Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

Emily & Johnny Spigelmire | Christian Marriage Recovery Coaches
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Apr 7, 2025 • 32min

100 | Getting Real Help for Your Marriage: 10 Obstacles to Counseling and Coaching

In our 100th episode of the Beyond Broken Vows podcast, we’re throwing a little celebration for the incredible journey of our podcast and the amazing work that God has done through it. Join us as we share our personal experiences navigating the tricky waters of pornography and infidelity in our marriage. We’ll dive into the real challenges couples often face when reaching out for help.   Together, we’ll explore ten common hurdles that can get in the way of relationship coaching and counseling – think shame, financial constraints, time limitations… We really believe it’s essential to seek support and push past these barriers, because that’s where healing and true intimacy can begin.   Plus, we’ll clarify how coaching differs from counseling, and we’ll inspire you to invest in your emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being.   Let’s take this journey together!   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.  
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Mar 31, 2025 • 33min

99 | When the Past Invades: 4 Steps to Victory Over Euphoric Recall

On today’s episode, we delve into the topic of euphoric recall, a painful yet critical aspect of sexual addiction recovery.   Emily shares her perspective as a betrayed wife, highlighting the emotional turmoil that accompanies these intrusive memories.   Meanwhile, Johnny explains his own experiences with euphoric recall and outlines a robust four-step battle plan to confront and dissolve these recollections.   It’s not a pleasant part of the journey to healing, but one necessary to face head-on with your spouse and a community of support.   We hope it blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 97. "The Bubble" - What Makes Sex Addiction So Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful? Episode 98. Navigating Porn Withdrawal and the Path of Least Resistance   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.  
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Mar 24, 2025 • 19min

98 | Navigating Porn Withdrawal and the Path of Least Resistance

Today we’re tackling an incredibly important topic: porn withdrawal and its impact on those bravely striving to break free from porn addiction.   We chat about both the mental and physical symptoms that can pop up during this journey, along with the challenges people often face when trying to leave behind the familiar paths of addiction.   We’ll share some practical steps to help you overcome these hurdles with confidence. We’ll also shine a light on the role of the amygdala in addiction, reminding us of the importance of seeking help and connecting with others instead of facing this journey alone.   Finding your personal ‘why’ for recovery is key, and we’re here to support you every step of the way! Let’s dive in together and make this journey a little easier and a lot more hopeful!   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 56. Identifying Sex Addiction: Take the First Step Today   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.  
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Mar 17, 2025 • 38min

97 | "The Bubble" - What Makes Sex Addiction So Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful?

What is addiction?   How does it work?   Is it just about deciding to stop destructive behaviors?   Addiction can be a mystery for many couples. Husbands may wonder if they are addicts after betraying their spouse. Wives often struggle to understand how their partner could engage in such hurtful actions for so long.   When our marriage faced sexual betrayal six years ago, we were just as confused about sexual addiction as many of you. Since then, we've learned a lot and want to share key insights about addiction.   We will explore the complexities of sex addiction. We'll discuss how addiction affects not only the addict but also their loved ones, especially spouses.   We’ll cover the addiction cycle and its pain, using the concept of 'The Bubble' to explain the addict's inner world.   This episode is a chance to learn and and also foster conversations that lead to deeper intimacy.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Out of the Shadows, by Patrick Carnes (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull    NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.  
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Mar 10, 2025 • 43min

96 | The Message in the Affair: Self-Discovery After His Infidelity, with April Truitt

When it comes to confronting the aftermath of sexual betrayal, each of us will set out on a unique journey to healing and restoration. This was certainly true of our guest April Truitt. April shares the deeply personal and transformative story of her marriage's journey through infidelity. After discovering her husband's affair, April recounts the emotional devastation and the path to recovery that followed. She discusses the underlying issues in their marriage, their struggles with insecurity, and how her husband's affair led to a profound period of self-examination and spiritual growth. With time and guidance from their church and counselor, this precious couple was able to confront their emotional intimacy issues, work through forgiveness, and rebuild their marriage stronger than before. April also highlights her own battles with shame, negative self-talk, and the transformative power of relying on God's grace. Now, as an author and speaker, she aims to help others facing similar struggles, offering her book, 'A Wife's Recovery from an Affair: The Story of a Faithful God,' and a free journaling workbook on her website. Join us today as we hear from April about what God was teaching her through her personal recovery journey. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   CONNECT WITH APRIL: www.apriltruitt.com www.awifesrecoveryfromanaffair.com mailto:apriltruittspeaker@gmail.com FB - April Truitt Speaker/Author Freebie! An Affair Recovery Journal Prompt/Devotional Download www.awifesrecoveryfromanaffair.com/free-affair-recovery-workbook   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery Episode 58. Purpose from Pain. Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage?    NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
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Mar 3, 2025 • 24min

95 | Weddings and Pirates and Triggers. Oh, my!

After sexual betrayal is discovered in a marriage and the couple decides to embark on the journey to recovery, there are many opportunities for social events to become emotionally challenging, causing what many call triggers.   Today we recount a fun, awkward, semi-harrowing story of our weekend adventure at a pirate-themed wedding; fraught with danger, and also some victories.   Listen in to hear which tools in our relational toolbox were the keys to turning a difficult social situation into a bonding experience. Hint, it may have something to do with the importance of preparation and vigilance.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)             RELATED EPISODES: Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
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Feb 24, 2025 • 46min

94 | From “Oh, Hell No!” to "The Golden Ticket" - 4 Phases of Sexuality in Recovery from Adultery

Discover the emotional challenges of reclaiming intimacy after infidelity. Hear personal stories that illuminate the journey from betrayal to renewed connection. The hosts discuss navigating complex feelings, the significance of open communication, and the role of faith in healing. They share insights on creating a 'new normal' in relationships and the unconventional methods that foster deeper intimacy. This heartfelt discussion is a beacon of hope for couples seeking to rebuild their sexual relationship after trauma.
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Feb 17, 2025 • 31min

93 | Creating Healthy Connections While Healing from Betrayal Trauma and Sex-Addiction

Connection...   When you think about connecting with others, what comes to mind?    What does it truly mean to be connected, and what are healthy connections? And speaking of healthy connections, it makes you wonder—are there unhealthy connections?   What do your connections look like in your life?   Join us today as we dive into these intriguing questions and explore the meaning of connections together!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)            RELATED EPISODES: Episode 57. Alone No More: How Isolation Fuels Sex-Addiction and How to Defeat It Episode 53. 4 Ways To Help a Friend Experiencing Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.  
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Feb 10, 2025 • 38min

92 | Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you realized that making a significant personal sacrifice was the key to resolving a difficult situation? And that this decision would alter your life as you know it? Often, these moments involve putting the needs of someone else first. It’s those we love most with whom we often decide to "die to self." We’d love for you to join us today as Johnny shares four pivotal moments from his recovery journey where he chose to put Emily ahead of himself in their marriage. We can’t wait for you to hear his inspiring story! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)             RELATED EPISODES: Episode 51. Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal Episode 60. The High Cost of Freedom in a Sexually Betrayed Marriage   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.  
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Feb 3, 2025 • 7min

91 | Overwhelmed While Recovering From Betrayal Trauma or Porn-Fueled Infidelity?

Okay, picture this scene: you are on vacation at the beach, having a great time soaking in the sun and playing in the ocean. You're making your way further and further out into deeper water. The waves are getting steadily higher but it’s still manageable as your feet are connected to the sandy ocean floor.   Suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, a very large and powerful wave comes crashing over your head. You are overwhelmed - taken off your feet, tossed about, and feeling like you might drown.   Similar scenes play out from time to time in our recovery journeys from sexual betrayal and addiction. This is certainly true for us.   Join us as we share about the “wave” that overwhelmed us this week.  Our desire as we share our story is that you will know that you are not alone and there is hope.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)             RELATED EPISODES: Episode 12. His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real? Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.  

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