Do You F*cking Mind?

Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa
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Aug 28, 2025 • 39min

The Psychology of Standards: Why You Keep Setting the Bar Too Low(E)

Stop playing small. In this episode of Do You F**ing Mind?*, I break down why so many of us keep setting the bar too low; in relationships, in our careers, and in the standards we hold for ourselves. Using psychology and neuroscience, we explore: Why your brain tricks you into settling for less than you deserve How low standards slowly kill your confidence and self-worth The hidden link between fear, comfort zones, and “just enough” living Practical strategies to raise the bar in love, work, and personal growth If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I settling?”, this episode will help you raise your standards, reclaim your confidence, and finally demand the life you actually want. Brain Fact: Explaining Urbach Wiethe Disease.   Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Group  Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Aug 26, 2025 • 9min

Science Fact: Why Milk is better at hydrating than water

Science Fact of the week: Why Milk is better at hydrating than water. Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Group  Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Aug 24, 2025 • 49min

How to REALLY stop caring about what people think of you (E)

How do you stop caring about what people think of you? How can you let go of the things that keep you from living the life you want? This question is so crippling for so many of us, but there IS a simple solution. In this episode we’ll learn how to deal with these feelings in a way that don't consume you and stop you from going on with your life. I'll give you my 7 steps to overcome falling into the trap of caring what people think about you! Brain Fact: Central Sensitization and chronic pain. Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Group  Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Aug 21, 2025 • 29min

442. My partner thinks the world is ending & more (Headnoise)

Beans it's Headnoise Friday! I answer your email questions about loneliness in high school, feeling burnt out and uninspired during the final months of university & taking control of one's life. If you would like to send in a question email please email: ⁠⁠info@dyfmpod.com⁠⁠ or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the ⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠ Group  Follow ⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ on IG    Follow ⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ on IG    Follow ⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Aug 19, 2025 • 9min

Science Fact: The Women Who Can Smell Parkinson's

Science fact of the week: The Women Who Can Smell Parkinson's. Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Group  Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TTOrder your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠ ⁠Download the app today.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Aug 17, 2025 • 45min

441. The Neuroscience behind determination

Today's episode is all about determination from a neuroscience and psychology perspective. I talk about the difference between motivation and determination and give you practical tools & strategies. Episodes mentioned with links: Episode 368 & Episode 370. Brain Journal Link Join the ⁠DYFM Facebook⁠ Group  Follow ⁠@doyoufkingmind ⁠on IG   Follow ⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠ on TT Follow ⁠@⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠ on IG    Follow ⁠@alexispredez⁠ on TT Follow ⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠ on IG    Follow ⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠ ⁠Download the app today.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Aug 14, 2025 • 37min

440. When Setting a Boundary Makes You the Villain (Headnoise)

It's Head Noise day! I answer your questions on setting boundaries, handling difficult friendships and dealing with family influence in relationships. How can you set a boundary without becoming the villain? What to do when your friend turns on you because you try and create a healthy boundary? How to deal with your partners family influencing your relationship and MORE. If you would like to send in a question email please email: ⁠info@dyfmpod.com⁠ or if you would like to send a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Aug 10, 2025 • 32min

439. How to put someone in the past and leave them there for good

Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is let go. In this episode of Do You F**ing Mind?, I talk all about moving the fck on from people who no longer deserve a place in your life. Whether it’s an ex who drains you, a toxic friend who keeps pulling you down, or a colleague who sabotages your confidence, you’ll learn how to recognize when it’s time to cut ties and how to actually do it without guilt. Inside this episode: The psychology of why we hold onto relationships that hurt us Neuroscience-backed strategies for breaking emotional attachments How to spot toxic patterns early and stop excusing bad behavior Practical tools to build boundaries and move forward with confidence If you’ve ever struggled to let go, this episode will give you the clarity and mindset shift you need to finally release what’s holding you back, and step into a healthier, stronger version of yourself.. Episode referenced: 21. Dealing with Cooked Duds that Are Stuck in Your Life. Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Group  Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Aug 7, 2025 • 39min

438.  How to Stop Overthinking in a Healthy Relationship & more (Headnoise)

In this Head Noise episode of Do You F**ing Mind?*, I answer your biggest questions on love, life, and everything in between. From navigating the ups and downs of modern relationships, to making life-changing decisions about whether or not to have children, to dealing with the messy reality of complicated friendships. In this ep: How to recognise red flags and build healthier relationships Things to consider when making major life decisions, (like having kids) Psychology-backed strategies for handling toxic or complicated friendships Tools to trust yourself when faced with uncertainty This episode will give you clarity, confidence, and the mindset shift you need to move forward. navigating complicated friendships deciding whether to have children psychology of relationships life decisions and clarity toxic friendship advice personal growth and relationship confidence in decision making If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Group  Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Aug 6, 2025 • 45min

437. The neuroscience of loneliness…the silent stress you can fix

In today's episode, we dive deep into the topic of loneliness. I discuss the difference between loneliness and solitude, the health implications of feeling isolated, and what happens in the brain when you experience loneliness. I give you actionable steps to help you overcome loneliness and build meaningful connections. Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Group  Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠ Download the app today.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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