Restore The Glory Podcast

Jake and Bob welcome a very special guest onto the podcast from Portland, OR: Archbishop Alexander Sample. Appointed a Bishop at the young age of 45, Archbishop Sample has served over 15 years in the episcopate and has recently embarked on a journey of healing that has totally transformed his approach to spiritual fatherhood of priests. Together with Jake and Bob, Archbishop Sample shares some key childhood wounds and healing in parts of his story, demonstrating how healing helps unite us to Christ and those we lead.   Guiding Quote: It’s not the critic who counts… The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood. - Theodore Roosevelt   Key points: How the Archbishop began his healing journey about two years ago The Archbishop shares vulnerably about father wounds and bullying he experienced as a young boy Jake affirms strength in vulnerability and the safety it creates How brokenness has affected Archbishop Sample and his leadership, particularly in his relationship as a spiritual father to his priests How healing has impacted the Archbishop’s spiritual fatherhood and relationship with the priests in his Archdiocese The importance of having people in your life who are instruments of healing How a leader’s healing and transparency can lead to healing in the people he leads    Practical Application: Ask yourself, “Am I willing to do what I ask of others?” What are some parts of your story that you aren’t ready to tell yet? Might you need more healing in these areas?  Write an encouraging letter to a priest or bishop in your diocese. We often only reach out to them when we have a bone to pick!    Resources:  Archbishop Sample’s bio with the Archdiocese of Portland, OR Archbishop Sample’s Twitter: @ArchbishpSample Forty Weeks to Healing and Transformation for Priests (book) Be Healed (book) Man in the Arena quote from Theodore Roosevelt   Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast  Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast   Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

Today we're excited to launch a brand new, multi-part series on leadership, a topic that impacts everyone. Who is a leader and what is leadership? Why does healing matter for leaders? How can leaders bring healing to others? All these questions and more will be addressed in the weeks ahead as we hear from Jake, Bob and loads of special guests. In part one, Jake and Bob share parts of their own stories as they explore why ongoing healing is essential for anyone who takes leadership seriously.     Guiding Quote: “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.” (Luke 16:10)   Key points: Leadership is everywhere  We’re all called to be leaders Jesus treats leaders differently and the Bible addresses leadership often Character is amplified in leadership Leadership is about self-sacrifice even unto death How secrecy and avoiding healing affects leadership The Holy Spirit is not condemning What it looks like to operate out of a place of sonship rather than as an orphan Healing is an ongoing process   Practical Application: Reflect on who you are influencing. How are you a leader in ways that go beyond your position at work? Ask yourself the following questions: How has brokenness affected your leadership? How has healing affected your leadership? How are you bringing healing to others? How do you see the role of healing in leadership?   Resources:  Restore the Glory Episodes 12-16: Anatomy of a Wound Restore the Glory Episodes 17-22: The Life of Peter   Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast  Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast   Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

Bob and Jake continue to answer your burning questions about therapy. Much of this episode is dedicated to clinicians and those studying clinical psychology. Bob and Jake explore more therapeutic and healing prayer methods that contribute to good integrated psychological practice. They also address why your emotional and relational health matters as the therapist in the room. They conclude with some simple advice for aspiring therapists and those seeking therapy, most importantly that Jesus is the ultimate healer and therapists simply facilitate that healing. We hope this episode blesses you!   Key points: Recommended areas of formation What is EMDR?  The overlap between EMDR and inner healing prayer (such as Transformation Prayer Ministry) How do you pray in a session and is it okay to pray? How do you choose a good therapist and how do you know if it’s a good fit once you start? Things to watch out for and avoid in a therapist Healthy therapist-client boundaries  How attachment can happen and how to navigate that as a therapist A few pieces of advice from Jake and Bob for therapists and anyone seeking therapy   Practical Application for therapists: How can I allow Christ to live and work through me in therapy?  How can I continue to grow as a therapist both professionally, spiritually and personally so that I can be a knowledgeable, faithful and healthy therapist?   Resources:    Recommended areas of formation Trauma-focused Therapy such as EMDR Emotion-focused Therapy (EFT) Play Therapy Internal Family Systems Therapy Interpersonal Process Therapy AEDP Family Reconstruction   Integrated methods of formation: HeartSync Ministries Transformation Prayer Ministry Immanuel Prayer   Other resources: Intuitus Group Counselling Centre Catholic Psychotherapy Association American Association of Christian Counselors   Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast  Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast   Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

We receive a lot of questions about therapy on the show, naturally. In this first of a two part series, Jake and Bob begin to tackle your burning questions about faith and therapy, whether you're an aspiring therapist or seeking therapy. They cover everything from the client-therapist relationship, to the professionals they have studied and model, to what it looks like to have faith inform your work in an integrated approach to therapy. This episode is packed with suggested resources, so be sure to check out that section below.    Guiding Quote:  “Understanding is the basis of care. What you would take care of you must first understand, whether it be a petunia or a nation.” - Dallas Willard   Key points: Why therapy is becoming increasingly popular and how it fills a need in our culture Thoughts about the ideals and limitations of the client-therapist relationship The important link between understanding and care Theology of the Body providing a foundational understanding of the human person An explanation of integrated therapy, where personal faith complements therapy practice Therapists who have informed Jake and Bob’s work Suggested resources Suggested universities with schools of psychology Answering the question: is it better to begin in public or private practice after graduating?   Resources:  The Place We Find Ourselves by Adam Young (podcast) The Divine Conspiracy, Dallas Willard (book) Be Healed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book) Healing & Wholeness Catholic Psychotherapist Conference (registration opens January 10) Theology of the Body & Healing (Part 1 - Introduction), Restore the Glory series Jesus and the Scriptures   Individuals who have impacted Jake and Bob: Conrad Baars (Catholic psychiatrist and author) John Eldredge and Wild at Heart (Christian therapist, author and writer) Dr. Larry Crabb and Larger Story (Christian psychologist) Leanne Payne (Founder of Ministries of Pastoral Care) Dr. Jim Wilder and Life Model Works (Christian psychologist) Dr. Dan Allender (Christian psychologist, speaker, professor) Dr. Karl Lehman and Immanuel Healing Prayer Henri Nouwen (Catholic priest and author)   Recommended Schools of Psychology: Divine Mercy University, Virginia Franciscan University of Steubenville, Ohio (Undergrad only) Trinity Western University, Vancouver   Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast  Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast   Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

Jake and Bob continue their conversation with Christopher West. If you haven’t heard part one, click here to listen because it’s essential for understanding the content of today's episode.    Join Jake, Bob and Christopher as they take a deep ‘excavating’ look at the transformation and healing of identity through the power of an honest and loving spouse. Sexual healing is more than just the healing of sexual things, it’s a deeper healing of our identity as men and women made in the image of God. Overtime, within the safety of a loving marriage, each man has discovered areas of their hearts that are in need of redemption. Humility before God and our spouses, and a willingness to invite the Lord into our wounds leads to powerful healing and wholeness.     Guiding Quote:  “It is not in our power to not feel or to forget an offense; but the heart that offers itself to the Holy Spirit turns injury into compassion and purifies the memory in transforming hurt into intercession.” (CCC 2843)   Key points: Sexual healing is more than a healing of sexual things, it’s a healing of our masculinity and femininity How the excavation/ archaeological process is a rich analogy for the cooperative healing that can happen between God and ourselves The importance of where we find our identity The power of an honest spouse in sexual healing If we’re not living out our commitment of marriage in love for our spouse, then we’re also not honouring God God is the ultimate healer, because there are things that are beyond our human capacity to transform The enemy distorts and sets up idols that prevent us from seeing the God’s goodness in world as he intended it Breaking open an analogy of self-condemnation: coming ‘face to face with the hunchback in the woods’   Practical Application: Where do I find my identity: in what others think or in how God sees me? What in my life have I turned into an idol, and how might that get in the way of loving my spouse well? How would my perspective shift if I saw the idols in my life as icons providing a window to God? Where have I made agreements with the opinions of others that has led to self-condemnation? Go to the Lord in prayer and ask him to love you back to wholeness in those places.    References:  Theology of the Body Institute from Christopher West The Good News about Sex and Marriage, Christopher West (book) Christopher West on Pints with Aquinas (podcast)   Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast  Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast   Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!   Editing by ForteCatholic.com

This week, Jake and Bob spend time with an old friend, Christopher West. They reminisce about their spiritual history with each other, and Christopher gets real about his own journey of healing from rejection wounds. Christopher is well known as ‘the Theology of the Body guy,’ but after nine years of hiding his own brokenness behind masks in his marriage, he was confronted with the reality that he was living out his brokenness with his wife. Christopher walks us through his testimony of learning to take off the masks to let God love him.     Guiding Quote:  “For Christ did not send me to baptize, but to preach the gospel—not with wisdom and eloquence, lest the cross of Christ be emptied of its power.” - 1 Cor 1:17   Key points: Christopher, Jake and Bob talk about their friendship and how they first met How Christopher’s wounds of rejection created a blindspot that prevented him from loving his wife well in their first decade of marriage How wounds of rejection can affect identity We have to go into our family history to understanding our wounds  The ‘archaeological dig’ into our own wounds must be done with Christ Our wounds play out in the marriage bed We can show up as we are because we’re loved by God   Practical Application: What is your spiritual legacy? Who has shared the faith with you and is your spiritual father or grandfather?  Where have you experienced rejection wounds? Pray over those areas to ask God to heal those wounds.  Reflect on how God has worked in your history to bring you to where you are today.   References:  Theology of the Body Institute from Christopher West The Good News about Sex and Marriage, Christopher West (book) Christopher West on Pints with Aquinas (podcast)   Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast   Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!   Editing by ForteCatholic.com

This week, Jake and Bob reflect on the last episode conversation with Matt Fradd. They discuss the link between shame and compulsion, the addiction cycle and how to truly find healing from sexual sin.   Guiding Quote: “Take heart!” - John 16:33   Key points The link between shame and compulsion Pornography blurs the lines of fantasy and reality A fresh perspective on deeper, long-lasting healing Explanation of the addiction cycle How our attitude toward our wounds and our sin affects our spiritual lives Practical advice about the process and next steps in the healing journey The role of grace in the healing process   Practical Application: Where have you not experienced love that there might be a shame response? Pray about what might be your ‘holy desire’ (for God, connection, love, etc) behind areas of shame, and what might be your unholy desires? Every morning, reflect on your wedding vows and recommit to them.   References:  Sexual Healing (Part 4) - Battling Pornography with Matt Fradd, Restore the Glory Podcast Unwanted, Jay Stringer (book)  Be Transformed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book)  Be Restored, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book) Be Healed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book) Breaking Free From Pornography w/ Fr. Sean Kilcawley, Pints with Aquinas Podcast   Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast   Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!   Editing by ForteCatholic.com

Renowned expert Matt Fradd joins the conversation for our fourth episode in the series on Sexual Healing. Matt shares about ongoing journey to freedom from a pornography addiction that began at a young age. Matt, Jake and Bob discuss compulsions towards porn, how to avoid temptation and overcome addictions over time with the help of God and His people. If you or someone you know is battling a porn addiction, we hope you find this episode and the resources below helpful.    Guiding Quote: “But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." - 2 Corinthians 12:9   Key points - Dealing with the fallout from a porn addiction in childhood- Desire and compulsions that come in response to unmet desire- How to find recovery from porn addiction- The lie that there is a ‘silver bullet’ to healing. Rather, it’s a consistent effort to break free from addictions- Why it’s often hard to talk about these things in the church - God loves us in our weakness and failures- Overcoming shame - The importance of compassion and exhortation    Resources: - Treating Pornography Addiction: The Essential Tools for Recovery, Dr. Kevin Skinner (book) - The Porn Myth, Matt Fradd (book)- Matt Fradd’s Podcast, Pints With Aquinas (podcast)- Strive: 21-Day Porn Detox (for men)- Magdala Ministries for women struggling with sexual addiction- Forged: 33 Days Toward Freedom, Jason Evert & Matt Fradd (book)- Integrity Restored: resources for overcoming porn addiction   Practical Application: Find a trusted person to share honestly about your struggle, if you find yourself battling pornography use.  Thank God for the opportunities he has given you to show you his power through your weakness.  Explore one of the resources on our list to find new ways to support a loved one or overcome your own struggles.   Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast  Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast   Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!   Editing by ForteCatholic.com

As they continue the series on Sexual Healing, Jake and Bob share their takeaways and insights from last episode’s conversion with Sr. Miriam James Heidland. If you missed that powerful episode, please go back and listen! Jake and Bob revisit some core aspects of Theology of the Body, how Sister’s story illustrates these principles, and how we can find healing and help others do the same.   Key points What stood out to Jake and Bob from last episode’s conversation with Sr. Miriam James Heidland Revisiting insights from Theology of the Body as applied to healing journey Where to begin in our own healing journey Healing of our identity and how we see God’s identity Understanding the importance of the healing of trust in our relationship with God and others The role of shame and how to find freedom from shame We’ve all experienced disorder in our sexuality by virtue of living in a fallen world   Resources:  Theology of the Body Series: Episodes 3-8 from Restore the Glory (podcast) The Wounded Heart by Dan Allender (book)  Be Restored by Bob Schuchts (book)  Unwanted by Jay Stringer (book)    Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast  Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast   Subscribe/Rate Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness and wholeness sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!   Editing by ForteCatholic.com

Show Notes It’s a joy to welcome our dear friend and special guest, Sr. Miriam James Heidland, onto the podcast. Continuing the series on Sexual Healing, Sr. Miriam teaches us how to have a disposition of tenderness and reverence toward our own stories, what she calls holy ground. Jake, Bob and Sr. Miriam regularly work alongside each other leading healing events, so this conversation is familiar territory. We are grateful for her vulnerability. Content warning: sexual abuse and the impacts of childhood abuse are discussed within this episode. References:  Abiding Together Podcast  Sr. Miriam’s Twitter Loved As I Am, book by Sr. Miriam  JPII Healing Center Society of Our Lady of the Most Holy Trinity (SOLT Sisters) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast  Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Subscribe/Rate Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness and wholeness sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Editing by ForteCatholic.com