

Normalizing Non-Monogamy - Interviews in Polyamory and Swinging
Emma and Fin
Hi! We’re Emma and Fin! We’re a married couple in our thirties who have been exploring non-monogamy for over 15 years. Every week we interview people from across the spectrums of gender, sexuality, and relationship styles to hear their amazing stories.
Many of our guests identify as swingers or polyamorous. However, quite a few have redefined non-monogamy in their own way by creating a unique dynamic that works for them. We hope that by giving a voice to the diverse community exploring non-monogamy that we can show people they are not alone and inspire them to embrace their true selves so that, together, we can open minds and live authentically without shame.
We hope you enjoy the show and who knows, maybe someday you’ll even be up for sharing your own story. We’d love to hear it!
Many of our guests identify as swingers or polyamorous. However, quite a few have redefined non-monogamy in their own way by creating a unique dynamic that works for them. We hope that by giving a voice to the diverse community exploring non-monogamy that we can show people they are not alone and inspire them to embrace their true selves so that, together, we can open minds and live authentically without shame.
We hope you enjoy the show and who knows, maybe someday you’ll even be up for sharing your own story. We’d love to hear it!
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Dec 22, 2021 • 1h 29min
Ep 215 - Michaela + Paul
Michaela and Paul have been together about three years and actually met while Michaela was exploring non-monogamy with her ex-husband. After they officially got together they closed their relationship down for a bit to establish some security and now are back out on the journey together. We have some amazing conversations about transitioning relationships, bisexual men in the swinging lifestyle, sexual health, and of course a few bloopers! Enjoy!
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Dec 15, 2021 • 1h 13min
Ep 214 - Misha
Misha has been exploring non-monogamy in varying forms since she was in her twenties when she kind of fell into a spontaneous triad. Since then, the journey has allowed her to explore sex parties, kink, and polyamory. We have some amazing conversations about attachment and what it means to be in a relationship and have a partner. We also get some bonus tips on creating better sex parties.
Misha also co-produces Bonobo Network with William Winters. Alongside William, she is passionate about supporting sex positive community and helping people create more pleasure for themselves. She teaches and consults individuals and communities to develop their consent culture with a harm reduction and transformative justice lens. Her private practice, Clearing Conversations, focuses on conflict resolution and communication coaching and she loves supporting the sex positive community of the Bay Area and beyond in creating sustainable, long-term relationship building.
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Dec 8, 2021 • 1h 25min
Ep 213 - Michaela + Bryson
Michaela is 27 and has been exploring non-monogamy for a little over three years. She is an acrobat and does acro-yoga and acro-burlesque. Two things we didn't even know existed until we talked to her!
Bryson is 28 and also an acrobat and acrobatics instructor. He's been exploring non-monogamy since he met Michaela about two and a half years ago.
This conversation we have with them is so incredible. They talk about their individual struggles over the years and how they have grown together. They also talk about how their relationship has changed over the last few months and how it led them to really look hard at what it means to be a partner and how they make their partnership work. There are so many amazing conversations in this interview.... Don't skip it. You'll thank us, we promise!
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Dec 6, 2021 • 47min
Ep 212 - Luna Ray
Luna is a 31 year old queer, polyamorous, kinky, badass who is on a journey to answer the question: How can software help people build meaningful relationships? She's been exploring non-monogamy for the last few years and shares with us what draws her to this approach to relationships and how it influences all aspects of her life. She also talks about how non-monogamy inspired her to develop an app called Bloom to help people build community. Bloom is a sex-positive and consent-forward dating and social community. We highly recommend you download the app and check out the incredible work that Luna and her team are doing. Enjoy!
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Dec 1, 2021 • 1h 6min
Ep 211 - Judie + Eldon
"Your life doesn't stop at age 60!" Judie is emphatic about this as she moves through her sixties and Eldon, his seventies. This interview is beautiful and covers a lot things we don't often get the chance to talk about... Everything from infidelity to Eldon waking up one day and walking away from religion after being a minister for 20 years.
Judie is an unashamed badass who seizes life everyday. It's amazing. A few months back Eldon brought the idea of opening up their marriage to her and well, as you can imagine, she has fully embraced it. They both have... Enjoy!
Judie also hosts her own podcast called Plus Size Polyamory. Check it out and support the work she is doing there.
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Nov 24, 2021 • 1h 18min
Ep 210 - Daev
Daev is in his early forties and has been exploring non-monogamy in various ways since about 2014. He was on the show about a year ago with his partner Shannon on Episode 166. Since our last discussion, a lot has changed... For one, Daev and Shannon are no longer together. His personal journey into solo polyamory has been very impactful for him in the last few months. We have a great conversation with him about the role having an open relationship played in their relationship ending plus how he has handled grieving the loss of the that relationship and how he is moving forward.
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Nov 17, 2021 • 1h 18min
Ep 209 - Jenna + Wendi
Jenna and Wendi have known each other about eight years and have been married for three. Jenna is polyamorous. Wendi is not. These two share so much love, laughter, and life together and it is beautiful. In this amazing conversation they talk about navigating the imbalances in their "mono-poly" relationship, confronting insecurities, and how much respect they have for one another and their individual relationships. We absolutely love this conversation and hope you do as well!
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Nov 10, 2021 • 1h 25min
Ep 208 - Ali + Michael
Ali and Michael have been together since their high school days over 17 years ago. After their first year of college, Ali brought up the idea of opening their relationship and to her delight, Michael was up for it. Thirteen years, and many bumps and bruises later, they have dabbled in kink, swinging, and polyamory trying to find what works best for them. Right now, they've decided on the broadest description they could come up with: ethically non-monogamous. This conversation covers so much - from dealing with and basically overcoming shame, to how they created a beautiful throuple dynamic with a partner in Iceland. Definitely do not skip this one!
Ali is a travel and wildlife journalist. Her work can be found on Forbes, HuffPost, VICE, and Lonely Planet. She also writes about non-monogamy for Cosmopolitan. We were drawn to her work because she writes about non-monogamy from the first person perspective and for people in the non-monogamous community, not to create click bait exploiting it. Definitely check out her work here!
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Nov 3, 2021 • 1h 3min
Ep 207 - Red + Jay
Red and Jay are in their early thirties and have been together about nine years and married for five. They consider themselves social swingers and started exploring non-monogamy right at the beginning of the pandemic… Perfect timing, right?! In this conversation with us, they discuss how they have navigated opening their relationship at possibly the worst time ever, how they navigate swinging when one of them is pretty introverted and one of them is an extrovert, plus, they even came prepared with a blooper or two! This is a super fun conversation and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did! Enjoy!
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Oct 27, 2021 • 1h 22min
Ep 206 - Gabby: Round 2
This is our second interview with Gabby this week… In case you missed it, Gabby is a married, 37 year old, bisexual, relationship anarchist who has been exploring non-monogamy for about 10 years. In our first conversation with her, she shared with us how being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, PTSD, ADHD, and borderline personality disorder in her late teens has impacted and informed her relationships and non-monogamy. In this episode, we lighten things up just a bit. Gabby shares a bunch of amazing stories from her decade of experience and each one weaves in incredibly valuable lessons on trust, consent, boundaries, and even a bit of sexiness! We had such an amazing time talking with Gabby again and hope you enjoy this conversation as well!
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