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John Siracusa and Merlin Mann try to figure out exactly how they got this way. Hosted by Merlin Mann and John Siracusa.
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Jun 9, 2023 • 1h 33min
210: My Personal Fantasia
Subtitle: Keep the honest people honest.At last, the pop quiz show.
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(Recorded on Tuesday, May 30, 2023)
Credits
Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
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ATP #537: Worse Than All of Our ToiletsThe pre-WWDC episode where we do "exit interviews" for all current Apple operating systems.
None pizza with left beef John's Mac OS X reviews Desert Island Discs - WikipediaGuests are also automatically given the Complete Works of Shakespeare and either the Bible or another appropriate religious or philosophical work.
BBC Radio 4 - Desert Island DiscsEight tracks, a book and a luxury: what would you take to a desert island? Guests share the soundtrack of their lives.
Essays: The Process of Security - Schneier on SecuritySecurity is a process, not a product. Products provide some protection, but the only way to effectively do business in an insecure world is to put processes in place that recognize the inherent insecurity in the products. The trick is to reduce your risk of exposure regardless of the products or patches.
Huskee trash can Merlin Bird ID app – Identify the birds you seeIdentify the birds you see or hear with Merlin Bird ID

May 26, 2023 • 1h 19min
209: Trick Food
Subtitle: John is Merlin's gashapon.How would your hosts approach teaching the other to be them?
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Links and Show Notes: Things kick off with some sundry food talk. John shows no interest in party-cut pizza or fruit juice concentrates, and Merlin identifies a perplexing class of food that's made of the wrong food.
Follow-up brings updates on how John tries to make his app play nice with macOS weirdness, and there's some important reconsideration regarding what Larry Mullen, Jr. actually said about the location where The King was laid to rest.
Speaking of music, with pretty much zero provocation, Merlin launches into a jeremiad about a pet peeve with bad needle drops. What a waste.
Finally, your hosts talk about the movie, Gattaca (1997). John saw it a long time ago, and Merlin has watched it most of the way through.
John dutifully lays out a bulleted list of items Merlin needs to immediately start changing about himself.
(Recorded on Tuesday, May 16, 2023)
Credits
Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
Get an ad-free version of the show, plus a monthly extended episode. My Next Guest Needs No Introduction Mr. Show: Gay Son/Grass Valley Greg - YouTube ATP Eats: John’s of Bleecker Street John’s of Bleecker Street Goldbelly Little Original Joe'sA dragon great green.
Why the green great dragon can't exist When a quote is not (exactly) a quote: The Business of America is Business Edition | Inside AdamsMany people have likely heard a quote attributed to President Calvin Coolidge, “The business of America is business,” but this is a misquote. The real quote is a little bit different and the context in which it was said is not likely what most would expect.
Why does the Front and Center Settings window appear when I log in? U2: Rattle and Hum (1988) Larry Mullen Jr. says… Gattaca (1997) Trading Places (1983) The Talented Mr. Ripley (1999) My Fair Lady

May 12, 2023 • 1h 34min
208: Spinal Tap with Cowboy Hats
Subtitle: John will live in her backpack like Yoda.For a main topic, John has a new project involving music playlists. Generational divides are identified, and we learn the lengths to which John will go for his ungrateful children.
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Links and Show Notes: Things kick off with Merlin giving John a pop quiz on music and a font. Merlin would also please like a special episode for his birthday.
After an admittedly overdue U2 Tangent, John gives Merlin a pop quiz on what their show is about. Then, Merlin clarifies what John can expect from an omnibus "Before Show" super-episode.
Follow-Up covers John's count of Steam games, much Succession lore, plus you, the listener's, stated position regarding the correct toothbrush water temperature. Also, Merlin has finally rid himself of a problem with a meddlesome dæmon.
Finally, Merlin reveals one of the numerous ways in which he is a terrible liability.
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(Recorded on Tuesday, May 2, 2023)
Credits
Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
Get an ad-free version of the show, plus a monthly extended episode. Mr. Show - "The New Ku Klux Klan" - YouTube Florence + The Machine - "Tiny Dancer" - (2018) - YouTube Womprat: “The font you’re looking for.”❝The font you’re looking for❞
Mondegreen - WikipediaA mondegreen is a mishearing or misinterpretation of a phrase in a way that gives it a new meaning
What is "usernoted" and why is it eating my CPU? - Ask Different History - Admiral Farragut Academy Brian Cox explains Logan Roy's birthplace confusion (starts at 31:46) Roman Roy does not have a wife and kid Caitlin FitzGerald - Wikipedia Alexis Floyd - IMDb When Harry Met Sally Karaoke Machine - Singing Machine at The Sharper Image - YouTube Merlin's "Pretty Maids" Spotify playlist MusicBrainz PicardPicard is a cross-platform music tagger powered by the MusicBrainz database.
John's Spotify playlist for his daughter (minus the tracks that aren't on Spotify) Standard (warez) - Wikipedia

Apr 28, 2023 • 1h 46min
207: Between Ridiculous and Nonexistent
Subtitle: One Must Imagine Biff HappyJohn tells Merlin about Steam, and Merlin catches John up about Merlin.
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Links and Show Notes: Merlin explains his laundry number, and John has some quick Follow-Up on bathroom cups.
(Recorded on Monday, April 18, 2023)
Credits
Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
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Apr 14, 2023 • 1h 35min
206: Hand Cuppers & Faucet Slurpers
Subtitle: “I’m Not Worried. I’m Concerned.”What happens in the bathroom can no longer stay in the bathroom.
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(Recorded on Monday, April 3, 2023)
Credits
Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
Get an ad-free version of the show, plus a monthly extended episode. How To Pronounce Slainte - YouTube Florence Y'all Water Tower - Wikipedia Toilet seat example of Secret Weird Things People Do Poll: Do you have a cup in the bathroom? Poll: For non-cuppers only Non-Cupper Definition of Terms I’m Sorry, WHAT Does the Peloton CEO Do Every Morning? Photos of attic water tanks in Ireland Water tank house diagram Rat-Water thread with Kieran Healy David O’Doherty's comedy song about his water tank Back to Work #85, featuring a public bathroom RPG Things I recommend you buy and use, by Sam Bowman Pink Uber | Do By FridayThis week’s challenge: share private mind motions.

Mar 31, 2023 • 1h 28min
205: A Cumulative Warmth
Subtitle: A Brimley VibeJohn has discovered a community of people who seem to kind of know what they're doing is weird, and Merlin repeats an anecdote about when he almost lost his mind from washing dishes with the absolutely incorrect soap.
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Links and Show Notes: Things kick off with Merlin teaching John a thing people used to say in Florida. Then, John ends up repeatedly having to say a phrase that doesn't really seem like the kind of thing that John ever says. Old concert t-shirts are researched and considered.
This somehow leads to a discussion of where things go that then transitions nicely into a new installment of the fan-favorite "Secret Weird Things People Do."
Things conclude with a pop quiz and another plea to stop putting things on the stairs.
(Recorded on Tuesday, March 21, 2023)
Credits
Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
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Mar 17, 2023 • 1h 28min
204: The Dump Valve
How memory breaks.
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Links and Show Notes: Things kick off with Merlin's noisy electronic livestock and a frustrating health update from John. Whose family now hates him.
In Follow-Up, Mr. Siracusa provides his son with a correction on The Novocaine Story, which leads to a digression into how John's dad writes text messages........
This ends up providing a great segue into the main topic: how memory breaks, and how we try to address it.
Because, as you quickly realize, many memories involve other people who have—well—different memories. But, also, why did I go to the garage, because I'm pretty sure I went there for a reason.
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(Recorded on Monday, March 6, 2023)
Credits
Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
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The Foot Fist Way The Doorway Effect Memory biases Araby, by James Joyce (PDF)It's barely SIX pages long. Read it!
Paul's Case (short story) Forgetfulness, a poem by Billy Collins Billy Collins reads his poem, Forgetfulness John’s “Great Games” list The Secret World of Arrietty Red Flag Perfume by Chanel - SNL - YouTube Compulsion: Cologne - SNL - YouTube

Mar 3, 2023 • 1h 13min
203: The Javicoli House
Subtitle: “You Haven’t Earned a BM”Unsurprisingly and delightfully, there is a lot of really good Follow-Up on John's recent medical adventure.
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Links and Show Notes: Things kick off with Merlin auditioning a new on-air style, and John coughing in a way that portends imminent health developments.
Listener-experts chime in on all manner of issues. Also John reveals his test results, and Merlin feels like a hungry man.
Things seem to be wrapping with an update on John's Unexpected Side Effect, but then they end up talking about food and medicine for, like, twenty more minutes.
(Recorded on Tuesday, February 21, 2023)
Credits
Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
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Why Smells and Memories Are So Strongly Linked in Our Brains The Curious Cases of Rutherford & Fry: The Mind Numbing Medicine ATP Eats: Frozen Dinners Hand-in-ice-water memory experiment (PDF) Alpine Pastry Shoppe Emilio's Pizza Branchinelli's Pizza Libbyland Dinners

Feb 18, 2023 • 1h 51min
202: Running Clear
John shares details of a recent medical adventure, including an unexpectedly positive side effect.
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Links and Show Notes: Follow-up brings updates on skiing metaphors and ideas for tricking your brain into drawing a little better.
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(Recorded on Tuesday, February 7, 2023)
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Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
Get an ad-free version of the show, plus a monthly extended episode. The Gluck Method My Year of Rest and Relaxation “I’m the best there is at what I do but what I do best isn’t very nice.” Magnesium citrate The Last of US Part 1 for PS5 (disc) The Last of US Part 1 for PS5 (digital) Merlin talks about episode 4 of The Last of US on The Cast of Us podcast John talks about The Last of Us (PS3) on The Incomparable John talks about The Last of US Part II on The Incomparable John’s “Great Games” list

Feb 3, 2023 • 1h 50min
201: Look Behind the Potato
John has questions about Merlin's fraught history with drawing.
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Links and Show Notes: Things kick off with a consideration of John's theoretical funeral. Merlin can't understand why John won't adopt him.
In Follow-Up, your hosts briefly consider their recent bicentennial and agree that words about parts or multiples of a thing are way too confusing.
What's it take to get good at a thing you care about, and what motivates us to stick with it?
Things end up touching on grit-adjacent stuff like consistency and tenacity. But, whether or not one is gifted, it does seem like we naturally tend to pursue things we like doing. Which just as naturally can make it difficult to stick with the things that don't come so easily. Gotta really pile up that paper.
Comparisons between the habits of making music and writing are made, and differences are easily reconciled regarding the genius work of Jonathan Coulton.
John thinks Merlin missed the focal plane on a photo he used to think was pretty good. Merlin recalls a movie poster whose Renaissance-era optical trick first made him wish he could draw better.
(Recorded Tuesday, January 24, 2023)
Credits
Audio Editor: Jim Metzendorf
Admin Assistance: Kerry Provenzano
Music: Merlin Mann
The Suits: Stephen Hackett, Myke Hurley
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