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On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Dan, and Jamilah answer a question from a parent who is wondering how to help her 10-year-old who struggled to learn during this last year of school. What can she do to help her daughter catch up this summer? Then, they advise a hard-working architect who really wants some architect-mom role models to look up to when trying to figure out work-life balance. Stepping in to help is Dr. Barbara Faga, who has blazed her own trail, as a professional, parent and an urban planner. In Slate Plus: You get an extra special bonus question about a girl who kicked her brother in the balls. Sign up for Slate Plus.Recommendations:Jamilah recommends Diahann! By Diahann Carroll and Ross Firestone. Dan recommends the Star Wars: Rise of the Resistance ride at Hollywood Studios in Disney World. Elizabeth recommends the Barrel of Fun Two Gallon Water Jug from Igloo. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah is joined by former Mom and Dad are Fighting co-host, Rebecca Lavoie. They weigh in on whether or not an older stepchild should be forced to babysit their stepsiblings. They also counsel a mom who is concerned about her husband’s theatrical and rather upsetting behavior. As mentioned in the show, our second question does contain discussion of suicide and suicidal ideation. So if you’d prefer to skip the question, jump ahead 17 minutes. If you, or anyone you know, are in crisis, you can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Since we talk about thoughts of suicide, if you, or anyone you know, need help, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). In Slate Plus: The unsurprising sharp decline of new babies being named ‘Karen.’ Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Rebecca recommends giving and buying Chico’s perfect work pants. Jamilah counters Rebecca’s pick by recommending Jazzybelle Swim. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth have advice for a mom who is less than pleased at her in-law’s ongoing joke with her toddler. Let’s just say the joke involves knuckle sandwiches and a fake punch to the eye. Can she raise her concerns without causing conflict? Or should she just let the joke slide? Then—a very special guest joins the show… Jamilah’s mom, Isoke! She chats about what it was like raising little Jamilah and tells a hilarious story about the time Jamilah decided to run away. In Slate Plus: What should parents do when their kids become obsessed with something that you can’t stand? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends GoCube Smart Rubik's Cube. Jamilah recommends Ruffles Queso Potato ChipsDan recommends the National Museum of Women in the Arts. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Dan, and Jamilah counsel a mother who is feeling guilty that she’s having a hard time bonding with her second child. She, of course, loves her son very much. But sometimes wishes her family could revert back to happier days when she had only one kid. Then, you are hopping in the Newcamp minivan to travel from Florida to Colorado and hopefully pick up a few useful tips for the next time you decide to spend days in the car with your kids. In Slate Plus: Of course they are talking about the Texas mom posed as her seventh-grade daughter for almost an entire day of school. How could they not? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Dan recommends My Begging Chart by Keiler Roberts. Jamilah recommends Morcheeba’s new album, Blackest Blue. Elizabeth recommends sleeping headphones. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah and Elizabeth are joined by Isaac Butler, co-host of Slate's Working podcast. They advise a family who just moved into a new building. Not even 24 hours after meeting their downstairs neighbors, they received a potentially passive aggressive note about their kids’ noise level. How can they maintain peace in the building while letting their kids play? Then—what should you do when your kid wants to quit a sport midseason? In Slate Plus: Will the slower pace of family life stick around after the pandemic? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends signing up for summer reading at your local library. Isaac recommends BOB books.Jamilah recommends catching up on reading and may she humbly suggest some pieces to get you started: Can I Bring My Very New Boyfriend to a 4-Year-Old’s Birthday Party?, My Daughter Sees Herself in Her Black Role Models and it Makes All the Difference, and High Mom: Why I’m (Mostly) Honest with My Daughter About My Weed Smoking. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan and Elizabeth are joined by Doyin Richards, Care & Feeding columnist, bestselling children's author, and founder of the Anti-Racism Fight Club. They counsel a mom who had terrible acne growing up and now is stressing over her son’s breakouts. Then they have a question about a little boy who is obsessed with gender norms and a mom who’s worried she’s obsessing about it too much. In Slate Plus: How has giving advice changed the way the hosts parent? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends the Loóna: calm, relax, and sleep app.Doyin recommends Anti-Racism Fight Club for Kids. Dan recommends The Fifth Quarter by Mike Dawson. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by Emily Flake, cartoonist and author of Mama Tried and That Was Awkward. They advise a parent whose husband is ignoring their teens and giving them the silent treatment when they anger him. Then they have some tips for a mom who is desperate for some alone time. In Slate Plus: The hosts try to predict what their kids will be up to in five years time. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Emily recommends The Mitchells vs. the Machines on Netflix. Jamilah recommends Girls5eva on Peacock. Elizabeth recommends the Peapod Plus ids travel bed. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Gabrielle Horton, co-host and executive producer of NATAL. They advise a mom who is sick of searching for her kid’s lost stuff, especially because she, too, often misplaced things as a child. She learned to develop routines that work for her. But she wants to opt out of helping her kid with finding lost items. They also answer a question about a girl who is feeling left out. Her bestie and her mom both go to therapy and she now wants to go too. What are the things her parents should consider when determining whether or not to send her to therapy? In Slate Plus: Dan and Jamilah talk to Gabrielle about her work on NATAL and what it’s like as a non-parent to tell stories about birth. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Gabrielle recommends The Circle on Netflix. Dan recommends Girls5eva on Peacock. Jamilah recommends Nuudii System bras. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Slate’s Allison Benedikt. They debate if a letter writer’s bickering parents need to knock it off or if it’s okay to squabble in front of the grandkids.Then, they sit down with Dr. Tova Walsh, professor of social work at the University of Wisconsin, to discuss her new research about how moms who gave birth in March 2020 are coping with a very strange first year of parenting. In Slate Plus: What to do about kids' expensive—but oh so delicious—berry habits. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Jamilah recommends Gonanas Banana Bread Mix from Nordstrom Rack. Allison recommends Everything Sad Is Untrue: (a true story) by Daniel Nayeri. Dan recommends I Was Told There Would Be Mom Friends by Lauren BansJoin us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Dan debate if an indoor-loving mom needs to suck it up, sign her kid up for soccer, and actually go to games. Then, Jamilah sits down with Virginia Sole-Smith, journalist and author of The Eating Instinct and Burnt Toast, a newsletter about parenting while navigating diet culture and fatphobia. They talk about helping kids develop healthy relationships with food and their body, especially when parents are struggling with those issues. In Slate Plus: Is there a gender divide in your household over who does more of the cognitive labor? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.Recommendations:Dan recommends watching Office Space. Jamilah recommends Vosges’ Smoke and Stout Caramel Chocolate BarElizabeth recommends getting your kid a CamelBak Mini M.U.L.E.Listener Recommendations:Slumber Party Predicament Edition, if you wanted to listen to the full advice for the mother who lost her daughter to stillbirth. Perfectly Imperfect Family by Amie Lands.Someone Came Before You by Pat Schwiebert.The Invisible String by Patrice Karst.Sun Kisses, Moon Hugs by Susan Schaefer Bernardo.Love You Forever by Robert Munsch. Wish by Matthew Cordell.Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices