

Normalizing Non-Monogamy - Personal Stories of Polyamory, Swinging, and Beyond
Emma and Fin
Hi! We’re your hosts Emma and Fin! We’re a married couple in our late thirties and we’ve been exploring non-monogamy in different ways since nearly the beginning of our relationship more than twenty years ago. But, this podcast isn’t about us…
We strongly believe there isn’t a “right way” to be non-monogamous or even that non-monogamy is better or more evolved than monogamy or any other relationship style. Every week we interview people from across the spectrums of gender, sexuality, and relationship style to learn from their incredible and powerful personal stories.
Each episode is a unique perspective and personal story… Pick one that sounds interesting and give it a listen!
We hope that by sharing the amazing journeys of those who are redefining and pushing the limits of what’s possible in relationships that we can show people that they’re not alone and inspire us all to embrace our true selves so that, together, we can open minds and live authentically without shame.
We strongly believe there isn’t a “right way” to be non-monogamous or even that non-monogamy is better or more evolved than monogamy or any other relationship style. Every week we interview people from across the spectrums of gender, sexuality, and relationship style to learn from their incredible and powerful personal stories.
Each episode is a unique perspective and personal story… Pick one that sounds interesting and give it a listen!
We hope that by sharing the amazing journeys of those who are redefining and pushing the limits of what’s possible in relationships that we can show people that they’re not alone and inspire us all to embrace our true selves so that, together, we can open minds and live authentically without shame.
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Feb 23, 2022 • 1h 30min
Ep 224 - Hannah + Greg
Hannah and Greg have been together for 13 years and actually took a unique approach to opening their relationship pretty early on. They would spend summers apart and during that time they gave one another the freedom to explore. They talk a lot about that experience and trying to navigate an open relationship without resources or a solid understanding of what they were doing or how to do it. More recently they have revisited the idea of non-monogamy and over the last few years have slowly opened their relationship in a much more tactical way. It hasn't been an easy road and they have learned a lot. We love how vulnerable they both are during this conversation. Enjoy!
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Feb 16, 2022 • 1h 10min
Ep 223 - Brooke
Brooke and her husband began exploring swinging 21 years into their now 30+ year marriage. Swinging led to polyamory, and multiple attempts at quad dynamics before determining that the quad dynamic was not a good fit for them, even if polyamory was. Woven into this incredible story are some amazing conversations on letting go of blame and anger after an infidelity as well as setting boundaries and what happens when you don't. This is a beautiful conversation and we hope you enjoy it.
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Feb 11, 2022 • 50min
FF 2.4 - All Things Condoms with Milla from ONE Condoms
Milla is the Director of Marketing and Senior Size Specialist at ONE Condoms and myONE Custom Fit Condoms and she's with us today to talk all things condoms... She's been on a mission to improve sexual health education since her terrible sex-ed experience in high school and she is a blast to talk to. This isn't a boring sex-ed lecture, we promise. Bonus! Save 20% on your order at both ONE and myONE when you use the code NNM!
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Feb 9, 2022 • 1h 9min
Ep 222 - Chris
Chris identifies as a bisexual, polyamorous woman and has two partners. She feels as if she has been polyamorous since she was in her twenties but didn't have a framework for it. After navigating a series of infidelities on her behalf over the years, her husband approached her and asked to officially open the relationship. They explored a swinging dynamic for a few years until their relationship ultimately ended. Since then, Chris has been on her own journey to figure out what works best for her. We have a great conversation on a wide range of topics, as she shares not only the trials and challenges that she has faced but also the happiness and joy it brings to her life. Enjoy!
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Feb 2, 2022 • 1h 39min
Ep 221 - She, My Wife, and I (Kate + Travis)
This conversation with Kate and Travis has so much depth, laughter, and love. It's amazing... There isn't much that's conventional about these two and we absolutely love how proud they are and how they support each other.
In a nutshell... They have been together 10 years and married for one. It all started when Travis' friend bet him that he couldn't hook up with Kate. But first, they became roommates. Kate moved in but not to her room... To Travis'. Then they started hooking up, then exploring with threesomes, then within four months Kate was pregnant. Then Kate moved out and they decided to try dating each other instead of just hooking up. Then... Surprise, a second baby! Years later, they're still going strong. Best friends exploring non-monogamy and living life to the fullest. It's a beautiful and fun story.
Last year, Kate and Travis decided to start documenting some of their journey on a podcast called She, My Wife, and I. Check it out to learn more and follow along as they adventure through life together!
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Jan 26, 2022 • 1h 20min
Ep 220 - Rachel
Rachel started exploring non-monogamy in 2015 when she was in her late twenties and her boyfriend brought it up. Initially, they went down the hotwife path but through those experiences she realized she was seeking deeper connections. Over the last few years she has been exploring what it is she wants from non-monogamy and how to make it a reality. We have great conversations about confronting jealously from both sides (being the one who is jealous and being the one who is inducing it in a partner), sexual health, and going after what you want in life. It is a beautiful interview and we hope you enjoy it.
Rachel is also the author of the newly released book called Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-Monogamy. Order it today, support her work, and go even deeper than we do in our interview.
Check out the full show notes here.
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Jan 21, 2022 • 49min
FF 2.3 - The Enneagram Experience with Kelsia - Part 3
The Enneagram is a personality and motivation assessment. It is one of the most powerful and insightful tools for understanding ourselves and others at a deeper level. At its core, the Enneagram helps us to see ourselves at a deeper, more objective level and can be of invaluable assistance on our path to self-knowledge.
For this 3-part series, we've partnered with Enneagram coach Kelsia from Expansive Connection to help us understand our Enneagram types better. This three part series mirrors the Enneagram Experience she offers to anyone looking to understand themselves and those around them better.
Part 1
Kelsia explains the nine different personality types and then dives into the details of our specific numbers. We get into an emotional conversation about how all of the behaviors and motivations she describes are incredibly accurate and how they play out for us in our lives and relationships.
Part 2
Kelsia explains how we adapt in times of stress and times of calm. Our Enneagram numbers don't change but we take on traits from other types. The three of us talk about what this looks like for us specifically and how we can help support each other in times of stress and ironically, even in times of calm.
Part 3
Kelsia digs into the centers of intelligence and how to tap into yours. Listening to your body is incredibly important. She walks through an exercise with us to help us understand this better.
Check out the full show notes here.
Sign Up For The Enneagram Experience With Kelsia
Kelsia's Email: kel@expansiveconnection.com
Expansive Connection
The Enneagram diagram we reference
The website to take the $12 Enneagram test (not an affiliate link, just a regular link)
Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events!
Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets!
Join Our Patreon Community!
$10 Off - Online STI Testing
https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Jan 19, 2022 • 54min
Ep 219 - Franziska
Franziska doesn't love labels but she's in her early twenties and identifies as a queer, bisexual, gender queer, kinky switch... She's shares with us how she was really first exposed to non-monogamy while living in Berlin and how her approach to relationships has evolved over the last few years.
She also talks about how non-monogamy has informed other aspects of her life beyond her relationships. This led her to join the team at Bloom. Bloom is a sex-positive and consent-forward dating and social community. We highly recommend you download the app and check out the incredible work that her, Luna from episode 212, and the rest of the Bloom team are doing. Enjoy!
Check out the full show notes here.
Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events!
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$10 Off - Online STI Testing
https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Jan 14, 2022 • 2h 2min
FF 2.2 - The Enneagram Experience with Kelsia - Part 2
The Enneagram is a personality and motivation assessment. It is one of the most powerful and insightful tools for understanding ourselves and others at a deeper level. At its core, the Enneagram helps us to see ourselves at a deeper, more objective level and can be of invaluable assistance on our path to self-knowledge.
For this 3-part series, we've partnered with Enneagram coach Kelsia from Expansive Connection to help us understand our Enneagram types better. This three part series mirrors the Enneagram Experience she offers to anyone looking to understand themselves and those around them better.
Part 1
Kelsia explains the nine different personality types and then dives into the details of our specific numbers. We get into an emotional conversation about how all of the behaviors and motivations she describes are incredibly accurate and how they play out for us in our lives and relationships.
Part 2
Kelsia explains how we adapt in times of stress and times of calm. Our Enneagram numbers don't change but we take on traits from other types. The three of us talk about what this looks like for us specifically and how we can help support each other in times of stress and ironically, even in times of calm.
Part 3
Kelsia digs into the centers of intelligence and how to tap into yours. Listening to your body is incredibly important. She walks through an exercise with us to help us understand this better.
Check out the full show notes here.
Sign Up For The Enneagram Experience With Kelsia
Kelsia's Email: kel@expansiveconnection.com
Expansive Connection
The Enneagram diagram we reference
The website to take the $12 Enneagram test (not an affiliate link, just a regular link)
Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events!
Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets!
Join Our Patreon Community!
$10 Off - Online STI Testing
https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Jan 12, 2022 • 1h 8min
Ep 218 - Whitney
Whitney is a bisexual woman in her early thirties who grew up in the Mormon church and has been married for 14 years to her high school sweetheart. She has been "officially" exploring polyamory for about three years but has had non-monogamous tendencies throughout their entire relationship. She and her husband even tried swinging for a bit until she recognized she has a need for deeper connections.. This is a fantastic conversation that covers a lot of deep topics. We hope you enjoy!
Whitney is also finishing up her psychology degree and is starting to work with people in alternative relationships as a coach. You can learn more by visiting her website at www.theselfevolution.com.
Check out the full show notes here.
Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events!
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Join Our Patreon Community!
$10 Off - Online STI Testing
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