From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody Steurer

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description If you're a woman and you have a low sex drive, please don't automatically assume you're broken. There are so many reasons this can be happening. Betrayal, family issues, relationship challenges, biological factors, illness, small children, sleep deprivation, and on and on. The good news is that with some education and skills, you can begin to identify those inhibiting factors so you can reclaim your desire. Of course, if you're going through some kind of sexual betrayal, your sex drive is going to be all over the place. Sometimes it will be high, sometimes it will be low, and sometimes you'll wonder if you'll ever find it again. Be gentle with your self as you listen to this great interview with women's sexuality coach, Jamee Andelin, who explains why you're not broken and how sexual desire isn't just something you can will into existence. In this interview, we discuss: What women often believe and tell themselves about their low sexual desire The origins of these harmful beliefs How societal / cultural messages impact women's sexual desire Other factors impact women's sexuality How women who have been sexually betrayed can reclaim their sexuality More on Jamee's Background: Jamee is constantly gaining education in all its many forms, applying it, and then sharing what works with anyone who wants to listen. She is most proud of her marriage, her children, and that one time when her dishwasher and dryer were running at exactly the same time.   Connect with her @jameeandelin on Instagram  Email: coachingwithjamee@gmail.com Podcast https://anchor.fm/jamee-andelin The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description How do you know if it's safe to be in a relationship with someone who has struggled with pornography? Dr. Adam Moore returns to the podcast with his co-author, Wendy Morkel, where they talk about how to navigate dating someone who has struggled with pornography. This is a great episode to share with loved ones who are dating and wondering about how to bring up this potentially challenging subject. In this episode, we discuss: What’s different about dealing with porn in dating relationships vs. married How and when someone should bring up the topic of pornography in a dating relationship What questions should people ask in this conversation What couples need to know if they’re going to successfully navigate a porn problem together    More on Adam's Background: Dr. Adam Moore is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and co-owner of Sela Health, a mental health clinic that operates 5 locations in Utah and Nevada. He's a frequent guest at workshops and podcasts and host of his own podcast called Pocket therapist. He and his wife run their counseling practice together and try to homeschool their 5 kids.   You can follow @dradammoore on Instagram for updates on their upcoming book. His podcast is found at https://yourpockettherapist.com/listen/ More on Wendy's Background: Wendy Morkel is a writer, editor, web contributor, and a therapist. She has her master's degree in English language and resides in Mapleton, Utah. She is passionate about faith, her marriage and family (mother of six children ages 20-7), friends, and pebble ice. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description I was thrilled to sit down with Jeni Gessel (aka: "Scabs"), who was the host of the podcast "Love Rice" and has coached and supported women healing from betrayal trauma for years. She is currently finishing her licensure to be a therapist. She's been on a long recovery journey through healing from betrayal trauma and I wanted my listeners to hear what it sounds like when someone has accepted and settled into the long journey of healing. She share lessons on acceptance, wholeness, authenticity, and how to surrender to the journey.  More on Jeni's Background: I help people calm anxiety and rebuild after betrayal trauma. I believe that wellness is our natural state of being and because of this health and healing are within reach. I am your advocate during your personalized healing process. Betrayal Trauma, intimate deception, or infidelity is incredibly painful and complicated. You might feel confusing emotions like intense fear, numbness, and anger. You might feel lost or the intense anxiety of holding it all together. I help people like you find clarity, peace, and a sense of self-trust. You can sign up for a free betrayal trauma support group on Facebook where Jeni and her colleagues answer questions live every other week: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1667836370046685/?ref=share  https://www.arizonafamilyinstitute.com/Jeni-Gessel-LAC  The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description Family members can both help and harm those recovering from addiction. Having the right education and resources makes all the difference for families who want to help. I had the privilege of interviewing Danny and Emily Deaton from "Your Living Proof" about how families can make a difference in the lives of those they love who are struggling with addiction. In this episode, we discuss:  Danny's journey through addiction and recovery  How they see families helping/harming the addiction recovery process What families need to understand about addiction How family members can be most helpful You can purchase a 4-course bundle from Your Living Proof. Use the code: GS10 to save 10%. Here are the details of their online course bundle: This bundle is for every mother, father, sister, friend who is ready to know what THEY can do to start fighting for their loved one’s life. The bundle includes over 2 hours of personal instruction from Danny so you can learn and master the following concepts: The three roadblocks families unknowingly place in their loved one’s path. The four lies that keep everyone in a holding pattern. Why it is impossible for your loved one to do this alone. Two addiction principles that will move you from insanity to progress. Addiction myths – busted Three hinge points that will create the structure required to influence the outcome. What you must immediately stop doing. Creating your own emergency kit. More on Danny and Emily's Backgrounds: Once a homeless, incarcerated drug addict, Danny Deaton is now a husband, father of three, and 14 years clean and sober. Danny is the founder and owner of Living Proof Recovery Services; a company whose mission is to save families who are losing the battle of addiction inside their home. He also hosts the Your Living Proof Podcast and has produced workbooks and online courses for individuals and families who need support in understanding their role in their loved ones recovery. Danny’s passion and love for life is indisputable when he shares his motto “our secrets keep us sick” with families, schools and communities all around the country. Danny’s favorite people are his wife Emily and his 3 energetic children who happily reside in the mountains of northern Utah.   Additional Resources: https://yourlivingproof.com   Follow on Instagram @yourlivingproof   https://instagram.com/yourlivingproof?utm_medium=copy_link   Follow on FB @yourlivingproof   https://www.facebook.com/yourlivingproof/   Email: danny@yourlivingproof.com Call: 801.850.2661    The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description When you've been betrayed by your spouse, it's important to make room for the initial shock and work toward emotional and physical safety. However, it's tempting for someone who has been victimized to stay frozen in the victim position. Also, this doesn't only apply to betrayed spouses. Most individuals who struggle with sexually compulsive behaviors or other addictions often feel victimized by their histories, mental illnesses, relationships, or other outside factors. In this episode, I interview recovery coaches, Lindsay and Danny Poelman, who teach about how to take personal responsibility through the recovery process no matter what has happened to you. In this episode, we talk about: Their recovery story Why couples focus so much on the other person's recovery/healing instead of their own.  What focusing on your own healing looks like Actionable steps each person can do to take personal ownership of their own healing How to stay connected as a couple while they work recovery together Additional resources from Lindsay and Danny:  https://lindsaypoelmancoaching.com https://www.dannypoelman.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/lindsaypoelmancoaching/ (@lindsaypoelmancoaching) https://www.instagram.com/dannypoelmancoaching/  (@dannypoelmancoaching) The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description Creating a sexually safe relationship in marriage is difficult for many couples, even when there's not been betrayal. However, when you add the element of betrayal, it makes creating a secure sexual connection even more challenging. I invited Tammy Hill, LMFT and AASECT member, to join me on the podcast to talk about:  How couples can begin exploring this topic safely What she considers the hallmarks of a sexually safe relationship What societal myths keep couples from experiencing a safe sexual relationship What men need to be aware of What women need to be aware of What if there is betrayal? Previous trauma? Health issues? More on Tammy's Background: Tammy Hill, LMFT, ASSECT Member has a private therapeutic practice, and teaches courses on marriage and sexuality at Brigham Young University. She has a new children’s book, “God Made Girls and Boys” that can be found on her website www.tammyhill.com  Her second book, “Your Body and the Plan of Happiness” will be finished next year. She hosts the "Live Your Why" Podcast on Apple and Spotify.  She snd her husband, Jeff Hill, have a combined family with 12 children, with 35 grandchildren and more in the way!   The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description Some call them relapses. Others call them slips. Regardless of what you call it, setbacks in recovery are often a huge source of shame, disappointment, and emotional turmoil. They reopen old wounds, impact trust, and have the potential to generate a lot of hopelessness. The way you respond to your own setbacks in recovery can make all the difference in your progress.  In this episode, I respond to a few questions from a man who is working through his own recovery process and was feeling discouraged after a recent setback. Here are the questions: How do you find optimism and emotionally recovery quickly after a relapse? How do you deal with a sexual dream? They happen sometimes and, dang it, it always precedes a difficult day. How do you stay willing when you know your willingness is the only thing saving you from relapse? It gets tough to not worry when not worrying is the only thing saving you. How can I handle emotions of discontent or stress or loneliness when my normal schedule is interrupted by a trip or event? It definitely happens a lot, and I don't want it to be an Achilles heel for me.   The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description The Holidays are upon us and that means family and friends gathering. This can be something you dread or something you cherish. Either way, it's going to require healthy boundaries if you're going to stay sane! Join me and my wife, Jody, as we answer questions from our listeners on their most challenging holiday boundary questions. My wife, Jody, is the co-host of the podcast, Speak up Sister The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description It's possible to build a healthy marriage when recovering from a pornography addiction, but several important things need to be in place. I interview Hayden and Savannah Paul, a couple who are committed to building a shame-free marriage as Hayden works through his addiction recovery. Hayden was transparent about his struggle with pornography early in their dating relationship and has taken charge of his own recovery. If you want to hear what it takes to build a shame-free marriage in recovery, listen to what this couple is doing. More on Hayden and Savannah's Background: Hayden and Savannah Paul were married on January 24, 2020. Since then they’ve been living in Sandy, Utah. Hayden and Savannah seek to change the conversation surrounding pornography with a focus on de-shaming the problem so true healing can occur. They host a weekly podcast titled “I Stand at The Door.” It’s geared toward helping parents, youth and church leaders understand and navigate the complicated issue surrounding porn. Hayden personally fought a 10-year battle against this struggle and after learning many lessons has now, for over a year, felt the peace and freedom that comes from the Atonement of Jesus Christ.  Savannah is a native of Illinois and a returned missionary from the Las Vegas West mission. She finished her degree in nursing at BYU this past April and gave birth to their baby, Walker, a week later. She loves to sing, play the piano, and watercolor. Hayden grew up in Sandy and served his mission in Budapest, Hungary. He is an infantry rifleman in the United States Marine Corp and currently serves in a reserve capacity with 4th LAR Charlie Company. He loves being a dad and throws their baby around more than Savannah would like. Hayden also works for Operation Underground Railroad, an organization dedicated to the rescue and rehabilitation of children who are in the bonds of sex trafficking. https://www.istandatthedoor.com/  The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our Connection Plus Membership Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.  We are excited to introduce Connection Plus Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.  We've built a one-of-a-kind COMMUNITY with direct support from us   -  You'll learn how to stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and build a path to long-term healing.  -  Engage with a community of people committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.  We are a community of couples and individuals committed to getting out of crisis and living in connection…for life.  Click here for more info. Podcast Description If you're feeling burned out, you're not alone! We're all feeling the effects of the worldwide pandemic, economic uncertainty, political divisions, and family challenges. It's a tough time and many people feel like they're reaching their limit. However, my guest on this episode, Valerie Hamaker, says that burnout is actually an invitation that puts us in contact with our true selves. She teaches that burnout is the perfect opportunity to dig deeper and do life in a better, more supportive way. Come listen as she breaks down how we can do this without feeling the need to do more.   More on Valerie's Background: Valerie Hamaker is an individual and couples therapist with special training in trauma recovery, sexual health, depth psychology, and issues of spiritual development. Valerie presents nationally on a variety of topics and most recently has turned her focus to the tackling of issues of burnout from a depth psychology lens. Valerie’s podcast Generation Exhausted is a weekly commentary on the recovery of burnout in marriage, gender roles, parenting, institutional religion, and body image and she has recently launched an online community in her website [www.exhaustedGen.com] where she supports people live in their burnout recovery journey. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.