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Today’s guest, Nicole Kalil is a speaker, trainer, and host of the This is Woman’s Work Podcast. She left a successful corporate career in the male-dominated industry of financial services and is now an executive coach for women in leadership positions in a variety of industries.  As you will hear in this interview, Nicole is just as passionate about helping women to reach greater levels of confidence and success as I am. Nicole shares her favorite definition of confidence, the 5 limiting beliefs that derail our confidence, and the 5 beliefs we can replace them with that are confidence boosters.  We also talk about our thoughts on the advice to ‘fake it til you make it,” whether she believes any woman can develop confidence and whether you can actually have too much confidence.  This convo will not only motivate and inspire you, but you can put Nicole’s advice into practice today. One of the most heartfelt moments in the interview is Nicole sharing her mantra for when times are hard, in which she reminds herself that she is her young daughter’s role model.  I must admit I teared up just a bit, right along with her.   Where to find Nicole Kalil online:Website: https://nicolekalil.com/Podcast: https://nicolekalil.com/podcastIG: https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/Online Course: https://nicolekalil.com/this-is-confidenceAre you ready to take things to the next level and work with Diann? If you need the focused attention on your business & life that is only available through 1:1 coaching, click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Diann to see if her 12-week private coaching program is right for you. Free Consultation for 1:1 Coaching  Before you bounce, don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, so I can read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://bit.ly/TDWE-podchaser Connect with Diann Online: Instagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-InstagramLinkedIn:   https://bit.ly/DWC-LinkedIn

In the years I’ve been coaching bold, brilliant, badass female entrepreneurs, I have never once encountered one that was not capable of more than she was experiencing in her business success.  Sometimes the issue was skill, occasionally it was will, but nine times out of ten,  it came down to fear.  Fear of failure, fear of criticism, fear of being envied, fear of embarrassment, fear of proving someone right, even fear of betraying their roots are just some of the possibilities.  Fear is something we need to learn how to manage if we want to move to a higher level of influence, impact, or income in business.  Until we do so, we will stay right where we are, and with the world moving forward at an ever-increasing pace,  staying in place is falling behind.  The lowdown on fear we will cover in this episode:What we are actually afraid of The 85% error factor Worst case scenario thinking & why we resort to it Fear and secondary gain The alternative to letting fear hold us back Freebie AlertIn order to transform our relationship with fear, we need to re-train our thoughts and reactions. If you have decided to start working on your fear, so you can uplevel your game, grab your copy of the handout that accompanies this episode:Question Your Fear Worksheet Ready to Make a Serious Upgrade?If getting back into momentum & moving the needle in your business and life is how you want to start your 2022,  Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to see if my signature 12-week 1:1 coaching program is right for you. https://calendly.com/diannwingert/free-consultation/If you are the kind of entrepreneur who learns as much from others as you do when you and your business are the sole focus, my group coaching program is starting again soon and the first step is to get on the waitlist! Click here to be notified of all the details: Group Coaching Waitlist Let’s connect on Instagram: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ Join The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for entrepreneurial women who are ready to go from driven and distracted to focused, fired up, and flame retardant  (https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman)  So, that’s all for now, Driven Woman!  See you next week, when my guest Nicole Kalil, leadership coach, speaker, and host of the “This is Women’s Work” Podcast joins us for a lively conversation about women and confidence, one of my favorite subjects!  

The more women I talk to, the more I realize that almost all of us have “issues” with money.  We either aren’t earning enough, are living beyond our means, are caught in the trap of student loan and/ or credit card debt, or are terrified to ask for what we actually need to float our boat.  And this doesn’t even begin to cover the fact that most of us grew up hearing all manner of money nonsense from our parents that virtually guarantees we won’t be improving our relationship with money any time soon.  Oh, yeah, it’s complicated all right. So, I invited speaker and writer, Melanie Lockert, author of the best-selling book ‘Dear Debt”, host of the Mental Health & Wealth Podcast, and a woman who has learned a thing or two about money, the hard way.  She is also co-founder of the Lola Retreat which helps bold women face their fears, own their dreams, and be in control of their finances.  Melanie is passionate about empowering women, helping others get out of debt, and mental wellness. Here are a couple of the highlights you are going to hear:Becoming known for something and growing into something else Being hired as a money mindset coach (when she didn’t think she was one…)Melanie’s thoughts on the word “expert” and how it’s being used How she accidentally doubled her rates overnight & got better clients overnight Want to connect with our guest, Melanie Lockert?Site:  www.mentalhealthandwealth.com and www.lolaretreat.comPodcast: https://mentalhealthandwealth.com/podcast/Book: Dear Debt IG: @melanielockert  Here’s how to connect with Diann: The Driven Woman Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/  Are you ready to take things to the next level and work with Diann? If you need the focused attention on your business & life that is only available through 1:1 coaching, click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Diann to see if her 12-week private coaching program is right for you. Free Consultation for 1:1 Coaching  Before you bounce, don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, so I can read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-driven-woman-1194485

One of the things that is so frustrating about the human brain is how often it cranks out negative self-talk, no matter how smart, capable, or successful we are.  In this solo episode of The Driven Woman Podcast, I spill the tea on how the brain actually works, why there is nothing wrong with you just because you have negative thoughts about yourself (spoiler alert, just about everyone does….) but how simple it actually is to change them and think better thoughts.  I even share some of the exact tools and techniques I share with my private coaching clients.  Some of the things we will cover in this episode are:The brain’s negativity bias Thoughts vs beliefsThe path of least effort Cognitive dissonance Whether you are a total brain science nerd or your eyes glaze over when someone starts talking about neurobiology, I promise you will not only understand every word of what I am sharing in this episode, but you may just stop feeling bad about how nasty your self-talk is, and start to change it,  once and for all. The free app mentioned in this episode:  https://thinkup.me/  to get started practicing how to think better thoughts Freebie AlertIn order to change our behavior, we need practice, so if you have decided to start working on your negative self-talk, grab your copy of the handout that accompanies this episode:Negative Self Talk worksheet Ready to Work with Me?Are you ready to invest in getting back into momentum & moving the needle in your business and life?  Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to see if my signature 12-week 1:1 coaching program is right for you. Free Consultation for 1:1 Coaching If you are the kind of entrepreneur who learns as much from others as you do when you and your business are the sole focus, my group coaching program is starting again soon and the first step is to get on the waitlist! Click here to be notified of all the details: Group Coaching Waitlist Let’s connect on Instagram: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ Join The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for entrepreneurial women who are ready to go from driven and distracted to focused, fired up, and flame retardant  (https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman)  So, that’s all for now, Driven Woman!  See you next week, when my guest Melanie Lockert, writer, speaker, author of the best-selling book Dear Debt and host of the Mental Health & Wealth Podcast, joins me for a deep dive into the relationship between money, debt, and mental health for episode #78, Women & Money, It’s Complicated. 

If you are a newbie entrepreneur, coach, or service provider,  this episode is full of wisdom and inspiration for you.  Our guest, Juliet Peay, who recorded this interview with me on her 28th birthday, is one of those people who have really good instincts and trusts herself enough to follow them.   Most new entrepreneurs follow what everyone else is doing and this is one of many distinctions that set Juliet apart.  She decided a few months ago that corporate life was not for her and took a leap into entrepreneurship.  She had no connections, no referrals sources, and no portfolio and instead of venturing into journalism where she at least had a degree, she followed her intuition to copywriting for online coaches, helpers, and healers.  Even though she is at the very beginning of her entrepreneurial journey,  she is already making really good choices and setting herself apart from the masses.  I predict this driven woman is destined for success and I’m thrilled to introduce her.  Highlights from today’s podcast interview: Juliet’s strategy for marathon networking on LinkedInTrusting your gut, instead of following the crowdUnconventional offers that set you apartWhy vanity metrics don’t impress her How to network as an introvert who takes initiative Apologies for all the mutual fangirling in this interview, but Juliet and I became fast friends and fans of one another's work and you will hear a lot of that.  In the often superficial world of online business and marketing, it is so refreshing when you find the kind of person who is actually the real deal. Where to find Juliet Peay online:IG: http://instagram.com/yeahthatwriter  Juliet’s Signature Program:  Killer Copy Week Her online workshop: Write Your Website Juliet’s book recommendation:  Reinventing You by Dorie Clark If you have added your name to the waitlist for group coaching this fall, the list is now closed.  Watch your inbox for announcements about the program and how to join the fun. Connect with Diann Online: The Driven Woman Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/ 

I don’t often get to work with clients at the very beginning of their entrepreneurial journey, and it is very exciting when I do.  When I heard from Danielle Meitiv she was just a few months into her business and even though she is a woman in her 50’s she built an audience of over 150k people in just a few months in a place you wouldn’t expect to find her, TikTok.  Over the 3 months that we worked together,  Danielle and I clarified her audience, her offer, her business model, her marketing platform, and her long-term goal of thought leadership in what she calls the next wave of health care.  When you coach someone as smart as Danielle, getting them to understand that they are being hindered by the fact that they want to do everything and have the energy and bandwidth to do so.  Danielle’s dramatic outcome from our work together was largely a result of her willingness to embrace intentional constraint, one of my key coaching concepts.  I can’t wait to share this inspiring woman with you!  Today’s guest and Client Success Story had already been successful in a previous career when she decided to start helping other people heal from thyroid issues.  Danielle’s first brush with fame: https://wapo.st/3B4F2Gr (there’s more than one way to get comfortable being in the public eye…)  Want to connect with our guest, Danielle Meitiv?Website: https://thyroidhealingsolutions.com/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thyroid.coach.danielleThyroid Healing Guide: https://thyroidhealingsolutions.com/healing-hashimotos-challenge2021/ Here’s how to connect with Diann: Instagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-Instagram You are serious about addressing your distractibility, procrastination, and perfectionism & their impact on your business and life, and going through the process with like-minded and like brained women is exactly what you need. You're in momentum and want to keep it that way? What better way than in the community of other female entrepreneurs with distractibility, procrastination, and perfectionism, lead by yours truly? If you are a current or former individual client of mine (or have already worked with another coach or consultant) this is for you. We are going to level up and we are going to do it together! Work With Me Today Before you bounce, don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, so I can read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://bit.ly/TDWE-podchaser

Far too many female entrepreneurs fail to reach their goals because they don’t plan for success.  They think that passion, energy, and creativity are enough and may reject the idea of planning as unnecessary, irrelevant, or just too painful.  I used to be one of them and gave myself every possible excuse for why I couldn’t plan when I was actually afraid I wouldn’t follow through. Today’s guest, Mridu Parikh, a former professional organizer turned productivity coach, author, podcaster and speaker is obsessed with planning and believes that not only does planning create freedom, but that we will never reach our most important goals without a plan. Mridu specializes in helping overwhelmed mompreneurs prioritize and systemize so they take control of their demands and distractions – at home and at work.Here are a couple of the highlights you are going to hear:Mridu says most women treat their brain like a warehouse, but we should think of it as a factory instead How to stay focused on your most important goal by anchoring to it every day with this simple technique Clarity comes from action, not thinking  Want to connect with our guest, Mridu Parikh?Site:  https://lifeisorganized.comPodcast: https://lifeisorganized.com/podcast/IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifeisorganizedLI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mridu-parikh/Freebies: 21 Killer  hacks To Stop Feeling Overwhelmed: http://lifeisorganized.com/resources/Mridu is the founder of Life Is Organized, author of the Amazon bestseller, Accomplish It, and the host of the Productivity on Purpose podcast. When she’s not wrangling a list or schedule, you can usually find her hanging out with her two teens and one husband in Nashville or enjoying a Malbec.Here’s how to connect with Diann: The Driven Woman Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/  Are you ready to take things to the next level and work with Diann? If learning and growing as part of a small group is your jam, sign up here to be added to the waitlist for the next round of Diann’s group coaching program, starting fall 2021: Waitlist for Fall 2021 Group Coaching  Before you bounce, don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, so I can read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-driven-woman-1194485 

This week’s Client Success Story episode features Kris Zarnoch who is a podcast editor and producer, wife, and mom of a special needs son. Kris hired me to help her with productivity challenges related to being a creative freelancer, who was working from home, during the pandemic.  She struggled with setting boundaries and establishing the value of her work.During our work together, Kris learned how to say no & leverage her time by:Hitting the pause button before answering when asked for helpKnowing you can revoke your ‘yes’ at any timeBoundaries are the ultimate self-care It’s OK to disappoint others so you don’t have to keep disappointing yourself No is a complete sentence, you don’t need to explain or apologize It’s better to do less and give people your full attention Better boundaries = a better business And was able to be more assertive in offering her services by:Establish what makes you & your service unique Share your offer without compromise or apologyConnect with those who place a high value on your offerOptimize and leverage your time to focus on revenue-generating tasks Don’t confuse your value with your worth (one may be negotiable, the other never is)Connect with Kris Zarnoch:https://kmzencreative.com/https://www.instagram.com/kmzen_creative/ Here’s how to connect with Diann: The Driven Woman Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ Are you ready to level up in your business and life? If learning and growing as part of a small group is your jam, sign up here to be notified of the next round of Diann’s group coaching program, starting SOON  Waitlist for Fall 2021 Group Coaching Before you bounce, don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, so I can read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-driven-woman-1194485

Today’s guest, Kellie Roy, knew from the age of 18 that she wanted to be a casting director, even before she knew what it was called.  She loved movies and had her favorite actors and actresses, often thinking “I wish this actress would get a chance to appear in bigger movies so more people would know how awesome she is.” Once she learned that there was a job where she could do exactly that, she was determined to follow that path and has never looked back. There are only about 2300 casting directors in the entertainment industry and Kellie knew that she would be one of them at an age and stage when most of us couldn’t figure out which lipstick to wear to a party.  I was totally fascinated with her clarity and certainty and just knew she would be an interesting guest for the podcast.  Kellie is an excellent example of how we can gain confidence by facing our fears, embracing failure, and developing resiliency along the way.   Other fascinating things about Kellie:Being told “You're not that good” by her community college basketball coach motivated her to improve, resulting in a basketball scholarship at San Francisco State University. Being diagnosed and treated for a communication disorder inspired her to join the speech and debate team, after 6 years of speech therapy Her two older brothers excelled in sports and debate inspired her, instead of intimidating her Her relationship with imposter syndrome, in spite of her determination and successThe story Kellie told about the movie she was most excited to have made: The Man Who Killed Hitler and Then The Bigfoot:  https://youtu.be/cFHJMBQIav0To see a list of films that Kelly has worked on here is her IMDb page: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm2689873/The article mentioned during this episode:  Atlantic Magazine’s The Confidence Gap is the subject of episode #71 of this podcast.  If you missed it, go back and listen.  Would learning and growing in a small supportive group of like-minded women be the perfect way to finish 2021? Get on the no-obligation waitlist for Diann’s group coaching program, by clicking here: Waitlist for Fall 2021 Group Coaching Connect with Diann Online: The Driven Woman Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ LinkedIn:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/ 

I have been working with women for many years and one of the more perplexing things I have encountered is how often I witness bold, brilliant, badass women doubting themselves, settling for less than they really want, and holding themselves back from the level of success they deserve.  I believe that all behavior is habit-forming, so in order to become more confident, women need to stop thinking so much and just act. We need to commit to doing work that is good enough, instead of striving for perfection.  We must learn to act before we think we are ready.  And, because moving away from comfort and toward fear is counterintuitive, we would do well to surround ourselves with other women who are committed to doing the same. Confidence is not just feeling good about yourself, and it is not a reward for good work, but a skill and a choice. Confidence is a belief in one’s ability to succeed, a belief that stimulates action. Taking action increases our belief that we can succeed and confidence accumulates. This is the essence of The Confidence Habit.   Let’s connect on Instagram: Instagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-InstagramReady to Work with Me?You are serious about addressing your distractibility, procrastination, and perfectionism & their impact on your business and life, and going through the process with like-minded and like brained women is exactly what you need. You're in momentum and want to keep it that way? What better way than in the community of other female entrepreneurs with distractibility, procrastination, and perfectionism, lead by yours truly? If you are a current or former individual client of mine (or have already worked with another coach or consultant) this is for you. We are going to level up and we are going to do it together! Work With Me TodayThe women who inform my thinking This episode was largely based on what I have learned from studying the work of Tara Mohr who wrote the book Playing Big and the Feb 2018 Atlantic Magazine article called The Confidence Gap, from Claire Shipman and Katty Kay, co-authors of the book The Confidence Code.   So, that’s all for now, Driven Woman!  See you next week, when my guest Kellie Roy joins us to talk about what drives her and how she became a successful Hollywood casting director.