Heart of Man James Mattingley: Forging Brotherhood Through Ritual Combat | EP 15
Welcome, everybody, to another episode at the „Heart of man. I am thrilled to have James Mattingley with us here today.
James is a coach and facilitator with over a decade of experience leading groups, and guiding transformational experiences. Within his work, he leads in 3 distinct areas:
- Helping couples reignite the passion they had at the beginning but even better
- Supporting individuals to unveil their inner genius and superpower
- Leading men's groups focused on helping men step into courage and love on each other with their fists, using boxing and embodiment
I first met James at a 3- day men's retreat I participated in. During our time together, he skillfully guided us into various different expressions through the use of boxing, embodiment practices & partner exercises. Within our first few moments together, James emphasized the importance of fighting for our brother and not against him, speaking to the fine line of challenging each other from a place of support rather than attempting to bring each other down.
What stood out for me when I first made contact with James was his ability to embody what I'd describe as the „Warrior Poet“ - someone with a connection to his power & fierceness but can also access his gentleness & receptivity.
Within the retreat, we were consistently challenged to explore the edges of that spectrum to expand our capacity to move with agility in both.
A personal favorite moment of this conversation came at the opening of the podcast where James read out a poem he created, communicating the confusing messaging of who we are to be as men and this was followed by a rich discussion addressing the challenges of men in our modern times.
From there, we range into a wide array of topics such as keeping the spark alive with an intimate partner even when the honeymoon phase has settled in, why leading from generosity in relationship is the path forward, why attempting to seek a purpose is not the way and what to do otherwise and many more exciting subject matters.
In this conversation, James & I cover following topics:
- The expectations of who men are supposed to be in modern times
- The cost of men being disconnected from their strength & inner power
- How having a wider range of expression can lead to more confidence
- What is transformational combat & why it's valuable for men to connect to their inner fighter
- How couples can keep the spark alive - even when the honeymoon phase has settled
- Why it's important for couples to get clear on a relationship vision
- Why attempting to seek one's purpose is not the way & what do do instead
- How to effectively carry our wounds in relationship
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Website: https://www.jamesmattingley.com/
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