From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody Steurer

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description In this episode I interview Kimberly Day, LMHCA, about how to better diagnose and confront abuse in marriage. Kim says that when we think of betrayal trauma and really understand the dynamics of a relationship when one partner is addicted to porn or sex, it's important to look at all abuse dynamics to get a complete picture. Abuse is an important and often under appreciated dimension in a multi-dimensional problem. Download the graph that corresponds with this episode https://www.geoffsteurer.com/episode-74-download and you'll see that one axis is our typical 'addict-mode' behaviors: acting out, lying, even gaslighting (even though that is abuse), etc.- these are behaviors that rise out of the compulsions to act out, keep it secret, addict-mode thought distortions, etc.  Along this axis is where most all addiction and betrayal trauma is assessed and treated. But there is another dimension that helps us explain and more deeply understand and support a lot of people - that is the dimension of the Abusive Attitudes and Beliefs held by the addicted partner, including entitlement and superiority, out of which abuses of power and control, objectification of family members, and other forms of dehumanizing treatment arise. These are the underlying currents of devaluing and dehumanizing the partner that are the source of a lot of trauma, though they are very rarely fully recognized or addressed. This perspective/model helps us to explain some of the confusion that both practitioners and partners experience when the "acting out" is dealt with, but the treatment toward the partner does not improve. In this episode, we dialogue around what it might look like in each of the four quadrants and how the experience and the sources of trauma and safety/lack of safety may be different in each. We contrast the "Acting out High/Abusive Attitudes Low" quadrant from the "Acting out Low/Abusive Attitudes High"- this type of differentiation is what Kim believes is being missed when we blanket cover all addiction as abuse, or when we ignore so many other forms of abuse and clump them all into addict-mode behavior. Download the chart here: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/episode-74-download More on Kimberly's Background: Kimberly graduated from BYU with a Bachelors in Psychology, served an LDS mission, and then went back to school to earn a Masters Degree from Washington State University in Counseling Psychology in 2007. She loves to read, cuddle with her kiddos, eat ice cream, and trade stock derivatives. Despite her degrees, she took a fairly circuitous route into the professional counseling field. She worked in Higher Education for several years, at University of Idaho for Student Support Services (while earning her degree), and also Washington State and Boise State Universities in Financial Aid. Later she worked at a financial planning firm where she worked mainly with clients around retirement. But, as thrillingly predictable as risk analyses and investment return calculations, she felt the call to come back to her love for counseling and working with people through life’s challenges. Her focus is working with individuals suffering from Betrayal Trauma, or other types of complex relationship traumas. She is action and results focused, and believes strongly in each individual’s innate abilities to move them toward healing and growth. She believes in the importance of establishing positive interpersonal connections, practicing healthy relationship patterns, and in owning your own story and personal empowerment as being critical to healing from traumatic life events. *** This therapist is recognized by the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists as being trained in the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (M-PTM). The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description I interview author and psychologist, Dr. Mark Chamberlain, about our struggle to experience true enjoyment in today's desensitized culture. Screens, abundant food, and other forms of stimulation make it difficult for our nervous systems and bodies to truly enjoy life's little pleasures. It can also be a challenge to enjoy relationships, spirituality, nature, and other joys when we've been dulled by constant overstimulation. Dr. Chamberlain wrote a book called, "Wanting More: The challenge of enjoyment in the age of addiction", that presents a solution for how we can start savoring and enjoying the simple pleasures and joys of life. Purchase "Wanting More" https://amzn.to/3lyfNUs More on Mark's Background: I love listening to individuals and couples in an effort to enter their world as they see it, and hopefully over time help them rise above the limits of their current perceptions to take a broader perspective and discover previously unseen possibilities. Over the years, I’ve found some specific research-validated relapse-prevention skills to be quite helpful for individuals in the early stages of recovering from addiction. Over the long-term, most clients’ recovery is greatly strengthened by deeper emotional connections in relationships. I use Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to help couples heal the negative cycles that can sabotage such closeness. The greatest reward comes when they discover that true, deep attachment is “the real deal” that old addictions could never counterfeit. Credentials: • Doctorate Degree in Clinical Psychology • Licensed Psychologist • Trained in Lifespan Integration • Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description I was thrilled to have my friend and co-author, Dr. Mark Chamberlain, join me on this episode of the podcast. Mark and I co-authored the book, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity" back in 2011. In this episode we talk about the origin of this book, how it helps couples, and what things we would change if it were reissued today. We also discuss the challenging nature of couples recovery and what couples need to fully heal from the impact of pornography.  You can purchase "Love You. Hate the Porn" HERE  More on Mark's Background: I love listening to individuals and couples in an effort to enter their world as they see it, and hopefully over time help them rise above the limits of their current perceptions to take a broader perspective and discover previously unseen possibilities. Over the years, I’ve found some specific research-validated relapse-prevention skills to be quite helpful for individuals in the early stages of recovering from addiction. Over the long-term, most clients’ recovery is greatly strengthened by deeper emotional connections in relationships. I use Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to help couples heal the negative cycles that can sabotage such closeness. The greatest reward comes when they discover that true, deep attachment is “the real deal” that old addictions could never counterfeit. Credentials: • Doctorate Degree in Clinical Psychology • Licensed Psychologist • Trained in Lifespan Integration • Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description Betrayed partners are understandably terrified to offer forgiveness and compassion to their unfaithful spouse. They've often already offered the benefit of the doubt, forgiveness, understanding, and compassion over years when they were being lied to and manipulated. So, the idea of extending this back to their partner doesn't feel safe. I join my dear friend and mentor, Dr. Wally Goddard, to talk about how we can first feel compassion from Jesus Christ in our own lives as a way to begin offering compassion in our marriage in the wake of betrayal. Dr. Goddard frames the discussion on compassion through the story of the Good Samaritan from the teachings of Jesus Christ found in the Bible.  More on Wally's Background: Wally Goddard is a retired professor of Family Life having served in Arkansas and Alabama. He developed programs on personal well-being, marriage, and parenting. He is well known for his many creative family programs, including The Marriage Garden, The Parenting Journey, and Blueprint for Happiness. Wally has authored or co-authored several books including Between Parent and Child, The Soft-Spoken Parent, and Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage. He has been recognized by his colleagues with several awards including the Outstanding Family Life Educator Award. Wally and his wife, Nancy, have three adult children, fourteen grandchildren, and have cared for many foster children over the years. Wally describes Nancy as the finest human being he has ever known. For more about the books Wally has written, go to his Amazon author page: www.amazon.com/H-Wallace-Goddard…1566156161&sr=1-2 The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description I join my dear friend and mentor, Dr. Wally Goddard, to talk about his blueprint for happiness. He describes five ways we can increase our own personal happiness regardless of what might be going on around us. You can download a copy of "Your Blueprint for Happiness" here: https://www.uaex.edu/publications/pdf/FCS813.pdf More on Wally's Background: Wally Goddard is a retired professor of Family Life having served in Arkansas and Alabama. He developed programs on personal well-being, marriage, and parenting. He is well known for his many creative family programs, including The Marriage Garden, The Parenting Journey, and Blueprint for Happiness. Wally has authored or co-authored several books including Between Parent and Child, The Soft-Spoken Parent, and Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage. He has been recognized by his colleagues with several awards including the Outstanding Family Life Educator Award. Wally and his wife, Nancy, have three adult children, fourteen grandchildren, and have cared for many foster children over the years. Wally describes Nancy as the finest human being he has ever known. For more about the books Wally has written, go to his Amazon author page: https://www.amazon.com/H-Wallace-Goddard/e/B001H6ND5A?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_2&qid=1566156161&sr=1-2 The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description Dr. Jill Manning joins me in this episode to talk about how betrayed partners can stay safe in their relationship in the aftermath of sexual betrayal. She introduces her safety checklist and guide to help support betrayed partner (available with the link below).  More on Jill's Background: Dr. Jill Manning is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), and a Board Certified TeleMental Health Provider (BC-TMH) who specializes in working with individuals impacted by sexual addiction, pornography or betrayal trauma in their primary relationship. In addition to her clinical work, Dr. Manning is a researcher, author, consultant, professional speaker and activist whose passion and dedication to combating sexual exploitation and obscenity is evident throughout her diverse body of work. Dr. Manning currently serves on the Board of Directors for Enough is Enough, a non-profit organization dedicated to making the Internet safer for children and families. Between 2016 and 2018, Dr. Manning served on the Board of Directors for the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). In addition to her volunteer work, Dr. Manning is committed to giving a portion of her annual practice income to charitable causes that strive to prevent or combat some of the very issues she treats. Enough is Enough and Operation Underground Railroad are two of the organizations Dr. Manning supports. She encourages others who are passionate about fighting obscenity and defending human dignity to consider donating as well. You can find Dr. Manning and her digital downloads at: www.drjillmanning.com/digital-downloads/ The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description Dr. Jill Manning joins me in this episode to talk about self-care for betrayed partners. She emphasizes the need to care for yourself physically, mentally, socially, and spiritually while healing from the impact of partner betrayal trauma.  More on Jill's Background: Dr. Jill Manning is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), and a Board Certified TeleMental Health Provider (BC-TMH) who specializes in working with individuals impacted by sexual addiction, pornography or betrayal trauma in their primary relationship. In addition to her clinical work, Dr. Manning is a researcher, author, consultant, professional speaker and activist whose passion and dedication to combating sexual exploitation and obscenity is evident throughout her diverse body of work. Dr. Manning currently serves on the Board of Directors for Enough is Enough, a non-profit organization dedicated to making the Internet safer for children and families. Between 2016 and 2018, Dr. Manning served on the Board of Directors for the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS).  In addition to her volunteer work, Dr. Manning is committed to giving a portion of her annual practice income to charitable causes that strive to prevent or combat some of the very issues she treats. Enough is Enough and Operation Underground Railroad are two of the organizations Dr. Manning supports. She encourages others who are passionate about fighting obscenity and defending human dignity to consider donating as well. You can find Dr. Manning and her digital downloads at: https://drjillmanning.com/digital-downloads/ The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description Both men and women have the desire to be heard and feel part of an organization. As the world feels more divided, it’s essential to understand how to find unity. Learn more from my wife Jody and her sister Jamee as they share their experiences with their podcast Your Place at the Table (**UPDATE** Their podcast is now called "Speak up Sister"). They discuss how to find unity with those who are marginalized and how to hear and help them. They also share how to understand anger while having authenticity in expressing emotions. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/speakupsisterpodcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SpeakUpSisterPodcast Website: https://speakupsister.net The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description Join me as I continue my interview with certified sex therapist, Laura Brotherson, as she discusses keys to healthy sexual intimacy. We usually talk about unhealthy sex and the forbidden especially when it comes to healing from pornography and sexual addiction. Even though focusing on sex won't fix a pornography or sexual addiction, couples who are working solid individual recoveries need good information so they can learn how to create healthy sex in their marriages. In this second episode of my two-part interview with her, we discuss: * The "Characteristics of healthy vs. unhealthy sex” chart (items 11-20) Additional Resources from Laura: Handout - Characteristics of Healthy and Unhealthy Sexuality - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/Characteristics-of-Healthy-and-Unhealthy-Sexuality-Raising-the-Bar.pdf Book – Knowing HER Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage - https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/product/knowing-intimately-12-keys-creating-sextraordinary-marriage-softcover/ Book – From Honeymoon to Happily Ever After: 23 Keys to Prepare for a Sextraordinary Marriage (newest book)- https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/product/honeymoon-happily-after-23-keys-prepare-sextraordinary-marriage/ Book – And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment - https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/product/and-they-were-not-ashamed-softcover/ Handout – Knowing HER Intimately (OVERVIEW) – 12 Essential Ingredients for a Sextraordinary Marriage - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/12-Essential-Ingredients-for-a-Sextraordinary-Marriage.pdf Handout - First Steps for Him & Her in Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/First-Steps-Her-Him-Developing-Sextraordinary-Marriage-FINAL.pdf Handout – Spiritual Surrender (7 Steps) – How to Do Spiritual Surrender - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/how-to-do-spiritual-surrender-7-steps.pdf Handout - "ACES" Diagram (Bridling or Embracing Sexuality) -- How She Can Want To - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/ACES-i-want-you-sex-diagram.pdf Handout - Fuel for Female Sexual Desire – How Women Get in the Mood (rocket diagram) - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/Fuel-female-sexual-desire-Brotherson.pdf Website - www.StrengtheningMarriage.com Website - www.MaritalIntimacyInstitute.com (client handouts/resources) Laura’s Podcast – The Marital Intimacy Show - https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/podcasts/ Laura’s Social Media Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/strengtheningmarriage/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/StrengtheningMarriage/ The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description We usually talk about unhealthy sex and the forbidden especially when it comes to healing from pornography and sexual addiction. Even though focusing on sex won't fix a pornography or sexual addiction, couples who are working solid individual recoveries need good information so they can learn how to create healthy sex in their marriages.Join me as I interview sex expert Laura Brotherson, licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, as we discuss 20 keys to health sex.  In this first episode of my two-part interview with her, we discuss:  * Why pornography is a sexual mis-educator for both men AND women  * The "Characteristics of healthy vs. unhealthy sex” chart (items 1-10) Additional Resources from Laura: Handout - Characteristics of Healthy and Unhealthy Sexuality - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/Characteristics-of-Healthy-and-Unhealthy-Sexuality-Raising-the-Bar.pdf  Book – Knowing HER Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/product/knowing-intimately-12-keys-creating-sextraordinary-marriage-softcover/ Book – From Honeymoon to Happily Ever After: 23 Keys to Prepare for a Sextraordinary Marriage (newest book)- https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/product/honeymoon-happily-after-23-keys-prepare-sextraordinary-marriage/  Book – And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment- https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/product/and-they-were-not-ashamed-softcover/ Handout – Knowing HER Intimately (OVERVIEW) – 12 Essential Ingredients for a Sextraordinary Marriage - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/12-Essential-Ingredients-for-a-Sextraordinary-Marriage.pdf Handout - First Steps for Him & Her in Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/First-Steps-Her-Him-Developing-Sextraordinary-Marriage-FINAL.pdf Handout – Spiritual Surrender (7 Steps) – How to Do Spiritual Surrender - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/how-to-do-spiritual-surrender-7-steps.pdf Handout - "ACES" Diagram (Bridling or Embracing Sexuality) -- How She Can Want To - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/ACES-i-want-you-sex-diagram.pdf Handout - Fuel for Female Sexual Desire – How Women Get in the Mood (rocket diagram) - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/Fuel-female-sexual-desire-Brotherson.pdf  Website - www.StrengtheningMarriage.com Website - www.MaritalIntimacyInstitute.com (client handouts/resources) Laura’s Podcast – The Marital Intimacy Show - https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/podcasts/ Laura's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/strengtheningmarriage/ Laura's Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/StrengtheningMarriage/ The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.