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When I first started building a real recovery lifestyle, I believed the answer to breaking porn addiction was more control — more discipline, more structure, more “push harder.”But the truth is, that mindset only kept me trapped in dopamine overload, emotional numbness, and a constant battle against myself.In this episode, I sit down with my friend Jeremy Lipkowitz — former Buddhist monk, mindfulness teacher, and founder of The Unhooked Academy — to explore a radically different, science-backed path to freedom from porn addiction. Together, we break down how chronic stimulation from smartphones, social media, and porn fragments your attention, dysregulates your nervous system, and keeps you from feeling present, alive, and connected to the people you love.We dive into the neuroscience behind dopamine dysregulation, the psychology of shame and perfectionism, and the emotional patterns that keep men locked in compulsive behavior. I share what happened during my own 30-day presence challenge — how putting my phone away transformed my marriage, my mental clarity, and my sense of identity — and why learning to cultivate presence, embodiment, and noble pleasure is essential to losing your desire for porn.This conversation blends neuroscience, mindfulness, masculine leadership, and real emotional healing to show you how to rewire your brain, regulate your emotions, and build a recovery mindset defined by presence, purpose, and genuine internal peace.In This Episode, We Explore: • Why willpower and white-knuckling fail — and how awareness and emotional regulation create real freedom from porn addiction • How dopamine overload from technology and porn trains your brain for distraction, restlessness, and chronic dissatisfaction • The difference between base pleasures and noble pleasures — and how earned dopamine rebuilds identity and direction • How shame, fear, and perfectionism fuel addiction — and how to transform painful emotions instead of escaping them • The role of mindfulness, presence, and embodiment in healing the nervous system and rewiring cravings • Why smartphone addiction and porn addiction are neurologically intertwined — and how a simple phone detox can reset your brain • How relational connection, vulnerability, and community become powerful antidotes to cravings and isolation • Practical methods to rewire your brain through mindfulness, intentional routines, and recovery-focused habitsIf you’ve been fighting yourself in recovery,  this conversation will help you make peace with your mind, reconnect with your body, and build a lifestyle where porn no longer has a pull on you.You don’t overcome porn addiction by forcing yourself to be stronger. You overcome it by becoming more present, more aware, and more connected to what truly brings you life.Link to the Blog Article for This Episode If you’re ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You’ll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.Grab my Free eBook and Free Workshop for more strategies to overcSupport the showNo More Desire

If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t “just stop” watching porn—why you cycle through cravings, shame, self-promises, and relapse—this episode will change the way you see your struggle forever. Because the truth is, porn addiction is not a willpower problem. It’s a nervous system problem.In this episode, I’m joined by my friend and colleague Chris Chandler, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), trauma specialist, and one of the most grounded, brilliant men I know in the world of addiction neuroscience, trauma healing, and nervous system regulation. Together, we break down the deep biological, emotional, and spiritual roots of pornography addiction and why most men stay stuck for years without ever understanding why.We explore polyvagal theory, the fight-flight-freeze response, and how sympathetic activation, dorsal vagal shutdown, and ventral vagal connection shape everything—from your cravings and emotional triggers to your patterns of withdrawal, anxiety, and relational disconnection.This isn’t just another conversation about “trying harder.”This is about learning how your body, brain, and nervous system actually work—and how to regulate yourself in moments of anxiety, craving, emotional pain, conflict, and stress.We discuss practical strategies for recovery, including:Vagus nerve regulationBreathwork for anxietyEmbodiment practices that increase emotional presenceIFS (Internal Family Systems) for understanding your protective partsHealthy boundaries and relational repairMindfulness for addictionAnd why the opposite of addiction is connection, not sobrietyIf you’re ready to stop feeling defeated…If you’re ready to stop fighting your body and start understanding it…If you’re ready to step into grounded masculinity, emotional depth, and real long-term recovery…Explore more of Chris's work at: https://www.breathtobones.com/Learn more about his program at: https://www.joinrelay.app/Link to Blog Article for this EpisodeIf you’re ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You’ll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.Grab my Free eBook and Free Workshop for more strategies to overcome porn addiction, rewire your brain, and rebuild your lifeSupport the showNo More Desire

If you’ve ever wondered why you feel numb, disconnected, or unable to access the full depth of your emotions—this episode may hit closer to home than anything you’ve heard before.In today’s episode, I dig into one of the most overlooked factors in porn addiction recovery: your relationship with your physical body. We talk about why so many men feel emotionally flat, why empathy feels harder than it should, and why your motivation and sense of direction can feel so distant—even when you’re trying your best to change.And the truth is not what most of us were taught.Porn addiction isn’t just a “mind” problem.It’s not just a spiritual issue.It’s not even primarily about willpower.Porn addiction is deeply tied to emotional numbness—numbness created by years of disconnecting from your body.Neuroscience is very clear: when your insula (the brain’s interoception center) becomes weakened through compulsive behaviors, overstimulation, and technology addiction, your ability to feel, connect, empathize, and motivate yourself declines dramatically.In other words:The less connected you are to your body, the easier it is to get stuck in porn. And the more embodied you become, the easier recovery becomes.I also share my personal journey—how I unknowingly detached from my body through achievement addiction, overstimulation, and constant phone use… and how reconnecting with my body changed my emotional life, my marriage, and my recovery.This episode will help you understand:Why you feel numb—and how to reverse itWhy empathy feels hard—and how to get it backWhy porn cravings stay strong—and how embodiment dissolves themWhy your identity feels shaky—and how to anchor it againHow to restore the body–mind connection that drives true recoveryIf you’re ready to experience real emotional presence, deeper connection with your wife, healthier masculinity, and the strength required to overcome porn addiction long-term, this episode is a must-listen.This is not about willpower. It’s about embodiment. It’s about reconnection. It’s about becoming whole again.Listen now and learn how to feel again.Link to Blog Article for this EpisodeIf you’re ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You’ll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.Grab my Free eBook and Free Workshop for more strategies to overcome porn addiction, rewire your brain, and rebuild your lifeSupport the showNo More Desire

Dr. Doug Carpenter, a licensed clinical psychologist and author of *Secret Shame*, sheds light on the often hidden connections between male sexual abuse, shame, and porn addiction. He discusses the prevalence of male trauma and its underreporting, emphasizing that many men struggle in silence. Doug shares his own experiences and how early exposure can wire the brain for compulsivity. The conversation further explores the impacts of shame on masculinity, suggests trauma-informed healing practices, and reframes myths that hinder recovery.

Are you caught in a whirlwind of constant doing? Discover how mental chaos fuels porn addiction and the connection to an overstimulated brain. Learn about the imbalance between doing and being, and why this affects your relationships and spiritual health. Explore a transformative 30-Day Challenge to disconnect and find presence, along with practical tools for mindfulness. Uncover the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies to heal your mind and deepen your connections.

What if the real reason you can’t stop watching porn… isn’t porn itself?In this episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I dive deep into the hidden connection between tech addiction, dopamine, and porn addiction recovery — and why constant distraction may be the true enemy of your freedom.We live in a world built to hijack your attention. From smartphones and social media to the endless scroll of entertainment, every digital interaction trains your brain for instant gratification. Over time, this dopamine overload rewires your reward system, weakens your self-control, and makes you more vulnerable to pornography addiction.But here’s the truth: your brain isn’t broken. It’s just conditioned. And what’s been conditioned can be reconditioned.In this powerful, science-backed, spiritually grounded conversation, I’ll walk you through:The neuroscience of dopamine and addiction — how tech overstimulation leads to desensitization and “hypofrontality,” weakening your prefrontal cortex (the part of your brain responsible for focus and discipline).The psychology of distraction — how “attentional fragmentation” leaves men restless, unfocused, and disconnected from their purpose.The real link between porn addiction and technology addiction — and how both exploit the same reward circuitry in the brain.Ancient wisdom and modern mindfulness — what Jesus, the Buddha, and modern neuroscience all agree on: the power of stillness, presence, and self-awareness to rewire the addicted brain.Practical methods for recovery — including my 30-Day Presence Challenge to help you regain control of your attention, rebuild your dopamine balance, and reconnect with real life and real people.This episode is a call to arms for men who are tired of distractions running their lives. It’s about replacing compulsive stimulation with conscious connection — with your body, your relationships, and your higher purpose.Link to Blog Article for this EpisodeIf you’re ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You’ll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.Grab my Free eBook and Free Workshop for more strategies to overcome porn addiction, rewire your brain, and rebuild your lifeSupport the showNo More Desire

When I first began my recovery journey, I believed the answer to ending porn addiction was more control — more willpower, more discipline, more “try harder.”But the truth is, that mindset only deepened my shame and made me fight harder against myself.In this episode, I sit down with Jeremy Lipkowitz — a former Buddhist monk, mindfulness teacher, and founder of The Unhooked Academy — to explore a radically different path to freedom from porn addiction.We dive deep into the power of mindfulness and self-compassion as tools to overcome shame, heal the mind, and rewire the brain for peace and presence. This conversation bridges neuroscience, psychology, and Buddhist philosophy, showing you how mindfulness can create real, lasting change from the inside out.🧠 In This Episode, We Explore:Why willpower doesn’t work for lasting porn addiction recovery — and how mindfulness creates the awareness needed for true freedom.The neuroscience of craving and contentment — how porn trains the brain for dissatisfaction, and how mindfulness and meditation reverse that wiring.Healthy shame vs. toxic shame — learning to transform guilt into growth rather than isolation and relapse.The “Hungry Ghost” mindset — a Buddhist metaphor for the endless craving cycle that drives addiction.How to use mindfulness and self-awareness to meet emotions like loneliness, fear, and anger with compassion instead of escape.The importance of connection, accountability, and brotherhood in men’s recovery from porn addiction.How to rewire your brain through daily mindfulness practice, self-reflection, and authentic connection.If you’ve been fighting yourself in recovery — this conversation will help you finally make peace with your mind.You don’t overcome porn addiction by fighting against yourself — you overcome it by understanding yourself.That’s the heart of mindfulness. And when you combine mindfulness, compassion, and masculine leadership — you stop chasing freedom and start living it.Link to Blog Article for this EpisodeIf you’re ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You’ll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.Grab my Free eBook and Free Workshop for more strategies to overcome porn addiction, rewire your brain, and rebuild your lifeContact Jeremy @ The Unhooked AcademyOr shoot him a follow @jeremylipkowitz Want to learn more about Jeremy and his message? Click HereSupport the showNo More Desire

When you love someone who’s caught in addiction—whether it’s porn, alcohol, or anything else that numbs pain—the chaos doesn’t just stay with them. It spills into your relationship, your emotions, and even your identity.In this episode of The No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with Holly Thornton, author of The Hardest Help, who’s lived through the agony of betrayal trauma, manipulation, and loss—and emerged with compassion, clarity, and tools that actually work.Together, we explore what most recovery conversations miss: how addiction and betrayal trauma intertwine, and how both partners can begin to heal through boundaries, empathy, and truth.If you’re a man working to overcome porn addiction, this episode will give you a powerful glimpse into what your spouse experiences on the other side of your addiction—and how understanding her pain can transform your recovery.And if you’re the partner of someone battling addiction, you’ll learn how to support your loved one without losing yourself, why “rock bottom” is a dangerous myth, and what practical, compassion-based methods like the CRAFT approach can do to restore hope.In This Episode, We Explore:How betrayal trauma affects the brain—and why partners of addicts often feel anxious, confused, or “crazy.”The myth of rock bottom and why waiting for collapse keeps you trapped in addiction.Emotional regulation tools rooted in neuroscience to calm the nervous system and build resilience.The psychology of boundaries—how to protect yourself and rebuild trust without punishing or controlling your partner.Why curiosity heals more than confrontation, and how to communicate in a way that promotes safety, not shame.How small daily actions rewire the addicted brain through neuroplasticity and consistency.Spiritual and psychological integration—how empathy, compassion, and ownership reconnect you to your True Self.This conversation isn’t about blame—it’s about healing through understanding.It’s about becoming a man who doesn’t just say “I’m sorry,” but lives as someone who’s safe to love.Because real recovery isn’t just about quitting porn—it’s about becoming whole, grounded, and emotionally present enough to lead yourself and your relationship with integrity.Link to Blog Article for this EpisodeIf you’re ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You’ll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.Grab my Free eBook and Free Workshop for more strategies to overcome porn addiction, rewire your brain, and rebuild your lifeFollow Holly at thehardesthelp.comor on Instagram @holly_jthortonSupport the showNo More Desire

Recovering from porn isn’t just a mental game—it’s an emotional one.In this episode, I’m breaking down the powerful connection between emotional intelligence and porn addiction recovery, and showing you how learning to master your emotions can transform your marriage, your communication, and your ability to stay sober for good.Most men try to “think” their way out of porn addiction, but relapse doesn’t happen in the mind—it happens in the heart. When fear, shame, or sadness go unprocessed, they convert into anger, craving, and disconnection. Emotional pain becomes a trigger, and before you know it, you’re back in the cycle of porn use, guilt, and regret.But it doesn’t have to stay that way.In this episode, I teach you how to apply my RAIL Method™—a five-step process that cultivates emotional awareness, self-leadership, and confidence under pressure. You’ll learn how to understand your emotions, stay grounded during marriage conflict, and see the good intentions beneath both your own reactions and your wife’s.By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to:Use emotional intelligence to defuse conflict in your marriage.Understand how porn cravings stem from unmet emotional needs.Build emotional safety and connection with your wife through self-awareness.Turn painful emotions like anger and shame into powerful tools for recovery.Lead your relationship with calm confidence, clarity, and compassion.Link to Blog Article for this Episode HEREIf you’re ready to stop letting your emotions control you—and start using them to strengthen your marriage and deepen your recovery—this one’s for you, brother.And if you’re serious about taking this work deeper, check out The RAIL Method™ Online Course, where I teach you how to regulate emotions, reduce porn cravings, and rebuild real intimacy step by step.You can also catch me teaching this method live during the Porn Resilient Online Summit (Oct 13–16)—alongside 20 other experts in emotional and sexual healing, and grab the All-Access Implementation Bundle for lifetime access to all recorded interviews + courses and resources (including my RAIL Method™ online course) for an absolutely unreal price. Porn addiction recovery isn’t about fighting harder—it’s about feeling deeper, healing smarter, and leading yourself and your relationship from the inside out.Support the showNo More Desire

As a parent, one of the hardest questions you’ll ever face is this: How do I teach my kids about sex in a porn-filled world—without using fear, shame, or silence?In this episode, I sit down with Taylor Chambers, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of The Good and The Free, to talk about what it really means to raise porn-resilient kids and model fearless sexuality—not just for them, but for ourselves as men.We explore what it looks like to move beyond fear-based parenting and into sexual wholeness, integrity, and self-leadership. Taylor shares his deeply human story of moving from religious shame and willpower-based recovery into an approach grounded in acceptance, integration, and emotional honesty—the same work that helped him build his Porn Resilient Summit and framework for helping families heal from shame and secrecy around sexuality.In this episode, we dive deep into:How fear and shame around sexuality create disconnection and secrecyWhy porn addiction recovery starts with your own sexual integrationThe psychology of how kids internalize sexual shame—and what to do insteadThe neuroscience of fear, desire, and emotional regulationHow to talk with your kids about sex and pornography in ways that build trust, confidence, and self-respectThe true meaning of integrity and why it’s impossible to be “whole” while rejecting parts of yourselfHow to raise kids who are resilient, not just “protected,” in a digital worldWhy fearless sexuality doesn’t mean indulgence—it means freedom from control, repression, and fearYou’ll learn how to reframe sexuality as a relationship rather than a problem to eliminate, and why healing your own sexual shame directly impacts your children’s freedom and confidence.We talk about the inner work every man must do to align his psychology, spirituality, and masculinity—so you can live with the kind of integrity your kids can actually feel.If you’ve ever felt torn between wanting to protect your kids and wanting to raise them to be strong, wise, and connected—you need this conversation.Featuring: Taylor Chambers, LMFT — The Good and The FreeTaylor is a leading voice in porn addiction recovery, healthy sexuality, and shame-free living. He’s a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, creator of the Porn Resilient Model, and founder of The Good and The Free, where he teaches men, parents, and couples how to build sexual wholeness rooted in honesty, integrity, and freedom.Follow Taylor at wearethegoodandthefree.com or on Instagram @thegoodandthefreeDon’t miss the Porn Resilient Online Summit (Oct 13–16, 2025), where I’ll share The RAIL Method™—a step-by-step system to turn cravings into fuel for recovery. You can watch my interview and 20 other experts free, or grab the All-Access Implementation Bundle for lifetime access to all recorded interviews + courses and resources (including my RAIL Method™ online course)—just $87 if purchased by October 12th.Support the showNo More Desire