100% Real With Ruby; no #BS nutrition, fitness, fat loss, muscle, macros + mindset

If you’re exhausted from trying diet after diet without lasting success, you’re missing the real issue....the real question?Are you truly stuck, or is your mindset quietly sabotaging your progress? In this raw, powerful episode of "100% Real with Ruby," we're unpacking the uncomfortable truth behind feeling stuck and why surface-level fixes—like better time management—aren’t solving the real issues holding you backRuby dives deep into the psychology of self-sabotage, the critical importance of self-awareness, and why embracing temporary discomfort can lead to long-lasting change. Explore transformative concepts like her "second and third arrow" analogy, recalibrating expectations, and adopting the resilience of elite athletes to elevate your own journey. If you're tired of cycles of self-criticism, comparison, and frustration, this episode is your roadmap to breaking free and creating the mindset needed for real transformation.Self-sabotage isn’t random; it serves a hidden emotional purpose, often protecting you from potential pain, shame, or failure. Behaviors like emotional eating, procrastination, or avoiding challenging workouts are subconsciously designed to keep you from experiencing negative emotions tied to potential failure.Reflect: How is your current self-sabotage protecting you? What fear is it shielding you from?Action: Write down your negative patterns and explore the hidden benefits they provide. Challenge these patterns by asking yourself honestly: "Do these behaviors truly align with my goals?" Awareness is the first step toward meaningful change.

Are you STILL believing these fat loss myths? The Ultimate Guide to Fat Loss, Body Composition & Carb Myths – Alan Aragon Unpacks the Truth"Tired of misinformation about fat loss, metabolism, and carbs? In this episode of 100% Real with Ruby, I sit down with renowned nutrition expert Alan Aragon to debunk the biggest myths keeping you stuck in the endless cycle of dieting, regaining weight, and feeling frustrated.We dive deep into: ✔️ Why your weight on the scale isn’t the real problem ✔️ The truth about metabolic adaptation (your metabolism isn’t broken!) ✔️ Why carbs aren’t making you fat – and what actually does ✔️ The real reason most people regain weight after dieting ✔️ The difference between sustainable fat loss and temporary dieting ✔️ How to structure your fat loss journey for lasting successIf you’ve ever wondered why diets fail, why your body holds onto fat, or how to finally make progress that lasts, this episode is a must-listen.🎧 Hit play now and learn how to transform your approach to fat loss – the right way!

Focusing on the Wrong Things – Why Your Hard Work Isn’t Paying OffYou’re training hard, watching what you eat, tracking your macros, lifting consistently—so why isn’t your body reflecting the effort? The frustration is real, and you’re not alone. The truth is, most people are stuck focusing on the wrong things. They’re obsessing over fat loss when they should be prioritizing muscle gain, cutting calories when they should be fueling performance, and second-guessing progress based on how their clothes fit instead of trusting the process.In this episode, I’m cutting through the noise—debunking common fitness myths, exposing the real reasons you’re spinning your wheels, and laying out what actually moves the needle in physique change. If you’re tired of playing it too safe with your calories, stuck in the endless cycle of dieting, or confused about why your training isn’t yielding results, this episode is your wake-up call.We’re talking:🔥 Why what worked at first isn’t working anymore🔥 How muscle-building is completely different from just “getting lean”🔥 The fear of eating more—and why it’s keeping you stuck🔥 Why strength gains don’t always mean muscle growth🔥 How staying in a diet mindset sabotages your long-term resultsIt’s time to stop spinning your wheels and start getting strategic. Hit play—because this episode could be the one that finally shifts your entire approach.

TOM IS BACK for an anti-wellness wankery episode again!!! – The Truth About Strength Training, Menopause & Why You’re Not Seeing ResultsStruggling with stubborn body changes, slower progress, and the constant noise of social media telling you what you should be doing? You’re not alone. Women over 35+ are being bombarded with misleading fitness and nutrition advice—and it’s keeping them stuck in frustration, fear, and burnout.In this episode, Tom and I get real about the mistakes keeping women from seeing results, the biggest myths about hormones and training, and why so many women are doing too much of the wrong things in the gym. We cover:🔥 Why your body isn’t broken—you're just following a plan that doesn’t suit your needs.🔥 The truth about fat gain in menopause (and why it’s not what you think).🔥 How low-calorie dieting is destroying your progress—and what to do instead.🔥 The real reason you feel like lifting isn’t “working” (hint: you’re not training hard enough).🔥 Strength training vs. cardio—how to balance both for longevity, fat loss, and energy.This is for the women who are tired of the BS and ready to take control—without fear-mongering, gimmicks, or unnecessary complexity.If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right but getting nowhere, this episode will be a game-changer. Listen in, take notes, and let’s break through the noise together.👉 Hit play now and take the first step toward training smarter, fueling better, and finally seeing the results you deserve.

# 384/ Why Building Your Metabolism is the Only Sustainable SolutionWelcome to 100% Real with Ruby, where we strip away the BS in the fitness industry and talk about what really matters when it comes to transforming your body. In this episode, we’re diving into the myths that keep you stuck, the bad coaching practices that do more harm than good, and the real strategies that actually get you results. If you’ve ever felt like you’re spinning your wheels, starving yourself, or doing endless cardio without seeing the changes you want—this episode is for you.We’ll break down:✅ Why cookie-cutter programs and “many coaches” fail most women✅ The real reason why eating less and doing more cardio isn’t working for you✅ How to build muscle, boost metabolism, and get leaner without starving✅ Why trusting the process is the hardest but most important thing✅ The truth about protein, carbs, and fueling for performance (not just weight loss)It’s time to stop chasing quick fixes and start creating real, lasting change. Tune in, take notes, and if this episode hits home, send me a message on Instagram @transformXRuby—I want to hear from you!

In this episode of 100% Real with Ruby, I’m joined by Max Waldron, a coach, strength expert, and gym owner who has navigated multiple dimensions of the fitness industry. Together, we dive deep into the often-misunderstood differences between coaching and training, the mental and emotional barriers holding people back, and why fat loss isn’t sustainable as a lifestyle. Max brings his no-BS approach to challenge the fitness myths that keep you stuck, while providing a fresh perspective on building the body and life you truly want. This conversation is packed with actionable insights, powerful mindset shifts, and tools to help you break free from frustration and step into progress. Whether you’re a coach, a client, or someone who’s been spinning their wheels for years, this episode will make you think differently about what it means to succeed in your health and fitness journey. Don’t miss it!Most of us already know what to do. Eat better, move more, be consistent—right? But if it were that simple, why would so many still feel stuck? The truth is, it’s not about knowledge; it’s about what’s stopping you from following through.Fat loss isn’t sustainable long-term, and trying to balance it with life often leads to frustration. Fat loss should be viewed as a temporary phase, followed by maintenance or building phases.Measure What MattersObsessively tracking every metric can detract from focusing on meaningful progress. Measure the variables that truly align with goals, such as consistency and effort, rather than arbitrary metrics like scale weight.Many clients fail to appreciate their progress because they live in a scarcity mindset, focusing on what they lack instead of what they’ve achieved.Muscle is not bulky; it is sculpted and compact. Building muscle creates a leaner, stronger look, and achieving this requires fueling the body and training effectively. Addressing common fears of looking "too bulky" helps educate clients on the value of strength training and adequate nutritionCreating the Right EnvironmentSuccess often stems from a supportive environment, such as meal prepping, structuring workouts, and reducing decision fatigue.The Danger of Focusing Solely on Scale Weight or trying to make fat loss sustainableOver-reliance on the scale as a measure of success can undermine progress. Shifting focus to performance, strength, and habits is more productive.Key Insight: Addressing the emotional attachment to the scale helps clients find fulfillment in non-scale victories.Even perceived setbacks provide valuable insights for future progress. Clients are never truly starting over—they’re building on past experiences. Reframe "failure" as an opportunity to learn and grow, fostering resilience and a growth mindset.Sustainability isn’t achieved through perfect plans but by aligning mindset with actions and focusing on intrinsic motivation.Strength training fosters intrinsic motivation by creating enjoyment in the process and measurable progress beyond aesthetics.Further Knowledge: Strength training also provides a tangible sense of accomplishment, reinforcing clients’ commitment to their goals.Sacrifices and Realistic Expectations (1:03:59-1:07:42):Achieving goals often requires more effort and sacrifice than initially expected. However, the trade-offs must align with what the client values most.Insight: Helping clients evaluate their willingness to make sacrifices ensures alignment with their deeper goals and life priorities.Training Intensity and FocusMany don’t train with enough intensity to see significant progress. Simplified, structured programs with a focus on effort can yield better results. prioritize progressive overload in their training and focus on quality over quantity.

.... and youd be keeping itonly improving your physique over time.... right?You’ve dieted before. Maybe more times than you can count.You cut calories. You tracked macros. You followed the plan. So why are youstill stuck?Here’s the truth:another deficit won’t fix what’s actually keeping you from your goals. If it did, you wouldn’t still be frustrated, exhausted, and wondering why nothing is working.🔎In this episode, we’re breaking down:✅ Why constantly eating lessbackfires on your metabolism & muscle✅ How your body fights back when you stay in a deficit too long✅ Thereal reason you keep losing weight… then gaining it back✅ Why training for strength isthe key to looking lean & defined✅ How to stop chasing fat loss & startbuilding the body you want💡FACT: 95% of diets fail long-term. So maybe it’s time to stopjust dieting—and start creating a physique that actually lasts.👉Hit play now & DM me (@transformxruby) with your biggest takeaway. Let’s finally break this cycle—together. 🚀submit your questions herehttps://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSczwoVPaIPvsLDkqjnkvFy2MjCG2vwYj7u9Uq3bJLMTiS-q8w/viewform?usp=sf_link

In this episode of 100% Real with Ruby, I sit down with Gab Fundaro to dive deep into one of the most pervasive and misunderstood challenges women face today: body image and self-criticism. We uncover how our relationship with our appearance influences everything from confidence at work to our emotional well-being and even physical health. Together, we explore why external changes, like losing weight or changing your hairstyle, don’t always lead to true happiness or improved self-worth. Instead, we focus on actionable strategies for breaking free from societal pressures, reprogramming internal narratives, and aligning with what truly matters. This episode isn’t just about looking good; it’s about living well and finding empowerment beyond the mirror. Tune in to hear the insights, struggles, and solutions that can help you rewrite your story and reclaim your confidence.Body image profoundly influences not only physical goals but also relationships, confidence, and emotional well-being.Self-criticism often leads to rigid rules that are difficult to maintain, exacerbating negative self-perception.Insight: Breaking the cycle starts with challenging negative self-talk and replacing it with constructive narratives. Recognizing this pattern can prevent self-sabotage.Changes in appearance, such as weight loss or new hairstyles, may bring temporary satisfaction but don't improve body image at a deeper level.Takeaway: Shifting focus from appearance to internal qualities fosters a healthier self-concept and enduring confidence.Attempting to control external appearance often stems from an inability to control life circumstances.Reflection: Building emotional resilience and focusing on values rather than control can create a sense of security and self-acceptance.Body judgments are learned behaviors, often rooted in cultural and societal expectations.Actionable Step: Identify and challenge these ingrained beliefs to reprogram your internal dialogue and foster self-acceptance.Confidence should stem from values and actions aligned with personal goals, not contingent on appearance.Encouragement: Define what confidence means to you and create actionable steps to achieve it in various life areas.Weight bias and societal norms create undue pressure to conform, reinforcing the idea that physical appearance equates to worth.Challenge: Reflect on the societal pressures you’ve internalized and actively reject unrealistic standards.Recognizing and sitting with difficult emotions without letting them dictate actions fosters psychological flexibility.Tip: Practice mindfulness and self-compassion to enhance emotional regulation.Misalignment between actions and values often results in dissatisfaction and reliance on external validation.Prompt: What small actions can you take today to align with your core values?Shifting to a neutral perspective helps counter toxic positivity and fosters sustainable growth.Exercise: Write down neutral thoughts about your body to practice reframing negative self-talk.Small, consistent actions build confidence and momentum for larger goals.Tip: Reflect on and celebrate one small win daily to reinforce positive behaviors.Unpacking the origins of self-judgment and societal expectations allows for intentional, lasting change.Thought: What beliefs about your body serve you, and which do not?Strength extends beyond physical fitness to include emotional and mental resilience.Suggestion: Identify areas where you feel strong outside of the gym and celebrate them.Establishing boundaries allows time for self-care and fosters healthier relationships.Action: Dedicate 10 minutes daily to a self-care activity and communicate this need to loved ones.

You’re training. You’re eating protein. You’re doing all the things… so WHY does your body still look the same?If you’ve ever thought:💭“I lift weights, but I’m not seeing muscle definition.”💭“Why do my legs feel bigger instead of leaner?”💭“Maybe I need to cut more fat first?”💭“I’m training hard, but I don’t look stronger.”Then THIS is the episode you’ve been waiting for.Because the truth is—most people who think they’re building muscle… aren’t.You might be lifting, but are you training hard enough?You might be eating protein, but are you fueling muscle growth?You might beworking, but is your body actually adapting?👉 In Part 1, we’re breaking downwhy most women feel stuck spinning their wheels instead of seeing real muscle changes.🔥 The #1 reason you’re NOT building muscle (even if you think you are)🔥 Why fat loss is fast but muscle growth is painfully slow (and how to stay motivated)🔥 The truth about “feeling bulky” (it’s NOT muscle—so what is it?)🔥 Why program-hopping and switching exercises too oftenkills progress🔥 What ACTUALLY makes muscles grow (and why you’re probably holding back)If you’re serious about sculpting your physique, getting stronger, and finally understanding what itreally takes to build muscle—this episode will change the way you train forever.🎧 Hit play NOW & DM me your biggest takeaway after listening! @transformxruby

Ever feel like slowing down is a luxury you can’t afford? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dig deep into why we resist taking a step back and how it’s sabotaging our goals, relationships, and overall happiness. From the myth of finishing the to-do list to the power of finding joy in the mundane, we’ll explore how rest and alignment with your values can actually fast-track your progress. We’re breaking down the barriers keeping you stuck in overdrive and giving you tools to rebuild trust with yourself, embrace discomfort, and prioritize what really matters. Tune in for relatable truths, actionable steps, and a path to more clarity, peace, and results without running yourself into the ground. The Shortcut You’ve Been Avoiding: How to Align Rest, Values, and Results • Trusting Yourself on a Plan • Trust develops when you set realistic expectations and honor your commitments. Many struggle because they overload themselves, leading to self-doubt. Reflecting on small, consistent wins can help rebuild self-trust. • The Power of Slowing Down • Many resist slowing down, fearing it hinders progress. However, rest allows reflection and better alignment with goals. Reframe rest as a productive tool to achieve clarity and reduce burnout. • Exploring Resistance to Change • Resistance stems from fear of losing control or regressing. Identify the source of this fear by asking: "What am I afraid will happen if I slow down or change my approach?" • The Myth of Completing the To-Do List • The idea that everything must be finished before you can rest is a false narrative. Shifting focus to enjoying the process prevents perpetual dissatisfaction. • Pleasure as a Gateway • Finding joy in daily experiences can enhance well-being. Whether it's the crunch of icy grass or a beautiful sunrise, small pleasures can align your actions with your desired emotional state. • The Role of Values • Values guide actions but evolve over time. Identifying patterns in your behavior can help clarify your true values, leading to more aligned decisions and fulfillment. • Perfectionism and Cognitive Dissonance • Striving for perfection often leads to misalignment with values and burnout. Acknowledge when expectations clash with reality and adjust for sustainable progress. • Experimentation Over Fear • Fear of failure or regression hinders experimentation. Trusting yourself to adapt if things go wrong can lead to significant growth and confidence. • Aligning Actions with Values • Misalignment between actions and values creates discomfort. Regularly assess whether your choices reflect your values and make adjustments as needed. • Meeting Yourself Where You Are • Starting from where you are, not where you think you "should" be, fosters progress. Acknowledge and accept your current state without judgment. • Judgment from Self and Others • Everyone experiences judgment, but learning to self-soothe can reduce its impact. Building self-compassion is key to overcoming fear of criticism. • The Drainers and Energizers in Life • Identifying what energizes or drains you can help prioritize meaningful activities. Regular reflection on these factors supports better emotional and physical health. • The Process vs. the Outcome • Focusing on the process instead of fixating on outcomes helps maintain motivation and prevents disappointment. • Taking Ownership • Feeling "stuck" often stems from avoiding discomfort. Embrace small steps toward change, even when it's challenging, to regain a sense of control. @stu.graham.s25 @transformxruby PLEASURE PROJECT