
Modern Anarchy
Nicole is a queer Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist with training in Psychedelic-Integration Therapy. As one of the leading theorists on non-monogamy and sexuality, Nicole bridges academic research with embodied, pleasure-centered strategies to help individuals navigate intimacy, relationships, and desire. Tune in each Wednesday to join her exploration of sex, relationships, and liberation with pleasure activists from around the world. Are you ready to dive in?
For Resources to Learn More: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
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Nov 30, 2022 • 1h 12min
85. Embracing Your Sluthood and Geeking Out About Relationship Anarchy with Brian Gibney
On today's episode, we have surrogate partner and intimacy coach Brian Gibney (He\Him) join us for a conversation all about fully embracing your sluthood through relationship anarchy. Together we talk about reinventing yourself with radical vulnerability, waving your freak flag, and finding security in the gift that you are in your relationships.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
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50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
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Resources to Learn More:
The Ethical Slut
Can You Be Asexual, but Also Enjoy Kink?
Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life
Central Relational Paradox
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

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Nov 23, 2022 • 1h 19min
84. Relationship Anarchy: The Romance Myth and Navigating Jealousy with Dean Spade
On today's episode, writer and activist Dean Spade (He\Him) joins us for a conversation all about liberating our relationships from patriarchal and capitalist understandings of connection. Together we talk about building community outside of the nuclear model, choosing to be uncomfortable in order to live more, and feeling powerless to jealousy.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
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Resources to Learn More:
Fireweed Collective
Dismantling the Romance Myth
Falling In Love Hits The Brain Like Cocaine Does
The Brain Looks The Same When We're In Love Or High On Cocaine
What is the Relationship Escalator?
Loneliness at epidemic levels in America
Angela Davis likens abolishing the prison system to end of slavery
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
Between monogamy and polyamory
Relationship anarchy could be about so much more than the freedom to fuck
Of relationship anarchy, accessibility and sitting shiva— Part 1: The anarchism of “relationship anarchy

Nov 16, 2022 • 1h 11min
83. Everyone is Alone Together: Celibacy, People Pleasing, and Self-Love with Ally McDowell
On today's episode, Ally McDowell (She\Her) opens up vulnerably about her mental health journey and reconnecting with her body. Together we talk about itching the wound in mental spirals, giving people the opportunity to love us, and the beauty of smoking a bowl and stretching it out.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
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Resources To Learn More:
Grumpy Cat
Schitt's Creek
Generational Trauma
Cannabis for the Treatment of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: A Report of 3 Cases
“I Use Weed for My ADHD”: A Qualitative Analysis of Online Forum Discussions on Cannabis Use and ADHD
Maggie Rogers - Back In My Body (Audio)

Nov 9, 2022 • 1h 10min
82. What Is Tantra? with Yoli Maya Yeh
On today's episode, we have educator Yoli Maya Yeh (She\Her) join us for a discussion about the indigenous tradition and enlightenment practice of tantra. Together we talk about how the goddess became a tool of the patriarchy, the warped and reductionist notion of tantra under capitalism, and reaching every moment an orgasm.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
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Nov 2, 2022 • 1h 14min
81. Masturbation: It's Amazing and I Can't Tell Anyone About It with Jess DeVries
Activation Warning: Spiritual Trauma
On today's episode, Jess DeVries (She\Her) shares her powerful journey from shameful masturbation to relationship anarchy liberation and queering love. Together we talk about the ontological shift of leaving religion, the divine intervention of dating a kinky person, losing your virginity twice, and ABCD... Anal.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
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Beloved Coaching
Resources to Learn More:
'I Kissed Dating Goodbye' author: How and why I've rethought dating and purity culture
Leaving the Fold: A Guide for Former Fundamentalists and Others Leaving Their Religion
How Does Purity Culture Trauma Impact Sexuality?
What It’s Like Being a Relationship Anarchist
A Beginner's Guide To Relationship Anarchy: Examples & How To Practice

Oct 26, 2022 • 60min
80. Are You Carrying Trauma From a Past Life? with Cai Carvalhaes
On today's episode, PhD candidate Cai Carvalhaes (She\Her) joins us for a conversation all about past life regression. Together we talk about awakening archetypes, fractals and the quantum dimension, and expanding beyond our minds.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/
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Resources to Learn More:
Is Hypnotherapy FAKE therapy?
Researchers Create World's First Quantum Fractals
The Collective Unconscious – What is It, and Why Should You Care?
Who is Carl Jung?
The Archetypes of the Anima and Animus
Narrative Therapy
Water Codes: The Science of Health, Consciousness, and Enlightenment
Sean Carroll - What are Observers?
Does Consciousness Influence Quantum Mechanics?
Fear of a smell can be passed down several generations
False Memories

Oct 19, 2022 • 58min
79. Think BIG and Scare Yourself with Alycia Levels-Moore
On today's episode, artist Alycia Levels-Moore (she\her) join us for a conversation all about calling out the seeds of greatness to becoming our highest self. Together we talk about the importance of having a supportive community, letting go of the victim mentality, and how things just show up when you set your intention.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/
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ASL CREATIVE FIRM
Resources to Learn More:
Understanding Boundaries: What Is Projective Identification?
Letting Go of Victim Mentality to Heal
The Power of Setting Intentions

Oct 12, 2022 • 1h 22min
78. A Spiritual Direction Session: What is Spirituality? with Mandie McGlynn
On today's episode, we have spiritual guide Mandie McGlynn (She/Her) join us for a conversation all about finding a safe space to explore what we believe spiritually. Together we talk about how we each have our own sense of what is sacred, the power of the narratives we tell ourselves, and healing from the wounds of spiritual abuse.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/
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Resources to Learn More:
Rent the Musical
earth centered religion
Predestination in Calvinism
what is existentialism
Reversing Roe
what does numinous mean
breathe festival
wild woman archetype
Tarot therapy: Why some believe the cards can help mental health
gilead chicago church
The Healing Power of Sound as Meditation
Women Who Run with Wolves

Oct 5, 2022 • 1h 17min
77. I was the Poster Child for Purity: Asexuality, Spiritual Abuse, and Racism with Trifecta
On today's episode, artist and activist Trifecta (They\Them) joins us for a conversation all about their journey through spiritual abuse to embracing their blackness and asexual identity. Together we talk about why love is missing from Christianity, healing from unhealthy relationships, and fetishzing certain sins.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/
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Resources to Learn More:
What is Asexuality?
Leaving the Fold
As a black person, I’m done helping white Christians feel better about race

Sep 28, 2022 • 1h 45min
76. Polyamory Is an Equally Bad Decision: Kink, Intersecting Identities, and Power Dynamics with Tien
On today's episode, Tien (They\Them) joins us for a conversation about the beautiful, gorgeous, and complicated ways our identities intersect. Together we talk about their history of 13 years within the kink community, when non-monogamy is not intuitive, and navigating Dom Sub power dynamics in non-monogamy.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/
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Resources to Learn More:
Hump Film Festival
Jessie Sparkles
A Guide To Cuckolding
Cuckquean
Munch (BDSM)
What Is Generational Trauma?
And Just What Is A Leather Family?
138 - Conscious Monogamy
Ambiamorous