

Modern Anarchy
Dr. Nicole Thompson
Modern Anarchy is your weekly invitation to reclaim pleasure, sex, and desire as radical acts of liberation. Hosted by queer psychotherapist and researcher Dr. Nicole, an academic voice on non-monogamy and embodied pleasure with advanced training in psychedelic integration therapy, the show explores intimacy, erotic sovereignty, and healing through raw conversations with pleasure activists, artists, therapists, and rebels from around the world. Are you ready to dive in?
Learn more: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Learn more: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
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Jul 6, 2022 • 57min
64. Uncensored Sex Education: Sex Positive Clubs, BDSM, and Fruit Fetish with Anarella Martinez-Madrid
On today's episode, we have artist and founder of The Sex School, Anarella Martinez-Madrid (She/Her), join us for a conversation all about living in the future of liberated sexuality. Together we talk about the sex education you didn't receive in school, qualities to look for in play partners, and navigating open relationships.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of July, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/
Modern Anarchy Community:
Patreon
Instagram
Facebook
Anarella's Community:
Sex School Instagram
Sex School Website
Resources To Learn More:
What makes sexual chemistry?
7 ways you may be slut-shaming yourself (and why you need to stop)
The BDSM Kink Dictionary, Terminology & Vocabulary List
Guide To Planning A BDSM Scene

Jun 29, 2022 • 54min
63. What Does It Mean to Be Authentic? Co-Regulating, Existentialism, and Compersion with Mei Zarnitsyna
On today's episode, we have therapist Mei Zarnitsyna (she/her) join us for a conversation all about existential philosophy and finding authenticity. Together we talk about shifting between our rational mind and body wisdom, recognizing the scale of the universe, and the praxis of philosophy and psychology.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of June, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting the Texas Elementary School Shooting Victims Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/mtdrdc-texas-elementary-school-shooting-victims-fund
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website
Patreon
Instagram
Facebook
Mei's Links:
Fundraiser: Free therapy for Ukrainian children and families
Resources to Learn More:
Jean-Paul Sartre and Existential Choice
The Science of Analysis Paralysis
Pavlov’s Classical Conditioning
Body Wisdom as a Framework for Decision Making
It Takes Two: The Role of Co-Regulation in Building Self-Regulation Skills
What Do Mirror Neurons Really Do?
What Is Compersion? The Polyamory Practice For Rethinking Jealousy
The gentle power of highly sensitive people
Universe Size Comparison 2020
The Nap Ministry

Jun 22, 2022 • 1h 16min
62. Public Sex: Out of the Closets and Into the Streets with Gem Cut
On today's episode, we have a conversation with smut writer and exhibitionist Gem Cut (they\them) all about the anarchy behind the queer deconstruction of eroticism and sexuality. Together we talk about reckoning with queer bodies, the personality type of an exhibitionist, and expanding our understanding of sex.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of June, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting the Texas Elementary School Shooting Victims Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/mtdrdc-texas-elementary-school-shooting-victims-fund
Modern Anarchy Community:
Patreon
Instagram
Facebook
Gem's Community:
Instagram
Website
Resources to Learn More:
Samuel Delany
Dean Spade
We Both Laughed In Pleasure: The Selected Diaries of Lou Sullivan
Cruising Utopia
Make The Golf Course A Public Sex Forest!
AORTA Films
Four Chambers

Jun 15, 2022 • 1h 1min
61. Wrestling with Questions Around Identity: Sexuality, Gender, and Careers with Betsey Zemke
On today's episode, we have therapist Betsey Zemke (She\They) join us for a conversation about navigating the flux of change. Together we talk about trauma recovery with the pandemic, bird calling your community, and finding contentment within an abundance of choice.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of June, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting the Texas Elementary School Shooting Victims Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/mtdrdc-texas-elementary-school-shooting-victims-fund
Modern Anarchy Community:
Patreon
Instagram
Facebook
Resources to Learn More:
The paradox of choice

Jun 8, 2022 • 1h 8min
60. Exploring the Unconscious: Synchronicity, Dreams, and Psychedelic Psychotherapy with Manny Dominguez
On today's episode, we have doctoral candidate and marriage & family therapist, Manny Dominguez (He\Him), who is studying drug assisted psychotherapy. Together we talk about spontaneous mystical experiences, our shadow selves, and learning to decode your personal symbolic language.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of June, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting the Texas Elementary School Shooting Victims Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/mtdrdc-texas-elementary-school-shooting-victims-fund
Modern Anarchy Community:
Patreon
Instagram
Facebook
Manny's Community:
Instagram
Resources to Learn More:
What is Epigenetics?
Numinous Encounters
The Dark Night of the Soul (Losing Who We Thought We Were)
The Spirit Molecule
What Are the Jungian Archetypes?
Synchronicity
FANTASTIC FUNGI
Hippocampal Neurogenesis: Effects of Psychedelic Drugs
Adults who microdose psychedelics report health related motivations and lower levels of anxiety and depression compared to non-microdosers
This Is How Psychedelics Hack the Brain, According to Scientists

Jun 1, 2022 • 1h
59. The Intersection of Disability and Sexuality with Robin Wilson Beattie
On today's episode, we have disability activist Robin Wilson Beattie (She\Her) join us for a conversation about navigating being a mom and becoming disabled. Together we talk about internet dating pioneers, wusbands, and defying no.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of June, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting the Texas Elementary School Shooting Victims Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/mtdrdc-texas-elementary-school-shooting-victims-fund
Modern Anarchy Community:
Patreon
Instagram
Facebook
Robin's Community:
Website
Resources to Learn More:
Bes - ancient Egyptian dwarf god
Millions of disabled Americans could lose federal benefits if they get married
Spinal arteriovenous malformation (AVM)
Preeclampsia
Thrush
What Is White Privilege, Really?

May 25, 2022 • 1h 25min
58. I'm Definitely Gay: Unholy Sex, Disciplinary Action, and Painting the Mormon Church with Clark Hazel
On today's episode, we are joined by the polyamorous and kinky non-binary/trans therapist Clark Hazel (They\Them), who shares their vulnerable story of resilience. Together we talk about never getting the lesbian sex talk, the paradoxical logic of the patriarchy, and processing through shame.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of May, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting The National Network of Abortion Funds (https://abortionfunds.org/)
Modern Anarchy Community:
Patreon
Instagram
Facebook
Clark's Community:
Instagram
Resources to Learn More:
The Singles Ward
Wild and Sublime
Cassie Porter
Spiritual Abuse Resources
Leaving the Fold: A Guide for Former Fundamentalists and Others Leaving Their Religion
Ex-Mormon Sub-reddit

May 18, 2022 • 1h 7min
57. Healing from Emotionally Immature Parents with Ebony Holloway
On today's episode, we have Ebony Holloway (She\Her) join us for a raw and vulnerable conversation about healing and dealing. Together we talk about emotional integrity, internal vs external processing, and embracing growth even when it hurts.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are fighting towards! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of May, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting The National Network of Abortion Funds (https://abortionfunds.org/)
Modern Anarchy Community:
Patreon
Instagram
Facebook
Ebony's Community:
everybodytothetable Instagram
honeyhomeandliving Instagram
muze_ish Instagram
Resources to Learn More:
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Thich Nhat Hanh
Does your body really replace itself every seven years?
The Water in You: Water and the Human Body
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
Long Term Physical Health Consequences of Adverse Childhood Experiences

May 11, 2022 • 44min
56. Building a Relationship Contract: Queer Theory, Kinky Monogamy, and the Relationship Escalator with Tom Doctor
On today's episode, we have sex and relationship therapist Tom Doctor (He\Them) join us for a conversation all about approaching our relationships with curiosity. Together we talk about the healing nature of community, questioning the "shoulds," and turning our relationship contracts into google docs.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are fighting towards! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of May, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting The National Network of Abortion Funds (https://abortionfunds.org/)
Modern Anarchy Community:
Instagram
Facebook
Patreon
Resources to Learn More:
Introduction: Antinormativity’s Queer Conventions
What is the Relationship Escalator?
Timing Is Everything When It Comes To Marriage Counseling
Why Every Couple Needs a Relationship Contract
From housework to sex, here's how relationship contracts can help couples

May 4, 2022 • 1h 42min
55. Tuning Into My Embodied Self: Demi-Sexuality, Polyamory, and Somatic Experiencing with Meggie Twible
On today's episode, we are joined by somatic experiencing therapist, Meggie Twible (She\Her), for a conversation all about slowing down to land in the present. Together we talk about the language of sensation, orienting to pleasure, and working through our fears about polyamory.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are fighting towards! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund.
For the month of May, the Modern Anarchy Patreon Family will be supporting The National Network of Abortion Funds (https://abortionfunds.org/)
Modern Anarchy Community:
Instagram
Facebook
Patreon
Resources to Learn More:
Autonomic Nervous System
The bowel and beyond: the enteric nervous system in neurological disorders
How to Use All 5 Senses to Beat Stress
Mindful Eating: The Art of Presence While You Eat
Cultural differences in emotion: differences in emotional arousal level between the East and the West
The Myth Of Multitasking
Confirmation Bias in 5 Minutes
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
Introduction to Carl Jung - The Psyche, Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious
Bronfenbrenner's Ecological Systems: 5 Forces Impacting Our Lives