Many, if not most of us, procrastinate. However, for some this can really be disruptive. Psychologists suggest that childhood trauma can be at the root of procrastination. This episode unpacks that concept from a family systems perspective. Show Notes: How Procrastination Can Reflect Childhood Experience by Peg Streep Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogueby Edwin Friedman* Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. *This is an affiliate link. I earn a small commission if a purchase is made.

Non-anxious leaders know the importance of boundaries and how to set them. This episode can help you do this better. Show Notes: Your boundaries set you free by Brian Stout Episode 230: How to Say “No” as a Non-Anxious Presence Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Self-differentiating, taking responsibility for self, can be hard when others respond by defining and blaming you. This is sabotage. Here are three steps to respond effectively. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogueby Edwin Friedman* A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman* Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. *These are affiliate links. I earn a small commission if a purchase is made.

According to Edwin Friedman, one of the characteristics of a chronically anxious society is the desire to seek safety instead of adventure. Non-anxious leaders seek adventure and learn to love it. Here's how. Show Notes: The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times by Michelle Obama A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

We often focus on what others should be doing as a way to manage our own anxiety and avoid taking responsibility for self. Here's what defining others looks like and how we can do better. Show Notes: How We End Up Fixating On Others' Immaturity by Kathleen Smith Episode 211: Level 5 Leaders and Self-Differentiation Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

How often does surrounding togetherness pressure cause you to second guess yourself? Self-differentiation increases confidence because you trust yourself more. Here's how it works. Show Notes: Dr. Alison Cook Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

We were planning to host our family over Memorial Day Weekend for my Mom's 100th Birthday when my wife and I tested postive for COVID. Here's how we handled it. Show Notes: Episode 183: A COVID Family Reunion – A Case Study CBS News Story on my Mom Picture from our 2023 Family Reunion Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

If you want to make an impact, you have do things that are important, but not urgent. This means being able to say "No" to many things. Here's how to do it. Show Notes: Cup of Empathy by Marianne van Dijk Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Non-anxious leaders know how to create and maintain healthy emotional space in their relationships. This episode explains what that is, why it's important and how to do it. Show Notes: The Cycle of Overfunctioning and Distancing by Kathleen Smith Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

An emotionally mature culture is a non-anxious culture. Systems that function this way are more resilient and adaptive in the face of inevitable challenges. Here's how you can foster this kind of culture. Show Notes: The Emotionally Mature Organization from The Bowen Center's "Family Matters" series. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.