

The Alcohol ReThink Podcast with Patrick Fox
Patrick Fox - Mens Life and Sober Coach
The Alcohol ReThink Podcast is for men who want to change their relationship with alcohol, whether you're in the sober-curious stage or ready to quit for good.
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
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May 23, 2025 • 39min
201. The Top 3 Fears That Keep Men Drinking (and how to deal with them)
What if fear isn't the barrier you think it is, but the breakthrough you're ready for?In episode 201 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox, life and sober coach for men, explores the 3 most common fears that hold men back from changing their relationship with alcohol. From the fear of what others might think, to the fear of failure (or even success), to the fear of change itself.Patrick breaks down how these mental blocks show up, and more importantly, how to move through them.With real coaching examples, sharp reframes, and powerful mindset shifts, Patrick challenges listeners to start questioning the story fear is telling them. Because more often than not, fear is a mile wide and an inch deep.Changing your perspective of fear, has the potential to change your life. Awesome takeaways in this episode:Why fear of judgement is often rooted in your own beliefs about drinkingHow to reframe 'I have a big drinking problem' into something that empowers rather than shamesWhat your fear of change is really trying to protect and how to work with it, not against itThe truth about your nervous system’s resistance and how to build new safety through sobrietyA reminder that you’re not broken, you’re just wired for survivalIf you're ready to stop letting fear dictate your decisions and start rethinking alcohol for good, this episode is for you.Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

May 16, 2025 • 51min
200. The Drinking Archetypes with Rachel Hart
Welcome to this milestone 200th episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, where Patrick Fox welcomes renowned coach and author Rachel Hart for a powerful conversation on what truly drives our desire to drink.Rachel shares her personal journey with alcohol, her struggle with black-and-white thinking, and the turning point that led her to radically shift how she viewed her relationship with drinking. Rachel shares her groundbreaking framework of the eight Drink Archetypes - powerful identities that reflect the unconscious beliefs and needs driving our habits with alcohol. From the Connector to the Escape Artist, Rachel explains how these archetypes reveal the emotional and psychological stories behind why we drink, and how to begin rewriting them.This episode is packed with deep insights, personal reflections, and a fresh lens through which listeners can examine their own habits, without shame or self-judgment. Rachel and Patrick unpack how beliefs shape behaviour, why shame keeps people stuck, and how curiosity, not control, is the key to change.Whether you're exploring your own drinking or supporting someone else, this episode will leave you feeling seen, empowered, and better equipped to rethink your relationship with alcohol.Connect with Rachel:Website: https://rachelhart.comThe Drink Archetypes: https://rachelhart.com/drinkarchetypes/Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

May 9, 2025 • 30min
199. The Power of Feeling Proud
Do you hold back when it comes to giving yourself credit.. especially in sobriety or other areas of growth? You’re not alone. In this powerful episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick explores why so many men struggle to feel proud of themselves, even after making significant changes like stopping drinking.Drawing on insights from his coaching work, Patrick unpacks the real reasons we downplay our progress, whether it’s fear of failure, childhood conditioning, cultural messaging, or perfectionism. He reveals how suppressing pride can quietly sabotage long-term success, and why celebrating your wins isn’t just 'nice to do', it’s necessary for rewiring your brain and building lasting change.Awesome topics you'll hear covered:Where the fear of pride comes from How comparison, imposter syndrome, and self-doubt keep men playing smallThe neuroscience behind authentic pride, and how it supports sobrietyWhy acknowledging progress is a key part of identity changeHow to begin letting pride in, without guilt, shame, or fearThis episode is a call to stop shrinking, start celebrating, and own your evolution. Because when you hold back pride, you hold back power.Enjoy!Buy Me A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxReady to Stop Drinking? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself.👉 Join the challenge hereWork with Patrick:Stop waiting and start creating a life free from alcohol👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkproject

May 2, 2025 • 47min
198. Why You Don't Have to Hit Rock Bottom To Stop Drinking with Janey Lee Grace
What if what you think is helping you… is actually harming you?We've been led to believe that alcohol is a solution to many of life's problems, but what if that's not true?This week on The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick is joined by long-time broadcaster, author, holistic living expert, and founder of The Sober Club - Janey Lee Grace. Together, they explore the often-unseen grip alcohol has on our lives, especially when it’s wrapped up in the illusion of self-care, success, or wellness.Janey shares her story of waking up at 3am (and yes I see you nodding with that one), full of self-loathing, and how it took years, even as a wellness advocate, to truly see alcohol for what it was: the missing piece in her holistic lifestyle. Get ready to hear how the messaging around alcohol keeps so many stuck in shame and denial, how seeking help is often met with minimisation or even dismissal (from the people we respect the most), and why you absolutely don’t need to hit 'rock bottom' to change your life.You’ll also hear about the deeper work Janey now does beyond sobriety, particularly through Family Constellations, and why the journey of going alcohol-free is far more than a 30-day challenge, it’s a transformation at the soul level.Some of the cool things they get into:You don’t have to hit rock bottom to decide alcohol isn’t serving you.Many people feel alone in their struggles, but they’re not.The cultural programming around alcohol runs deep, and it keeps people stuck.Sober life isn’t boring, it can be vibrant, creative, and expansive.Removing alcohol often uncovers the real, authentic you, and why that’s a good thing.There is incredible power in healing inherited beliefs and trauma.Prepare to hear Janey’s honesty, humour, and deep understanding of what it means to truly live a purpose-led, alcohol-free life makes this a must-listen for anyone rethinking their relationship with drinking. 🔥🔥🔥Connect with Janey Lee Grace:- The Sober Club- InstagramReady to Stop Drinking? Start Here:The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide: - A simple guide featuring the top 3 podcast episodes, each with exercises to help you rethink alcohol for good.👉 Get your guide hereThe Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself.👉 Join the challenge hereWork with Patrick:Stop waiting and start creating a life free from alcohol👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectFacebook Group: The Alcohol ReThink Project

Apr 25, 2025 • 25min
197. Dealing with Triggers to Drink: Sun, BBQ's & Normalising Thoughts About Drinking
Why is it that real change feels easier to imagine after you've done the very thing you said you wouldn’t?In episode 197 of The Alcohol Rethink Podcast, Patrick explores why it's so common to feel a surge of clarity after drinking, overeating, or falling into old habits, and why that moment holds incredible power for change if you use it right. He shares practical ways to reflect without beating yourself up, highlighting the difference between simply thinking about drinking and feeling an urge to drink, and shares how to plan for triggers like sunny weather and barbecues as summer approaches.Key Takeaways:Why you often reflect on change after the event, not before, and why that's normal.The crucial difference between a drinking thought and a drinking urge.How to use post-action reflection for building awareness, not shame.Why sunshine, holidays, and barbecues can spark old drinking thoughts, and how to plan ahead for them.How learning to observe your thoughts without reacting can help you stay in control.This episode will help you to rethink how you respond to the unexpected thoughts that pop up, and remind you that awareness, not perfection, is the real goal. What could change for you if you learned to listen to your mind without making it mean something has gone wrong?Ready to Stop Drinking? Start Here:The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide: - A simple guide featuring the top 3 podcast episodes, each with exercises to help you rethink alcohol for good.👉 Get your guide hereThe Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself.👉 Join the challenge hereWork with Patrick:Stop waiting and start creating a life free from alcohol👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectFacebook Group: The Alcohol ReThink Project

Apr 18, 2025 • 40min
196. Stop Sedating & Start Living with William Porter
What really happens when you stop sedating yourself with alcohol?In this powerful and thought-provoking episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick is joined once again by the brilliant William Porter, author of the bestselling Alcohol Explained series and Nicotine Explained. Together, they unpack the subtle but significant ways alcohol sedates our bodies and minds, and why that sedation comes at a steep cost to our health, energy, emotional resilience, and enjoyment of life.They explore what alcohol is really doing when it feels like it’s helping, how it impacts sleep, mood, and motivation, and why many people feel flat or bored when they stop drinking. William also breaks down the craving cycle, social beliefs about alcohol, and what it takes to start feeling truly alive again.Whether you're just starting to rethink your drinking or deep into your sober journey, this episode will challenge your assumptions and give you a fresh perspective on what alcohol really takes away, and what you stand to gain by leaving it behind.Some of the awesome takeaways from this episode:Why alcohol’s relaxing effect is a short-term illusion and how it actually sedates your energy and emotionsThe truth about anhedonia (the flat, joyless feeling) in early sobrietyHow cravings are really thought loops, not random urgesWhy TV, socialising, or hobbies may feel “less fun” after quitting, and what to do about itHow alcohol subtly hijacks your life, from your evenings to your identityThe surprising truth about social anxiety, placebo effects, and what alcohol doesn’t really doHow to replace sedation with true coping tools and emotional regulationAs ever, Patrick & William will leave you thinking and understanding the reasons you drink in a whole new way. ..Ready to Stop Drinking? Start Here:The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide: - A simple guide featuring the top 3 podcast episodes, each with exercises to help you rethink alcohol for good.👉 Get your guide hereThe Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself.👉 Join the challenge hereWork with Patrick:Stop waiting and start creating a life free from alcohol👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectFacebook Group: The Alcohol ReThink Project

Apr 11, 2025 • 47min
195. Why You Keep Making Deals With Yourself About Drinking with Adriana Cloud
In this episode, I’m joined by fellow sobriety coach Adriana Cloud for a real and honest conversation about what it actually looks like to rethink alcohol, especially when you don’t fit into the typical boxes of being an “alcoholic” or a “normal drinker.”Adriana shares her journey from being a daily drinker to choosing a life without alcohol, and how it didn’t happen overnight. We talk about the constant back-and-forth so many people experience: the deals we make with ourselves, the fear of giving up alcohol completely, and the belief that life without it would be dull or grey.Cool topics we explore:- Why cutting back feels safer than stopping altogether- The uncomfortable truths about how we use alcohol to avoid feelings- What makes sobriety feel hard at first, and what changes over time- The importance of gathering evidence that you can be okay without it- How tools like hypnosis can help change patterns on a deeper levelWhether you're still negotiating with yourself or already on the path, this episode offers honest reflections, useful questions, and a reminder that it’s okay to take your time. You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to start where you are.9 Questions To ReThink Alcohol:1. Are you drinking because you enjoy it, or because you're trying to tolerate something?2. What deals or rules have you made with yourself about drinking?3. Do you really want the drink, or are you trying to avoid a feeling?4. What do you believe alcohol gives you?5. What do you believe a life without alcohol would look like?6. What evidence can you start gathering that you’re okay without alcohol?7. Why do you feel it’s only “acceptable” to be your full self when you’re drinking?8. What were you really using alcohol for, and what are some new ways you could meet that need?9. When you imagine a future version of yourself—10 years alcohol-free, what is that person like?Connect with AdriannaWebsite: adrianacloud.comReady to Stop Drinking? Start Here:The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide: - A simple guide featuring the top 3 podcast episodes, each with exercises to help you rethink alcohol for good.👉 Get your guide hereThe Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself.👉 Join the challenge hereWork with Patrick:Stop waiting and start creating a life free from alcohol👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectFacebook Group: The Alcohol ReThink Project

Apr 4, 2025 • 25min
194. Protecting Your Sobriety - Do Whatever It Takes!
The early stages of going alcohol-free can have its challenges.How you achieve it almost doesn't matter.How you speak to yourself about how you do it does. In episode 194 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick shares what it means to 'Protect Your Sobriety' , especially during those early days and months when everything still feels new, uncertain, and a little bit raw.You’ll hear about the mental traps and thought patterns that can trip you up, like thinking you’re weak for avoiding certain events or feeling like you “should” be able to handle more by now. Patrick shares powerful coaching insights and real client stories that show how choosing to honour your own capacity isn't weakness, it's wisdom.He unpacks why saying no, changing routines, or skipping the bar at halftime aren’t signs you’re doing it wrong… they’re signs you’re doing it right. You’ll learn how to reframe your thinking, shift perspective, and build the kind of self-confidence that lasts.There’s also a personal update from Patrick about a recent health scare and how it’s made him reflect even more on the importance of self-care, not just with drinking, but with all the choices we make.If you’re early in your journey or struggling with the voice in your head telling you you're not doing enough, this episode is a must-listen. Protecting your sobriety isn’t about fear, it’s about choosing the man you want to be.Awesome takeaways from this episode: Why avoiding certain situations isn’t a failure...it’s a strategy.How to embrace the inner coach vs the inner criticShifting your perspective from shame to a show of strengthHear about one of Patrick's clients' breakthroughs and we he chooses presence over pressure.What protecting sobriety looks like in the real world.Ready to Stop Drinking? Start Here:The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide: - A simple guide featuring the top 3 podcast episodes, each with exercises to help you rethink alcohol for good.👉 Get your guide hereThe Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself.👉 Join the challenge hereWork with Patrick:Stop waiting and start creating a life free from alcohol👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectFacebook Group: The Alcohol ReThink Project

Mar 28, 2025 • 36min
193. Beyond Willpower: How Rethinking Alcohol Changed Everything with Quint Viardot
"What you enjoy in a drink is not the drink itself, but the ending of the irritation of wanting that drink." ~ Allen CarrIn episode 193 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick is joined by a long-time listener and now friend of the show, Quint. Originally from France and now living in the UK, Quint shares his powerful journey from being a weekend wine drinker to living a fully alcohol-free life.You'll hear Quint share how deeply ingrained alcohol is in French and broader Western culture, why willpower alone isn’t the answer, and what truly changes when you start rethinking your relationship with alcohol. Quint talks openly about the moment he realised alcohol was holding him back, how this podcast played a key role in his transformation, and the tools and books that supported his journey.Whether you're sober curious, cutting down, or committed to living without alcohol, this episode offers honest insights, lived experience, and some valuable mindset shifts to help you along the way.In this episode:Growing up in France and the normalisation of wine from a young ageThe limitations of willpower and the importance of rethinking alcoholLife as a weekend drinker—and what changedA look at global drinking cultures through travelHow triggers work and why they don't lastUsing Dry January as a springboard for changeQuint’s favourite books on sobrietyWriting and sharing his story in The Low No Drinker magazineSupporting family members through being an example of what's possibleThis awesome listen will help you with starting your own alcohol rethink journey. Read Quint's Article hereQuint's Recommended Reads:Stop Drinking Now - Allen CarrSober on a Drunk Planet - Sean AlexanderSober Curious - Ruby WarringtonThe Unexpected Joy of Being Sober - Catherine GrayREGISTER you interest for The PRIME Man MembershipReady to Stop Drinking? Start Here:The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide: - A simple guide featuring the top 3 podcast episodes, each with exercises to help you rethink alcohol for good.👉 Get your guide hereThe Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself.👉 Join the challenge hereWork with Patrick:Stop waiting and start creating a life free from alcohol👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectFacebook Group: The Alcohol ReThink Project

Mar 21, 2025 • 46min
192. From Chaotic Party Boy to Connected & Present with Johnathon Dowling
In this powerful and deeply honest episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick is joined by Johnathon, a father of four, business owner, and celebrating 20 months sober. Get ready to hear Johnathon open up about his journey from a high-functioning party lifestyle to a disengaged stay-at-home drinker and the emotional awakening that came once he stopped using alcohol.He shares how alcohol slowly took over his life, numbing not only his emotions but also his presence with loved ones. He had become a part-time dad and partner and didn't like where it was heading. We explore the the sports culture of his youth to the corporate world of mandatory pints, Johnathon reflects on how normalised drinking was/is and how hard it was to imagine life without it.Here are some of the awesome topics they get into:- The emotional cost of being “the joker” at the pub.- How fatherhood helped him face the reality of his drinking.- The lies, the hangovers, and the resentment that came with alcohol.- What it really means to reconnect with emotions as a man.- The incredible highs and real life challenges of early sobriety.- His passion project: launching Sober AF Dating, a sober-first community for connection and love.This episode is an inspiring reminder that it's never too late to turn things around and that sobriety offers more than just a break from booze; it brings back life. 🙌Connect with JohnathonInstagram: @j_soberafdatingInstagram: @SoberAFDatingREGISTER you interest for The PRIME Man MembershipReady to Stop Drinking? Start Here:The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide: - A simple guide featuring the top 3 podcast episodes, each with exercises to help you rethink alcohol for good.👉 Get your guide hereThe Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself.👉 Join the challenge hereWork with Patrick:Stop waiting and start creating a life free from alcohol👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectFacebook Group: The Alcohol ReThink Project