This Tantric Life with Layla Martin

Starielle Hope, a relationship and intimacy coach, discusses how successful professionals can enhance their personal connections. She emphasizes the healing power of play in personal growth and highlights the importance of emotional awareness. Starielle provides practical insights on navigating emotions in relationships and the significance of embodied intelligence. She also explores the transformative impact of authentic communication and self-love, sharing methods to deepen connections while addressing the complexities of expressing emotions like anger.

Elayne Kalila Doughty, an ordained priestess and the founder of the Priestess Presence School, shares her insights on the resurgence of the High Priestess archetype. She emphasizes the importance of ritual and spiritual connection for holistic wellness, while addressing the historical suppression of feminine wisdom. The conversation explores reclaiming the divine feminine, navigating pleasure and humility, and the transformative power of community among women. Doughty also touches on the significance of self-awareness and embracing both light and dark in one’s spiritual journey.

Shownotes How Laurie stayed available to love as she aged Why Laurie and Michael believe couples are an endangered species The core teachings Laurie has learned from Tantra How Tantra gives you hotter sex AND deeper truth Exactly what an RBDSMT conversation is and how it can serve you How to practice consent in a sexy way Bio Laurie Handlers is the author of 2 international bestselling books, Sex & Happiness: The Tantric Laws of Intimacy and Sex & Happiness: It Gets Better with Age. She empowers people to fall deeply in love with themselves and their partners. An expert in the fields of sexuality, intimacy and relationships, Laurie has taught transformational workshops on topics ranging from releasing past emotional trauma, fearless communication and sacred sexuality since 1978. Michael Gibson is a Certified Sex and Happiness Coach, the co-founder of the Academy for Men and creator of the Extraordinary Lovers Experience; a program that guides couples into long lasting conscious-relating to deepen intimacy, communication and connection. His Academy for Men's Coaching Program trains men in the skills of presence, communication and exquisite touch, focusing on intimacy, pleasure and healing. Michael is known for the quote, "Consent: don't have sex without it!" Partners Michael and Laurie have also created an online community called Laurie Handlers' Inner Circle that serves its members through podcast interviews, online courses and monthly live calls, and offer relationship coaching, workshops and retreats on Extraordinary Love. Timestamps 00:01:36 - Guest introduction 00:03:26 - The story of how Laurie and Michael met 00:06:28 - Sign up for Layla's newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:07:40 - How Laurie stayed available to love as she aged 00:09:20 - Why older people need boundaries in a different way than younger people 00:12:45 - What allowed Michael to say yes to Laurie changing his life 00:15:21 - The stories women tell themselves that block them from opportunity 00:17:18 - Michael proposes to Laurie in a 5-star Port-a-Potty 00:18:45 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:23:04 - What made Michael cry at his own wedding 00:25:30 - There is no expiration date on your highest dreams 00:27:44 - Why Laurie and Michael believe couples are an endangered species 00:31:18 - When Laurie knew she didn't want to be in an open relationship any longer 00:35:28 - Discover MOOD™ Sexy Supplements 00:36:37 - Get Layla's free Orgasmic Breathwork Practice for deeper pleasure 00:37:49 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men's Sexual Mastery 00:40:12 - Laurie shares her experience teaching sexuality in the 70's 00:44:38 - The core teachings Laurie has learned from Tantra 00:48:49 - The Tantric tools Laurie has seen help other women and herself the most 00:54:06 - Layla talks about the foundational philosophy of Tantra 00:58:54 - Michael explains the saying "Welcome to your life" 01:01:55 - Tantra gives you hotter sex AND deeper truth 01:02:49 - Expand your pleasure potential with Obliss Women's Sexual Masterclass 01:04:16 - How to practice consent in a sexy way 01:06:53 - Consent is the gift of choice 01:09:50 - Michael explains what an RBDSMT conversation is 01:13:04 - How Laurie and Michael's RBDSMT conversation began 01:17:33 - The one thing Michael wants men to know 01:20:59 - Laurie's top advice for women 01:23:54 - Michael and Laurie's message to couples 01:27:32 - The Return to Love Game 01:29:28 - Conclusion

Gala Darling, a creative force in self-love and empowerment, shares her journey of making life a masterpiece. She discusses breaking societal rules and embracing individuality, emphasizing that self-love fosters authentic relationships. Gala introduces EFT tapping as a tool for emotional healing, while addressing how overthinking can stifle joy. The conversation highlights the importance of pleasure and radical self-acceptance, encouraging listeners to view life as a colorful art project filled with personal expression and growth.

Shownotes What it feels like in the body when you're holding trauma Exactly what an angergasm is Why emotional liberation is about being able to see yourself in your pain The importance of presence in trauma healing A simple practice for containing emotions and pain Foundational steps for emotional liberation Bio Formally, Cory Scott is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), a EMDRIA certified Eye Movement and Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) therapist, a licensed yoga teacher (RYT-500) and a VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coach and senior teacher. As a trauma integration coach, she specializes in supporting highly successful people to resolve lingering trauma patterns that have kept them stuck. She helps them to integrate their experiences, harness their strength and live into freedom and expansion beyond their wildest dreams. Cory's coaching draws on her extensive experience working with clients and her deep knowledge of trauma, somatics and interpersonal neurobiology. She combines energetic and embodiment practices, along with rewiring and integration tools to unwind trauma responses and re-create a strong, stable, balanced internal ecology. Along with her private client work, Cory also teaches part-time for VITA™ Coaching and provides professional consultation to coaches and therapists. She lives on a 78-acre farm in the mountains of southern Appalachia with her partner of 19 years, their two beautiful children, an old dog, a young dog and a clowder of cats. In addition to her extensive studies, she has gained much of her integrated and embodied wisdom from her own journey of deep trauma healing and personal transformation. To learn more about Cory's work and connect with her, ⁠click here⁠ to visit her website. Timestamps 00:01:43 - Guest introduction 00:03:38 - Cory's perspective on trauma healing 00:05:14 - What it feels like in the body when you're holding trauma 00:06:52 - Sign up for Layla's newsletter at ⁠LaylaMartin.com⁠ 00:09:06 - What can stabilization after trauma healing look like? 00:11:47 - Layla shares one of the few regrets she has in life 00:14:44 - Why anger is the same energy as passion 00:16:37 - Discover the ⁠VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification⁠ 00:20:33 - The importance of safety in the trauma world 00:27:22 - It's possible to experience pleasure and joy in the height of shame and anger 00:29:07 - Layla explains exactly what an angergasm is 00:34:18 - Discover ⁠MOOD™ Sexy Supplements⁠ 00:35:27 - Get Layla's free ⁠Orgasmic Breathwork Practice⁠ for deeper pleasure 00:36:36 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with ⁠Men's Sexual Mastery⁠ 00:43:04 - Layla explains how she's working through relational shame 00:47:56 - Cory shares her personal journey through trauma 00:55:15 - Emotional liberation is about being able to see yourself in your pain 00:59:18 - When to go into safety and calm vs feeling your emotions 01:02:04 - Why presence is so important for trauma healing 01:02:48 - Cory shares a simple practice for containing emotions and pain 01:06:50 - Foundational steps for emotional liberation 01:14:07 - "⁠VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching⁠ is for the leaders of our world" 01:19:23 - Conclusion

Lorin Krenn, an acclaimed teacher and hypnotherapist, dives into the art of creating fulfilling relationships. He shares insights on the transformative power of unconditional love and the essential balance between purpose and partnership. Lorin discusses how men can reclaim masculinity and true devotion while navigating personal transformation. The conversation also touches on emotional authenticity, the interplay of sacred sexuality, and the significance of sincere vows in fostering enduring connections. It's a journey to understand the core of relationship dynamics.

Om Rupani, an author and educator specializing in man-woman relating, sensuality, Tantra, and BDSM, discusses how BDSM serves as a pathway to liberation. He explores the role of emotional containment in relationships and the transformative psychological effects of surrendering control. Om emphasizes the importance of clear communication, boundaries, and trust in BDSM dynamics, addressing how these elements can enhance intimacy. He also delves into the complexities of navigating masculinity and femininity in modern relationships, advocating for personal growth through erotic exploration.

In this engaging discussion, Marina Nabão, a Somatic Trauma Healer and Embodiment Coach, shares her transformative journey in sexual trauma healing. She reveals her first experience of a full-body orgasm and introduces a pragmatic 'bottom up' approach for reclaiming pleasure. Marina also explains how to overcome dissatisfaction in sexual encounters and expand pleasure capacity. Including powerful practices like cacao rituals and breathwork, she emphasizes the deep connection between emotional vulnerability, love, and spiritual awakening in intimacy.

Dr. Kavitha Chinnaiyan, a cardiologist, and author, discusses the Tantric lineage of Sri Vidya with Layla Martin. They explore surrendering to unlock pleasure, following the right-handed path of Sri Vidya, and integrating spirituality and science for self-development. They delve into different spiritual traditions, exploring the perception of reality, and discussing tantric practices, goddess tradition, and sexual enhancement techniques.

Shownotes How Barbara paved the way for Layla to be her sexual self Why truly meeting yourself means meeting God Divine masculine and divine feminine as an invitation to play your identity Creating systemic change through becoming softer and more inclusive The ways Tantra makes hard change feel easier and safer The top places people find ecstasy in life that isn't sex or orgasm A step-by-step teaching of one of Barbara's favorite breathwork techniques Bio Barbara Carrellas is the founder of Urban Tantra®, an approach to conscious sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of sacred sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM. She's the author of Urban Tantra – the world's first LGBTQ+-inclusive Tantric sex book, Ecstasy is Necessary and Luxurious Loving. Her books, workshops and lectures are an eclectic mix of sexual and spiritual practices designed to encourage readers and participants of all genders and sexual preferences to expand their capacity for both pleasure and spiritual fulfillment. Urban Tantra® is an international community, a philosophy, and an inclusive conscious sexuality practice that supports both personal and professional goals. Barbara is also the founder of the Urban Tantra® Professional Training Program, a comprehensive training program in the practice and application of conscious sexuality and the co-founder of Erotic Awakening, a pioneering series of workshops focusing on the physical, spiritual and healing powers of sex. Timestamps 00:01:17 - Guest introduction 00:01:50 - Layla's first introduction to Barbara when she was an undergrad at Stanford 00:03:47 - How Barbara paved the way for Layla to be her sexual self 00:05:26 - How the AIDS epidemic in NYC introduced Barbara to Tantra 00:07:10 - Tantra is so much bigger than just sex 00:10:14 - The real reason Barbara started studying Tantra 00:14:10 - Bringing powerful healing neo-Tantric practices to gay men with AIDS 00:16:11 - Layla shares how Tantra supported one of the hardest experiences of her life 00:17:14 - Sign up for Layla's newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:21:46 - Meeting yourself in the intensity means meeting God 00:25:19 - How Tantra became so heteronormative 00:28:04 - Your invitation into the VITA™ Coaching Certification 00:31:44 - How divine masculine and divine feminine are an invitation to play your identity 00:37:16 - Creating systemic change through becoming softer and more inclusive 00:41:20 - How is Tantra best helpful for the gender and sex minority? 00:45:59 - Tantra makes change feel easier and safer 00:52:15 - The universal desire to find "something more" 00:56:02 - Layla and Barbara drink MOOD™ Sexy Supplements 10:00:54 - Where people find ecstasy in life that isn't sex or orgasm 01:02:10 - Barbara teaches one of her favorite breathwork techniques 01:05:00 - One of Barbara's weirdest Tantric experiences 01:09:24 - Where to find Barbara's work 01:11:10 - Conclusion Penis Massage Guide Pussy Massage Guide