Change Academy

We have come to the final topic on our list of eight things we believe need to be in place in order for real, sustainable change to happen. In this episode, we are tackling the idea that there is no "finish line" to cross. Change is forever.Key Takeaways:We aren't simply reaching a finish line, we are changing ourselves. Fundamentally but also dynamically.The great thing about that is you don't have to abandon one to start another.This is a great framework to evaluate what you are going to spend your time focussing on - am I willing to do this forever? And if I don't, what will happen if I quit.Lab Experiment:Take a look at your biggest focus right now, whether that is contributing to retirement savings, keeping a relationship afloat, losing weight, getting fit, anything and ask yourself - "is this how I want to live my life - forever?" If the answer is no, you have your answer.But if the answer is yes, then you can ask yourself - "what will happen if I decide to stop this behaviour?" If the answer is, you will lose all your progress and eventually have to start at square one, then you know this isn't a forever behaviour. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

We think that failure shouldn't happen and that if it does, it means that something has gone wrong. But failure is not the opposite of success. It's the path to success.We do not achieve success when we put sufficient distance between ourselves and our failures. We achieve success when we learn to bring our failures close, examine them with clear-eyed compassion, learn what we can from them, and use them as fuel for future growth.Don’t fear failure! When a scientist does an experiment, he or she must be open to any result. Some results are good/positive and some are bad/negative but they are all useful data points.The correct response to failure is to try again. But we don't want to just keep trying the same thing over and over again. We want to try in a slightly different way, informed by the failure. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, we are moving down the list to #6 (of our eight key behaviours) and discussing why practice is important ... and also why it may be more nuanced than you might have thought (Hint: it's more than just repetition).Key takeaways:Practice, practice, practice. Practicing once isn't enough.But it is more than just repetition, it needs to be deliberate practice.Don't just practice the action also practice the thoughts and beliefs behind the action.You can't trick yourself into believing something simply by saying it over and over again. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

Look at your social circles and habitat. Do the groups you belong to have the identity you want? Does your home or office reflect the identity you want? If not, what can you easily change or adapt to make it more aligned with your vision of your Ideal Self?Key takeaways:Hack your habitat to support your vision of yourself.Spend your time with people who encourage you to become our best self (and avoid the folks who may sabotage you).Remove obstacles or temptations, instead of counting on willpower. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

It’s exhausting to carry around a goal that we never get any closer to. To have a problem that we can’t solve–or that won’t stay solved. To make the same resolution over and over again.When you identify something that you want to change - and then don't take action or make progress - you start to pay a sort of psychic tax. Not only do you still have this unmet goal/desire, but you also have the added discomfort of realizing that you're not making progress, not converting intention into action.Not taking action is not a way to "save energy". It's EXHAUSTING to carry around a goal you never get any closer to.Key takeaways: 1. Unmet goals get heavier and heavier the longer you carry them around. 2. An unmet goal can be a barrier (or an excuse) to achieving other goals 3. Sometimes, it's wiser to let a goal go than to continue to pay the "interest" Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

Your plan is your map. Without your map, you may make it to your destination but it will take a long time and you will expend a lot more energy and frustration getting there.Main points in this episode:Bridging the Intention/Behavior Gap (It’s not just you; everybody struggles with this).Action Planning: Anticipating how, when, where you will perform the steps. What do you need to put in place?Coping Planning (just as important but no-one ever talks about it). Anticipating the ways in which things may not go according to plan and being prepared to adapt. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

The podcast explores the difference between goals and objectives, emphasizing the importance of objectives in driving lasting change. Personal examples are used to illustrate the impact of active recovery methods and sleep quality on setting sustainable objectives. The hosts discuss the significance of defining objectives in decision-making and aligning goals with core values for effective progress.

Both curiosity and openness are essential to creating lasting change. Curiosity goes hand in hand with a willingness and ability to look at thoughts, feelings, actions, outcomes.Key takeaways in this episode:The right answer is only right for you (keep in personal).Don’t get hung up on what you think you should be doing, try stuff.Ask yourself why this happened so you can learn where the process is breaking down.Don’t reject an idea until you have tried it on for size. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

Last episode, we outlined the 8 things we believe to be essential for creating sustainable change and in this episode we’re going to take a closer look at the first one on our list. A Reason.Change is hard and uncomfortable. So, your desire to change yourself has to be greater than your desire to keep things the same. That is where a compelling reason comes in handy.Takeaways: 1. Your desire to change must be more powerful than staying the same 2. Don’t listen to others, get personal. 3. Forgive yourself for your past missteps, you can change and you can rewrite your outcomes 4. Use your why as your anchor or your guide. When you are faced with a decision, remind yourself why this is important. Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

The eight things you need to make any change become lasting and sustainable, in our opinion, are: A reason, Curiosity, An objective, A Plan, Support, Practice, Failure, and Forever.We'll look at each of these in more depth in future episodes but for now, this is what you need to know.1. A Compelling and Personal Reason - not the what and how but the WHY.2. Curiosity - in a nutshell, this is the opposite of waiting for someone to tell you what to do.3. Objectives - beyond a number on the scale or an amount in your bank account.4. Plan — this is the opposite of wishing and hoping - this is figuring out the specific steps you need to take and what you need to make this happen.5. Support - Instead of relying on willpower, you need to create an environment that reduces friction, removes barriers.6. Practice - It’s not enough to think or do things once. In order to create sustainable change, you have to create ongoing habits, which require repetition and iteration.7. Failure - we can’t figure out what works without figuring out what doesn’t work.8. Forever — change changes you! It’s a process, not a product. ★ Support this podcast ★