No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery 127: Trauma, Porn, and Same-Sex Attraction in Men | Navigating Identity Confusion, Emotional Neglect, and Feeling Like "I Don't Belong"
Most men think porn addiction is about lust, lack of discipline, or not wanting freedom badly enough.
It’s not.
In this episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with Jordan Castille, a coach who works with men navigating pornography addiction, shame, and same-sex attraction, to have a conversation most recovery spaces still avoid.
We talk about how bullying, rejection, and emotional trauma can shape a man’s relationship with porn long before he ever understands what’s happening inside him.
For many men, porn addiction isn’t driven by pleasure — it’s driven by pain, isolation, and the deep belief that “something about me is wrong.”
Jordan shares his personal story of growing up in a conservative faith environment, experiencing same-sex attraction, enduring bullying, and using porn as a way to cope with shame and loneliness. Together, we unpack how trauma wires the nervous system, how sexual desire becomes symbolic, and why trying to “just stop” porn use often backfires.
This episode goes beyond surface-level advice and into the root causes of porn addiction, including identity confusion, emotional neglect, and the unmet need for belonging.
We also explore how healing happens not through suppression, but through understanding, self-leadership, and healthy connection with other men.
If you’ve ever felt broken, abnormal, or alone in your struggle with pornography addiction — this conversation will change how you see yourself.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why porn addiction is often a trauma response, not a moral failure
- How bullying, shame, and rejection shape compulsive porn use
- The connection between trauma and porn addiction in men
- Same-sex attraction, identity, and pornography addiction
- Why sexual triggers are signals, not enemies
- How shame and isolation fuel porn addiction relapse cycles
- Using triggers as trailheads for healing instead of fighting them
- Masculinity, belonging, and emotional healing for men
- How parts work and nervous system regulation support recovery
- A healthier, shame-free framework for overcoming porn addiction
This episode is for men who are tired of white-knuckling, tired of feeling defective, and ready to understand why porn has had such a hold on their lives — and how real, lasting porn addiction recovery actually works.
You’re not weak.
You’re not broken.
And you’re not alone.
Explore more of Jordan's work at: https://www.castillecoaching.com/
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