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GS. Youngblood has been a facilitator, men's coach, and student in the field of men's work for over 15 years. He is also the author of the widely popular books "The Masculine in Relationships" and "The Art of Embodiment for Men". Today, his mission is to teach men in relationships how to live, love, and lead from their Masculine core. Through his lens of masculine leadership, he draws on principles from a wide variety of fields such as authentic relating, psychology, martial arts, tango, meditation, and even BDSM. His writings and teachings are filtered through the laboratory of his personal and clients' experiences, including the successes and failures, highlighting what does and what doesn't work. I came across GS's books 2 years ago as I was moving through a shattering break-up, and I was deeply impressed by his in-depth knowledge in the realms of relationships & men's development. I found his approach to be practical and tactical appreciating the depth of clarity it provided as I continue navigating the at times murky waters of romantic relationships. In this interview, GS and I focus on the principles of the masculine blueprint, a 3-part framework focusing on responsiveness, creating structure, and providing emotional safety. We also dive deeply into a clear understanding of the popular emerging field of embodiment – explaining what it is and why it is valuable, specifically in relationships. The conversation that followed was incredibly engaging, fun and insightful and I trust that you all are going to receive a lot of value from it. Connect with GS Youngblood Website: https://www.gsyoungblood.com/ Sign up for "The Relationship Repair Bootcamp": https://gsyoungblood.com/bootcamp Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gsyoungbloodmir/?hl=en Read "The Masculine in Relationship": https://www.amazon.com/Masculine-Relationship-Blueprint-Inspiring-Devotion/dp/1699443386 Connect with Alex Website: https://www.alexlehmann.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/?hl=en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast/featured Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me (1 one more spot available at present time): https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching

Joshua Michael Wenner is an entrepreneur, veteran, and emotional resilience expert. Over the past 20 years, he has dedicated himself to growing companies and supporting others in maximizing their potential. He is also the founder of the Emotional Resilience Training (ERT). Following the loss of his brother to a heroin overdose nearly two decades ago, Joshua embarked on a journey of healing navigating through his own grief and heartbreak. This led him to interview numerous experts in the fields of grief and trauma, culminating in an upcoming documentary called "The Gift of Grief." Through this process, Joshua acquired tools, insights, and awareness about loss and trauma, which enabled him to rediscover the joy in life. Guided by his experiences Joshua initiated Emotional Resiliency Training retreats for men, teaching them to embrace grief and incorporate somatic-based methods to express anger and sadness in effective ways. Today, his coaching, curriculum, and frameworks are utilized to assist high-achievers, successful entrepreneurs, men, first responders, veterans, and individuals dealing with extreme stress and trauma. When I first encountered Joshua's work, I was deeply moved by his personal story of loss and his journey toward finding meaning amidst grief and heartbreak. After listening to him speak, I could truly feel his well-rounded and embodied wisdom in various realms that I've been exploring for a number of years, such as grief and nervous system regulation work, men's work, and relationships. In this interview, Joshua and I delve deeply into all of those subjects, and how they're interconnected. This is a conversation I highly recommend you listen to the end, as it provides invaluable insights and personal experiences into loss, grief, relationships and personal growth.. Connect with Joshua Wenner: Website: https://joshuawenner.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joshuamichaelwenner/?hl=en Learn more about Joshua's Men's Leadership Organization: https://www.k4men.com/ Connect with Alex Lehmann: https://alexlehmann.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/?hl=en YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast/featured Email: alexlehmanncoaching@gmail.com Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me (1 one more spot available at present time): https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching

Carolina Zavala is a relationship & intimacy mentor, primarily supporting women and couples, to overcome relational blocks and insecurities, so they can experience the depth of intimacy and connection that they truly long for. Now, this is a special episode and the reason is because after 20 published episode, I am thrilled and honored to finally bring our first female guest on the podcast. And I couldn't be more delighted to have Carolina on. Carolina is a friend here on the island of the Bali, and one of the things that's deeply connected both of us is our personal fascination around the topic of relationships. And considering that Carolina primarily works with women, whereas I mostly with men around relationships, I thought it be valuable for us to come together and engage in a discussion from our individual perspectives. What I was longing to provide for all the men listening in, is a sneak peak into the mind and heart of a woman who's dedicated her life to this path, with the hope of creating more clarity on how to navigate the at times murky waters of relationships. But this conversation isn't solely for our brothers. This one as I see it is for everybody who longs to understand how to create the love that they truly desire. As I listened back to this conversation in preparation to bringing it on the podcast, I came to enjoy the flexible and playful dynamic between Carolina and I – and I hope it will offer a refreshing, new flavor to this podcast. In this conversation, Carolina and I cover following topics: Carolina's personal entry into learning more about relationships The myth of the "perfect relationship" The pain-points that Carolina's female clients communicate about their relationships Why being a "nice guy" is a turn off The importance of leadership and taking charge in relationships Why trying to "keep it all together" in our relationships will always lead to disconnection What men truly need to step into deeper confidence in relationship How we can create more spark & juiciness in the bedroom Why communication is so important in the bedroom What we can do when our triggers arise The importance of sharing our pain with an open heart Why taking radical responsibility is the key to healthy relating Connect with Carolina Zavala: Website: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.carolinazavala.com/en Instagram (English account): https://www.instagram.com/itscarolinazavala/?hl=de Instagram (Spanish account): https://www.instagram.com/mujerfullpower/?hl=de Connect with Alex Lehmann Website: ⁠⁠https://alexlehmann.co/⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_?igsh=YzVkODRmOTdmMw==⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast⁠⁠ Email: alexlehmanncoaching@gmail.com Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me: ⁠⁠https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching

Justin Patrick Pierce is a spiritual intimacy teacher, relationship mentor & the co-author of the widely acclaimed books „The awakened woman's guide to everlasting love“ and „Playing with Fire“. As the founder of "The Yoga of Intimacy," Justin has dedicated his life to guiding individuals towards deeper connections & intimacy with themselves and others. 2 years ago, when I was diving deep into the topic of Relationships & Intimacy, I was deeply impacted by the teachings of polarity, that refer to these opposing forces commonly referred to as masculine or feminine energetics, doing or being energy, alpha or omega, and these were widely popularized by teachers such as David Deida. When I first became exposed to Justin's work alongside his Wife, Londin Angel Winters, I deeply appreciated their flexible approach to these teachings, where in the past I've found them to be too prescriptive towards how I and my partner was supposed to be. In his work, Justin commonly refers to these expressions as "Alpha" and "Omega," which can be seen as different energetic ways of operating. He has popularized the term "energetic agility" in relationships, speaking to our ability to adapt to different expressions depending on what the moment is calling for. I wanted to bring Justin along to speak to the essence of his teachings, and we ended up Immersing ourselves in an exploration of the challenges he sees among men and how they can be supported in the realm of relationships. Speaking into his latest book „Playing With Fire“, Justin and I went deep into this conversation around desire and how we're able to create, and even sustain desire in the long-term in our romantic partnerships. It has truly been an honor to sit with Justin for the hour and a half we had together, and the conversation did not disappoint, being filled with transformative insights and exploration. If you are a man or a woman who would like to deepen their connection & desire in relationship, this one's for you. In this conversation, Justin and I explore: What is the "Yoga of Intimacy" The importance of Integrity What is "alpha" & "omega" and how do these apply in relationships? How we can release the grasp from the inner judge Why nothing that you do, acquire and achieve can ever satiate the innate desire for freedom One practice that we can do to deepen our connection to ourselves and our partners How we can create deeper desire in relationship How we can become more trustable with our desire How we use desire to deepen trust in our interactions Connect with Justin Patrick Pierce: Website: ⁠⁠https://www.justinpatrickpierce.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinpatrickpierce/?hl=de Read Justin's widely acclaimed co-authored book "Playing with Fire": https://www.amazon.com/Playing-Fire-Spiritual-Intimate-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0BV7JRF8J Connect with Alex Lehmann Website: ⁠https://alexlehmann.co/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_?igsh=YzVkODRmOTdmMw==⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast⁠ Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me: ⁠https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching

Dr. Robert Glover is a renowned therapist, speaker, coach and the author of the best-selling book „No More Mr. Nice Guy“ Over the last 4 decades, Dr. Glover has been shedding light on the phenomenon he describes as „Nice Guy Syndrome“ and has helped countless men across the globe in the realms of life, sex and relating. Now, you may ask yourself: „What's the problem with being a nice guy?“ Well, this is something that Dr. Glover and I explore deeply in in this conversation. We come to explore his own journey of discovering his nice guy tendencies, how nice guys are formed and why this protective strategy is a terrible foundation to initiate a relationship from. From there, we transition into a deep dive around love and relating. And for anybody who's listening in, I highly encourage you to listen to the end, where he shares his own insights around heartbreak that left a lasting impact on me. When I first envisioned this podcast, one of my dreams was to to have Dr. Glover come on my show, as he's profoundly impacted my own life through his book and work. And I did my best not to shy away from my own Anxiety and Shame that kicked in as soon as Robert agreed to come on my show, which led to a beautiful discussion on how we can move through internalized shame and soothe our anxiety. Having spent an hour and a half in conversation with him, I can confidently say that he didn't disappoint and I deeply admired his humility, authenticity, humor and welcoming nature. This was an incredibly insightful conversation and I highly recommend tuning into this interview with a man who, after 4 decades of working with men, is still going stronger than ever. In the following conversation Dr. Glover and I cover following topics: Dr. Glover's personal journey of understanding his "Nice Guy Tendencies" The problem with being a Nice Guy How Nice Guy's are formed How to move through internalized shame & soothe anxiety as a Nice Guy The 2 types of Nice Guys What holds Nice Guy's back from getting the love the want The 3 covert contracts Nice Guys operate under Why we're here to get our hearts broken The importance of men being together with other men What drives Dr. Glover to continue this work after 4 decades — Connect with Dr. Robert Glover: Website: ⁠https://www.drglover.com/ Find our more about "Integration Nation": ⁠https://integrationnation.net/ Read Dr. Glover's widely acclaimed book "No More Mr. Nice Guy": ⁠https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339⁠ Connect with Alex Lehmann Website: https://alexlehmann.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_?igsh=YzVkODRmOTdmMw== YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me: https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching

Aaron Binning is an experienced Social Worker, Educator & Youth Mentor. For a number of years, Aaron put his focus towards supporting at-risk young people, gaining invaluable first hand experience, training and qualifications along the way. Driven by his passion for creating positive change, Aaron came to Bali at the beginning of 2020. This is where he created The Road, an initiative aimed at empowering and educating young men through experiential learning. Through his work he aims to enable young men to embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery, allowing them to understand themselves, their peers, and the world around them. Aaron's vision is to equip young men with life lessons and skills through guidance that many of us missed out on. He firmly believes in the importance of human connection through self-expression and vulnerability, recognizing that the cultivation of these skills are often missed. These past few months I've been connecting with a number of men who are fathers of young boys and it got me thinking: What can we do in order to effectively allow our boys transition into maturity and manhood? What is it that I and many of my fellow men missed out on that left a lasting impact on us? And so with that, I wanted to engage in a discussion... For anybody who is not a parent nor a young man moving through adolescence, my hope is that we still get to use this conversation as an access point to reflect on our own lives and past experiences. In my own exploration of what was absent during my upbringing and the impact this may have had on me; I've found such explorations to be empowering as it offered me the opportunity to intentionally provide myself with the things that I lacked. For parents of young men, I hope this can illuminate an understanding of what may be present for them and how you may be able to support them. A reminder: I want to humbly name that both Aaron and I are not fathers and neither of us want to assume to have any answers here, but the intention was begin a conversation – especially with Aaron's vast experiences of working with young men. — Connect with Aaron Binning: Website: https://www.theroadbali.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theroadbali/?hl=de Connect with Alex Lehmann Website: https://alexlehmann.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_?igsh=YzVkODRmOTdmMw== YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me: https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching

Aaron Kleinerman is a transformational Tantric Coach, facilitator, speaker and author of the best-selling book „The Embodied Man“ After attending the marine academy, his career started off as a licensed merchant mariner, traveling the world, navigating ships and making a good salary. However, Aaron's life took an unexpected turn when he woke up one day, unable to move, on the very day he was about to embark on another mission Something within him knew that this wasn't the path laid out for him, encouraging him to take action on the changes asking to be made. Following his intuition, he moved to California to pursue a master's degree in spiritual psychology, leading him down the path of supporting individuals in the areas of transformation and relationships. Transitioning from navigating ships at sea, Aaron has shifted his focus to navigating souls in the realms of love, sex and leadership Aaron and I first connected a couple of years ago at one of his men's retreat I participated at, which left a transformational impact on me. In our conversation on this podcast, I explored Aaron's take & insights around men's work, relationship & sexuality drawing form the conversations we've had but also the rich perspective he provides in his book „the embodied man“ - which I've found to be an integrated outline of what it looks like to pursue mastery in all aspects of being a man. The conversation that followed was a fun, deep, juicy and at times provocative exploration into a wide array of topics and I can't wait for all of you to listen in. — Connect with Aaron Kleinerman: Website: https://aaronkleinerman.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesoulnavigator/?hl=de Connect with Alex Lehmann Website: https://alexlehmann.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_?igsh=YzVkODRmOTdmMw== YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me: https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching Find out more about my Men's Group Program: "The integrated Men's Leadership Intensive: https://www.alexlehmann.co/men-leadership-intensive

In this spicy conversation, I had the great fortune of welcoming Alex Grendi to the podcast. Alex is a men's sex coach who helps men to overcome performance anxiety, erectile disfunction and premature ejaculation. His expertise lie in empowering men to become sexually sovereign, feeling more confident as lovers and cultivating deeper connections with their intimate partners both inside and outside the bedroom. Before entering this field of work, Alex personally experienced all kinds of challenges and insecurities within the bedroom. And despite having had a number of sexual experiences, he consistently felt disconnected from himself and his partners, often experiencing fear, anxiety or relying on substances to navigate his sexual encounters. Determined to find a path to deeper peace and connection, Alex embarked on a journey of self-exploration, so he can come into deeper understanding of the challenges he was having. Along this journey, he quickly discovered the importance of taking ownership over our own sexuality, drawing from his research in the fields of Taoism and Tantra. Fascinated by his learnings, he decided to bring more attention to it. And after being suggested to speak to a sex coach, Alex immediately felt the calling, eventually connecting with multiple coaches specializing in the realm of sexuality to bridge the gaps in his knowledge and understanding. Now I am aware that the topic of sexuallty can be charged point of contact for many, including myself before I began my own journey of unpacking this area in my own life. But over the years, I've come to recognize this to be an essential conversation Reflecting on my own personal journey and the many men I've had the opportunity to speak with and coach, the challenges within our sexual expression and how we can become more responsible are more prevalent than ever. Within our society, I've come to recognize the lack of education that's truly needed in this field and with the exposure of distorted messages through pornography and a lack of competence to navigate our own sexual desires, the confusion and disconnect for many men is increasing. My sincere hope with conversation like these is to offer men a new context beyond what they have been taught, inviting them into deeper self-acceptance, responsibility, and connection within their own sexuality. By exploring this topic openly and honestly, my aim is to provide insights that can empower men to reclaim their sexual sovereignty, create the safety that is needed within intimacy and foster stronger connections with their partners. I trust that you will find this conversation as immensely valuable as I did. In this podcast, we explore: How we can use sexuality as a gateway to building a deeper connection with ourselves Alex's personal journey of self-discovery and transformation, leading him to become a men's sex coach. The root cause of many challenges that happen in the bedroom The importance of emotional regulation in order to be able to perform in the bedroom How we can use the power of our breath to regulate our arousal and stress response The importance of communicating our desires, needs and limitations in the bedroom The damaging effects of pornography and finding a pathway forward Learning to self-source our own pleasure vs. seeking validation externally Taking control of our ejaculation for a more fulfilling sexual experience. — Connect with Alex Grendi: Website: https://go.superiorlovers.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Alex.Grendi Connect with Alex Lehmann Website: https://alexlehmann.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_?igsh=YzVkODRmOTdmMw== Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me: https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching Find out more about my Men's Group Program: "The integrated Men's Leadership Intensive: https://www.alexlehmann.co/men-leadership-intensive

Welcome, everybody, to another episode at the „Heart of man. I am thrilled to have James Mattingley with us here today. James is a coach and facilitator with over a decade of experience leading groups, and guiding transformational experiences. Within his work, he leads in 3 distinct areas: Helping couples reignite the passion they had at the beginning but even better Supporting individuals to unveil their inner genius and superpower Leading men's groups focused on helping men step into courage and love on each other with their fists, using boxing and embodiment I first met James at a 3- day men's retreat I participated in. During our time together, he skillfully guided us into various different expressions through the use of boxing, embodiment practices & partner exercises. Within our first few moments together, James emphasized the importance of fighting for our brother and not against him, speaking to the fine line of challenging each other from a place of support rather than attempting to bring each other down. What stood out for me when I first made contact with James was his ability to embody what I'd describe as the „Warrior Poet“ - someone with a connection to his power & fierceness but can also access his gentleness & receptivity. Within the retreat, we were consistently challenged to explore the edges of that spectrum to expand our capacity to move with agility in both. A personal favorite moment of this conversation came at the opening of the podcast where James read out a poem he created, communicating the confusing messaging of who we are to be as men and this was followed by a rich discussion addressing the challenges of men in our modern times. From there, we range into a wide array of topics such as keeping the spark alive with an intimate partner even when the honeymoon phase has settled in, why leading from generosity in relationship is the path forward, why attempting to seek a purpose is not the way and what to do otherwise and many more exciting subject matters. In this conversation, James & I cover following topics: The expectations of who men are supposed to be in modern times The cost of men being disconnected from their strength & inner power How having a wider range of expression can lead to more confidence What is transformational combat & why it's valuable for men to connect to their inner fighter How couples can keep the spark alive - even when the honeymoon phase has settled Why it's important for couples to get clear on a relationship vision Why attempting to seek one's purpose is not the way & what do do instead How to effectively carry our wounds in relationship — Connect with James: Website: https://www.jamesmattingley.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james.mattingley/?hl=de Connect with Alex Website: https://alexlehmann.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_?igsh=YzVkODRmOTdmMw== Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me: https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching Find out more about my Men's Group Program: "The integrated Men's Leadership Intensive: https://www.alexlehmann.co/men-leadership-intensive

Stephen Whalen is a transformational life Coach, meditation facilitator and strength and conditioning coach with over 10 years of experience working with world-class coaches, athletes, sports psychologists, teachers and healers. His own personal journey began with his aspiration to play professional baseball. After numerous injuries, he came to a point where he had to hang up the gloves for good, and open himself up to a new chapter. He quickly found a passion for the field of coaching, specifically within the realm of strength and conditioning and ended up transitioning into guiding world-class athletes through his programs. Stephen came to a point where in his own words he had it all: He had the wife, the dogs, the cars, the house, the friends and yet, he shares that he was miserable without any understanding why he was feeling this way. This break-down moment forced Stephen on a path where he had to begin to open the door to the emotional basement he had locked away long ago On his path to healing he ended up working with therapists and spiritual mentors and yet, some of his most profound shifts occurred during his extensive travels around the world. Being immersed with nature and frequently embarking on multi-day treks, Stephen found his way back to himself. And it was there, where his next mission was birthed: thrive coaching – This movement combines coaching with adventure and Stephen now guides men through transformational adventure retreats where he guides them back to themselves fostering a deep sense clarity and connection Stephen and I connected just days just before this interview where we spoke deeply about our personal journeys. Both of us experienced massive healing through coaching and travel, and I knew this would be a powerful access point for us to come together. Beyond our personal explorations, Stephen and I transitioned into speaking about men's work, specially relational men's work, something he is learning at the moment through his work with John Wineland, a teacher that I personally learned a lot from. Coupled with many laughs, heartfelt shares and deep insights, this is an episode you won't want to miss. Within this conversation, Stephen and I go into following topics: Stephen's journey into strength & conditioning The value of operating from a beginner's mind Why it's important to cultivate confidence over our physicality Stephen's break-down moment, ultimately leading to him navigating divorce The causes that led to his relationship breaking down & what he learned in the process Stephen's personal journey into healing through therapy & traveling His work of supporting men through adventure and coaching Stephen's journey into men's work & the value he received from working with John Wineland — Connect with Stephen: Website: https://thrivecoachingworld.mykajabi.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivecoachingworld/?hl=de Connect with Alex Website: https://alexlehmann.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_?igsh=YzVkODRmOTdmMw== Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me: https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching Find out more about my Men's Group Program: "The integrated Men's Leadership Intensive: https://www.alexlehmann.co/men-leadership-intensive