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Today’s solo episode tackles the problem of saying “yes” to clients you probably should say “no” to and why, and how to both create predictable outcomes and avoid both negative ones and surprises.   Creating a specific way of working with people and sticking to it, instead of trying to help everyone you think you should, or believe you can spare you countless heartaches. The truth is that you really can’t help everybody.  None of us can.  Your personal values may include being flexible, adaptable, and accommodating, but this can get you into some real hot water in your business. This is not a matter of experience or expertise, or how long you’ve been in the business, it’s about the slippery slope of unmet expectations and human nature. This episode is the first in The Boundaries Series, where we will be exploring a number of things that we do that limit our success because we have weak-ass boundaries and don’t even know it.   Spoiler alert:  the way I look at and talk about boundaries is guaranteed to open your eyes to all kinds of things you probably aren’t even thinking about, in addition to the boundary nonsenses you already know you’re dealing with.  Here is a quick overview of what we are going to cover in today’s solo episode: The Default Yes is a major blindspot we can’t afford to keep ignoring Pink Flags to look for when deciding who to work with A Signature System helps you create predictably good outcomes  How to improve your practices to ensure satisfied clients Mentioned in this episode:Bridge2More marketing consultant Claudia Schalkx https://bit.ly/3LGPw4NWhat’s Holding You Back Quiz   https://bit.ly/obstaclesquizWith 20+ years of experience as a psychotherapist and 5+ years as a coach, I rarely meet a solopreneur who wouldn’t benefit from some expert guidance in this area. Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to see if my signature 12-week 1:1 coaching program is right for you. https://calendly.com/diannwingert/free-consultation/ If you are the kind of entrepreneur who learns as much from others as you do when you and your business are the sole focus, my brand new group membership program is starting soon and the first step is to get on the waitlist. Click here to be notified of all the details: Group Coaching Waitlist Join The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for entrepreneurial women who are ready to go from driven and distracted to focused, fired up, and flame retardant  (https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman) Let’s connect on Instagram: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ So, that’s all for now, Driven Woman!  See you next week, when Dr. Amanda Barrientez, Founder and CEO of NFA (No Fucking Around) Money is going to be my guest.  Dr. Amanda went from food stamps to 6 figures and loves helping emerging entrepreneurs with their money mindset.  I was a guest on her NFA Money Talks Livestream  (check it out on YouTube) and can’t wait to share her with you next week.  

In this engaging discussion, Michelle Glogovac, CEO of MLG Collective, shares her journey from the aviation industry to launching a PR and podcast pitching agency. She emphasizes the power of authentic storytelling and building genuine relationships in marketing. Michelle addresses the unique self-promotion challenges women encounter and redefines success beyond social media followings. She also highlights the significance of morning routines for productivity and the importance of meaningful connections in podcasting. Don't miss her insights on creating tailored pitches!

When you are a highly educated professional woman who knows she is capable of so much more than you are demonstrating in your career and personal life, it can be tough to figure out where the real problem lies. Is it your motivation, your expectations, your habits, your mindset, or a combination of all of the above, and how do you figure it out? Luckily for my client, Dallas, one of her friends had worked with me and told her what a great experience she had, and then she listened to a few episodes of this podcast and thought, “this might be just what I need.”  There is a hilarious ‘blooper” during this episode that demonstrates why radical self-acceptance is one of the core principles I practice and teach.  You will see why if you stick with the episode all the way to the end.  We talk about why she decided to work with me, what we focused on and how it has transformed her thinking about money, being a lawyer, and allowed her to reach her billing goals without so much stress and beating up on herself.  It was not a perfect and predictable path and at one point, Dallas felt like she had lost sense of where we were going, so we talk about how we resolved that. Here are the highlights of this conversation:The performance gap between our productivity and our potential Toxic productivity and its alternative How to practice radical self-acceptance one day at a timeRight now goals vs legacy goals Pain, suffering, and unnecessary suffering This episode’s Mic Drop Moment: “ I learned to stop selling from a hypothetical pocketbook.” (Dallas) Are you feeling the frustration of knowing you are capable of so much more but don’t know how to close your performance gap? With 20+ years of experience as a psychotherapist and 5+ years as a coach, I rarely meet a solopreneur who wouldn’t benefit from some expert guidance in this area. Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to see if my signature 12-week 1:1 coaching program is right for you. https://bit.ly/calendly-free-consultationLet’s connect on Instagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-InstagramSo, that’s all for now, Driven Woman!  See you next week for our next guest expert interview.

In this fascinating interview,  my guest Amira Alvarez, CEO of The Unstoppable Woman, speaker, podcaster, and leadership coach and I get real about some of the topics so many women steer clear of.  We don’t shy away from the tough stuff here on The Driven Woman Podcast, so Amira and I do a deep dive into the shadow side of being driven and ambitious. The shadow side is what ruins our health, our relationships, and often, the business we are trying so damn hard to grow and scale. Amira speaks in a clear and unapologetic way on the painful truths about striving for success and how we can unknowingly prevent ourselves from actually achieving it. It has been said that becoming an entrepreneur is the ultimate personal growth experience and I can’t agree more.  In this fast-paced convo,  Amira shares some of her wake up calls and rude awakenings: The hamster wheel of drive and ambition = never enoughWhen she realized she was addicted to the struggle “I didn’t die by doing it differently”If you have ever asked yourself what you are doing wrong, why you aren’t making bank, when you are going to reach the entrepreneurial promised land, this convo will be one of your favorites on this podcast.   Women of influence and that includes those of us who podcast need to be more honest about the not-so-glamorous side of entrepreneurship and that is why I am proud to share this revealing conversation with you. This Episode’s Mic Drop Moment:“Getting sick was my stopping strategy” (Amira Alvarez) If you’d like to connect with Amira after listening to this interview, Website: https://theunstoppablewoman.com/Podcast: https://theunstoppablewoman.com/listen/Links: https://linktr.ee/theunstoppablewomanIG: https://www.instagram.com/theunstoppablewoman/Mentioned in this episode:  TAKE THE QUIZ:What’s Holding You Back?https://bit.ly/obstaclesquizThinking about working with Diann? If you need the focused attention on your business & life that is only available through 1:1 coaching, click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Diann to see if her 12-week private coaching program is right for you. Free Consultation for 1:1 Coaching The Driven Woman Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ Before you bounce, don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, I’d love to read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-driven-woman-1194485

The more experienced I become as a business coach, the more convinced I am that the secret to success is understanding how the human brain works and how to outsmart it.  Our brains do not care if we are happy, fulfilled, or reaching our potential.  They are giving themselves an A+ if we are still alive, because that is actually our brain’s job description.  Being successful requires that you use your mind to bypass the brain’s default programming and in this episode, I am going to share with you a couple of hacks for how to do it. Here are just a few of the highlights: Thoughts about what we are capable of are learned and can be unlearned.Beliefs are just thoughts we have a lot of experience thinking. Your brain is a lazy mofo that burns  a lot of calories defending the status quo Imposter complex, self-sabotage, and limiting beliefs are autopilot settingsHow to think like your success has already happened, making it inevitable Want a double dose of this life-changing wisdom about how your brain actually works?   I dug episode #3 out of the podcast archives.  It's a quick one, so click here to listen: https://bit.ly/episode-blog-3If you know you are holding yourself back because you need a thought upgrade, it’s time to unlearn your old thinking? With 20+ years of experience as a psychotherapist and 5+ years as a coach, I rarely meet a solopreneur who wouldn’t benefit from some expert guidance in this area. Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to see if my signature 12-week 1:1 coaching program is right for you. https://bit.ly/calendly-free-consultationLet’s connect on Instagram: Instagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-InstagramSo, that’s all for now, Driven Woman!  See you next week, when Amira Alvarez of the Unstoppable Woman Podcast is going to be my guest.  She is a very inspiring woman who really made me think in new ways and I can’t wait to share our convo with you. 

If you haven’t heard my cringe-worthy story of how I spent two years thinking about starting this podcast before I finally pulled the trigger, you can go listen to my One Year Podversary episode to hear all the embarrassing details.  During that two-year period of overthinking and creative procrastination, I even flew from LA to Orlando to attend the Podcast Movement Conference, thinking that would inspire me to get off the fence.  It did not, but it did help me take the first step to connect with today’s guest, Heather Vickery. Heather is a leadership and success coach, speaker, workshop facilitator, podcaster, and author.  I found a card promoting Heather’s podcast, The Brave Files while at that podcast conference in 2019.  I picked it up and saved it because I liked the message and branding.  Eventually, I met the fabulous Annie P. Ruggles, who was our guest on episode # 86, and she introduced me to Heather.  The world of female podcasters is a fabulous network of generous and supportive people. Heather spoke at She Podcasts Live this year, so we got a chance to meet IRL before recording interviews for our respective podcasts and the timing of this one was just a few weeks after Heather published her best-selling book, F*ck Fearless: Making the Brave Leap.  We talk about the 5 step framework that Heather uses in her coaching programs and outlines in detail in the book, complete with exercises,  examples from clients she’s worked with and people she’s interviewed on her podcast The Brave Files, and plenty of stories from her own life experiences. In this fun convo, Heather Challenges me to join her in recording and posting a video a day for the month of December (we recorded the interview in November) Calls me out on my belief that as part of nature we are either in a phase of growth or a phase of decay Mic Drop Moment: “Fearless is for sociopaths and 3-year-olds.”Heather’s framework (hint, it spells out the word B-R-A-V-E) If you’d like to connect with Heather Vickery after listening to this interview, here are a few options: Get the book:  https://vickeryandco.com/course/fck-fearless-making-the-brave-leap/Join her free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BraveOnPurpose/The Brave Files: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-brave-files/id1370255228Was it Chance?: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/was-it-chance/id1597327877 Are you ready to take things to the next level and work with Diann? If you need the focused attention on your business & life that is only available through 1:1 coaching, click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Diann to see if her 12-week private coaching program is right for you. Free Consultation for 1:1 Coaching Before you bounce, don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, I’d love to read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-driven-woman-1194485

In our ongoing series on the mindset changes we need to make in business in order to make the income, impact, and profit we really want to make,  in this solo episode, I address one of the more common problems I see with female solopreneurs: confusion about worth and value in their business. Here are just a few of the highlights: Defining what we mean by value and worth Salary politics and relationship trauma as triggersBad advice from other business coaches And why you want to listen all the way to the end:When we focus on value instead of worth, we make more money, get better clients, and create more outstanding outcomes.   Who doesn’t want that? Can you clearly and confidently articulate the value of the services you provide, without worrying about your worth? With 20+ years of experience as a psychotherapist and 5+ years as a coach, I rarely meet a solopreneur who wouldn’t benefit from some expert guidance in this area. Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to see if my signature 12-week 1:1 coaching program is right for you. https://bit.ly/calendly-free-consultationLet’s connect on Instagram: Instagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-InstagramSo, that’s all for now, Driven Woman!  See you next week, when Heather Vickery of The Brave Files Podcast and author of the new best-selling book “F*ck Fearless & Choose Bravery” is going to be my guest.  She is a leadership and success coach, speaker, workshop facilitator, author, podcaster, and advocate of living a brave life.  See you then! 

I am excited to introduce you to today’s guest on The Driven Woman Podcast;  Business Strategist for online entrepreneurs, Crista Grasso.  Crista and I met at the She Podcasts Live conference and I totally fell in love with her brilliance.  Her genius is helping other entrepreneurs remove the unnecessary complexity in their business so they become more profitable as they grow.Crista’s system, The Lean Out Method is designed to create simple, sustainable, strategic systems that scale.  She is known as The Business Optimizer and her superpower is helping entrepreneurs cut through the noise and see their business with clarity, so they can maximize both value and profitability. What I saw her scratch out on the back of a notepad over lunch convinced me that I need her to help me take MY business to the next level, so I decided to hire her.  I am actually attending her two-day Lean Out & Level Up retreat this very week! Here is a sneak peek of what you are going to learn in this value-packed interview:Crista’s CHUK system which stands for Cut, Hold, Change, Keep Having a killer client fulfillment system prevents buyers’ remorse When you’re ready to scale (and when you are NOT ready) How to scale and still serve clients 1:1 Quotables to listen for in this interview: Systematize what you want to repeat Scaling amplifies what you already have  Also mentioned, Crista’s favorite project management system:  www.monday.com So, I bet you can’t wait to know more about today’s fabulous guest,  Crista Grasso, right? Website: www.leanoutmethod.com Podcast: Lean Out Your Business Facebook group: http://facebook.com/groups/LeanOutCircleInstagram: @cristagrasso And, here’s are a couple of ways to connect with Diann: The Driven Woman Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ Are you ready to take things to the next level and work with Diann? If you need the focused attention on your business & life that is only available through 1:1 coaching, click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Diann to see if her 12-week private coaching program is right for you. Free Consultation for 1:1 Coaching Before you bounce, don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, I’d love to read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-driven-woman-1194485

Two weeks ago we talked about boundaries and if you haven’t listened to that episode yet, I suggest you do.  Boundaries and knowing when to say “no” go together like PB & J. In this companion episode, I will be talking about not the mechanics of saying no (although I do give you a simple strategy for what to do when you’re put on the spot, near the end…) but more of the strategy behind the no.  If you are a solopreneur, creative freelancer, or indie professional, you are probably faced with a million requests a day.  Knowing when to say “no” and why is crucial to having a profitable business and avoiding burnout.   The focus of today’s solo episode is on service-based businesses, but the principles apply to most businesses, and to our personal lives as well.  Here are just a few of the highlights: Are you prepared to respond to requests for:DiscountsBarteringPayment PlansGuaranteed Results Extra Time & AttentionAny kind of scope creep We are going to discuss the fears that keep us from saying no when we want to:Fear of losing a clientFear of negative reviewsFear that unhappy clients mean we really aren’t good enoughAnd don’t forget to stay with me to the end where I will share a simple strategy for how to get yourself off the hot seat when you are ambushed with an unexpected request. Shout outs in this episode:Copywriter Juliet Peay, creator of Killer Copy Week: https://www.yeahthatwriter.com/Book: The Four Tendencies: https://gretchenrubin.com/books/the-four-tendencies/intro/Quote from my marketing coach, Claudia Schalkx https://bridge2more.com/ Could you use some serious help with saying no to whatever isn’t working in your business and life?With 20+ years of experience as a psychotherapist and 5+ years as a coach, I’ve never met a solopreneur, coach, or consultant who couldn’t use a boundary boost. Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to see if my signature 12-week 1:1 coaching program is right for you. https://bit.ly/calendly-free-consultationLet’s connect on Instagram: Instagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-InstagramSo, that’s all for now, Driven Woman!  See you next week, when my guest Annie P. Ruggles of the Too Legitimate to Quit Podcast joins me to dig into the juicy topic of sleaze-free selling for creative service business owners. 

I am excited to introduce you to today’s guest on The Driven Woman; fellow podcaster, non-sleazy sales consultant, and all-around genius-for-brains, my biz buddy, Annie P Ruggles.  We met online, hit it off automagically because of our mutual interest in the intersection of feminism, mental health, and entrepreneurship.  Annie is a magician in helping female entrepreneurs, coaches, consultants, and service business owners be more successful on their own terms by teaching them how to sell with integrity.  If you have ever struggled to ask for the business, ask for the money, or raise your prices, you are definitely going to want to listen to this one.  Anniepreneur is an open book when it comes to talking about mental health, being an empath, and the fact that being self-employed is an amazing lifestyle, but it’s also just plain hard.  Most women have a hard time asking for what they want, need, and deserve and I love talking with other coaches and consultants who are as committed as I am to helping other women get paid. This episode is a bit more conversational because Annie and I have an ongoing friendship and have even shared a room at the recent She Podcasts Live conference for female and nonbinary podcasters.  She is super smart, very generous with her expertise and her network, and is truly one of the most original and brilliant people I know. We cover a lot of territory, and you definitely want to listen for these mic drop moments:Overdelivering is not a victimless crime.Assholes don’t get imposter syndrome. The difference between affordable and accessible. And, the juicy topic of #ambitionshaming  So, I bet you can’t wait to know more about today’s fabulous guest, and my “conference wife”  Annie P Ruggles, am I right?  Well, let me count the ways….. Her FREE sleaze-free selling mini-masterclass  (how’s that for a no-brainer?) Her membership program: The Non Sleazy Sales Academy  Her binge-worthy podcast Too Legitimate to Quit  Be sure to follow her on IG:  https://www.instagram.com/anniepreneur/ And, here’s are a couple of ways to connect with Diann: Instagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-Instagram Have you been thinking about working with Diann “soon?”If getting back into momentum & moving the needle in your business is how you want to start your 2022,  Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to see if her signature 12-week 1:1 coaching program is right for you. https://bit.ly/calendly-free-consultation If you are loving our free content and want to say ‘thanks,” don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, I’d love to read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://bit.ly/TDWE-podchaser