Fix CPTSD Podcast | Psychology and Philosophy in Narcissistic Times with Richard Grannon

Self-love affected by abuse, what is going on in the abusive parent's child's head and how that shapes the idea of love? (00:02) Getting Started (00:16) What's In Room 101? (04:33) If Your Parents Didn't Love You, Then You Have No Model For Self-love (08:33) How Childhood Abuse Works (12:35) What Does It Mean That God Is Dead? (17:13) Nietzsche's Quote Q&A (20:25) "What's in room 101 for you, Richard? part 1 (25:19) "What's in room 101 for you, Richard? part 2 (30:32) "You're still doing the same job, but it's emotional instead of physical, don't you agree? (36:24) "My sister and I were tight, but now she has completely turned like my narc mom. How do I deal with this? (38:39) "I'm still struggling with a definition of self-compassion and all that entails. Can you more clearly define what that means? (43:16) "I accept my bad choices in men come from upbringing. Where do I go now? (46:57) "How do I differentiate between intuition and emotional flashbacks? part 1 (52:30) "How do I differentiate between intuition and emotional flashbacks? part 2 (57:42) "How do I differentiate between intuition and emotional flashbacks? part 3 (1:00:17) "Do you have any advice for how to interview a counselor? part 1 (1:06:16) "Do you have any advice for how to interview a counselor? part 2 (1:11:32) "Is dreaming memories the same thing as an emotional flashback? (1:14:40) "I've stopped thinking about my ex 24/7, but he pops up in my dreams. Do you think this is a good thing like my subconscious is filtering the crap in my brain? (1:18:22) "I feel like I really love people. Honestly it would not be a big shocker if they just suddenly tried to hurt me or walked out of my life. Is that me really loving them? How can I love them if I have to expect them to betray me?

Q&A Session around the topic of sexuality of Cluster B personality types (00:18) Reading The Sex Question From The Forum Part 1 (03:13) Reading The Sex Question From The Forum Part 2 (09:06) Reading The Sex Question From The Forum Part 3 (14:18) Perversion According To Freud (17:39) Cluster B's Are Obsessed With Breaking Other People's Boundaries And Breaking Social Taboo (20:21) Sex As Manifestation Of Aggression (25:11) Reading A Question From The Forum Part 1 (30:10) Reading A Question From The Forum Part 2 (30:58) CPTSD In A Relationship (36:54) Lack Of Processed Emotions (39:17) Man Jealous Of Woman's Affection Toward Her Children (46:14) A Question About Feeling Inferiority After A Relationship With An NPD (48:48) For Those Who Have CPTSD With Prior Sexual Abuse And Are Doing The Work, Do You Think A Sex Therapist Would Be Of Any Effective Use? Part 1 (53:44) For Those Who Have CPTSD With Prior Sexual Abuse And Are Doing The Work, Do You Think A Sex Therapist Would Be Of Any Effective Use? Part 2 (57:24) Borderline Personality Disorder And Splitting Part 1 (1:02:01) Borderline Personality Disorder And Splitting Part 2 (1:06:29) Can Someone Withhold Something That Is Mine? My Bits And Bobs (1:09:36) How Do You Become More Streetwise? (1:10:56) Managing Contact With A Narcissist (1:16:30) Wrapping Up

A great talk with Dana Morningstar of Thrive After Abuse on the topic of narcissistic abuse recovery, including Q&A. Dana has her own YouTube channel and a website Thrive After Abuse. (00:44) Dana's Story (11:54) Physical Symptoms of Emotional Abuse and Trauma (14:47) Are We Facing a Narcissism Epidemic? (20:01) Social Conditioning of Male/female Trauma Processing (23:00) It's Important We See Behavior, Not Gender (32:05) Dana Continues Her Story (Parental Influence) (35:06) Modelling the Self-love We Crave for (37:29) Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome Q&A Section (41:18) "How do we go about making the ruminations stop?" (45:18) "How long narcissists can hide his narcissism?" (48:59) The red flags are not seen, they're felt (51:16) "How can I help in my date's recovery from narcissistic abuse?" (54:21) "How do you teach a child to go through emotional flashbacks?" (58:58) "What are your thoughts on how to decrease codependency?" (1:03:08) "Trauma bonding and how to break it?" (1:07:52) "Can you talk about NLP and how it helps to move forward?" (1:10:07) Example use of NLP strategy, NLP is pictures inside your head  (1:12:02) "Is there anything we can do to identify an abusive/toxic person?" (1:15:39) Emotional starvation pulling us into relationships and fogging our judgment (1:24:18) "How can I improve my self-esteem after the abuse?" (1:36:23) On Louise L. Hay, affirmations, positivity

Can narcissist be healed? Are they aware of what they're doing? Is it a deep-seated character issue, or just bad pattern of behaviour? (00:14) Full-blown NPD Vs. Display of Narcissistic Traits (01:56) NPD Functions as a Series of Defensive Mechanisms (05:35) Projective Identification and Narcissistic Injury (07:24) Narcissist Cannot Do Horizontal Relationships (12:41) They Don't Believe There's Anything Wrong With Them

Break Trauma Bond - Modelling Technique To Recondition Mr Lizard (00:01) Emotional Loading And The One Solution For It Part 1 (04:52) Emotional Loading And The One Solution For It Part 2 (08:48) The Radical Acceptance (12:50) Why The Emotional Literacy Exercise Is So Important (15:13) The Perceptual Position That’s Being Adopted Is Faulty And Needs To Be Fixed (18:39) The Modelling Technique That Might Help (23:08) Why We Get Stuck In The Story When We’re Traumatized (26:29) How To Get Yourself Into The Mindset Of A Healed Person (30:18) Show The Brain How To Do It, Don’t Just Tell (34:55) Feeling Good Is A Skill And You Need To Develop It

No Contact, Repetition Compulsion, being stuck in same old patters of relationships, including examples both from Richard's life, and Pete Walker clients. (00:36) Abusive Relationship is a Reflection of a Primary Relationship (01:57) A Cultural Reference Metaphor (Solving the Puzzle of Love) (05:34) Seeking to Replicate the Relationship (07:41) Repetition Compulsion (10:23) Your Parents Are Just People Too (12:41) Spoiling Children as a Moral Corruption (13:53) No Contact & Honouring Yourself (16:54) How Significant Parents Are to Your Subconscious (19:32) Summary

Mindfulness can be a real, effective tool in recovery. This is how to use it in overcoming CPTSD and negative self-talk. (With assistance of Pete Walker and his book "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving") (00:35) Reading an Excerpt From Pete Walker's Book (02:00) Mindfulness is a Skill to Develop (02:43) Pete Walker on Emotional Neglect (04:10) On Self-talk (Inner Critic) & How Did Richard Dealt With It (09:32) How Will Mindfulness Heal You (13:04) What's a "Good Enough" Relationship?

Is the narcissistic person in my life a sadist? (01:03) Reading Sam Vaknin on the Topic (02:24) It's About What Narcissist Get, Not Necessarily How (04:24) Richard's Personal Example (05:57) Masochistic Traits (07:52) Sum Up & Book Mention

This is an extensive, in-depth answer to a long question, covering the topic of a difficult, toxic relationship (00:11) Cluster B Personality Types Will Only Let You Feel What They Want You to Feel (04:11) Loud Silence & Abusive Hooking (06:39) Overlapping of Traits in Different Diagnosis (08:30) Combat PTSD, CPTSD and Victims Becoming Abusers (19:03) Things Are Not Black & White or Single-layered (25:04) Addiction to Contact With Narcissist (30:56) Getting Out of the Trap and Moving on With Your Life (35:10) "How can I best help a loved one to accept compassion?" (39:53) "How can I stop people from following a cult on YouTube?"

Is it worth giving up our boundaries in order to receive what we want? What is the alternative? (00:10) Introduction - Hannibal Lecter Reference (03:43) The Devil's Pact (06:15) Vulnerable People Pleasers (07:49) Victims Defending Their Abusers (10:16) Parenting (13:51) What Happens When You Won't Take the Chocolate?