That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding

Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  I have a bit of an emotional moment in this one! In this episode, I talk about how we can spot those things that may have been useful at one point but are limiting us now. And look at how we can start to even entertain the idea of moving away from them without getting overwhelmed by the things that we're running away from in the first place. Identifying coping mechanisms that have become detrimental How once-helpful behaviours or thoughts can now cause stress, annoyance, or interfere with work and relationships Acknowledging the negative impact of these coping mechanisms Letting Go of Detrimental Coping Mechanisms Symbolism of finding freedom after letting go of detrimental habits Thanking coping mechanisms for past usefulness while acknowledging their current negative impact The process of letting go described as taking small steps Emphasising gradual change rather than extreme transformation My experience of letting go of self-harm as a coping mechanism Therapist's advice to apply the same principle to hoarding Reflecting on past coping mechanisms and their evolution Reassessing the need for detailed to-do lists as a coping mechanism for insecurity and fear Overcoming Adversity and Achieving Small Victories The power of achieving small victories Using every bit of progress to fuel the next step, even if it feels impossible Identifying the benefits derived from hoarding and finding alternative positive coping mechanisms Adopting Positive Behaviours and Embracing Change Importance of trial and error and gradual change in adopting positive behaviours Encouraging curiosity and open-mindedness Acknowledging that change doesn't have to happen all at once Our lives can be better without the distress-causing coping mechanisms Support and Community Invitation to hoarders for an event for support and discussion Acknowledging past coping mechanisms, embracing self-acceptance. Struggling with past coping mechanisms; learning to let go. Identify harmful coping mechanisms to improve well-being. Understanding underlying emotional needs. Reflect on coping mechanisms, assess their effectiveness. Identify and let go of problematic coping mechanisms, consider letting go of hoarding behaviours. Reflect on positive moments, gently acknowledge the problems. Find positive coping mechanisms, assess their effectiveness, and make gradual changes.

Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  We need to talk about hoarding and physical disabilities, chronic illness, and chronic pain. With the inimitable Dr. Jan Eppingstall, I look at the unique challenges faced by individuals with disabilities, chronic health conditions who hoard. From the impact of aging on hoarding tendencies to the struggles of navigating a hoarded space while managing chronic pain, we offer insights and practical strategies for those dealing with hoarding and physical limitations. Join us as we delve into the complexities of hoarding and its intersection with physical health challenges in a compassionate and informative discussion. The Impact of Disabilities on Hoarding Behaviours Complex relationship between hoarding and disabilities Chronic pain, mental health issues, and aging The prevalence and severity of hoarding in correlation with aging and physical limitations The challenges of categorising people and their impairments Gender Disparities and Disabilities in Hoarding research The association between physical disabilities, chronic illness, and chronic pain with hoarding, particularly among women The link between autoimmune diseases, common in women, and hoarding The impact of poverty on disabilities and hoarding Advocacy challenges for women with disabilities and hoarding behaviours The need for women to better acknowledge their achievements without feeling like boasting The significance of functional impairment in the discussion The importance of persistently seeking medical help despite the gender pain gap and lack of specificity in symptoms Strategies for individuals to lead a more independent and fulfilling life despite chronic issues The effects of giving up on seeking medical help on documenting conditions and receiving appropriate care Managing Hoarding and Disabilities Balancing function over appearance for hoarders with chronic health problems The individuals' strong attachment to certain aesthetics and struggles in decluttering due to sentimental attachment Practical ways to seek help and simplify tasks for people with hoarding tendencies, particularly for those living alone Strategies for managing household tasks despite limited mobility The importance of pacing oneself and not pushing beyond physical limits The impact of spending time outdoors on mental and physical health Challenges of Aging and Hoarding Accumulation of belongings over a lifetime, particularly among older generations Reluctance to part with items due to sentimental attachment and difficulty decluttering with physical limitations The isolation and loneliness experienced by older individuals in decluttering and organising tasks Addressing the challenges faced by hoarders with physical limitations, including lifting, fine motor skills, and brain fog The impact of limited energy and the need for careful prioritisation of tasks Living with Physical Health Problems in a Hoarded Environment The physical and emotional challenges of living with physical health problems Managing disabilities and planning, scheduling appointments, and attending to physical needs in a hoarded space The increased energy consumption living in a hoarded space Navigating chronic pain and strategies to manage dehoarding tasks even on bad pain days Differentiating between tasks that move the needle and those that simply paper over the cracks Hoarding research shows self-selection bias towards females. Hoarding increases with age, affecting functionality. Disability requires more planning and preparation. Living with physical limitations is never straightforward. Self-compassion improved my situation. Avoid pushing too hard, limit activities to 3 hours. Hoarding and function over appearance for health. Assessing and adjusting belongings to create harmony. Study on disability assessments, measuring functional impairment in 6 areas. Moving away from cause and effect to individual change and vulnerability. More planning for disability due to brain fog. People underestimate complexity of physical disabilities.

Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I look at the impact of micro trends on our lives and how they are contributing to clutter and excessive consumption and the additional challenges hoarders face in this ever-evolving landscape of trends. I look at identifying our true style beyond societal pressures and resisting the temptation of constantly changing trendy items. Join me to explore the consequences of indulging in micro trends, the environmental impact of fast fashion, and strategies to make mindful purchasing decisions in a world dominated by fleeting trends. Impact of Microtrends on Hoarding Behaviour Hoarders facing unique challenges with microtrends Consequences of indulging in microtrends such as financial strain and accumulation of belongings Resisting the Temptation of Microtrends Avoiding constantly changing trendy items Thought exercise to identify personal style beyond external influences Understanding individual style versus succumbing to marketing influences Questioning motivations behind purchasing new trends Mindful Purchasing and Consumption "One in, one out" approach to purchases Delaying purchases to assess genuine interest Identifying if existing items can serve the same purpose Evolution of Trends and Impact of Social Media Trends in fashion and design propelled by personal expression and corporate marketing Acceleration of trends through social media platforms Accumulation of items due to shorter trend cycles and excessive consumption Environmental and Social Impact Production and consumption of fast, low-quality products contributing to waste Struggle of charity shops to sell items from past micro trends Encouraging individuals to opt out of supporting fleeting trends By addressing these topics, the podcast provides a comprehensive exploration of how microtrends impact hoarding behaviour, strategies for resisting trends, and insights into the broader societal and environmental implications of excessive consumption. FOMO in micro trends: dopamine, immediate reward. Consider the real reasons for wanting something. Consider delaying purchases to avoid micro trends. Hoarders face challenges with microtrends, self-control. Desire for personalization and expression; trends and fashions driven by corporations to fuel spending. Accumulation of unused items, struggle to declutter. FOMO in micro trends leads to regretful charity shop donations. Questioning motives, mindful consumption. Consider delaying purchases to assess true desire and value. Immediate craving may indicate fleeting trend. Microtrends are a challenge for hoarders, leading to more stuff, less money, and self-doubt.

Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-140-how-to-cope-with-or-help-a-partner-who-hoards-with-laura-silverstein-certified-gottman-couples-therapist/  This week, I’m with Laura Silverstein, a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, who is a genius on how couples can improve their communication and the way they take each other’s needs into account. So we explore the complexities of living with a hoarding partner and the impact it has on relationships. Laura provides anecdotes and advice on setting healthy boundaries, initiating difficult conversations, and the role of a therapist in couples therapy. We also discuss the value of authentic communication, empathy, and the idea that love requires continuous effort. We look at the difficulties non-hoarding partners face in understanding their hoarding significant other, the impact of unresolved conflicts, and the evolving perception of quirks in a relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of open and honest communication, emphasising the need for both partners to be involved in decluttering decisions. Join us as we talk about coping with – and helping – a hoarding partner in a relationship. Living with a Hoarding Partner Challenges for the non-hoarding partner Understanding hoarding behaviour Impact of conflict in relationships Approaching hoarding issues as a couple Communication and Decision Making Importance of open and honest communication Involving the hoarding partner in decluttering decisions Examples of different approaches to decluttering Setting Boundaries and Deal Breakers Clear communication and healthy boundary setting Communicating core needs with a partner A therapist's role in helping couples set boundaries Couples Therapy and Relationship Dynamics Role of a Therapist in Couples Therapy Encouraging honest and respectful communication The goal of therapy in relationships Valuing the time spent in a relationship Initiating and Navigating Difficult Conversations Approaching conversations in a positive and constructive way The "I like, I wish, I wonder" framework for expressing emotions and requests The importance of clear communication and avoiding misunderstandings Building and Sustaining Relationships Acknowledging each partner's needs Significance of authenticity, empathy, and mutual understanding Challenging topic of hoarding and relationship conflict. Understanding and accepting challenges of hoarding disorder. Improving communication, appreciating efforts, and showing love. Authenticity in relationships and understanding partner's pain. Respect partner's wisdom, avoid secrets and betrayal. Honesty and understanding create helpful solutions. Fear of hurtful conversations hinders creative solutions. Setting boundaries is important for relationships. Progress is non-linear Seeking respectful closure through difficult conversations is success. Leaving with integrity and seeking support. It's important to normalise conflict and focus on repairing relationships through understanding, communication, and meeting each other's needs. Importance of embracing differences in love and relationships. Advocate for needs Common conflict communication pattern is attack-defend. Skilled communication improves relationships. Acknowledging past communication issues, understanding partner's challenges, emphasising authenticity and love in communication. Authentic empathy and communication are key in addressing relationship struggles and finding mutual understanding and support. Focus on trust and communication in relationships to address hoarding issues. Discussing how to handle hoarding sensitively and considering different scenarios before making decisions. Honest communication and creativity in relationships. Fear of difficult conversations hinders creativity and problem-solving in relationships. Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining integrity in relationships. Success in helping people navigate difficult relationship conversations, with respect and support. Success is about integrity and treating your partner well, whether working through difficulties or parting ways.  

Sign up for the Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, chronic disorganisation with our special guest, Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK. Chronic disorganisation impacts day-to-day living, from time management to project completion, and is closely connected to hoarding behaviours. Jo’s written a whole book on the topic, so join us as we look into the overlap between chronic disorganisation and hoarding, executive dysfunction, and the impact of grief, trauma, and loss on these issues. Chronic Disorganisation Definition and impact on day-to-day living Connection between chronic disorganisation and hoarding Executive dysfunction and its effect on chronic disorganisation Understanding and managing energy levels using the "spoon theory" Physical self-care and its impact on organisation and management Grief, Trauma, and Menopause The role of grief, trauma, and loss in chronic disorganisation and hoarding Societal shift in openly discussing menopause and its impact on daily life Importance of self-compassion and understanding that disorganisation does not equate to laziness or lack of intelligence Impact of Covid and Societal Factors How Covid has impacted people's experiences, including loneliness, anxiety, and chronic overwhelm Contribution of technology, fast-paced living, and societal expectations to difficulty in focusing and staying on task Strategies for Managing Chronic Disorganisation Body doubling as a method to have someone quietly cheerleading alongside on tasks Importance of sustained attention, goal perseverance, and finding the right motivation and goal-setting approach tailored to individual preferences Achieving and maintaining focus on tasks through setting achievable goals, tailored to individual needs, and utilising the PACE approach (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy) Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation Importance of seeking help, defining what help looks like, and joining support groups to combat shame and self-blame The release of Jo Cooke's book "Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation" for pre-order and her online presence at hoardingdisordersuk.org Recognising trends in client needs, including bereavement, ADHD, and menopause, and challenges in organisation. Chronic disorganisation impacts daily living with system struggles, time management, and tasks. Hoarding and chronic disorganisation overlap due to executive functioning challenges, leading to repetitive acquisitions and disorganisation. Modern life is fast-paced with high expectations, leading to difficulty focusing. Body doubling can help remain on task. Focus on short and medium-term goals, not just the ultimate goal. Shame vs joy, playfulness, curiosity, and distress tolerance. Support group helped challenge self-blame and shame.

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-138-the-accountability-effect-accountability-encouragement-and-mutual-support-when-tackling-hoarding-and-dehoarding/ In today's episode, I talk about holding yourself accountable by yourself. Then I talk about holding yourself accountable if you've got an accountability buddy. And then I'm going to talk about holding yourself accountable if you don't have anybody that you can talk about hoarding with. Because those are 3 really different situations with really different pros and cons and approaches and benefits as well. Accountability and Dehoarding An accountability buddy who is also working on dehoarding Mutual support and encouragement Honest and constructive feedback Using before and after photos for accountability and motivation Setting up times to donate or recycle items together with an accountability buddy Shared encouragement and sense of accomplishment Solo Accountability in Dehoarding Challenges of holding oneself accountable when nobody knows about the hoarding Joining clutter groups on Facebook or posting on social media for accountability A group Zoom session for hoarders to hold themselves accountable Setting external deadlines for accountability Using inspirational visuals and quotes Having regular check-ins and task schedules Tools for Accountability in Dehoarding Using productivity apps or reminder apps to track progress Finding features that work best for individual performance Rewarding oneself with non-material rewards The Concept of Accountability Reluctance to commit to accountability Acknowledgment of its effectiveness in achieving goals Personal experiences and strategies for self-accountability Tracking progress and setting deadlines Holding yourself accountable is crucial for productivity. Accountability involves planning and setting goals. Regular check-ins help achieve and motivate goals. Encourage and support each other for success. Accountability buddy supports, encourages, and holds responsible. Setting deadlines and visual, shared encouragement motivates. Seek accountability through social media and groups. Accountability involves self-discipline and planning to achieve goals. Regular self-check-ins help stay on track, providing motivation and a sense of accomplishment. Encourage support, set same time for tasks, share progress and tips with accountability buddy to overcome obstacles. Having an accountability buddy offers mutual support, encouragement, and honesty in achieving goals. Accountability buddy motivates donating items. Find accountability in decluttering through social media or online groups

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-137-how-to-tackle-a-laundry-backlog-or-how-to-summit-mount-washmore/ Today, the daunting task of tackling a laundry backlog. In this episode, I discuss practical strategies to conquer Mount Washmore and take control of the laundry chaos. From decluttering to creating a laundry system, I look at ways to streamline the process and prevent clothes from piling up. I also touch on the environmental impact of overwashing and share experiences of managing overwhelming laundry situations. So if you're ready to conquer that laundry mountain and reclaim some peace, hit play for some valuable tips and insights. Addressing the Extreme Laundry Circumstances Using a laundrette to catch up Don’t berate yourself for the laundry backlog Practical Solutions for Managing Laundry Backlog Declutter to reduce laundry load Establishing a designated place for dirty clothes and towels Involving others in the household in the laundry process Creating a personalised system for ongoing laundry management Minimizing Overwashing and Unnecessary Clothing Purchases Advising against overwashing clothes to minimize environmental impact The environmental impact of overwashing, especially in relation to microplastics and microfibres Minimising new clothing purchases to reduce laundry load and simplify life Liberating Feeling of throwing away items in bad condition Identifying and removing barriers to doing laundry Streamlining the Washing Process Sorting laundry into darks, lights, and colours Containing laundry in bags or containers to streamline the washing process Disregarding special care instructions and putting items in the washing machine, finding that they come out fine The gruelling but necessary process of dedicating days to washing laundry, especially without a tumble dryer Challenge of managing limited drying space Doing laundry less demanding than cleaning or decluttering Gratitude for the invention of washing machines Consideration of organizing a Zoom accountability session for listeners and encouraging them to express interest Strategies for Tackling Laundry Pile Prioritising cleaning a few days' worth of clothes before addressing the entire pile Gathering all dirty laundry in one place and discarding items in bad condition without guilt Managing laundry by organizing tasks around the workday, not allowing the volume of laundry to overwhelm Alternative options for managing overwhelming laundry, including using a laundrette or paying for laundry services if necessary to alleviate stress and feeling of being overwhelmed by laundry Prioritise survival over saving damaged items. Efficient sorting made laundry process much easier. Efficient laundry process allows for multitasking. Outsource your laundry, let someone else handle it. Delegate laundry tasks, find a system. Overwashing sheds microplastics, buy less clothing. Procrastination leads to fear and anxiety. Start by ensuring clean, comfy clothes. In times of overwhelm, prioritise survival over waste and home livability over personal items. Without a tumble dryer, drying clothes is limited to 2-3 loads a day, making it difficult to keep things moving without dampness. It's important to be realistic about what to keep and donate while doing laundry. Options for laundry: do it yourself, pay for pick-up service, or drop off at a laundromat. Use a laundrette for extreme laundry situations, without feeling guilty. Laundry tips for efficiency and delegation.

Exploring hoarding behavior, the podcast challenges common lies and justifications. From holding onto unnecessary items to questioning self-identity, it emphasizes taking action to declutter. With a focus on addressing the negative impacts of hoarding on well-being, the podcast advocates for immediate steps towards organization and change.

This podcast provides 31 practical tasks to tackle hoarding, including discarding old magazines and newspapers, evaluating outdated electronic devices, matching Tupperware lids, and disposing of expired medication. It also suggests decluttering food, books, pens, single socks, old calendars, dead batteries, and promotional items. Tips include unsubscribing from emails, evaluating sentimental items, and setting up a monthly Zoom call for accountability.

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today with Dr Jan Eppingstall, I look at the nuanced approaches needed for effectively supporting people with hoarding disorder. Jan provides valuable insights for therapists, emphasising the importance of curiosity, collaboration, and empathy in therapeutic sessions. The episode explores evidence-based interventions, the significance of exposure therapy, and the challenges counsellors may face when working with hoarding clients. Additionally, practical tips for building trust and understanding the unique needs of hoarders are shared. Listen for the tools you need to make a meaningful difference in the lives of your clients. Therapeutic Approach to Hoarding Disorder Importance of Collaboration in Therapy Hands-On Support and In-Home Visits Exposure Therapy Patience, Empathy, and Understanding in Therapy Different Modes of Therapy (CBT, ACT, Person-Centred Therapy) Education and Support for Mental Health Professionals Minimal Education on Hoarding Disorder in Clinical Psychology Programs Building Expertise in Hoarding Disorder Seeking Supervision Need for an Eclectic Approach in Therapy Values Clarification, Problem Solving Challenges for Therapists Generalist vs. Specialist Counsellors Addressing Co-Occurring Mental Health Issues Impact of Hoarding on Other Mental Health Issues Preparedness of Therapists to Deal with Hoarding Effective Therapies (Exposure Therapy, Cognitive Techniques) Collaboration with Professional Organizers Building Trust with Clients Generalist counsellors deal with common mental health issues. Open dialogue and willingness to share knowledge. Understanding clients holistically Struggles with hoarding and perfectionism in therapy. Assisting clients with letting go of possessions. Exposure technique for easing attachment to possessions. Tiny habits Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.