

The Alcohol ReThink Podcast with Patrick Fox
Patrick Fox - Mens Life and Sober Coach
The Alcohol ReThink Podcast is for men who want to change their relationship with alcohol, whether you're in the sober-curious stage or ready to quit for good.
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
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Nov 28, 2025 • 25min
228. Is Sobriety Actually Boring?... or Are You Comparing It to Chaos?
What if the only reason sobriety feels boring is because your brain forgot what real fun is actually like?On episode 228 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox takes on one of the most stubborn myths men carry around about stopping drinking, that life without alcohol is flat, dull or somehow less exciting.... Spoiler - it’s not even close. Get ready to hear Patrick break down why that belief shows up, why it feels so believable at first, and why it couldn’t be further from the truth. With honest coaching stories, laughable real-life moments (including a dinner-table joke disaster that had the whole restaurant looking over), and insights every sober-curious guy will relate to, Patrick explains what’s really happening behind that early sense of 'boredom.' From the nervous system recalibrating to the sudden shift in how dopamine works, be prepared to start thinking about rethinking alcohol in a whole new way. He also introduces the three types of fun and reveals why most men unintentionally ditch type 1 fun (the easy, enjoyable stuff) and jump straight into type 2 (the hard work, delayed payoff). It’s no wonder things feel flat when guys accidentally turn early sobriety into a marathon. Patrick shows how to fix that fast. If you’ve ever worried that life won’t feel fun without a drink, this conversation will flip that belief on its head.Key Takeaways• The real reason sobriety can feel flat at first, and why it’s temporary• How alcohol overstimulates the brain and creates a false version of fun• The three types of fun (and why type 2 can accidentally take over)• Why comparing drunk fun to sober fun is an unfair fight• Simple ways to bring light, easy, everyday enjoyment back into your life• How calm can feel uncomfortable, and why that’s actually progress• Why redefining fun opens the door to more energy, curiosity and connectionA refreshing, funny and reassuring episode that reminds men they don’t need alcohol to enjoy life, they just need a new definition of fun.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Nov 21, 2025 • 48min
227. How David Quit Drinking and Rebuilt His Health, Identity and Life
What if the moment that finally changes your life doesn't have to be dramatic at all, but a quiet realisation that you can’t keep living the way you have been? That’s exactly where this week’s guest David, found himself before everything shifted.On episode 227 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick speaks with long-time listener David, who shares his journey from being a daily drinker stuck in a cycle of weight gain, health scares, and repeated attempts to 'moderate one day,' to becoming completely alcohol-free and losing over 35 kilos in the process. A listener who first reached out years ago to share early wins, David now returns with the full story, one that you are bound to relate to.He talks openly about the wake-up calls he ignored, the relentless belief that moderation would eventually work, the years spent in the sober-curious phase, and the exact moment it all finally clicked. He also shares how quitting drinking helped him uncover deeper layers of himself, including understanding his ADHD and why his brain had always gravitated toward alcohol, dopamine and coping behaviours.This episode goes far beyond weight loss or stopping drinking.It’s about identity, resilience, self-awareness and the uncomfortable emotional work that comes after the alcohol is gone.Some awesome takeaways:• Why health warnings became the catalyst for changing his drinking• How one year alcohol-free didn’t stick, and why old habits returned• Why moderation is harder than we want to admit• The identity shift that follows when you stop fighting yourself• How neurodiversity, dopamine and addiction overlap• The power of building new neural pathways (and letting old ones fade)• Tools that helped David stay alcohol-free, including 'never question the decision' and playing the movie forward• What emotional sobriety really means• The incredible physical transformation, including over 35kg lostA huge thank you to David for sharing his journey so openly and honestly. If you’re rethinking alcohol yourself, pick one insight from this episode and put it into practice today.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Nov 14, 2025 • 20min
226. Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Drinking (Even When You Want To)
Ever notice how the harder you try not to think about drinking, the more it suddenly becomes all you can think about?In episode 226 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick breaks down the classic Carl Jung idea, 'what you resist persists' and explains why fighting your thoughts and feelings around alcohol often makes them louder, not weaker. You’ll learn why thoughts about drinking are rarely random, how the brain predicts patterns based on your past, and why resisting these thoughts can turn them into full-blown urges through the pressure cooker effect. Patrick also explains what actually creates urges (it’s not just resisting thoughts) and shares a simple tool, the 3 A’s, to help you deal with thoughts, urges and emotions without fear, pressure or panic.If you’re rethinking alcohol and want more peace, less mental noise and more control over how you show up each day, this episode is for you.Some of the awesome key takeaways:• Why 'what you resist persists' shows up when men want to stop drinking• The difference between passing thoughts, repeated thoughts and real urges• Why thoughts about drinking aren’t as random as they seem• How resistance creates fear and pressure• How acceptance creates peace, even when it’s uncomfortable• How to use the 3 A’s (Acknowledge, Accept, Allow) in real timeDisrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Nov 7, 2025 • 33min
225. 7 Habits That Helped Me Stop Drinking (And Will Help You Too)
Have you ever wondered what really changes when someone stops drinking, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally?After nearly seven years without alcohol, I’ve had time to reflect on the habits that truly made it possible and enjoyable!In this episode, I share the seven key habits that helped me stop drinking and stay alcohol-free. Some were intentional, others I stumbled into without realising their power until much later. Together, they’ve helped me build a life I don’t need alcohol to escape from.From swapping beers to zero options, tackling sugar cravings, and finding new tools for managing emotions, to rediscovering purpose, building supportive circles, and investing in coaching, these are the practical steps that changed everything.Awesome things you'll hear:Create healthy replacements that actually work for you.Rewire your brain’s reward system and manage dopamine dips.Build emotional awareness through meditation and journaling.Use passion projects to channel your energy into something meaningful.Redefine your social life and identity without alcohol.Make progress without chasing perfection.Plus, I’ll share one bonus habit that’s had the biggest impact on my growth and sobriety, and why you don’t have to go through this process alone.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Oct 31, 2025 • 47min
224. How Recovery Changes Leadership, Culture, and Connection with Emily Pearson
What if the biggest barrier to workplace wellbeing isn’t burnout or stress, but the silence around addiction?In this episode, Patrick sits down with Emily Pearson, founder of The Wellbeing Lead Academy, to talk about what it really means to create recovery-friendly workplaces.You'll hear them explore how addiction shows up at every level of business, from the shop floor to the boardroom, and why compassion, not punishment, is the key to lasting change. Emily shares her own powerful story of addiction and recovery, and how it’s shaped her mission to bring humanity back into workplace wellbeing.You’ll learn:Why addiction and recovery are the “last taboo” in workplace wellbeing.The true cost of untreated addiction to businesses, and the huge potential when people are supported.How culture, leadership, and stress all play a role in fuelling (or freeing) addiction.What a recovery-friendly workplace looks like, and how to start building one.If you’re a leader, entrepreneur, or someone rethinking their own relationship with alcohol or addiction, this episode will open your eyes to what real wellbeing at work can look like.Connect with EmilyWebsite: https://wellbeingleadacademy.uk/Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Oct 24, 2025 • 20min
223. Stop Prioritising Alcohol - The Power of Values
What happens when the way you live doesn’t match what you value most?In episode 223 of The Alcohol ReThink, join host Patrick Fox as he goes deep into the topic of values, what they are, how they drive your decisions, and how alcohol often conflicts with them.He explores why your brain is wired to choose the path of least resistance, and why drinking can feel easier in the moment, even when it goes against what truly matters to you.Drawing on insights from Tony Robbins and James Clear, Patrick breaks down the link between your beliefs and your values, and why understanding both is key to creating lasting change. You’ll learn how to spot the hidden values behind your drinking habits (like relief, control, or comfort), how to start realigning with what you actually care about, and how to make good choices more convenient than bad ones.Some of the awesome takeaways from this episode:- Every decision you make is influenced by your values and beliefs.What you say you value and what you show you value can often be different.When your actions don’t match your values, you feel conflicted or out of alignment.The brain is wired to seek pleasure, avoid pain, and conserve energy, which is why alcohol feels like the easier option.Habits are a byproduct of convenience, make good choices easier and bad choices harder (James Clear).When you drink, it’s not alcohol you value, it’s the feeling or relief you believe it gives you (comfort, control, connection, escape).Beliefs can distort your values, e.g. believing you need alcohol to relax or be confident.Real change happens when you start valuing not drinking more than drinking.Every time you act in line with your true values, you rewire your brain to make better choices more natural.Practising curiosity over judgment helps you understand your behaviour instead of beating yourself up.Ask yourself: What’s my brain valuing right now? What do I really need? How can I meet that need differently?Living by your values makes it easier to feel good and harder to feel bad, that’s when alcohol truly loses its power.Here are some powerful questions to help you reflect and reconnect with your true values:What's most important to me in life? How is alcohol conflicting with that?What’s my brain valuing in the moment when I want to drink?What do I believe alcohol gives me? is it true? how do I know it's true?What belief is connected to the relief or escape I’m seeking?How can I make my true values more convenient to act on?What would it look like to value not drinking more than drinking?Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Oct 17, 2025 • 22min
222. Socialising While Sober
When you stop drinking, it’s not just the alcohol you take out of your life, it’s about creating a whole identity that was wrapped around it. And one of the first places that shows up?Socialising.In this episode, Patrick explores what it really means to socialise while sober, a theme that came up with several clients this week.Many men fear that if they’re not drinking, they’ll lose their social life completely. Others worry they’ll be bored, awkward, or judged if they do go out. But more often than not, those fears are just old beliefs and habits talking.Patrick dives into how our definition of 'socialising' often becomes tied to alcohol, why those fears show up, and how to redefine connection on your own terms. He’ll help you recognise what a genuine connection is versus social obligation, and show you how to rebuild confidence in social situations without needing a drink to do it.Awesome things you'll hear:Why your definition of socialising is often shaped by alcoholThe three biggest fears men face when socialising sober (and what’s really behind them)How to handle discomfort and rediscover genuine connectionWhy you might feel pressure to “go out” and how to challenge that beliefSimple ways to build a social life that actually aligns with who you are nowReflection questions:What does socialising mean to me? Where do I feel most connected, not just distracted? (people, places etc)If I could design my social life from scratch, what would it look like?Book a Call with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Oct 10, 2025 • 37min
221. Taking Back Control - Interview with Shaun
What happens when a man finally decides to stop running from himself and face his drinking head-on?In episode 221 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick sits down with Shaun from Australia, a long-time listener who reached out to share his incredible journey of recovery and growth. From the chaos of daily drinking to the calm of mindful living, Sean opens up about the realities of his drinking, the courage it took to check himself into rehab, and the unexpected freedom that followed.They discuss what life is really like on the other side of alcohol the clarity, connection, and peace that come with sobriety, and how simple joys like reading, walking in nature, and being present with family become profoundly meaningful. Shaun shares the tools that helped him along the way, from meditation and nutrition to podcasts, support networks, and the power of routine.In this episode you'll hear:What led Shaun to finally seek help and how rehab changed everythingWhy sobriety often reveals joy in the small thingsHow to build a toolkit for lasting changeThe importance of support networks and self-careWhat being “radically human” means after alcoholQuestions to reflect on:- What might change if alcohol wasn’t running the show anymore?- How would you love to wake up and start your day?- What if freedom isn’t about giving something up, but about getting something back?If you’re ready to rethink alcohol, feel inspired by Shaun’s story, and want to see what’s truly possible when you stop drinking, this is one you won’t want to miss.Book a Call with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Oct 3, 2025 • 20min
220. Know Your WHY
Why do you really want to stop drinking?It sounds like an obvious question, but most guys don’t take the time to dig deep enough. And here’s why it matters: if your WHY isn’t strong and compelling, it won’t stick. In this episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick breaks down why your WHY is the foundation of lasting change. He’ll share how to go beyond vague ideas like 'better health' or 'saving money' and instead connect to a reason that drives you every single day. You’ll also hear how neuroscience shows the power of your WHY, and how feeling it, not just writing it down, can give you the motivation to follow through.- Why vague reasons aren’t enough to create lasting change- How identifying your values helps build a compelling WHY- A personal story about the natural curiosity of asking “why”- A step-by-step project to define your own WHY statement- The neuroscience behind dopamine and motivation, and why feeling your WHY mattersKnow Your WHY Questions:- What impact will stopping drinking have on me and the people around me?- How will my health improve? Why's that important?- How much money will I save, and what will I do with it?- How will my day-to-day life change without alcohol?- How do I want to show up in the world alcohol-free?If you’ve been struggling to get momentum, this episode will help you put your WHY front and centre so it can guide your choices and anchor you on your alcohol-free journey.Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Sep 29, 2025 • 22min
219. What Does Alcohol Really Cost You?
Alcohol doesn’t just cost money. It takes your energy, your time, your motivation, your relationships, and your self-image. In episode 219 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick shares a powerful client story about how alcohol almost pulled him back in during a challenging week, and what he did instead.Get ready to hear the no-so-hidden price of drinking and why so many men underestimate the impact it’s having on their business, their family, and their future.You’ll discover how to spot the moments where alcohol tries to creep back in, how to stand strong when pressure builds, and why the real cost of drinking goes far beyond your bank account.Awesome takeaways:Alcohol steals more than cash; it robs you of clarity, motivation, and connection.The real test isn’t when things are easy, but when life throws multiple challenges at once.By choosing differently in those moments, you build real strength and self-trust.Questions explored in this episode:What is alcohol really costing you, not just in money, but in energy, time, and relationships?How do you handle those ‘everything hits at once’ days without reaching for a drink?Why is it so important to see alcohol for what it really takes away, instead of what it pretends to give?Questions to change your life?What’s the worst that could happen here? If it did happen, what would I do about it?What’s the best thing that could happen here?What is alcohol currently costing you?What has alcohol cost you in the past?What will alcohol continue to cost you if you do not change your relationship with it now?What would happen if you stopped suffering the cost of alcohol and made that change now?Work with Patrick:Get 1-1 coaching, quit drinking and start showing up like the man you want to be in life. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectBuy Patrick A CoffeeIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here


