conversation with smut writer and exhibitionist Gem Cut (they\them) all about the anarchy behind the queer deconstruction of eroticism and sexuality. Together we talk about reckoning with queer bodies, the personality type of an exhibitionist, and expanding our understanding of sex.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of June, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting the Texas Elementary School Shooting Victims Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/mtdrdc-texas-elementary-school-shooting-victims-fund
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Resources to Learn More:
Samuel Delany
Dean Spade
We Both Laughed In Pleasure: The Selected Diaries of Lou Sullivan
Cruising Utopia
Make The Golf Course A Public Sex Forest!
AORTA Films
Four Chambers

Jun 15, 2022 • 1h 1min
61. Wrestling with Questions Around Identity: Sexuality, Gender, and Careers with Betsey Zemke
On today's episode, we have therapist Betsey Zemke (She\They) join us for a conversation about navigating the flux of change. Together we talk about trauma recovery with the pandemic, bird calling your community, and finding contentment within an abundance of choice.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of June, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting the Texas Elementary School Shooting Victims Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/mtdrdc-texas-elementary-school-shooting-victims-fund
Modern Anarchy Community:
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Facebook
Resources to Learn More:
The paradox of choice

Jun 8, 2022 • 1h 8min
60. Exploring the Unconscious: Synchronicity, Dreams, and Psychedelic Psychotherapy with Manny Dominguez
On today's episode, we have doctoral candidate and marriage & family therapist, Manny Dominguez (He\Him), who is studying drug assisted psychotherapy. Together we talk about spontaneous mystical experiences, our shadow selves, and learning to decode your personal symbolic language.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of June, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting the Texas Elementary School Shooting Victims Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/mtdrdc-texas-elementary-school-shooting-victims-fund
Modern Anarchy Community:
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Manny's Community:
Instagram
Resources to Learn More:
What is Epigenetics?
Numinous Encounters
The Dark Night of the Soul (Losing Who We Thought We Were)
The Spirit Molecule
What Are the Jungian Archetypes?
Synchronicity
FANTASTIC FUNGI
Hippocampal Neurogenesis: Effects of Psychedelic Drugs
Adults who microdose psychedelics report health related motivations and lower levels of anxiety and depression compared to non-microdosers
This Is How Psychedelics Hack the Brain, According to Scientists

Jun 1, 2022 • 1h
59. The Intersection of Disability and Sexuality with Robin Wilson Beattie
On today's episode, we have disability activist Robin Wilson Beattie (She\Her) join us for a conversation about navigating being a mom and becoming disabled. Together we talk about internet dating pioneers, wusbands, and defying no.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of June, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting the Texas Elementary School Shooting Victims Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/mtdrdc-texas-elementary-school-shooting-victims-fund
Modern Anarchy Community:
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Facebook
Robin's Community:
Website
Resources to Learn More:
Bes - ancient Egyptian dwarf god
Millions of disabled Americans could lose federal benefits if they get married
Spinal arteriovenous malformation (AVM)
Preeclampsia
Thrush
What Is White Privilege, Really?

May 25, 2022 • 1h 25min
58. I'm Definitely Gay: Unholy Sex, Disciplinary Action, and Painting the Mormon Church with Clark Hazel
On today's episode, we are joined by the polyamorous and kinky non-binary/trans therapist Clark Hazel (They\Them), who shares their vulnerable story of resilience. Together we talk about never getting the lesbian sex talk, the paradoxical logic of the patriarchy, and processing through shame.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of May, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting The National Network of Abortion Funds (https://abortionfunds.org/)
Modern Anarchy Community:
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Facebook
Clark's Community:
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Resources to Learn More:
The Singles Ward
Wild and Sublime
Cassie Porter
Spiritual Abuse Resources
Leaving the Fold: A Guide for Former Fundamentalists and Others Leaving Their Religion
Ex-Mormon Sub-reddit

May 18, 2022 • 1h 7min
57. Healing from Emotionally Immature Parents with Ebony Holloway
On today's episode, we have Ebony Holloway (She\Her) join us for a raw and vulnerable conversation about healing and dealing. Together we talk about emotional integrity, internal vs external processing, and embracing growth even when it hurts.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are fighting towards! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of May, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting The National Network of Abortion Funds (https://abortionfunds.org/)
Modern Anarchy Community:
Patreon
Instagram
Facebook
Ebony's Community:
everybodytothetable Instagram
honeyhomeandliving Instagram
muze_ish Instagram
Resources to Learn More:
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Thich Nhat Hanh
Does your body really replace itself every seven years?
The Water in You: Water and the Human Body
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
Long Term Physical Health Consequences of Adverse Childhood Experiences

May 11, 2022 • 44min
56. Building a Relationship Contract: Queer Theory, Kinky Monogamy, and the Relationship Escalator with Tom Doctor
On today's episode, we have sex and relationship therapist Tom Doctor (He\Them) join us for a conversation all about approaching our relationships with curiosity. Together we talk about the healing nature of community, questioning the "shoulds," and turning our relationship contracts into google docs.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are fighting towards! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of May, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting The National Network of Abortion Funds (https://abortionfunds.org/)
Modern Anarchy Community:
Instagram
Facebook
Patreon
Resources to Learn More:
Introduction: Antinormativity’s Queer Conventions
What is the Relationship Escalator?
Timing Is Everything When It Comes To Marriage Counseling
Why Every Couple Needs a Relationship Contract
From housework to sex, here's how relationship contracts can help couples

May 4, 2022 • 1h 42min
55. Tuning Into My Embodied Self: Demi-Sexuality, Polyamory, and Somatic Experiencing with Meggie Twible
On today's episode, we are joined by somatic experiencing therapist, Meggie Twible (She\Her), for a conversation all about slowing down to land in the present. Together we talk about the language of sensation, orienting to pleasure, and working through our fears about polyamory.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are fighting towards! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of May, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting The National Network of Abortion Funds (https://abortionfunds.org/)
Modern Anarchy Community:
Instagram
Facebook
Patreon
Resources to Learn More:
Autonomic Nervous System
The bowel and beyond: the enteric nervous system in neurological disorders
How to Use All 5 Senses to Beat Stress
Mindful Eating: The Art of Presence While You Eat
Cultural differences in emotion: differences in emotional arousal level between the East and the West
The Myth Of Multitasking
Confirmation Bias in 5 Minutes
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
Introduction to Carl Jung - The Psyche, Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious
Bronfenbrenner's Ecological Systems: 5 Forces Impacting Our Lives

Apr 27, 2022 • 1h 2min
54. Understanding Romantic and Sexual Attraction: Asexuality, Libido, and Abundant Love with Aubri Lancaster
On today's episode, we have sex educator Aubri Lancaster (She/Her) join us for a conversation all about discovering her Asexual identity. Together we talk about the spectrum of attraction, polyamicable quadracules, and questioning the hierarchy of the nuclear family.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are fighting towards! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of April, we will be supporting Insight, a Ukrainian LGBTQ+ and feminist non-profit that is helping people in Ukraine with covering basic needs in protection, safety and health during the war. To learn more about Insight, check out https://www.insight-ukraine.org/en/
Modern Anarchy Community:
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Facebook
Patreon
Aubri's Community:
Website
Resources to Learn More:
AASECT
Testosterone Therapy Can Restore Women’s Libido—but Questions Remain
Bad Girls
Multigenerational Living Creates Warmth and Companionship
What is the Relationship Escalator?
Marriage, a History: HOW LOVE CONQUERED MARRIAGE
Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
Living as a Sex-Favourable Asexual
THE ACE AND ARO ADVOCACY PROJECT

Apr 20, 2022 • 1h 16min
53. True Crime: Holding Onto What He Could Be vs. What He Was with Jamie Baier
Activation Warning: Stalking, Self-Harm, and Domestic Violence
On today's episode, Jamie Baier (She\Her) shares her story behind starting the podcast I Am Not Mentally Ill, But. Together we talk about being a bitch about our boundaries, the hindsight of 20/20, and remembering that we are always doing our best with the skills and resources we have at the time.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are fighting towards! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of April, we will be supporting Insight, a Ukrainian LGBTQ+ and feminist non-profit that is helping people in Ukraine with covering basic needs in protection, safety and health during the war. To learn more about Insight, check out https://www.insight-ukraine.org/en/
Modern Anarchy Community:
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Facebook
Patreon
Jamie's Community:
Podcast
Instagram
Resources to Learn More:
Supporting a Friend or Family Member with Mental Health Problems
The Body Keeps the Score: Memory and the Evolving Psychobiology of Posttraumatic Stress
How to support a friend or family member who’s struggling with their mental health
How to Release ‘Emotional Baggage’ and the Tension That Goes with It
How to cope when a loved one has a serious mental illness