

The Alcohol ReThink Podcast with Patrick Fox
Patrick Fox - Mens Life and Sober Coach
The Alcohol ReThink Podcast is for men who want to change their relationship with alcohol, whether you're in the sober-curious stage or ready to quit for good.
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
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Aug 6, 2025 • 21min
211. The Rise of the Sober-Curious Movement
What if you didn’t need to hit rock bottom to rethink your relationship with alcohol?In this week's episode of The Alcohol eThink podcast, Patrick explores the growing trend of people choosing to drink less, or not at all, not because they’ve 'got a problem,' but because they’re simply asking better questions.You’ll hear how the sober-curious movement is gaining real traction in 2025, with nearly half of Americans planning to cut back and a wave of Gen Z and Millennials leading the charge. From sober raves to supermarket trends, Patrick shares some surprising stats, personal reflections, and cultural shifts that show sobriety is no longer on the sidelines; it’s going mainstream.You’ll also hear about a long list of high-profile men who’ve chosen to stop drinking, guys like Elton John, Tom Holland, Bradley Cooper, Ricky Gervais, and Colin Farrell, many of whom quit for reasons beyond addiction. They simply wanted to feel better, think clearer, and show up more fully in their lives.Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, or still figuring it all out, this episode is a reminder that you don’t need a label. You just need the courage to get honest.Some of the cool things discussed in this episode:- The origins of the phrase 'sober-curious'- Why more people are choosing not to drink in 2025 (and what the data says).- The difference between sobriety, being sober-curious, California-sober and moderation.- Why you don’t need a dramatic reason to take a break from alcohol.- How social pressure still plays a role, but the tide is turning.Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Jul 25, 2025 • 43min
210. Stop Suffering In Silence - A conversation around mens mental health with David Beeney
Men, you do not have to suffer in silence.There is help. There is hope. There is a way.This is the message this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast is spreading far and wide.In this powerful and hard-hitting conversation, Patrick Fox is joined by mental health advocate, author, therapist, and motivational speaker, David Beeney, to explore the secret struggles many men keep buried, and what happens when you finally start talking about them.David spent 36 years in a successful corporate career while silently battling panic attacks and anxiety. Not one person knew, not his family, his friends, or his colleagues. That silence almost cost him everything.Together, Patrick and David dive into the reality of men’s mental health in the workplace, why so many guys put on a brave face, and how shame, humour, and distraction become armour.They also reflect on the impact of losing a colleague and friend to suicide 20 years ago, and how it shaped both of their missions to help men open up, drop the mask, and ask for support.This episode is about becoming comfortable with dropping the mask and getting honest with what’s actually going on for you.Key takeaways:- Why humour is often a mask for internal struggle- The silent cost of hiding anxiety and panic attacks- What’s really holding men back from speaking up- How to spot signs that someone (including you) might be struggling- The importance of self-compassion over self-criticism- What changes when workplaces get mental health right- Why being open is uncomfortable, and worth itIf you know someone who would benefit from hearing this conversation, please share and let them know why it might help them.Connect with David:Website: https://www.breakingthesilence.co.uk/Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Jul 18, 2025 • 28min
209. Quitting Drinking Won’t Fix Everything… But It’s a Great Start
In this episode of The Alcohol Rethink Podcast, Patrick explores a common but overlooked belief many men hold when they stop drinking, the idea that sobriety will fix everything.Drawing from personal experience and client stories, he reflects on why quitting alcohol is a powerful step, but not a magic solution. Patrick talks about the emotional ups and downs that can follow early sobriety, the expectations that often lead to frustration, and why it’s so important to see sobriety not as a quick fix, but as the foundation for something deeper.Listeners will hear about what can happen when alcohol is no longer there to escape into, and how the real work, and opportunity, begins when we learn to face life fully. It’s a grounded, honest look at what it really means to live alcohol-free.Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Jul 11, 2025 • 20min
208. Trading Addictions & Resourcefulness [Republished]
So you’ve stopped drinking, now what?In episode 208 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick shares what no one really talks about in early sobriety: the sneaky ways we trade one habit for another. For him, it was swapping booze for bags of Haribo, biscuits, and secret chocolate runs. But it’s not just about sugar , it’s about how our brains crave comfort, familiarity, and quick hits of dopamine when we remove alcohol.For many guys it can be zero beers, vaping, porn or even exercise. Patrick helpss breaks down why this happens, how addiction isn't always what we think it is, and why being 'addicted' to alcohol doesn’t mean you're broken. He dives into what’s really going on in the brain, what makes stopping drinking hard, and what makes it possible.This episode is for any guy who’s wondered:Why do I still feel the urge even after I’ve stopped drinking?Am I just replacing one addiction with another?Is this normal?It’s honest, it’s hopeful, and it’s a reminder that slipping into new habits doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it means you're human.Awesome takeaways from this episode:Why the brain often swaps one addiction for another.How to sit with discomfort instead of avoiding it.Why sugar, coffee, or distractions often become the new “fix.”What it really takes to break the cycle and build resilience.Whether you're just starting out or deep in your alcohol-free journey, this one’s a must-listen.Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Jul 4, 2025 • 23min
207. Break Out of The Frustration Trap
Ever find yourself thinking, 'Why do I keep doing this? You made the promises, perhaps even a made plan, yet you find yourself back in that same cycle of drinking. In this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick speaks about something he sees come up often in his coaching and own life and that's The Frustration TrapThe cycle of being hard on yourself when drinking habits aren’t changing fast enough (or at all). He shares how this shows up for the men he works with, and in his own life, whether it’s on the football pitch, building a business, or getting his son ready for school.You’ll hear how frustration can sneak in when we’re trying to create change, why it rarely works as motivation long term, and what to do instead. There’s also a powerful moment from one of Patrick’s coaching clients celebrating six months alcohol-free, and the surprising advice that helped him most.Some awesome takeaways from this week's show:Why frustration often keeps you stuck (even if it feels like you’re taking action)The real story behind your inner criticHow to respond to frustration with awareness instead of reaction3 simple tools to break the frustration cycleA reminder that being kind to yourself is far from weak, it’s essentialIf you’ve ever felt fed up with yourself and your drinking and you want to break out of that rut, check out this episode and shifting how you see yourself and your drinking today.Think different - feel different - do different. Enjoy. Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Jun 27, 2025 • 19min
206. Alcohol, Advertising, and the Stories We’re (mis)Sold
In this week’s reflective episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick shares a personal moment from a recent night out in London that sparked some honest observations about alcohol, advertising, and the subtle ways we’re influenced.From watching crowds spill out of pubs to reading headlines about potential restrictions on alcohol ads, Patrick explores how our beliefs around drinking are shaped, often without us even noticing. He shares why he no longer feels like he’s missing out, how his relationship with alcohol has changed over the years, and why it’s so important to question what we’re being sold, literally and figuratively.This isn’t a rant or a lecture, just some grounded thoughts, a few honest questions, and a reminder that change isn’t always loud… sometimes it’s just quietly noticing things differently.Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Jun 20, 2025 • 40min
205. Breaking the Silence on Men’s Mental Health with Giancarlo Gaglione
The landscape of men’s mental health is beginning to change, but there’s still a long way to go.Men are notorious for trying to deal with things on their own, often afraid to reach out for help in case they’re seen as weak, soft, or not 'man enough.'In this weeks powerful and heartfelt episode 205 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox sits down with Giancarlo Gaglione, founder of the Mental Health World Cup. What begins as a conversation about a charity football tournament quickly opens into a raw, honest exploration of grief, vulnerability, and the importance of normalising conversations around mental health and suicide.Giancarlo shares the moving story of how losing his younger brother in 2012 became the catalyst for building one of the UK’s most impactful mental health events. He speaks openly about the pain of loss, the silence that often surrounds male mental health, and how sport, particularly football, has become a tool to bring men together and break down stigma.This episode touches on topics some may find difficult, including suicidal thoughts, grief, and the challenges men face when asking for help. But it’s handled with care, compassion, and the belief that talking about these issues is not only important, it’s vital.Key Takeaways:Why being vulnerable is an act of bravery, not weaknessThe evolution of societal attitudes toward suicide and mental healthThe role football can play in opening up life-saving conversationsHow Giancarlo turned personal tragedy into national impactSigns someone might be silently struggling and how to respondIt’s a real, honest conversation that shows how powerful it can be just to open up. You don’t have to fix everything or have the perfect words, by starting to talk can make all the difference.Find out more about Giancarlo and The Mental Health World-Cup here: https://www.mentalhealthworldcup.org.uk/Instagram: @mentalhealthworldcupWork with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Jun 13, 2025 • 30min
204. The Mental Gymnastics of Addiction (and how to beat it)
What do Crocs, coaching, and quitting drinking have in common? More than you'd think...In episode 204 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox, a life and sober coach for men, explores how the seemingly small stuff, like your opinion on someone’s shoes, can reveal the deeper belief systems driving your habits, including your relationship with alcohol.Using everyday examples and coaching insights, Patrick unpacks how our brains use beliefs as shortcuts to interpret the world and how those beliefs often go unquestioned. From identity-level thoughts like “I’m just a guy who likes a drink” to fear-based assumptions like “If I stop drinking, I’ll be miserable,” this episode invites listeners to pause, get curious, and realise: all beliefs are optional.Cool takeaways you can expect to hear:Why your beliefs, not alcohol, may be the real thing getting in your wayThe difference between equivalence, cause-and-effect, and identity beliefsHow your brain filters reality through deletion, distortion, and generalisationThe power of suspending beliefs rather than fighting themWhy questioning what you believe about alcohol is the first step toward real changeIf you're ready to take back control and feel more confident and self-assured in sobriety, this episode is a must-listen. Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Jun 6, 2025 • 28min
203. Why It's Hard To Stop Drinking Alcohol - Identity, Loss and Evolution
Have you ever felt sad by the prospect of not drinking alcohol again?If you have, you're not alone. It's something that many men experience when rethinking alcohol, but isn't spoken about widely enough.In episode 203 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox explores the often overlooked emotional side of quitting drinking, experiencing grief and saying goodbye to alcohol. Not just the 'I’m done' kind of goodbye, but a deeper, more intentional letting go of alcohol and everything it once represented.This episode includes a powerful message from a listener celebrating his one-year soberversary.Patrick also explores why saying goodbye to alcohol isn’t just about changing habits, it’s about honouring loss, identity, and transition.He shares how grief can show up unexpectedly, even months into sobriety and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing. In fact, it often means you’re doing the real work. Patrick reflects on the role of ritual in humans, the stories our brains create, and how choosing to walk away from alcohol on your own terms is one of the most powerful things you can do.This is a real, honest, and surprisingly uplifting episode about letting go… and moving toward what’s next.Some awesome takeaways:Saying goodbye to alcohol involves more than just not drinking.Grief is a normal and often hidden part of the sobriety journey.Old environments, holidays, and social settings can stir up feelings, not just cravings, but loss.Rituals can help you process the end of a chapter and support your identity shift.You're not weak for feeling like you're struggling, you're human, and that grief is a sign of growth.Letting go with intention helps reclaim your power and clarity in sobriety.Some cool ideas on how you can create your own ritual and say goodbye to alcohol in your life.Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

May 30, 2025 • 44min
202. Why You Binge with Amber Abila
Welcome to episode 202 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, where Patrick Fox is joined by Amber Abila, a binge and overeating coach who helps people stop binge eating by changing how they think about food. In this episode we discuss how habits form, why we often use food to cope (especially after quitting alcohol), and what it actually takes to feel in control again.You'll also hear how binge eating, like drinking, is often just an attempt to deal with discomfort. Amber shares her story of going from obsessive dieting and bingeing to becoming someone who can eat mindfully, without fear or guilt.Expect practical tools, honest insights, and plenty of parallels between food and alcohol habits, so if you’ve swapped wine for sugar or feel like you’re just bouncing from one coping strategy to another, this one’s for you.Awesome Takeaways:How binge eating and drinking often come from the same root causesThe power of seeing habits as just that, habits, not personal failingsWhy scarcity mindset fuels overeating (and over-drinking)The importance of slowing down and paying attention to what you're doingPractical ways to build mindfulness into eating (or drinking) habitsWhy learning to sit with discomfort is the key to long-term changeConnect with Amber;Free gift! Get instant access to my guided audio to “Stop a Binge Before it Starts” HERE!https://www.theconfidenteater.org/urgeFor more tips to rewire your brain around food & stop binge eating for good: Become a Confident Eater Podcast: https://www.theconfidenteater.org/podcast Work with me in the Confident Eater Program: https://www.theconfidenteater.org/work-with-me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theconfidenteater_/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@amberabila Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amber.abila.77/ Free Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/532434625387487/?mibextid=c7yyfP Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here