#401; Dal Sekhon - why you still self-sabotage your fat loss & health goals (even when you want it so badly)

want long term results? this is what noone tells you about finding your "why" 

wanting goals and knowing how great is is for you isnt enough to get you consistently doing the thing

If you know what to do but still can’t stick to it... this episode is for you.

You keep saying you want it. You keep starting over. And you’re tired of feeling like you’re the problem.

In this episode, I talk with Dal about what really holds women back—even when we want it so badly. We dive into why motivation isn’t enough, why you keep sabotaging even though you know better, and why trying harder just leads to more burnout.

This isn’t about finding a better plan. It’s about looking at what’s underneath the patterns that keep pulling you off track.

In this brutally honest and refreshingly human episode, Ruby sits down with Dal to unpack the real reasons women stay stuck—even when they’re motivated, even when they "know better," and even when they’ve done all the right things before.

Dal shares how she lost over 100 pounds without starving, without shame, and without burning herself into the ground. She reveals the identity shifts, scheduled maintenance phases, emotional unraveling, and deep mindset work that led her to long-term success.

If you’ve ever felt broken for not being able to "just stick to it," this episode will leave you seen, grounded, and ready to focus on the real work that actually creates change.

What we cover:

• Why 1500 calories isn’t your maintenance
  

• Why cycle syncing & fasting advice often hurts women
  

• How the nervous system makes or breaks consistency
  

• Why "finding your why" doesn't help if you're still dysregulated
  

• Emotional eating, overtraining, self-trust & what actually works
  

This episode blends education, empowerment, and emotional truth—without fluff or performance.

Keywords: female fat loss, emotional eating, muscle gain for women, nervous system and fat loss, self-sabotage, cycle syncing myths, carbs and training, consistency struggles, diet culture recovery, maintenance mindset, weight loss plateau, women's strength training

CTA: Share this with the women in your life who keep starting over. And if this hit home? Take a walk and really sit with it.