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Everyone gets to experience the ups and downs of life. There are no exemptions. There are moments when things do not go our way or something unexpected happens, and it is a situation we don’t want to be in. When confronted with difficult circumstances, how you perceive and respond to them will make things better or worse.There are some people who tend to look at the bright side regardless of what’s happening to them. They see their lives as something that they co-create and have control over. On the other hand, there are those who constantly complain about their situation and even blame themselves or others. They see life as something that is happening to them and believe that it’s just how it is. In this episode, I want to share with you how gratitude can transform your life from the inside out and how you truly hold the key to transforming your life, regardless of the circumstances. Group coaching available this Fall 2020! Join the Ignition Group Coaching WaitlistYou are serious about addressing your distractibility, procrastination, and perfectionism & their impact on your business and life, and going through the process with like-minded and like brained women is exactly what you need. Sign up to be notified of all the details! Join the Accelerate Group Coaching WaitlistYou're in momentum and want to keep it that way? What better way than in the community of other female entrepreneurs with distractibility, procrastination, and perfectionism, lead by yours truly? If you are a current or former individual client of mine (or have already worked with another coach or consultant) this is for you. We are going to level up and we are going to do it together, so get on the list! This episode is brought to you by:The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching) Social SharingFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/

When we are so focused on a goal, we can forget to stop and take in the big picture. Most driven people tend to zoom in or hyper-focus on their goals and on doing whatever is necessary to achieve them. Paying so much attention to those things means everything else going on around them just fades to black. Being hyper-focused on our goals is a good thing but we don’t want to forget to zoom out as well. Without stepping back or zooming out and looking at the big picture, we may be missing out on what is truly important.  The ability to zoom in and zoom out is a mindfulness practice. This helps with distractibility, anxiety, and focus. In this episode, we talk about what it means to zoom in and zoom out and share an exercise on how to develop the awareness and skill.  This episode is brought to you by:The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching) Diann Wingert CoachingIf you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve  (https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com)  Social SharingFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/

We all have stories, stories about ourselves, and stories about others. Some of these stories inspire us or drive us to do better. When our stories strengthen our belief in ourselves, our actions and decisions will reinforce them. If we believe we’ll do well and that we’re beautiful inside and out, these beliefs will be reflected in all that we think and do. But before this happens, before we can truly live in alignment with our full potential,  it is important for women with ADHD to accept that we actually have ADHD.  We need to unload our old story and own up to the reality of being so much more than our anxiety, depression, or perfectionism. Women with ADHD need also to challenge their negative thoughts about themselves and redirect them into thinking of ways to do and be better, without judgment. In doing so, one must be kinder to oneself.Sometimes due to our rough childhood or unfortunate circumstances, we are lead to believe that we should more critical about ourselves in order to do our best. But sooner or later, we will realize this doesn’t actually work.  We can literally change our view of ourselves, our potential, our future, and our chances for success, by changing the story we have been telling ourselves. Once you change your story, you can truly change your life.This episode is brought to you by:The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching) Diann Wingert CoachingIf you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve  (https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com)  Social SharingFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/ 

Episode # 8 - Late to the ADHD PartyOne of the reasons that women tend to be diagnosed with ADHD later in life than men is because our symptoms appear to be different but if you look past society’s expectations, just as many girls are likely to be identified as boys.  Women with ADHD, depending on their subtype and especially if their hyperactivity is mental instead of physical, may not recognize themselves as someone with ADHD.  Many women would be considered high-functioning, as well, but they are still falling short of their true potential. In this episode, we talk about why and share an exercise for how to think about your history through a new lens. This episode is brought to you by:The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching) Diann Wingert CoachingIf you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve  (https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com)  Social SharingFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/

Driven women have their own idea and way of how to get things done. Most of the time it is to an extent where the best must be achieved. Others may perceive it as being too much of a perfectionist or demanding. And because of this, most women who work in the corporate world and decide to venture into independent entrepreneurship often find themselves loading too much work for themselves because of hesitancy to ask for help. Working with a business coach has loads of benefits, a particular one would be that with a coach, more perspectives and troubleshooting are covered to guarantee business to run smoothly and be more profitable. Help doesn’t have to be in the form of professional help all the time, though. Small groups or convened communities could also work. But before actually asking for help, you have to first admit that you need one. For women who have put up their own businesses or are about to put up their own businesses or are about to, it’s best to remember that there is no shame in asking for help if you’re having difficulty with work. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You don’t have to carry it all and walk the stairs, you can use a lift every now and then. Don’t suppress the mess, it’s meant to lead you to know yourself better and redirect you to the things that will serve your purpose.  The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching) Diann Wingert CoachingIf you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve  (https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com) Social SharingFacebook:  https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoachingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/diannwingertcoaching/   LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/ 

Most of the time, people take delight or get excited more on the planning part of activities rather than the actual ‘doing’ part. Driven women are particularly not immune to this since they always have places they plan to go to, projects they want to get done, and people they want to meet. If one is not so keen on how to schedule their activities, it may get quite frustrating and counterproductive. Strategic planning allows driven women to provide a proper sense of direction to what they’re doing and crafting troubleshooting solutions in case there are unexpected things that will come into play. Some time in one’s life, you will realize that enthusiasm is not enough to carry a situation or event, especially when you have other people in the boat with you. It takes careful considerations and a feasible plan to work things out without feeling short-handed or frustrated when things don’t go as expected. With neuroplasticity, we are taught that our brain is capable of adapting to change regardless of age. That is why it is never too early or late to try and take action in honing yourself to plan better for events and activities, whether small or big.The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching) Diann Wingert CoachingIf you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve  (https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com) Social SharingFacebook:  https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoachingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/diannwingertcoaching/   LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/ 

Episode #5 - Driving With The Emergency  Brakes OnMost women with ADHD operate with a fast-moving brain that is difficult to stop. However, since women are more relationship-oriented and tend to follow rules more effectively, they tend to be able to suppress their hyperactivity with an effective and more controlled response to certain situations. This is what I call driving with emergency brakes on.Sooner or later, this suppression can manifest in the form of anxiety, depression, chronic headaches, and various types of obsessive mannerisms and thinking.  This in turn may become problematic and further hinder women to function as they should, without limiting their potential...I believe that the key for women with ADHD to fully realize their gifts is to own to their sense of self and skip normality.  It may help to embrace this by choosing a field or career that maximizes our need for fast pace and high energy.  One can work in a single field or have multiple careers for as long as the activities align with one’s vivacity and principles.  One can also make changes within their environment that will fit their personality and needs.It’s never too late (or too early) to realize that it's time to release the emergency brake and fully live to your true potential.Referred to in this episode:Edward Hallowell’s “Delivered from Distraction: Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder” This episode is brought to you by:The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching) Diann Wingert CoachingIf you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve  (https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com) Social SharingFacebook:  https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoachingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/diannwingertcoaching/   LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/ 

A growing number of people, especially women, are opting for the unstable, insecure, risky, and exciting path of working for themselves, either in partnership, collaboration with others, or flying solo. And most of them would choose to do it again, even if they aren't experiencing the level of success they set out for.Choosing the self-employment path typically means financial instability and insecurity, social and emotional isolation, added stress and pressure on romantic/intimate relationships, and increased challenges with mental health, but certain personal attributes may contribute to both choosing the entrepreneurial path and being successful as an entrepreneur.  I don't believe there is one type of person who is destined to be an entrepreneur, nor do I believe that all entrepreneurs are alike. There are many different paths to entrepreneurship and many different personalities that succeed in this lifestyle. But what I do believe is that there are several personality attributes or characteristics that make it more likely that a person will choose to be an entrepreneur sooner or later and in this episode, I share them with you. Referred to in this episode:Seth Godin’s Blog:  “A Job Without a Boss: Are you a freelancer or an entrepreneur?”Entrepreneur: Those with ADHD Might Make Better Entrepreneurs. Here’s Why This episode is brought to you by:If you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve. > Diann Wingert CoachingSocial SharingFacebook:  https://bit.ly/DWC-FacebookInstagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-InstagramLinkedIn:   https://bit.ly/DWC-LinkedIn

In this episode, Diann talks about how most people think that their brain works on their behalf, helping them to achieve their personal happiness, but little do people know the hard truth that it really doesn’t operate this way, but rather the other way around. It is true that our brain can be likened to a computer with regard to how it operates, but unlike a computer, our brain never gets an upgrade, updates, or even extra storage so thoughts we adopted as children continue to drive our thinking in spite of years of life experience.  The brain is focused on the prime directive of your survival instead of your continued growth and learning,.  As a result, the brain is resistant to change, that is why it takes much of a person’s will and effort to change the way we think.  The good news is that you can do something about it and that’s what we’ll discuss in this episode. This episode is brought to you by:The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching) Diann Wingert CoachingIf you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve  (https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com) Social SharingFacebook:  https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoachingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/diannwingertcoaching/   LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/ 

If you have an interest-based brain,  the fact that a task, project, or goal is important isn’t always enough to get yourself to do what needs to be done, especially if it happens to be important to someone else, but not to you.  This leads to all kinds of resistance, procrastination, and outright avoidance and this is one of the aspects of being an adult with ADHD that is the most frustrating.  But, what if you understood that your brain works differently and important is not the driver that gets you going?   In this episode,  Diann shares her concept of the Four ADHD Drivers, which she playfully refers to as Fancy, Gritty, Shiny, and Fomo and why you need to figure out how to make the task at hand more like one of them in order to get yourself to take action.   Hey, we don’t always get to do only the things that we are really interested in, but it’s no surprise that those who are able to create a life based on their interests are able to leverage their ADHD gifts in the most powerful way.  Think Michelle Rodriguez (acclaimed actress), Simone Biles (Olympic gymnast) and Lisa Ling (award-winning journalist) who have created highly successful careers around their interests, because of, not in spite of their ADHD.This episode is brought to you by:If you’re ready to invest in turbocharging your progress, with expert guidance, support, and accountability from a coach who really gets you and can shave decades off your learning curve. > Diann Wingert CoachingSocial SharingFacebook:  https://bit.ly/DWC-FacebookInstagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-InstagramLinkedIn:   https://bit.ly/DWC-LinkedIn