Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show

On this week’s episode: Dan and Elizabeth are joined by Doyin Richards, Care & Feeding columnist, bestselling children's author, and founder of the Anti-Racism Fight Club. They counsel a mom who had terrible acne growing up and now is stressing over her son’s breakouts. Then they have a question about a little boy who is obsessed with gender norms and a mom who’s worried she’s obsessing about it too much. In Slate Plus: How has giving advice changed the way the hosts parent? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends the Loóna: calm, relax, and sleep app.Doyin recommends Anti-Racism Fight Club for Kids. Dan recommends The Fifth Quarter by Mike Dawson. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by Emily Flake, cartoonist and author of Mama Tried and That Was Awkward. They advise a parent whose husband is ignoring their teens and giving them the silent treatment when they anger him. Then they have some tips for a mom who is desperate for some alone time. In Slate Plus: The hosts try to predict what their kids will be up to in five years time. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Emily recommends The Mitchells vs. the Machines on Netflix. Jamilah recommends Girls5eva on Peacock. Elizabeth recommends the Peapod Plus ids travel bed. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Gabrielle Horton, co-host and executive producer of NATAL. They advise a mom who is sick of searching for her kid’s lost stuff, especially because she, too, often misplaced things as a child. She learned to develop routines that work for her. But she wants to opt out of helping her kid with finding lost items. They also answer a question about a girl who is feeling left out. Her bestie and her mom both go to therapy and she now wants to go too. What are the things her parents should consider when determining whether or not to send her to therapy? In Slate Plus: Dan and Jamilah talk to Gabrielle about her work on NATAL and what it’s like as a non-parent to tell stories about birth. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Gabrielle recommends The Circle on Netflix. Dan recommends Girls5eva on Peacock. Jamilah recommends Nuudii System bras. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Slate’s Allison Benedikt. They debate if a letter writer’s bickering parents need to knock it off or if it’s okay to squabble in front of the grandkids.Then, they sit down with Dr. Tova Walsh, professor of social work at the University of Wisconsin, to discuss her new research about how moms who gave birth in March 2020 are coping with a very strange first year of parenting. In Slate Plus: What to do about kids' expensive—but oh so delicious—berry habits. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Jamilah recommends Gonanas Banana Bread Mix from Nordstrom Rack. Allison recommends Everything Sad Is Untrue: (a true story) by Daniel Nayeri. Dan recommends I Was Told There Would Be Mom Friends by Lauren BansJoin us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Dan debate if an indoor-loving mom needs to suck it up, sign her kid up for soccer, and actually go to games. Then, Jamilah sits down with Virginia Sole-Smith, journalist and author of The Eating Instinct and Burnt Toast, a newsletter about parenting while navigating diet culture and fatphobia. They talk about helping kids develop healthy relationships with food and their body, especially when parents are struggling with those issues. In Slate Plus: Is there a gender divide in your household over who does more of the cognitive labor? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Dan recommends watching Office Space. Jamilah recommends Vosges’ Smoke and Stout Caramel Chocolate BarElizabeth recommends getting your kid a CamelBak Mini M.U.L.E.Listener Recommendations:Slumber Party Predicament Edition, if you wanted to listen to the full advice for the mother who lost her daughter to stillbirth. Perfectly Imperfect Family by Amie Lands.Someone Came Before You by Pat Schwiebert.The Invisible String by Patrice Karst.Sun Kisses, Moon Hugs by Susan Schaefer Bernardo.Love You Forever by Robert Munsch. Wish by Matthew Cordell.Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Dan and Elizabeth talk with Alex Chen, founding director of the LGBTQ+ Advocacy Clinic at Harvard Law, about bills that prohibit transgender youth from playing sports and accessing gender-affirming health care. Check out his piece here. The hosts also tackle a question about a father in a blended family who seems to be prioritizing his daughter with his previous wife over his son. Then, the hilarious hosts of ICYMI, Rachelle Hampton and Madison Malone Kircher, pop by to translate internet slang that has parents scratching their heads. In Slate Plus: Is it OK to read your kid’s texts? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends making DIY sun hats. Dan recommends reading more Ursula Le Guin, especially Four Ways to Forgiveness. Jamilah recommends Cali'flour Foods’ Enchilada Bake.Resources:LGBTQ+ Advocacy ClinicTrans Youth HandbookACLUGLSENPFLAGGender SpectrumGender OdysseyJoin us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth argue whether or not a toddler is obligated to join a sticker ponzi scheme if the invitation came from his cousin. Then, Jamilah talks to Rose Aka-James, National Membership Director of Black Mamas Matter Alliance, about the work being done to address the systemic racial disparities when it comes to Black maternal health. Check out BMMA’s Black Maternal Health Week Virtual Conference. In Slate Plus: We’re pitching modern issues that just simply need to be explained via Schoolhouse Rock song. Sign up for Slate Plus. Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends Plasticus Maritimus: An Invasive Species by Ana Pêgo. Jamilah recommends Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat: Mastering the Elements of Good Cooking by Samin Nosrat. Dan recommends Cookie Chronicles by Matthew Swanson and Robbi Behr. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by Isaac Butler, co-host of Slate's Working podcast. They answer a question from a mother wondering when and how to tell her daughter that she had an older sister who died prior to birth. Then they dive into sleepover politics. Should the guest list be altered to accommodate cousins who really want an invite? In Slate Plus: We’ve got tips for helping your kid be more creative. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Isaac recommends Kipo and the Age of Wonderbeasts on Netflix.Jamilah recommends Iced Chocolate Almond Milk Shaken Espresso from Starbucks. Elizabeth recommends Let's Make Art subscription box. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and Dan debate if you should tell a teen that what they are wearing isn’t appropriate in certain situations. Then, they advise a woman who is pregnant with her family’s second child. Their first child is white and the second child is biracial. The letter writer is concerned that her mother-in-law will treat their second child differently because of the baby’s race. In Slate Plus: What’s the best way to get rid of kid art? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Dan recommends Water, Wood, and Wild Things: Learning Craft and Cultivation in a Japanese Mountain Town by Hannah Kirshner. Elizabeth recommends Grasshopper by Tatiana Ukhova. Jamilah recommends Mean Girls. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Dan, and Jamilah counsel a parent whose kid felt hurt and slighted when her Zoom playdate abruptly ended. Then they tackle a close quarters situation: a little kid is asking for privacy in the mornings. But the family has two other kids to dress and a limited amount of space in their apartment. What should they do now that her morning routine is making it hard for their entire family to get out the door? In Slate Plus: Gabe Roth, Slate's editorial director for audio and former Mom and Dad are Fighting co-host, joins to vent about the Netflix movie, Yes Day. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Jamilah recommends Coca-Cola With Coffee’s Dark Blend flavor.Dan recommends Amber and Clay by Laura Amy Schlitz. Elizabeth recommends Welly bandages. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices