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Most people are completely oblivious to the power that their own thoughts have. Beliefs carry emotion, and emotion turns to action. Those beliefs then influence the way we live. Whether you hold negative or positive beliefs about relationships, finances or your own abilities, they all carve out the path that is your life. We have no limitations in life. The only limitations we have are the ones we place on ourselves. Think about your negative outlooks from these areas in the first step. Now, ask yourself, is that true? For instance, you may believe you can’t go any higher in your industry. But is that really true? When you reframe your thinking to a series of empowering beliefs, you’ll find that you’re most likely making excuses. It’s usually not about a lack of resources but a lack of resourcefulness. Maybe you haven’t pushed hard enough. Maybe you’re not putting in the time it takes to advance at work. Maybe you need to change your approach.

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"Joy is found in returning to the things we love again and again. It’s better than sex, or drink, or drugs, or food, or any other substitute for joy. The meaning of life is not found in the famous, age old question: What is the meaning of life? That is a universal question that has no answer. The right question is what is the meaning of life to me? When you stop trying to keep all the plates spinning and stop trying to do everything the world tells you and you stop chasing fantasies of perpetual happiness then you can just live your life. And then you can find the true joy of life which is spending time with family and loved ones, eating things that you like that make you feel healthy and sometimes eating something unhealthy too and being OK with it. Exercising, creating things, writing, talking, walking, recording, painting, traveling, thinking, spending time with kids and animals, whatever those things are for you, find them. When you stop worrying about all these other things then it opens up the path to the true meaning of life, which is spending time on the things that you love."

Here is one perception which a lot of us have engrained and it sabotages our lives: the perception that progress is linear. This means that consciously or not, we see progress like a straight road, which goes directly and smoothly to our destination. If we want to truly embrace progress and have fun with it, we need to realize that progress is not linear. Progress is organic. This mean that we may go through long periods with little progress, followed by periods of lighting fast progress, or periods when we regress, in order to create a context which allows even bigger progress than the previous one. It’s really challenging when you find yourself in in this mental space. The pain you feel in the downfalls, it’s hard to sit with, especially when you’ve felt the joy of the wins. You feel like the wheels are falling off, you’re exhausted from fighting that voice in your head, and the last thing you want to do is re-commit yourself to doing “the work”. But “the work”, that’s where the magic happens. My perspective on progress has slowly changed over the years. I think the low points and perceived losses are just as much a part of the “progress” as anything. The empowering wins happen because of our resilience in these moments of pain. The work it takes to pick yourself up and push through whatever challenge you’re facing, it sets the stage for the big wins. Insights may come when things start clicking again. The next time you end up in that difficult place, you may find yourself making different choices and engaging in different behaviors. As long as there is some amount of change to what you’re doing, that’s progress. If there isn’t and if the cycle just keeps repeating and repeating, the progress comes in recognizing something needs to change. So while no one wants to experience the lows, I think the lows play quite an important role in that thing we call “progress”. By definition what is progress? It’s forward or onward movement toward a destination. In my mind I’m starting to recognize that downfalls and pitfalls of therapy are actually forward movement towards a final destination. It’s just when we’re in these moments it feels nothing like progress. The progress is there though. We do have OCD after all, so we should be pretty good at recognizing our feelings aren’t always facts.

“if you get tired, learn to rest, not quit.” 1) These days our need for instant gratification means if we can’t get results quickly, we quit. And usually too soon. But, worthwhile work sometimes needs more time. Take a rest, don’t quit. 2) The busyness of our lives today – full schedules, the interruptions, constant digital noise, the go, go, go – ensures we’re often more fatigued than we want to be, so we will go into important work operating at less than optimum. - you know what that feels like. --> youll tire out before youre done, and instead of taking a rest, we quit. Which slows progress and ultimate success.   3) If you want to do great work, your body and mind need regular breaks to restore. And we don’t take our breaks anymore. We skip our coffee breaks, we take our lunch at our desk, we don’t get enough sleep… but we need to rest. It’s how we work. It’s how your body works.

Find Intrinsic Motivation Intrinsic motivation is our innate desire to do something, and it comes when we work towards something that satisfies ourselves above all else—not our parents or our bosses or our teachers

If you allow all-or-nothing thinking to rule your mind, you’ll be on cloud nine when you succeed, but you’ll beat yourself up when you “fail.” Acknowledging the shades of gray in between will allow you to see success more often. When you recognize an all-or-nothing thought, remember to look for the positive in the situation. What did you gain by trying? What would you have missed out on had you not tried? Could you do better if you were to try again?

Mental strength is like muscle strength--no one has an unlimited supply. So why waste your power on things you can't control? A crucial part of developing mental toughness is learning to recognize negative tendencies and taking action to correct them early on with healthy habits. Developing mental toughness is not about eliminating weakness, but learning how to deal with it and overcome it.

STOP PUTTING HUGE GOALS OUT THERE that you are creating an entry level that is so far away from where you currently are and your current lifestyle. You want to make action steps that are EASY to accomplish and keep shit simple – rinse and repeat – build up that confidence in yourself that you DO WHAT YOU SAID YOU WILL DO. Call yourself out on your bullshit! Don’t let yourself get away from not doing the thing – become so good at the process. PR the process! Set the entry level in reach – go for it, and make that your new normal. Make it vocal. and watch your vocabulary. Don’t overthink it – make small promises, keep your word, CELEBRATE YOUR SMALL WINS! Celebrate every step of the journey! Every small win matters. And you are ALLOWED TO CELEBRATE YOURSELF!!