

The Alcohol ReThink Podcast with Patrick Fox
Patrick Fox - Mens Life and Sober Coach
The Alcohol ReThink Podcast is for men who want to change their relationship with alcohol, whether you're in the sober-curious stage or ready to quit for good.
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
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Jan 9, 2026 • 20min
233. The Mental Game of Sober
Stopping drinking is one decision. Learning how to think differently about alcohol is another.In episode 233 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick explores the Mental Game of Sober and the mindset skills that make the biggest difference when rethinking alcohol, whether you’re considering a break, in early sobriety, or continuing alcohol free.Drawing on over five years of sober coaching and a decade of life coaching, Patrick breaks down three core mindset skills he’s seen consistently help men change their relationship with alcohol and themselves.This episode focuses on awareness, identity, and choice. It looks at how alcohol influences the way men think, how to handle triggers without white knuckling, and how to shift from seeing sobriety as a loss to seeing it as a gain.Awesome topics you'll here about:Why mindset matters as much as behaviour when rethinking alcoholHow developing self-awareness helps you respond to urges rather than react to themThe difference between scarcity thinking and abundance thinking in sobrietyHow “playing it forward” helps deal with triggers and reinforces identityWhy sobriety becomes easier when it aligns with what matters most to youThis episode is for men who know alcohol isn’t serving them anymore but want to feel clearer, steadier, and more confident in their decisions. Not perfect. Just more aligned.If you’re ready to strengthen your mental game and rethink alcohol in a way that actually lasts, this episode will give you a solid place to start.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Dec 26, 2025 • 1h 7min
232. Best of the Best 2025
Get ready to hear all the best bits in one place....In Best of the Best 2025, Patrick brings together the four most listened-to episodes of the year and pulls out the moments that resonated most for listeners in 2025.Released on Patrick’s 7th soberversary, this episode takes listeners on a journey through what changing your relationship with alcohol actually looks like in real life. Across these clips, you’ll hear the questions men ask at the start, what happens in the messy middle, and what shifts when alcohol is no longer running the show. There are real conversations, real stories, and practical insights that resonated more than anything else on the podcast this year.From understanding what happens when you stop drinking, to hearing from men who’ve stepped away from alcohol, to learning what it really means to protect your sobriety early on, this episode brings together the themes that mattered most.Whether you’re just starting to question your drinking, stuck in the on-off cycle, or finding your feet without alcohol, this episode offers clarity, reassurance, and a reminder that you’re not broken and you’re not alone.This isn’t about perfection or white-knuckling your way through. It’s about awareness, self-trust, and deciding who you want to be moving forward.A powerful episode to reflect on the year that’s been and head into what’s next with a bit more honesty and intention.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Dec 19, 2025 • 17min
231. Change Your Relationship with Alcohol
Get ready to change your relationship with alcohol. In episode 231 of The Alcohol ReThink podcast, Patrick takes you behind the scenes of what his coaching sessions actually look like, and why reflection plays such a powerful role when rethinking alcohol.Most men are changing more than they realise. The problem is, those changes are often subtle, easy to miss, and rarely recognised as progress. Through real coaching examples and simple explanations, Patrick shows how reflection helps you notice what’s already shifting, how your brain learns through evidence, and why small changes matter far more than dramatic moments.If you’ve ever felt like you’re not making progress despite doing things differently, this episode will help you see what’s really happening and how to build momentum without forcing it.What you’ll learn in this episode:Why the start of a coaching session matters more than most people realiseHow reflection pulls you out of autopilot and into awarenessWhy change often shows up quietly in language, reactions, and what feels normalHow noticing small differences gives your brain the evidence it needs to changeWhy reflection helps change stick without overthinking or pressureKey takeaway:Change doesn’t usually arrive as a big moment. It shows up in ordinary places. Reflection is how you learn to spot it, reinforce it, and let your brain catch up with who you’re becoming.Reflection questions from the episode:What did I do, say, or think this week that would have surprised the old version of me?What felt a little easier or more normal this week compared to before?Where did I respond differently this week than I would have in the past, even in a small way?Mentioned in this episode:Atomic Habits by James ClearDisrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Dec 12, 2025 • 49min
230. 5 Years Sober & Thriving with Nigel Jones
What really changes after five years without alcohol? And why does it matter more than you think?In this episode of The Alcohol Rethink Podcast, Patrick Fox is joined by returning guest Nigel Jones to mark a huge milestone: five years of alcohol-free living.Nigel first appeared on the podcast a couple of years ago and the response was massive. This time, he’s back to reflect on what’s actually changed long-term, not just in the first few weeks or months, but after half a decade without alcohol in his life.Together, they explore the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual shifts that happen when alcohol is removed and replaced with presence, intention, and awareness. From heart health and weight loss to mindset, identity, and meaning, this conversation goes far beyond willpower and “just stopping drinking.”Nigel shares powerful, tangible examples that help reframe alcohol in a way most men have never considered, including the real cost to the body, the brain, and the life you’re building. They also talk about fear, beliefs, social pressure, and why so many men stay stuck not because they can’t change, but because they’re scared of what change might cost them.This is an honest, grounded conversation for men who are sober-curious, alcohol-aware, or already alcohol-free and wondering what’s possible long-term.In this episode, you’ll learn:What five years without alcohol actually changes physically, mentally, and emotionallyWhy stopping drinking often improves health faster than most men expectHow alcohol quietly shapes identity, beliefs, and behaviourWhy fear of stopping is usually bigger than the realityHow presence, clarity, and purpose return when alcohol leavesWhy alcohol-free living isn’t restrictive, it’s expansiveWhether you’re considering a break, doing Dry January, or already on the path, this episode offers perspective, evidence, and reassurance about what life can look like on the other side.Connect with Nigel BOOK & DRY JanuaryBuy The Book - % to alcohol Change UK - https://alcoholchange.org.uk/get-involved/donate/give-while-you-shopBook Website - www.9kmby9am.com/booksOfficial Dry January website - https://alcoholchange.org.uk/help-and-support/managing-your-drinking/dry-januaryGENERALWebsite - https://www.9kmby9am.com/Newsletter - https://www.9kmby9am.com/latest-news/newsletter/ Feel Good Hour Radio Ashford –https://www.9kmby9am.com/about-nigel/radio-ashford-the-feel-good-hour/Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Dec 5, 2025 • 24min
229. Failure Resistance
Have you ever noticed how one small slip, one mistake, or even one word can send you spiralling into old patterns? In episode 229 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick talks about why so many men feel huge resistance around the idea of failing, and how that resistance then shapes and influences their attempts to rethink alcohol. Patrick shares how school, parenting and early experiences teach us that getting things 'wrong' is something to avoid. He also shares a personal moment from home where an innocent word triggered an old emotional reaction, and how that experience opened up a deeper conversation about identity, childhood wounds and the meaning we attach to failure. You'll hear insights from Gabor Maté and Amy Edmondson to show why our brains react the way they do, why avoidance can feel safer than trying, and why men often lean on willpower when what they really need is curiosity and compassion. Patrick explains how shifting the energy you bring to rethinking alcohol, from pressure to permission, completely changes your experience results. Get ready for a powerful question at the end of the show that will help you see what you’re truly proving to yourself every time you try to change your drinking.Awesome topics you'll hear in this epsiode: Old experiences shape how you react to mistakes today.Avoidance isn’t laziness, it’s emotional protection.Willpower burns out quickly, curiosity keeps you moving.Feeling safe to get things wrong is essential for growth.Failure is feedback, not identity.Sobriety works best when treated as a skill you develop.Resisting failure keeps you stuck in the same loop.The win isn’t avoiding the fall, it’s getting better at getting up.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Nov 28, 2025 • 25min
228. Bored Sober?
What if the only reason sobriety feels boring is because your brain forgot what real fun is actually like?On episode 228 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick Fox takes on one of the most stubborn myths men carry around about stopping drinking, that life without alcohol is flat, dull or somehow less exciting.... Spoiler - it’s not even close. Get ready to hear Patrick break down why that belief shows up, why it feels so believable at first, and why it couldn’t be further from the truth. With honest coaching stories, laughable real-life moments (including a dinner-table joke disaster that had the whole restaurant looking over), and insights every sober-curious guy will relate to, Patrick explains what’s really happening behind that early sense of 'boredom.' From the nervous system recalibrating to the sudden shift in how dopamine works, be prepared to start thinking about rethinking alcohol in a whole new way. He also introduces the three types of fun and reveals why most men unintentionally ditch type 1 fun (the easy, enjoyable stuff) and jump straight into type 2 (the hard work, delayed payoff). It’s no wonder things feel flat when guys accidentally turn early sobriety into a marathon. Patrick shows how to fix that fast. If you’ve ever worried that life won’t feel fun without a drink, this conversation will flip that belief on its head.Key Takeaways• The real reason sobriety can feel flat at first, and why it’s temporary• How alcohol overstimulates the brain and creates a false version of fun• The three types of fun (and why type 2 can accidentally take over)• Why comparing drunk fun to sober fun is an unfair fight• Simple ways to bring light, easy, everyday enjoyment back into your life• How calm can feel uncomfortable, and why that’s actually progress• Why redefining fun opens the door to more energy, curiosity and connectionA refreshing, funny and reassuring episode that reminds men they don’t need alcohol to enjoy life, they just need a new definition of fun.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Nov 21, 2025 • 48min
227. How David Quit Drinking and Rebuilt His Health, Identity and Life
What if the moment that finally changes your life doesn't have to be dramatic at all, but a quiet realisation that you can’t keep living the way you have been? That’s exactly where this week’s guest David, found himself before everything shifted.On episode 227 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick speaks with long-time listener David, who shares his journey from being a daily drinker stuck in a cycle of weight gain, health scares, and repeated attempts to 'moderate one day,' to becoming completely alcohol-free and losing over 35 kilos in the process. A listener who first reached out years ago to share early wins, David now returns with the full story, one that you are bound to relate to.He talks openly about the wake-up calls he ignored, the relentless belief that moderation would eventually work, the years spent in the sober-curious phase, and the exact moment it all finally clicked. He also shares how quitting drinking helped him uncover deeper layers of himself, including understanding his ADHD and why his brain had always gravitated toward alcohol, dopamine and coping behaviours.This episode goes far beyond weight loss or stopping drinking.It’s about identity, resilience, self-awareness and the uncomfortable emotional work that comes after the alcohol is gone.Some awesome takeaways:• Why health warnings became the catalyst for changing his drinking• How one year alcohol-free didn’t stick, and why old habits returned• Why moderation is harder than we want to admit• The identity shift that follows when you stop fighting yourself• How neurodiversity, dopamine and addiction overlap• The power of building new neural pathways (and letting old ones fade)• Tools that helped David stay alcohol-free, including 'never question the decision' and playing the movie forward• What emotional sobriety really means• The incredible physical transformation, including over 35kg lostA huge thank you to David for sharing his journey so openly and honestly. If you’re rethinking alcohol yourself, pick one insight from this episode and put it into practice today.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkpodcastWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge hereSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfox

Nov 14, 2025 • 20min
226. Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Drinking (Even When You Want To)
Ever notice how the harder you try not to think about drinking, the more it suddenly becomes all you can think about?In episode 226 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick breaks down the classic Carl Jung idea, 'what you resist persists' and explains why fighting your thoughts and feelings around alcohol often makes them louder, not weaker. You’ll learn why thoughts about drinking are rarely random, how the brain predicts patterns based on your past, and why resisting these thoughts can turn them into full-blown urges through the pressure cooker effect. Patrick also explains what actually creates urges (it’s not just resisting thoughts) and shares a simple tool, the 3 A’s, to help you deal with thoughts, urges and emotions without fear, pressure or panic.If you’re rethinking alcohol and want more peace, less mental noise and more control over how you show up each day, this episode is for you.Some of the awesome key takeaways:• Why 'what you resist persists' shows up when men want to stop drinking• The difference between passing thoughts, repeated thoughts and real urges• Why thoughts about drinking aren’t as random as they seem• How resistance creates fear and pressure• How acceptance creates peace, even when it’s uncomfortable• How to use the 3 A’s (Acknowledge, Accept, Allow) in real timeDisrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Nov 7, 2025 • 33min
225. 7 Habits That Helped Me Stop Drinking (And Will Help You Too)
Have you ever wondered what really changes when someone stops drinking, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally?After nearly seven years without alcohol, I’ve had time to reflect on the habits that truly made it possible and enjoyable!In this episode, I share the seven key habits that helped me stop drinking and stay alcohol-free. Some were intentional, others I stumbled into without realising their power until much later. Together, they’ve helped me build a life I don’t need alcohol to escape from.From swapping beers to zero options, tackling sugar cravings, and finding new tools for managing emotions, to rediscovering purpose, building supportive circles, and investing in coaching, these are the practical steps that changed everything.Awesome things you'll hear:Create healthy replacements that actually work for you.Rewire your brain’s reward system and manage dopamine dips.Build emotional awareness through meditation and journaling.Use passion projects to channel your energy into something meaningful.Redefine your social life and identity without alcohol.Make progress without chasing perfection.Plus, I’ll share one bonus habit that’s had the biggest impact on my growth and sobriety, and why you don’t have to go through this process alone.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here

Oct 31, 2025 • 47min
224. How Recovery Changes Leadership, Culture, and Connection with Emily Pearson
What if the biggest barrier to workplace wellbeing isn’t burnout or stress, but the silence around addiction?In this episode, Patrick sits down with Emily Pearson, founder of The Wellbeing Lead Academy, to talk about what it really means to create recovery-friendly workplaces.You'll hear them explore how addiction shows up at every level of business, from the shop floor to the boardroom, and why compassion, not punishment, is the key to lasting change. Emily shares her own powerful story of addiction and recovery, and how it’s shaped her mission to bring humanity back into workplace wellbeing.You’ll learn:Why addiction and recovery are the “last taboo” in workplace wellbeing.The true cost of untreated addiction to businesses, and the huge potential when people are supported.How culture, leadership, and stress all play a role in fuelling (or freeing) addiction.What a recovery-friendly workplace looks like, and how to start building one.If you’re a leader, entrepreneur, or someone rethinking their own relationship with alcohol or addiction, this episode will open your eyes to what real wellbeing at work can look like.Connect with EmilyWebsite: https://wellbeingleadacademy.uk/Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-lifeWork with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol. 👉 Apply hereConnect with Patrick:Website: patrickjfox.comInstagram: @thealcoholrethinkprojectSupport the PodcastIf you love the podcast and want to show your support in helping it continue, you can buy Patrick a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/patrickfoxWant to stop drinking but not ready for coaching? Start Here:The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge: Transform your relationship with alcohol in 30 days with this free email series. Build sober wins and feel proud of yourself along the way.👉 Join the challenge here


