

The Alcohol ReThink Podcast with Patrick Fox
Patrick Fox - Mens Life and Sober Coach
The Alcohol ReThink Podcast is for men who want to change their relationship with alcohol, whether you're in the sober-curious stage or ready to quit for good.
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
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Sep 19, 2025 • 25min
218. The Risk of Complacency in Sobriety, and What to Do About It
How do you know if you’re content in sobriety… or slipping into complacency?In this episode 218 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox explores the hidden risk of complacency in recovery, and why it often shows up more quietly than you expect. From thoughts like “maybe just one drink will be different this time”, to forgetting the chaos alcohol once caused, Patrick unpacks how the mind subtly tries to convince you it’s safe to let your guard down.He also tackles the fear of complacency, the panic that can come when you over-analyse every thought about alcohol and shows how to find the balance between staying aware and living in peace. With insights from relapse prevention research, practical tools, and reflection prompts, Patrick gives listeners a clear path to stay ahead of complacency without living in fear.Cool Key Takeaways:Complacency often begins in the emotional and mental stages of relapse, long before a drink is taken.The difference between complacency (drifting without awareness) and contentment (living at peace while intentional).Why thoughts like “maybe it’ll be different this time” are just confirmation bias at work.How building resilience protects you, while overconfidence can put you at risk.Practical steps to revisit your why, maintain routines, and grow beyond sobriety.Article:Addiction Relapse PreventionWork with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Sep 12, 2025 • 50min
217. ADHD, Addiction & The Missing Link with Sarah Templeton
In this conversation, ADHD expert Sarah Templeton shares her powerful story of discovering her late ADHD diagnosis at 51. She discusses the intricate links between ADHD and addiction, noting how compulsive behaviors can lead to addictive patterns. Sarah highlights the often-overlooked signs of ADHD, particularly inattentive ADHD, and advocates for better screening within addiction services. Her insights emphasize the transformational impact of diagnosis, revealing how understanding ADHD can change lives and challenge systemic issues in education and criminal justice.

Sep 5, 2025 • 44min
216. Supporting Loved Ones Through Addiction with Amber Hollingsworth
The effects of alcohol and addiction go far and wide, they don’t just impact the person drinking, but ripple through families, relationships, and entire households. If you’ve ever struggled with how to talk to someone you love about their drinking, this episode is for you.In episode 216 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox sits down with addiction expert and YouTuber Amber Hollingsworth, host of Put Down the Shovel. With over 20 years of experience working with people struggling with addiction and their families, Amber shares practical tools and compassionate strategies to help loved ones create safety, build trust, and influence change without judgment or ultimatums.Listeners will learn how to approach difficult conversations without triggering defensiveness, why patience and self-regulation are essential, and how to set boundaries with empathy. Amber explains her concept of the “invisible intervention,” showing that families are not powerless and can play an active role in helping a loved one move toward recovery.Awesome takeaways:How to talk to a loved one about drinking without starting a fight.Why creating a safe, non-judgmental space is more powerful than criticism.Practical boundary-setting techniques for difficult situations.The importance of family members managing their own emotions first.How influence, not control, can accelerate change.Connect with Amber:YouTube - Put The Shovel DownWebsite: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Aug 29, 2025 • 17min
215. The Challenge with All or Nothing Thinking and Looking at What Lies in The Middle
In episode 215 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick explores the trap of all or nothing thinking, the mindset that tells us we 'always' do this or 'never' do that.From 'I've had one, I may as well keep going' to 'If I can't moderate, what's the point?', these absolutes feel like facts in the moment, but often they just cloud our judgment and keep us stuck in the cycle.Patrick breaks down what all or nothing thinking actually is, how it shows up around alcohol (and in other parts of life), and why it can sometimes be helpful, but only if you recognise it as a choice. He shares real-world examples from his own journey and his clients, and shows how to step into the middle ground where real progress is made.Key takeaways from this episode:What all or nothing thinking really is and how to recognise it.How 'always' and 'never' statements shape your mindset.Why all or nothing thinking sometimes helps, but often holds you back.The power of finding the middle ground when it comes to change.Real-life examples of shifting from extremes to progress.If you've ever felt like one slip wipes out all your progress, this episode will help you see things differently and give yourself permission to keep moving forward.Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Aug 22, 2025 • 46min
214. Stop Drifting & Start Showing Up with James Swanick
Most men don’t hit rock bottom; they just drift. A few drinks after work, weekends on autopilot, telling themselves they’re 'fine'… until fine turns into stuck.In episode 214 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox sits down with James Swanwick, former ESPN anchor, entrepreneur, and author of Clear: The Only Neuroscience-Based Method For High Achievers To Finally Break Free From Alcohol. During this open conversation they talk about how easy it is for men to slide into mediocrity without even noticing.They dig into:Why 'socially acceptable drinking' quietly robs your energy, money, and relationshipsThe hidden cost of living at 6/10 when you could be at 9How alcohol steals trust, not just from yourself, but from your family and businessWhat changes when you stop drifting and start living with clarityThis isn’t about waiting for rock bottom. It’s about recognising the drift and deciding to take the wheel back.Connect with James:Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/jamesswanwickWikipedia – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_SwanwickAlcohol Free Lifestyle – www.alcoholfreelifestyle.comSwanwick Sleep – www.swanwicksleep.comBook (Clear) – https://www.amazon.com/CLEAR-Neuroscience-Based-Achievers-Drinking-Willpower/dp/B0DYPLB3HNE-version - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1xIh6G6ZS8eF6YW3OQuWSEkE4ouHXa3oh/viewWork with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Aug 15, 2025 • 1h 5min
213. Breaking Free From the Work Hard, Play Hard Trap with Ben Taylor
Ben thought he was in control of alcohol, until every day started revolving around his next drink...In episode 213 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox talks with Ben who, by his own account, was a normal bloke who looked like he had it all together on the outside, running a successful business and raising a family, but behind the scenes was starting to struggle, with drinking creeping further into his life and even shaping how he pictured his retirement.Ben shares how drinking shifted from nights out with friends to solitary sessions at home, how the cycle crept in without him noticing, and what it took to finally break free. His story moves from hiding bottles and making excuses to walking in nature, feeling present with his family, and seeing his future in a completely different light.It’s a raw, relatable conversation about the messy middle of change, the doubt, the slips, the quiet wins, and the surprising freedom that comes when you finally stop negotiating with yourself over alcohol.How drinking can quietly shift from social fun to a daily coping mechanism.The small warning signs that signal it’s time for change.Why being 'a normal bloke' on the outside can hide a deeper struggle.The role of self-kindness in breaking long-standing habits.Practical ways to replace alcohol with habits that actually help you unwind.How life, work, and relationships can change in the first 8 months alcohol-free.Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Aug 8, 2025 • 1h 1min
212. Why Willpower Wasn’t Enough...and What Worked Instead with Matthew
Willpower might get you started, but it rarely lasts...In this week’s episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick is joined by listener-turned-guest Matthew, who got in touch after hitting his first sober anniversary. This is a powerful, honest, and surprisingly relatable conversation about the messy (and meaningful) journey of quitting alcohol, from blackouts and panic attacks to the small wins that actually made the difference.Get ready to hear about early cultural conditioning around alcohol to blackouts, hallucinations, chipped teeth, and panic attacks and why it all matters.Matthew opens up about the moments that forced him to re-evaluate his drinking, and why this time, something felt different. Rather than another stretch of white-knuckling it with willpower, he’s found something more meaningful and sustainable.Together, Patrick and Matthew explore what it really looks like to go from questioning your drinking to creating a life that genuinely feels better without it. They talk about routines, brain chemistry, false beliefs, and the small wins that add up, from calmer mornings and clearer skin to more patience, creativity, and joy.Whether you’re still trying to moderate, just starting out, or already alcohol-free, this episode is packed with insights, lived experience, and a reassuring reminder: you’re not alone, and change is possible.Key Takeaways:Why willpower alone often leads to relapse, and what’s more effectiveHow childhood beliefs about alcohol shape our adult habitsThe signs of drinking becoming more harmful (even if it doesn’t 'look bad' from the outside)Physical and emotional changes after stopping drinkingWhy replacing alcohol with presence, play, and purpose can be the real rewardPractical ideas for sober routines and alternatives to alcoholHow to shift from 'I’m missing out' to 'life feels better without it'Matthews Music:@itchylightswitch on InstagramThe Tunesmith Imaginary Themes on YouTube Imaginary Themes Barcode Boy - Hungry Ghosts by Matthew Richards The Normaltones Volume 1 on Soundcloud or YouTube Volume 1 by The Normaltones Zptqvms on YouTube @zptqvms5933Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Aug 6, 2025 • 21min
211. The Rise of the Sober-Curious Movement
What if you didn’t need to hit rock bottom to rethink your relationship with alcohol?In this week's episode of The Alcohol eThink podcast, Patrick explores the growing trend of people choosing to drink less, or not at all, not because they’ve 'got a problem,' but because they’re simply asking better questions.You’ll hear how the sober-curious movement is gaining real traction in 2025, with nearly half of Americans planning to cut back and a wave of Gen Z and Millennials leading the charge. From sober raves to supermarket trends, Patrick shares some surprising stats, personal reflections, and cultural shifts that show sobriety is no longer on the sidelines; it’s going mainstream.You’ll also hear about a long list of high-profile men who’ve chosen to stop drinking, guys like Elton John, Tom Holland, Bradley Cooper, Ricky Gervais, and Colin Farrell, many of whom quit for reasons beyond addiction. They simply wanted to feel better, think clearer, and show up more fully in their lives.Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, or still figuring it all out, this episode is a reminder that you don’t need a label. You just need the courage to get honest.Some of the cool things discussed in this episode:- The origins of the phrase 'sober-curious'- Why more people are choosing not to drink in 2025 (and what the data says).- The difference between sobriety, being sober-curious, California-sober and moderation.- Why you don’t need a dramatic reason to take a break from alcohol.- How social pressure still plays a role, but the tide is turning.Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Jul 25, 2025 • 43min
210. Stop Suffering In Silence - A conversation around mens mental health with David Beeney
Men, you do not have to suffer in silence.There is help. There is hope. There is a way.This is the message this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast is spreading far and wide.In this powerful and hard-hitting conversation, Patrick Fox is joined by mental health advocate, author, therapist, and motivational speaker, David Beeney, to explore the secret struggles many men keep buried, and what happens when you finally start talking about them.David spent 36 years in a successful corporate career while silently battling panic attacks and anxiety. Not one person knew, not his family, his friends, or his colleagues. That silence almost cost him everything.Together, Patrick and David dive into the reality of men’s mental health in the workplace, why so many guys put on a brave face, and how shame, humour, and distraction become armour.They also reflect on the impact of losing a colleague and friend to suicide 20 years ago, and how it shaped both of their missions to help men open up, drop the mask, and ask for support.This episode is about becoming comfortable with dropping the mask and getting honest with what’s actually going on for you.Key takeaways:- Why humour is often a mask for internal struggle- The silent cost of hiding anxiety and panic attacks- What’s really holding men back from speaking up- How to spot signs that someone (including you) might be struggling- The importance of self-compassion over self-criticism- What changes when workplaces get mental health right- Why being open is uncomfortable, and worth itIf you know someone who would benefit from hearing this conversation, please share and let them know why it might help them.Connect with David:Website: https://www.breakingthesilence.co.uk/Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Jul 18, 2025 • 28min
209. Quitting Drinking Won’t Fix Everything… But It’s a Great Start
In this episode of The Alcohol Rethink Podcast, Patrick explores a common but overlooked belief many men hold when they stop drinking, the idea that sobriety will fix everything.Drawing from personal experience and client stories, he reflects on why quitting alcohol is a powerful step, but not a magic solution. Patrick talks about the emotional ups and downs that can follow early sobriety, the expectations that often lead to frustration, and why it’s so important to see sobriety not as a quick fix, but as the foundation for something deeper.Listeners will hear about what can happen when alcohol is no longer there to escape into, and how the real work, and opportunity, begins when we learn to face life fully. It’s a grounded, honest look at what it really means to live alcohol-free.Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here


