The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

We often focus on what others should be doing as a way to manage our own anxiety and avoid taking responsibility for self. Here's what defining others looks like and how we can do better. Show Notes: How We End Up Fixating On Others' Immaturity by Kathleen Smith Episode 211: Level 5 Leaders and Self-Differentiation Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

How often does surrounding togetherness pressure cause you to second guess yourself? Self-differentiation increases confidence because you trust yourself more. Here's how it works. Show Notes: Dr. Alison Cook Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

We were planning to host our family over Memorial Day Weekend for my Mom's 100th Birthday when my wife and I tested postive for COVID. Here's how we handled it. Show Notes: Episode 183: A COVID Family Reunion – A Case Study CBS News Story on my Mom Picture from our 2023 Family Reunion Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

If you want to make an impact, you have do things that are important, but not urgent. This means being able to say "No" to many things. Here's how to do it. Show Notes: Cup of Empathy by Marianne van Dijk Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Non-anxious leaders know how to create and maintain healthy emotional space in their relationships. This episode explains what that is, why it's important and how to do it. Show Notes: The Cycle of Overfunctioning and Distancing by Kathleen Smith Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

An emotionally mature culture is a non-anxious culture. Systems that function this way are more resilient and adaptive in the face of inevitable challenges. Here's how you can foster this kind of culture. Show Notes: The Emotionally Mature Organization from The Bowen Center's "Family Matters" series. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Edwin Friedman described five characteristics of systems that promote burnout among their leaders. Understanding this can help you avoid the same fate. Part 1 goes through the characteristics. Part 2 helps leaders respond appropriately. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Edwin Friedman described five characteristics of systems that promote burnout among their leaders. Understanding this can help you avoid the same fate. Part 1 goes through the characteristics. Part 2 helps leaders respond appropriately. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Focus is being able to say "No" to things that are good, but may distract you from your most important work. Here are three ways to say "No" that will help you to self-differentiate. Show Notes: 3 Ways to Say No Without Feeling Like a Jerk, Backed by Interpersonal Relationship Science by Jeff Haden Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

To grow as non-anxious leader, you need to learn how to self-differentiate in your most difficult relationships. This episode covers five things that will help you to do this. Show Notes: How to Set Boundaries With a Difficult Family Member by Catherine Pearson Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover Tawwab Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.