Soul Led Living Podcast with Nikki Novo

If you’ve hung out with me lone enough, you know all about dating blocks: The strange stuff we believe that get in our way when it comes to love. We get that healing those blocks is going to be part of the journey. But truthfully, sometimes you just need some damn good dating strategies. And that’s what today’s episode of The Final Swipe Podcast is about. Tips! Because no one ever teaches us how to date. For today’s episode, I was joined by dating and relationships coach Emilia Nagy. She is so sunny, candid, and well versed in dating. You can tell she geeks out on this stuff, which makes her so valuable. We talk about the positive side of shame, how to overcome narcissistic relationships, and how to kill the dating game. Grab that paper and pen!In this episode we talk about: Why dating is a struggleBest dating practices for womenHow men and women date differentlyNarcissistic relationships and abuseBringing your vision to lifeLinks we mention: Emilia’s WebsiteEmilia’s InstagramHow to Pick the Right Man Checklist

There is one thing we can’t go without when dating. If we try to leave this part of us out of the process, we will be completely lost. That thing is: our feelings. Connecting to what we feel is what gives us the direction towards what we want. It’s our compass. But, sadly, we’ve also learned that feelings are bad. We either want to jump out of our bodies when they come up, or we turn them off all together. No bueno, you guys. Let’s dig into that, shall we? And to do so, I had the pleasure of conversing with feelings expert, Maddy Moon. My friends, this woman has managed to figure out how to be guided by her feelings even when she’s on dating apps! My hero, and you’re new guide. In this episode, we talk about what life looks like without feelings, what it’s like to honor even the shadow parts of ourselves, and how to embrace the deep emotions in a way that serves us. This is such a good convo. It just embodies self-acceptance — which we can never get enough of, especially while dating. Get cozy. In this episode we talk about: Feelings!The Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine and how to use it while datingWhat are our shadow qualities and how to embrace themHow to use your intuition with dating appsLinks we mention:Maddy’s Wesbite Maddy’s InstagramMaddy’s PodcastThe Feminine Spirit SchoolMaddy’s 1:1 Coaching

Chances are you’ve heard about chakras, but really, what the hell are they?In today’s episode of The Final Swipe, we talk all about the heart chakra. In my private sessions, I use the chakras to read energy, which is how I’m able to see blocks in people. When I see an imbalance in that center, it’s either too open or too closed. When I was starting out on my spiritual journey, my heart was too closed. In this episode, I talk about the heart healing that changed my life and led me to my energy reading gift. If you’re feeling your heart chakra is a little off, this is the episode for you. Let’s learn how to bring that bright green energy center back to health. Listen on!Resources1. Free Heart Chakra Meditation: www.nikkinovo.com/heart 2. My new program, Living Your Best Love Life: http://nikkinovo.com/love

It's not an easy convo, but we need to have it. For those of us struggling with dating, our soul is asking us to stretch. We are going to have to put ourselves out there and challenge ourselves in a way that you've never done before. Because if we keep doing the same stuff, we're just going to see the same result, right?The stretch is scary and really uncomfortable, I get it. In order to avoid that uncomfortable feeling, we do this thing: We keep a placeholder around. A placeholder is someone we keep around as our backup plan. It's our "in case of emergency" plan. And while it seems harmless, what we don't understand is how this safety net keeps us small. When we stay small, we don't allow ourselves the true love we really desire. In today's episode of The Final Swipe podcast we talk about getting ready to release the energetic cords with these people who take up that "romantic love" space in our lives, but don't provide all that we want or need in a relationship. We also talk about how, sometimes, we keep ourselves busy with other people's lives in order to not feel the void of being alone. But the feeling of being alone is the thing that is going to push outside of our comfort zone in order to find love. So let's do this together, my friend. Let's get you ready for real love. Give the episode a listen.ResourcesMy book: https://amzn.to/2QbSzFT My new program, Living Your Best Love Life: http://nikkinovo.com/love/

I did a thing recently, and thought it came out really good so I wanted to share it with you. I was feeling myself. That thing was an interview with the ladies of Everyday Therapy Podcast. I'm so grateful to have been a guest on their amazing show. They are such pros, and they asked the best questions.There was so much great dating wisdom in this one that I just had to share. We covered topics like:Intentional swipingHow to feel confident around someone you likeHow to let go of dating expectationsHow to be in your divine feminine when datingHow to surrender and not controlAnd so much more.It's a great one, you guys. Enjoy!ResourcesEveryday Therapy WebsiteEveryday Therapy InstagramMy book, The Final Swipe

You’ve probably heard me talk about soulmates before because I’m pretty obsessed with clearing the air. When it comes to romantic relationships, there is not just one, person out there to love and cherish us. A soulmate is someone who has lived other lifetimes with us. Get it? Soul-Mate?So now that we’ve cleared that up, we can get into the real important stuff: manifesting a wonderful romantic relationship. And we’re going to do that today by creating a list.I know what you’re going to tell me, “Nikki, I’ve made my perfect-man checklist and all I heard were crickets.” And you know what I’ll say to that? You did it wrong. First off, manifesting is a real thing. We can call things into our lives through our thoughts and belief. Writing what we want down is physical action we can take in the manifesting process. So that’s why we make a list. But the reason your previous list did not work out was because you were coming from the wrong place.If your list said things like, “I want him to be tall, wealthy, and drive a truck,” I’m sorry to say but it’s not going to work. And here’s why. When we try to manifest things without addressing why we want it, we can attract really wonky stuff. The why is more important than the what. Our lists have to be based on how we want to feel.(Need more help with this? Check out my book "The Final Swipe," by following this link: https://www.amazon.com/Final-Swipe-Pe...)You want to attract someone who is wealthy, because maybe you want to someone to be equal to you, or because you don’t want to be taking care of someone, or because you want to feel secure. If you only write down “I want him to be wealthy,” you can attract someone who has a lot, but spends a lot. Or you can have someone who has a lot, but has a lot of debt. Now, if you create your list based off how you want to feel in the relationship, you can’t go wrong. You’re covering your basis. You would say something like, “I want to feel like an equal,” or “I want to feel financially secure,” or “I want to feel that my partner takes responsibility for himself.”When it comes to romantic relationships, what lasts is not the outside stuff. What lasts is how we feel. Our emotional needs are what need to be met. The outside stuff we’re trying to call in is the manifestation of a need. We don’t want a tall person just for the hell of it! We want a tall person, because we want to feel small and feminine. Our feelings list is this week’s spiritual assignment. Create your perfect partner manifestation list with your feelings list in mind. Here are some examples:“I don’t want to be second to his/her friends and family”“I want to feel like a priority”“I want to be able to trust and not feel like I’m going to be cheated on”“I want to feel emotionally secure and trusting”“I want to feel beautiful in his/her eyes”“I want to make sure this person is financially ok”“I want to feel financially secure”“I want to make sure this person isn’t a crazy partier”“I want to feel I’m with a partner who prioritizes his/her health”“I want to be with someone who will stick around for the hard stuff”“I want to feel I am in a mature and committed relationship, where communication is of highest importance”If you have any questions about your list, leave me a comment below. Much love always!Xo,Nikki

What if you found love, and then later experienced losing it?That was the case for today's guest, Carmen Ordonez, who was happily married and then lost her husband to cancer at a very young age. Suddenly, Carmen found herself heartbroken, a single mother, and single in a dating world that was very different than the last time she saw it. What she did to move forward was incredible, and I'm so grateful to have her on today's episode of "The Final Swipe Podcast."Even if we haven't experience death of a loved one, Carmen shares so much wisdom on how we can move forward after losing love — or what we thought was love (I'm talking to you, divorced or recently single friend). Although this wasn't the plan, Carmen managed to gather her vision for a beautiful life, create it, and honor her late husband at the same time. See dating in a new light with this episode. In this episode we talk about:Depression and how Carmen healed herselfDating as a widowLearning to be presentReconciling with God after lossResourcesCarmen’s Blog: http://www.vivafashionblog.com/Carmen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivafashion/

When I was dating and looking for love, I was only saying I was looking for love.The truth was, I wasn’t looking for only love.What I was really doing was hoping and waiting for my ex.At the time, I was pretty aware that I was recovering from a breakup. I assumed the way to get over this would be to meet someone who would sweep me of my feet.But that wasn’t happening.In fact, I couldn’t find anyone who cared much for me, and if they did, I couldn’t reciprocate.How many of us have this plan?“I’ll keep my ex on deck.”Whether we’re hoping they’ll come back or keeping them as our back up, if our ex is still in our heart, there is no space for something new.It’s also a waste of our time!We pretend to date. We pretend “there’s nothing out there.” But really all we’re doing is sabotaging ourselves so that we can prove to ourselves that our destiny is with our ex.What needs to happen is an honest conversation.Confront the situation. Ask your ex if there’s a chance. Ask yourself if that’s what you want or would you rather something new (with all the upgrades!).And when your ex replies, listen. Like really listen.Don’t just hear what you want to hear.Listen with your intuition.Listen with your heart.Because it’s time.Time to move forward. Or time to give it a real try.No more stuck in the middle.No more pretending nothing is working out for you.It’s time.We talk about:How to create space for your true loveWhy you shouldn’t have a “backup person” and how to close that door Resources:My membership program: http://nikkinovo.com/membership

I completely believe that we have everything we need right now, from where we stand to find the love we really want.BUT why isn’t it working for you, right?Well, because unfortunately we have a lot layers of crap on top of us — limiting beliefs, traumas, anxieties, and so on. So while we’re equipped, often we have to undress the layer, one by one. Which is basically what I mean when I say, “We have to do the work.”We often have to do the inner work to unlayer and love all of it. From that place is where we begin to create our dream relationships and dream lives. With this in mind, on today’s episode of The Final Swipe, I speak to my good friend Nina Endrst. Her journey to love was full of all of the shit, but then it led her to so much intention. She did the work. And it shows, because her and her husband are the cutest. I asked her to come on the show to share her process from trauma to love, because it’s always nice to have real-life examples. We also went on some tangents covering topics that include, emotional availability, dating anxiety, inner healing work, and SO much more. She takes us on her journey from experiencing trauma in the workplace and in relationships to healing her soul, discovering her passion, and ultimately, finding her husband. Enjoy this one. It’s a modern-day happily ever after. We talk about:Defining emotional unavailability and how to spot an emotionally available person. Why it’s important to move negative energy and anxiety out of your body to help you in the dating process  How to get to a place of trust in dating, relationships, and yourself  Resources:Nina’s website: http://www.ninaendrstyoga.com/ Nina’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ninaendrsthealth/

Have you ever fallen in love with someone who is off limits or unavailable? Cue:  “I wish that I had Jessie’s Girl.”Unavailable can be, they told you they’re not ready for commitment, or your heart is telling you they’re not open to receiving love. And off limits can me… they’re you’re boss!This can be really confusing. Because you’re like, shit, what is going on with my manifesting skills?!But guess what: this is actually a good thing.See, when it comes to manifesting a loving relationship, we need to get to a place where we can feel what it is like to be in love. When I teach this, you often respond by saying “But I’ve never had the kind of love I’m trying to attract, so how would I know how it feels?”When you ask, you receive! And this is when the universe brings you a person who you feel all the feels for, but can’t necessarily date. I know this may sound mean, but think of it as a gift. You now know what you’re looking for — you know what it feels like. You can borrow this feeling when manifesting. Still a little confused? Don’t fret. In today’s episode of The Final Swipe, I walk you through how to create a positive story around this seemingly shitty situation and how to use this experience to make you an even better manifester. Remember, my friend, the universe is going to help you get towards the vibration you need to be on to attract the love of your life, but often there are inspired steps you need to do in order to get there. For you, this might be one of the things. I know you’re on the right path, because you’re already receiving answers to your questions. Keep going!Annnnd, If you don’t want to walk this journey alone, I would love to have you in my membership program, where I’ll answer your question every week. We have a whole community of supportive and uplifting women who are walking the same path as you.We talk about:How to reframe your story around these experiences. How to use your feelings about this person to enhance your manifesting skills. Resources:My membership program: https://nikkinovo.com/membershipMy Book: https://amzn.to/2TUDz39