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On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Aymann discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose 4-year-old daughter has developed some attention-seeking behaviors with the arrival of a newborn sibling.Later, they have some advice for someone whose 6-year-old is struggling to learn table manners. How long will mealtimes be a struggle before the constant and repetitive “chew with your mouth shut and sit at the table” bears fruit?In Slate Plus: What to do with keepsakes and mementos that cause physical and emotional clutter? The group discusses their strategies for preserving, or tossing, those letters, drawings, and awards that accumulate over childhood.Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Podcast production by Jasmine Ellis and Asha Saluja.RecommendationsAymann recommends  the subreddit for Dads called Daddit.Jamilah recommends Shantrelle P. Lewis’ documentary, In Our Mothers’ Gardens on Netflix.Elizabeth recommends the book American Born Chinese by Gene Luen Yang.Hosts Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. Social@JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/@aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Aymann discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose 6 year old daughter has become fixated on finding a cure for death. Later, they have some advice for a parent whose own parents are excellent grandparents to her children but who often cross some boundary lines. In Slate Plus: The latest UN report on climate change. How can we discuss this with our children without scaring the crap out of them? Recommendations:Jamilah recommends AND8 Fitness for people who love to have fun during their workouts. Elizabeth recommends Kids Quip -- an electric toothbrush for kids that will help you get them out the door a little faster in the mornings. Aymann recommends buying an INSTAX Polaroid Camera to hand out polaroid pictures in place of party favors. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. Hosts Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. Social@JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/@aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcomSlate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: It’s Dan’s last show before book leave! Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Dan discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener who is wondering how she should help her son navigate a friendship that’s not so friendly. Later, they have some advice for a mother who would like to avoid talking about her daughter right in front of her, but that’s hard to do when you’re a single parent.In Slate Plus: Summer jobs, entrepreneurial kids, and Dan’s crushing camp counselor file secrets are revealed! Recommendations:Jamilah recommends the graphic novel Twins by Varian Johnson & Shannon Wright.Elizabeth recommends you pack your kids lunches using the PackIt Freezable Classic Lunchbox, the Yumbox and Bee's Wrap!Dan recommends watching Netflix’s teen show Never Have I Ever with your older kids. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. Hosts Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.Social@JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/@dankois on Twitter https://twitter.com/DanKoisSlate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and guest host Courtney Martin discuss triumphs and fails, co-housing and Courtney’s new book, Learning in Public: Lessons for a Racially Divided America from My Daughter's School. Then they answer a question from a listener who is wondering how to help her child adapt to wearing a uniform at school while still encouraging self-expression. Jamilah suggested to mix things up by adding in fun ties, like this one she dressed her daughter in a few years ago.In Slate Plus: When should we talk to our kids about sex? According to researchers, much earlier than you may think!NY Times - Sex Talks Should Start Earlier Than You Think Recommendations:Jamilah recommends online vintage shopping. And if you’re worried about sizing, pay attention to the fabric! Stretch is key. Elizabeth recommends pelvic floor PT to help with pelvic weakness. One resource she mentioned is this instagram page.Courtney recommends subscribing to the Substack Newsletter by Sarah Wheeler called Momspreading.You can read Courtney’s piece in The Nation here. Jamilah’s piece in The Nation can be found here.Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. Hosts Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Courtney Martin is an author and political activist. She’s the author of four books, including Learning in Public and The New Better Off. You can find out more about her at her website: https://www.courtneyemartin.comSocial@JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/@courtwrites on Twitter https://twitter.com/courtwritesSlate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Dan, and Jamilah discuss how we should be talking to our kids about Simone Biles’ decision to withdraw from the Olympics. Then, they answer a question from a listener who is wondering how to deal with their bad babysitter. The problem is, the babysitter is grandma.  In Slate Plus: Is it a faux pas to request no gifts at a child’s birthday party? Or is it OK? Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends Draw Your World, a sketch book for kids (or adults!) that helps familiarize you with world maps. Dan recommends the Cat Video Festival, now playing in theaters around the country.Jamilah recommends quarantine, whether you’re sick or not. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. Hosts Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Social@JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux@dankois on Twitter https://twitter.com/DanKois@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth and Dan answer a letter from a mother who worries that her 8-year-old daughter may be reading books that aren’t age-appropriate.Then, they share some tips with a listener who wonders if potty training right before vacation is a good idea. In Slate Plus: The super-moms set to compete in the Tokyo Olympics.Thanks to Goodnight World for their support. Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends GLOPLAY, a glow-in-the-dark sticker company for your kids, or for you! Dan recommends reading any book by Patrick deWitt.Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. Hosts Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Social@JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux@dankois on Twitter https://twitter.com/DanKois@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Isaac Butler answer a letter from a concerned mother who worries that she’s not able to fill the void of her step-daughter's biological mother. Then, they share some advice for a listener whose son is having trouble reacting appropriately to gifts he doesn’t like. In Slate Plus: 14-year-old Zaila Avant-garde wins the 2021 Scripps National Spelling Bee. Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends the Brickit App: an app that helps you find your missing Lego pieces.Jamilah’s daughter Naima recommends cooking turkey legs for your kids!Isaac recommends reading A Lie Someone Told You About Yourself, by Peter Ho Davies. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. Hosts Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Isaac Butler is a writer, theater director and host of Slate’s podcast Working. He’s the author of The Method and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.Social@JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/@parabasis on Twitter https://twitter.com/IsaacButlerSlate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In a special episode, Dan shares his new episode of Slate's Decoder Ring documentary podcast about his time as a junior book agent working on selling a secretive book proposal called IT, a codename for what would eventually be revealed as the Segway personal scooter. This is the story of the invention and development of a potentially revolutionary device, how Dan may or may not have doomed it, how the hype got out of control, and how that speculation helped birth the modern internet. If you like this episode, go subscribe in the Decoder Ring feed, there's plenty more stories there you'll love.If you love the show and want to support us, consider joining Slate Plus. With Slate Plus you can binge the whole season of Decoder Ring right now, plus ad free podcasts, bonus episodes, and much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a letter from a concerned partner who’s sick of watching a significant other pick fights with their kid — but doesn’t know if or how to step in. Also, Rachelle Hampton and Madison Malone Kircher join us for a new edition of In Case You Missed It, Mom and Dad. This week they’ll be explaining what the deal is with someone your kids probably know but you might not: YouTube star James Charles, and his return to the platform after sexual misconduct accusations. In Slate Plus: Brand new dad Aymann Ismail joins us to talk about his great piece on giving his son a Muslim name. Sign up for Slate Plus.Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends the Small Animals of North America Coloring Book and The Burgess Animal Book for Children.Jamilah recommends pole dancing classes.Dan recommends buying cheap cherries at your local grocery store. They’re on sale right now! Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Jasmine Ellis. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi Mom and Dad Are Fighting listeners. We recently relaunched The Waves, Slate's podcast about feminism and gender, and this week's episode--a conversation with Atlantic writer Elizabeth Bruenig about her decision to have kids when she was young--seemed like something you might enjoy.If you enjoy it, please consider subscribing to The Waves in your favorite podcast app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices