Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Zak help a listener whose kid just will not get out the door in the mornings. Next, they dive into a debate about the purpose of homework and who gets to decide how much homework a child is required to do. On Slate Plus, they discuss an interesting package from Romper called Parenting at the End Of the World. Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends the card game Boom Goes the Dynamite.Zak recommends the musician Caspar Babypants. Jamilah recommends the show Wu-Tang: An American Saga. Additional reading:The History Of Homework: Why Was It Invented and Who Was Behind It? Never Mind the Students; Homework Divides ParentsAsk a Teacher: Slacker or Genius?Ask a Teacher: Homework: Who Needs It?Ask a Teacher: Homework Is a Constant Battle in Our HouseCare and FeedingJoin us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak debate if a distracted toddler deserves to be pulled out of their gymnastics class. Next, they advise a mother who is nervous about a long flight with her toddler. From getting a toddler to wear a mask to entertaining snacks, the hosts have tips for all aspects of the flight. We’re playing a round of hot takes in Slate Plus. So stick around for some spicy parenting opinions. Recommendations:Jamilah recommends Popeyes’ hottie sauce collab with Megan Thee Stallion. Zak recommends making or buying a fire pit to polong the outdoor season. Elizabeth recommends the DragonBox Elements: Geometry AppJoin us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Don't miss the member-exclusive segment on MADAF every week. Sign up for Slate Plus now at slate.com/momanddadplus and you'll also get to skip the ads, read everything on Slate.com, and support this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Aymann hotly debate a question about a kid who is vegan but decides to eat meat at their friend’s house. Is 13 mature enough to make their own dietary decisions or should the kid’s parents be told? Then, Jamilah talks with Lauren Linder, mom and attorney for a cannabis company, about how they incorporate cannabis into their parenting. In Slate Plus: Aymann talks about the effect of toxic masculinity on paternity leave. If you want to hear more from Aymann on masculinity, check out his podcast Man Up. Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends Simple Modern insulated cups with straws. Aymann recommends starting a garden. Jamilah recommends the Instant Pot Duo.Additional Links: Check out Elizabeth's great tips for finding (and keeping friends) on Slate’s How To! podcast: How To Make Friends as an Adult. It's Just a Plant: A Children's Story about Marijuana by Ricardo Cortés. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Don't miss the member-exclusive segment on MADAF every week. Sign up for Slate Plus now at slate.com/momanddadplus and you'll also get to skip the ads, read everything on Slate.com, and support this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Aymann, Jamilah, and Elizabeth tackle a desperate dispatch from a parent who just wants their kid to go to bed. Instead he is pooping in the closet. Then they take on the case of the threenage temper tantrums. How can you calm a kid who is being completely irrational? In Slate Plus: They’re talkin’ tech. Specifically, the gadgets that have transformed their parenting. If you love recommendations, you’ll definitely want to stick around for that discussion. Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends Sharice’s Big Voice by Sharice Davids and Nancy K. Mays. Plus, check out Erika McLemore’s Instagram for more great book recommendations. Jamilah recommends Believing: Our Thirty-Year Journey to End Gender Violence by Anita Hill.Aymann recommends Elif by G. Willow Wilson and buying a new case for your old phone, especially if you’re itching to get your hands on a new phone. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.Don't miss the member-exclusive segment on MADAF every week. Sign up for Slate Plus now at slate.com/momanddadplus and you'll also get to skip the ads, read everything on Slate.com, and support this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Aymann, Elizabeth, and Jamilah discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose 5 year old has been acting out at school recently. How can she encourage her child to change his behavior?Later, they share some advice with a listener whose 16 year old has not taken kindly to her mother’s boyfriend of 3 years. What can she do to bridge the divide between her partner and her daughter?In Slate Plus: We’re discussing movies and TV shows we’ve been enjoying with our families lately. Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends finding a race series through your local track club for your kids to run a race! Some races even have baby races. So cute and fun!Aymann recommends potato chip bags for babies -- wash it out first and you get an amazing toy for a baby!Jamilah recommends Blazy Susan Pre Rolled Cones for the cannabis-enthusiastic parents out there. They’re slow-burning, vegan, GMO-free and PINK!Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. Hosts Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Social@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/@aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom@JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieuxSlate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Aymann, Elizabeth, and guest-host Amber Smith discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose child has become deeply afraid of the dentist and other medical procedures. How can she help prevent her daughter’s fears from becoming phobias?Later, they share some advice on how to politely deter other parents' from making comparisons of your children. In Slate Plus: Hiding from your kids. Because sometimes, parents just need a break! The tricky part can be in explaining this to your kids.  Recommendations:Jamilah recommends the incredibly precious book, Ways to Make Sunshine by Renée Watson for your child.Amber recommends 2Harts24 Baby Bottom Cream to help rescue your baby from diaper rash. Aymann recommends The Wonder Weeks App to help you keep track of your baby’s major milestones!Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. Hosts Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. Amber Smith is Slate’s senior audience development manager and mama to sweet baby Marley. Social@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/@aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom@JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieuxSlate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Aymann, Elizabeth and Jamilah discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose baby has received a lot of monetary gifts. At 5 months old, does her baby need a bank account?Later, they share some tips to help you evaluate schools. Beyond testing scores, how do you determine which school you should send your child to? In Slate Plus: When to take a hands off approach vs. a hands on approach with your kids when you see them making a mistake. Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends listening to the Greeking Out podcast with your family. It’s a fun, kid-friendly podcast about Greek mythology!Aymann recommends taking a break now and then to go stay with your relatives. Especially to those who have very young kids.  Jamilah recommends making your own bone broth. All you need are chicken bones, water, some veggies, add a few spices and let it simmer. It’s easy, healthy and delicious! Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. Hosts Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Social@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/@aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom@JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieuxSlate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Aymann and guest-host Michaela Smith discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose 4 year old daughter has recently become obsessed with wearing makeup. Should her mother be worried about this new development or just let it play out naturally?Later, they have some advice for a parent whose toddler is dealing with some separation anxiety. What can she do to help support her daughter through these difficult feelings?In Slate Plus: It’s almost officially fall! So we’re discussing what we’re most looking forward to and some of our favorite fall activities to do with the family. Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends reading Wet Cement: A Mix of Concrete Poems with your kids.  Aymann recommends giving out compliments more often! It’s been a saving grace for him and his wife during the stressful first few months of parenthood.  Michaela recommends getting ahead of your child’s anxiety or other big feelings by consulting your pediatrician about counseling. Learning coping skills early on can really help us later in life!Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. Hosts Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. Michaela Smith is the mom to her three littles based out of Colorado Springs, CO. Social@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/@aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcomSlate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and Aymann discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose first grader is bored at school. Should her mother have a talk with her daughter’s teacher or wait and see if things change in a few weeks?  Later, they have some advice for a parent whose 11-almost-12-year-old son is campaigning hard for a cell phone. Would a phone serve as a helpful tool or a terrible distraction? In Slate Plus: We’re getting into the “why’s” of it all! Why? Because it’s the favorite and sometimes very annoying question of many young children. What can parents do to answer their kids' endless “why’s” without losing their cool? Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends Wise Owl Hammock & Straps for easy comfort when you’re camping with the family. Aymann recommends the Self Cleaning LARQ Water Bottle for purifying water for you and your baby on the go. Jamilah recommends making your own bootleg sangria! Using grand marnier and/or rum, wine (red or white), kids fruit cups, fresh fruit, sugar and orange juice. Cheers!Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. Hosts Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. Social@JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/@aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcomSlate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth and Aymann discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener who feels she’s being borderline ghosted by other parents after their children’s playdates. Later, they have some advice for a parent whose 12 year old son is very set in his views as they pertain to religion but his mom worries that this may cause problems down the line for one of his new friendships. How can she help her son navigate this potential conflict? In Slate Plus: Free-range parenting: what is it and is it for you?Recommendations:Elizabeth recommends Perler Bead Craft Bead Sweeper to help you clean up all of those pesky beads in one quick sweep. Aymann recommends getting a Kodak Photo Printer so that you can join him in instantly printing out all of those adorable photos of your kids that you have stored on your iPhone. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery. Hosts Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose.Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York.Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. Social@JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux@dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/@aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcomSlate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices