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Jun 10, 2025 • 22min

What It Really Means to Be a Man Without Alcohol

You quit drinking. You meditate. You read all the books on masculinity.   And then your partner looks you in the eye and says: “It feels like I’m married to a little boy.”   That’s what happened to me. And it broke me—so I rebuilt.   In this episode, I unpack a quote from John Wineland and explore what masculinity really means when you stop performing and start embodying. We’re talking nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and how to live with clarity, stillness, and integrity—without reaching for the bottle to fake it.   If you’ve ever wondered what it looks like to lead from your core—this one’s for you.   —   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #masculinity #mensmentalhealth #emotionalintelligence #nervoussystemregulation #alcoholrecovery #embodiment #selfledlife #johnwineland #menswork #spiritualmasculinity #sobercurious #mensgroup #traumahealing #IFS #healingjourney #menscoach
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Jun 9, 2025 • 60min

From Booze to Bedtime Stories – A STRIVER Dad’s Wake-Up Call

In today’s episode, I sit down with STRIVER John Bell—a father, a counsellor, and a man who used to drink to forget who he was.   We talk about what it’s like to be a healthcare professional struggling with alcohol, the guilt of being physically present but emotionally absent as a parent, and the deep identity shift required to live a SELF-led life, alcohol-free-as-fuck.   John shares his journey from being a mechanic stuck in the wrong life to becoming a therapist who helps others navigate their own. We unpack approval-seeking, male friendships, parental shame, and the culture that tells us numbing out is normal.   This is a conversation about regret, redemption, and the quiet power of presence. And it’s for anyone who’s ever wondered if it’s too late to change.   Spoiler: it’s not.   If you’d like to connect with John or work with him, visit daisyhillwellbeing.co.uk.   —   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #emotionalpresence #alcoholrecovery #fatherhood #mensmentalhealth #IFS #reparenting #selfledlife #alcoholfree #dadlife #malevulnerability #mentalhealthawareness #parentingjourney #healingjourney #counsellorlife #approvaladdiction #daisyhillwellbeing #JohnBell #frommechanictotherapist #alcoholculture #traumahealing
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Jun 8, 2025 • 8min

Football, BrewDog & the Boy Who Just Wanted to Belong

BrewDog just inked a deal with West Ham United. To most, it’s just marketing. To me? It’s a megaphone for the Liquid Lie.   In this episode, I take you back to my boyhood in Manchester—pies, Bovril, and the first time I swore at a match. But beneath those memories was something deeper: a craving to belong.   The pint wasn’t about taste. It was about validation. It said: “You’re one of us.”   Football is supposed to unite us—but for many boys, it teaches that manhood is earned through alcohol. That to be part of the tribe, you must drink like one of the lads.   We’re not just talking beer and goals—we’re talking identity. And it’s time we rewrote the script.   🎧 Listen in to explore: – The emotional grooming hidden in football culture – Why brands like BrewDog keep tying booze to masculinity – How to reclaim your worth without pouring a pint   STRIVERS, it’s time to break the chain.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholculture #footballculture #BrewDog #masculinity #toxicmasculinity #validation #belonging #alcoholtruth #mentalhealth #alcoholawareness #selfledliving #WestHam #sponsorshiplies #drinkaware #greyareadrinking #boystodrinkingpath #emotionalhealing #rewritethecode #liveAFAF
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Jun 7, 2025 • 9min

You Worked So Hard—Why Can’t You Just Be Happy?

#1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE   You hit the goal. You land the deal. You finally feel proud.   And then… you pull back. You brace for impact. You numb the joy.   This episode dives into the hidden reason so many high-achievers can’t feel happy even when everything looks right. It’s not sabotage. It’s self-protection—rooted in something Brené Brown calls foreboding joy.   🎧 In this episode: ✅ The reason joy triggers fear—not celebration ✅ How PARTS use success as a warning sign ✅ Why the STRIVE Method focuses on nervous system repair, not just gratitude ✅ Tools to stop numbing and start feeling again   You’re not broken. You’re just bracing. But there’s another way.   👊 Join the waiting list for the STRIVE Method: www.thestrivemethod.com 📩 Or email Lee directly: thestrivemethod@gmail.com 💥 Don’t forget to rate & review the show—it helps others find this message.   Until tomorrow— Much love, and STRIVE on! Lee   #1000DaysSoberPodcast, #LeeDavy, #STRIVE, #alcoholfree, #highachievers, #forebodingjoy, #traumarecovery, #nervoussystemhealing, #selfledlife, #AFAF, #selfsabotage, #emotionalresilience, #brenebrown, #IFStherapy, #healingjourney
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Jun 6, 2025 • 12min

Divorced, Powerless, and Drowning? Learn the Line That Saved Me

I moved back into my childhood bedroom at 35. Same carpet. Same curtains. Same crushing sense of failure. My marriage was over. My son no longer lived with me. And I felt invisible. Powerless. Drowning in silence.   This episode is for every divorced parent—especially dads—who feels like they’ve lost more than a partner. If you’ve ever stared at a ring on your finger and asked, “What now?”… you’re not alone.   Inside, I share the powerful concept of The Line—and how learning to live above it changed everything for me. This isn’t mindset fluff. It’s how we stop parenting from PARTS, co-parenting from pain, and living in survival mode.   Tune in to discover how to return to SELF, find your TRIBE, and finally stop drinking just to feel okay.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #DivorcedFathers #SelfLedLife #IFS #MensMentalHealth #TribeNotTreatment #EmotionalSobriety #HealingAfterDivorce #ConsciousParenting #VictimConsciousness #AboveTheLine
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Jun 5, 2025 • 12min

What Should I Ask Myself When I Crave Alcohol?

You probably don’t crave alcohol as much as you think.   You’re not in pain. You’re not desperate. You’re just… human. A human living in a world where drinking is the default—where Fridays mean wine, and success gets toasted.   In this episode, I’m speaking directly to the coaches, therapists, and healthcare workers—the ones who know how to regulate a nervous system, but still pour a drink when the house goes quiet.   This isn’t about relapse. It’s about realisation.   Because when you stop and ask, “How intense is this craving, really?”—you might discover there was never a craving at all.   You were just following a script.   STRIVERS don’t follow scripts. We ask better questions.       #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholawareness #emotionalregulation #nervoussystemhealing #alcoholfreecoach #coachingtools #sugarcravings #drinklesslivebetter #stopdrinking #cravingsupport #healthcareworkerburnout #therapytools #integrity #alcoholfreelife #mentalhealthawareness #selfleadership
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Jun 4, 2025 • 8min

Why We Escape Into Alcohol – And What Happens When We Don’t

Have you ever tried to iron a shirt in the dark with wet hair, no hot water, and a podcast deadline breathing down your neck?   That was me—in Montenegro, mid-power cut, spiralling.   No electricity. No way to work. No escape.   And that’s when I realised something most people never stop to see: we don’t drink because we’re weak—we drink because we’re trying to run. From stillness. From feeling. From ourselves.   In today’s episode, I’m sharing what happens when all your exit routes vanish—and you’re left with nothing but your nervous system, your stories, and the one voice that’s been waiting underneath it all… your SELF.   Tune in as we explore: – Why alcohol becomes a default escape route – How your parts hijack your peace – The surprising power of discomfort when you stop running from it – The STRIVE Method’s way of helping you stay present without sedation   If you’re ready to stop escaping and finally arrive, this episode is for you.   Much love, and STRIVE on! Lee     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholrecovery #mentalhealth #nervoussystemregulation #selfledlife #alcoholfree #innerpeace #traumarecovery #emotionalresilience #healingjourney #recoverytools #dailyvow #stopescaping #powerofpresence #IFS #partswork #mindfulness #selftrust #Montenegro #victimmode #selfoverstory #healingstartswithawareness
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Jun 3, 2025 • 16min

Alcohol Feels Like a Reward—But It’s the Real Punishment

We’ve been sold a lie. That alcohol is a treat. A reward. A moment of pleasure after the grind.   But what if that “reward” is actually keeping you stuck?   In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I unpack a core idea from Allan Dib’s Lean Marketing—and show you how alcohol functions just like Muda (waste) in a broken system.   If you’ve ever poured a glass at the end of the day and called it “self-care,” this one’s for you. We’re not here to deprive ourselves. We’re here to reclaim our value system—and redesign it around what actually matters.   You’ll learn how to spot the false rewards, break the belief system that keeps you stuck, and start building a life that flows from SELF, not sabotage.   Much love, and STRIVE on! Lee     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #alcoholawareness #selfledliving #quitdrinking #emotionalfreedom #rewardnotregret #alcoholtruth #selfleadership #healyourself
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Jun 2, 2025 • 10min

Alcohol in Saudi Arabia? – The Liquid Lie Doesn’t Respect Borders

They told us the desert wouldn’t drink. That tradition would hold. That some cultures were sacred.   But now even Saudi Arabia—the heartland of spiritual resistance to the booze-soaked West—is cracking.   Quietly, and commercially.   In this episode, I explore the truth behind Saudi’s creeping alcohol policies—and what it reveals about the global spread of the Liquid Lie. From secret stores to tourist resorts, this isn’t about freedom. It’s about profit. And the cost is culture.   I’ll share a story from the Grand Canyon that perfectly exposes this myth—and remind you why your joy doesn’t need a cork in it.   Listen in if you’ve ever… – Equated alcohol with celebration – Believed “progress” means wine lists and whiskey lounges – Wondered why even dry nations are selling out   Living a SELF-led life, AFAF, means saying no to that lie—even when the world calls it luxury.   Join the movement at www.thestrivemethod.com   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholinSaudi #TheLiquidLie #alcoholfree #alcoholtruth #capitalism #tourismtrap #selfledliving #mentalhealth #culturewars #grandcanyonmoments #alcoholawareness #spiritualintegrity #boozefree #decolonisejoy #boundaries #notdrinkingtoday #modernisationlie #alcoholmarketing #alcoholmyths #alcoholandtravel #faithandfreedom #luxurytrap #champagnelie #stayawake #presenceoverpoison #MiddleEastChange #globalisationtrap
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Jun 1, 2025 • 13min

Afraid to Say No? The System That Keeps You Drinking

You press the “Do Not Disturb” button and expect peace—but they walk in anyway.   That’s what happens when we try to set boundaries in a world that’s wired to ignore them. Whether it’s hotel staff ignoring a sign or your mate ignoring your choice not to drink, the message is the same: your needs don’t matter.   In this episode, I share a story from Montenegro that exposed how broken systems train us to abandon ourselves—and how that internalised override keeps us stuck in the Liquid Lie. We’ll talk about emotional boundaries, the systems we inherited, and why alcohol becomes the go-to escape when saying “no” feels impossible.   If you’ve ever been afraid to say stop—this one’s for you.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast, #LeeDavy, #STRIVE, #STRIVEMethod, #AFAF, #boundaries, #alcoholrecovery, #peoplepleasing, #mentalhealth, #IFS, #selfledliving, #healingjourney, #emotionalintelligence, #sayno, #recoverytools

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