Your Body Remembers Pleasure

Psychedelics aren’t just “altered states” — they can be powerful tools for trauma healing, embodiment, and reconnecting with the body’s life force.In this episode, plant medicine integration therapist and clinical counselor Salimeh Tabrizi shares how intentional work with ayahuasca, psilocybin, and cannabis can help metabolize stored trauma, release sexual wounding, and restore trust in the body.We explore the intersection of psychedelic therapy, somatic healing, and sexual embodiment — and why safe set, setting, and integration are everything.Salimeh opens up about her own journey through early childhood sexual trauma, autoimmune illness, and how plant medicines helped her access grief, reclaim sensation, and reconnect with her life force.This is a grounded, trauma-informed conversation about using plant medicines with reverence, responsibility, and deep therapeutic support.We talk about:• How ayahuasca unlocked repressed trauma memories • Psilocybin for nervous system regulation & emotional release • Why integration matters more than the ceremony itself • Healing sexual trauma through the body (not just talk therapy) • Cannabis as an embodiment & intimacy ally • Somatic processing during psychedelic journeys • Set, setting, safety & working with trained guides • Reclaiming pleasure, sensation & life force energy • Non-duality, consciousness & spiritual awakening through plant medicines • How psychedelics support deeper connection to self, sexuality & natureIf you’re curious about psychedelic healing, trauma integration, or reconnecting with your body in a more conscious, empowered way — this episode offers a mature, responsible perspective.Important: Plant medicines are traditionally used in sacred, guided settings. Always research carefully and work with experienced, trained professionals.ResourcesSalimeh Tabrizi – Vibrant Life Counseling https://vibrantlifecounseling.comPsychedelic Association of Canada https://psychedelicassociation.netMore somatic sexual healing resources https://rahichun.comIf this episode supported you, follow the show and leave a 5-star review — it helps this work reach more bodies.

More than half of men over 40 experience erectile dysfunction.Yet almost no one talks about it.Instead, many suffer in silence — carrying shame, anxiety, and a quiet sense that something is “wrong” with their body.But what if erectile challenges aren’t just medical…What if they’re somatic, emotional, and learned patterns that can be rewired?In this grounded and deeply compassionate conversation, I’m joined by somatic sex educators and sexological bodyworkers Ron & Pono Stewart to explore sexual health, pleasure, and erotic wholeness for cock owners.Together we unpack the real roots of:erectile dysfunctionpremature ejaculationporn conditioningperformance anxietyshame around pleasureand the lack of sexual education for menRather than quick fixes or pills, Ron and Pono guide men back to something more foundational:Breath.Touch.Safety.Slowness.Full-body pleasure.Because an erection is a parasympathetic response.It happens when the body feels safe.And many men have never actually learned how to feel safe inside their own erotic body.Through somatic practices, erotic massage, self-pleasuring rituals, and trauma-informed touch, they help clients literally recondition their nervous systems — moving from goal-oriented ejaculation toward sustained arousal, confidence, and deeper intimacy.This episode is practical, honest, and refreshingly shame-free.If you (or someone you love) has ever struggled with erections, staying present, or feeling disconnected from pleasure… this conversation is for you.In this episode, we explore:Why erectile dysfunction is often nervous-system based, not just physicalHow stress, anxiety, and shame shut down erectionsThe impact of porn conditioning on real-life intimacyWhy many men can only orgasm

Most people with a cervix were never taught it could be a source of deep pleasure — let alone orgasm.In this episode, cervical educator and Self Cervix founder Olivia Naomi Bryant shares how numbness, medical trauma, shame, and cultural conditioning disconnect many of us from one of the most innervated and sensitive parts of the body — and how gentle, somatic “de-armoring” can restore sensation, safety, and profound orgasmic capacity.This is a grounded, compassionate conversation about cervical healing, sexual embodiment, and reclaiming the pelvis as a place of power — not protection.Olivia shares her personal journey from numbness and pain to developing what she now calls a “love affair with the cervix,” and how that path evolved into a global movement blending anatomy, trauma healing, and spiritual embodiment.We explore:• Why many cervixes feel numb or guarded • The science of cervical innervation & orgasm potential • How shame, medical procedures, and trauma create pelvic armoring • Gentle practices to rebuild trust and sensation • How to locate and safely explore your cervix • Working with the surrounding ligaments (not forcing contact) • Why clitoral over-reliance can bypass deeper healing • The role of patience, presence & nervous system safety • Cervix–heart connection and love-based healing • Cervical orgasms as emotional and spiritual experiences • Healing after LEEP procedures or cervical interventions • Sexual energy, embodiment & inner alchemyIf you’ve ever felt disconnected from your pelvis, struggled with deep penetration discomfort, or sensed there’s “more” to your pleasure than what you’ve been taught — this episode offers a radically empowering starting point.ResourcesOlivia Naomi Bryant – Self Cervix https://selfcervix.comFree guides, courses & cervical healing resources available on her siteMore somatic sexual healing teachings https://rahichun.comIf this episode supports you, follow the show and leave a 5-star review — it helps this work reach more bodies.

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Your pelvic floor, fascia, and pleasure pathways hold far more healing potential than most of us were ever taught.In this episode, bodyworker and international teacher Martin Beaudoin shares how hands-on fascial work, pelvic floor release, and therapeutic pleasure techniques can help resolve incontinence, menstrual pain, trauma patterns, and uterine imbalance—issues many people are told are “normal” but absolutely aren’t.Drawing from craniosacral therapy, myofascial release, neurokinetic work, tantric bodywork, and Compassionate Inquiry, Martin explains how restoring blood flow, freeing nerves, and balancing the pelvic bowl can create profound, lasting change.We talk about:• Why incontinence, prolapse, and cramps are often treatable (not inevitable) • How fascia and the deep front line shape pelvic health • Pelvic floor “stripping” and tension release techniques • Using pleasure safely and consensually as a healing tool • The often-overlooked K-spot and its role in circulation + hormone balance • Trauma resolution through somatic bodywork • Partner-involved healing approaches • What most doctors never address about pelvic healthIf you’ve ever felt disconnected from your pelvis, struggled with pain, numbness, or shame—or simply want a more alive, responsive body—this conversation offers practical, body-based pathways back to wholeness.ResourcesMartin Beaudoin – https://beaudoinbodywork.comMore teachings & courses – rahichun.comIf this episode supports you, please follow, share, or leave a 5-star review. It helps this work reach more bodies.

What does a sexual surrogate actually do?What is a sacred intimate?And how can touch, presence, and embodied connection help heal shame, trauma, and sexual wounding?In this honest and illuminating conversation, Rahi Chun sits down with Andre Lazarus — somatic intimacy coach, certified Somatica practitioner, sexual surrogate partner, and sacred intimate — to demystify three of the most misunderstood professions in the world of sexual healing.Together, they explore what it truly means to hold space for someone’s erotic awakening.Andre shares his personal journey — from early experiences of loving across genders, to surviving sexual violation, to discovering his calling in somatic sexual healing work — and how those experiences shaped his capacity to guide others through intimacy, trauma repair, and authentic expression.Inside this episode:• The difference between Somatica coaching, sexual surrogacy, and sacred intimacy • Scope of practice and boundaries for each modality • How surrogate partner therapy works (the therapist–client–surrogate triangle) • What sacred intimacy sessions actually look like • Screening, consent, and emotional safety • Healing sexual trauma through embodied experiences • Navigating intimacy without shame • Holding presence without attachment or performance • BDSM, bondage, and conscious power dynamics as healing tools • What a healthy sexual society could look likeThis is a rare, behind-the-scenes look at professions that quietly change lives every day.If you’ve ever been curious about receiving intimate therapeutic support — or feel called to this work yourself — this conversation opens the door with clarity, integrity, and heart.Learn more about Andre:comingcloser.comMore resources from Rahi:rahichun.comIf this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star review helps this work reach more people reclaiming their bodies and pleasure.

In this special episode, I’m joined by Judith Claire and Frank Weigers—two beloved humans I’ve known for 25 years, and the celebrated co-authors of The Magical Sex Book and So That’s Why They Do That: Men, Women & Hormones.What I love most: they’re living what they teach. Judith and Frank share what it takes to keep intimacy alive, honest, and erotic—not only in the early years, but through life’s challenges and into their 70s and 80s.We explore:Why chemistry isn’t enough—and what actually creates lasting erotic connectionThe “90-day commitment” that set their relationship on a deeper trackHow daily rituals build trust, safety, and desire over timeTheir simple practices: “Morning worship,” “Evening news,” gratitude, and weekly erotic devotionThe 4 stages of love-making they teach: pre-play, foreplay, play, and after-playHow desire changes over time, and why desire often comes after arousalAging, health challenges, and how to keep Eros alive without pressure or obligationResources:TopGunLove.comBooks: The Magical Sex Book + So That’s Why They Do That (Amazon)More from Rahi: rahichun.comIf this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or a brief review helps it reach more people.

Trauma doesn’t only live in memory.It lives in the body.Long before we have words, the nervous system records everything — touch, safety, fear, abandonment, violation, belonging.So what happens when trauma occurs preverbally… in infancy… in utero… or across generations?How do we heal experiences we can’t consciously remember?In this episode, I’m joined by Becky Carter, a somatic experiencing therapist and trauma specialist with over 20 years of clinical work supporting survivors of sexual abuse, adoptees, men healing from sexual trauma, and individuals navigating racial and transgenerational trauma.Together we explore how the body holds these early wounds — and how gentle, somatic therapy can help release them.This conversation is grounded, compassionate, and deeply practical for anyone seeking true nervous system healing.We discuss:• What “preverbal trauma” actually means • How trauma is stored in the nervous system and tissues • Why talk therapy alone often isn’t enough • Somatic Experiencing & Transformative Touch Therapy • Healing trauma that happened before memory • Recognizing sexual trauma patterns in the body • Dissociation, shutdown & pelvic constriction • Male sexual abuse — the hidden epidemic • Shame, performance pressure & men’s intimacy struggles • The fawn response and people-pleasing for survival • Racial trauma and microaggressions as chronic nervous system stress • How sexual and racial trauma compound in the body • Adoption, attachment wounds & the “primal wound” • Learning to feel your body’s authentic yes and no • Rebuilding safety through co-regulation and touchIf you’ve ever felt:– disconnected from your body – confused by your reactions in intimacy – stuck in shame or shutdown – or like “something happened” but you can’t explain itThis episode offers language, understanding, and hope.Because healing isn’t about forcing the story.It’s about helping the body finally feel safe enough to release it.Resources:Becky Carter – Family Resilience Group https://familyresilience.orgOrganizations supporting male survivors: • https://menhealing.org • https://1in6.org • https://malesurvivor.orgMore somatic sexual healing resources https://rahichun.comIf this episode supported you, follow the show and leave a 5-star review — it helps this work reach more people.

Stine Krage, a midwife and sexologist, and Asim SacredFire, a holistic bodyworker, co-created The Prostatic Portal to explore the healing potential of prostate massage. They discuss how creating a safe space can release emotional shadows and enhance energy flow, transforming pleasure into spiritual experiences. Stine reveals insights from her clients, while Asim highlights the connection between stored trauma and prostate health. They advocate for separating orgasm from ejaculation, empowering men to embrace a deeper, more fulfilling connection with their sexuality.

Today’s episode is a tribute — a celebration of Caffyn Jesse, and the profound legacy Caffyn has offered the field of somatic sex education.In this conversation, I share how Caffyn’s work has influenced my own path, and we explore her journey of erotic reclamation — from early experiences of queerness, isolation, and cultural conditioning, to the awakening of erotic life force through bodywork, breath, and sacred touch.Caffyn is the author of Science for Sexual Happiness and Erotic Massage for Healing and Pleasure (republished as Intimacy Educator: Teaching Through Touch), and a co-founder of the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education and the Somatic Sex Educators Association. During this interview, I learned Caffyn is retiring this month after decades of teaching, training, writing, and supporting somatic sex educators around the world — and I’m honored to mark this moment with her.We speak about why “consent” isn’t always enough (because many of us are trained to consent to what we don’t actually want), and why voice and choice are foundational to erotic healing — especially within the realities of culture, race, gender, and nervous-system survival strategies like appeasement/fawning.Caffyn also guides a brief somatic visualization at the end of the episode to help you connect pelvic warmth, breath, and the sacred life force of eros.In this episode, we explore:Caffyn’s path into somatic sex education — and the turning points that changed everythingErotic embodiment as spiritual life force (eros as a gateway to source)Science for Sexual Happiness and the role of breath, sound, movement, and safetyTouch as re-imprinting: how the body can shift from pain to pleasureVulvodynia and “holy pain” as a teacher and initiatorWhy “taking turns” in touch changes everything (receiving without responsibility)The difference between consent and authentic desireFawning/appeasement, cultural conditioning, and why many people consent to unwanted touchRace, gender, and social power dynamics in erotic exchangeGroup containers: why community healing is uniquely powerfulHow the Institute’s training model was redesigned to honor nervous-system pacingRetirement, spaciousness, and what may be calling Kain nextA closing grounding + pelvic-energy visualizationResources mentioned:Caffyn’s free PDF Intimacy Educator: Teaching Through Touch and other offerings: https://ecstaticbelonging.comMore resources and teachings from me: rahichun.comIf this episode supported you, the simplest way to help this work reach more people is to leave a 5-star rating or a short review.