Earn Your Happy

In This Episode You Will Learn About: Old default responses that lead to negotiating with yourself The 80/20 rule The need for perfection Discipline habits Stopping the internal arguments   Show Notes Today I want to take some time to talk about something really important: the space between where you are and where you want to go. Each step of the process within this space is so different; from thinking about what you want, to planning what you want, creating a habit, and beyond. A lot of people, myself included, tend to get caught in this space and find themselves negotiating with their goals rather than working towards them. This episode intention is to help you recognize where you are negotiating with yourself, and inspire you to continue to push the needle in the direction of your goals. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: Our favorite quotes of the moment How Snacks, our resident squirrell, is doing Keeping your mind and heart positive + peaceful Ways to deal with negativity in your business Misconceptions that others have of us   Resources: Check out: The Bliss Project March 2019 Fast Foundations Mastermind   Show Notes Time for another Q&A Day with me and Evans! Listen in as we answer questions that you have sent in, and hear our favorite quotes of the moment! In today’s “questionably awesome” episode, Evans and I are talking about how we keep our minds and hearts peaceful, ways to deal with negativity, and misconceptions that others have of us.   Review of the Week: 1love444: “I love Lori’s podcasts for so many reasons. Not only does she pop on to share stories of success and failure, she reminds us constantly that there’s always time to be made for yourself (self-care) – which is so important in our technology obsessed, fast paced world. Thank you for all you do, Lori!   Question 1: @karenjanae: “What are your go to’s for keeping your mind and heart peaceful and positive?”   Question 2: @kspadalik: “How to deal with negativity in your business”   Question 3: @Rebeccafalkner: “What has been a common misconception about you? (Now, or in the past)” Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: Moving to Hawaii and discovering new things How manual therapy with Aaron works Changes in his mentality he’s seen + shame The topical layers we have and confront on our paths Looking back at our journey to see how it’s all connected What Aaron thinks pain actually is Working with the beliefs of today Making space in your day with things of value + noticing subconscious thoughts Listening to the whispers + interrupting patterns What’s most exciting for Aaron right now   Resources: Instagram: @alignpodcast Listen: Align Podcast Youtube: Align Therapy   Show Notes I am so happy to introduce today’s guest, Aaron Alexander! Aaron is a movement coach, manual therapist, fellow podcastor, and is the founder of the Align Method. The Align Method is a integrated approach to functional movement and self-care, and has helped THOUSANDS of people heal from pain and find health. I’ve been wanting to connect with Aaron for a while now, and in today’s conversation he taught me SO. MUCH. With Aaron, no topic is off-limits, and because of that, this conversation was so full of life. I know you’ll learn a lot from today’s episode!   Question Highlights: Through the physical work you do, what have you seen change mentally? Do you that we have to go through the difficulties in order to find out what our flow truly is for us? What do you think pain really is? How do you work with the beliefs around what people have come to believe in the world? What’s the balance of doing too much and not enough?   Aaron Alexander CR, LMT is an accomplished manual therapist and movement coach with over 13 years of professional experience. He is the founder of the Align Method™, an integrated approach to functional movement and self-care that has helped thousands of people out of pain and into health. He hosts the top-rated Align Podcast featuring the biggest names in movement and wellness. Aaron’s clients include Hollywood celebrities, Olympic competitors, professional athletes and everyone in between. He teaches world-wide and resides in Venice, CA. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: A time where I was feeling disconnected Equal energy exchange connection Where we think our value comes from   Resources: Check out: The Bliss Project March 2019 Fast Foundations Mastermind   Show Notes So many of us are confusing what connection actually means, leaving us feeling unfulfilled but not really understanding why. We crave connections... but are we confusing connection with coaching? In today’s quickie, I share my own personal journey through this feeling, and ways that I have worked through it. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: Exciting news from Evans What gives us hope in difficult times The first team member I hired + the lesson I learned Turning self-sabotage off + forgiving procrastination Wisdom that has come through for us this week   Resources: Check out: The Bliss Project March 2019 Fast Foundations Mastermind Read: Procrastinate On Purpose   Show Notes Time for another Q&A Day with me and Evans! Listen in as we answer questions that you have sent in, and hear our favorite quotes of the moment! In today’s “questionably awesome” episode, Evans is sharing some exciting news! The two of us also talk about what gives us hope in difficult times, the lesson I learned with my first hire, and turning off self-sabotage.   Review of the Week: Desert-mama “Yesterday I had a Lori-a-thon and probably listened to like 5 podcasts. It was my soul food for the day, I laughed out loud to you and Evans (like I do every time!), I cried with Tracy O’Malley. She is such an amazing woman and her story speaks volumes on so many levels. Whenever I am needing some inspiration or some words of wisdom you are always here. Thank you! I feel like when I’m listening to you and Evans it’s like I’m in the room with two of my besties laughing along with you. I had the pleasure of meeting you last year at the women’s powerhouse event and I’ve been on board ever since. Best podcast ever!   Question 1: @heymadelyne: “What’s given you hope in your difficult moments (you know, the ones that feel hopeless)?”   Question 2: @meet_thefreemans: “What was your first team member to hire?”   Question 3: Alicia Carussi: “How do I turn off the self sabotaging and forgive the procrastination?” Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: How Olivia and I connected Where the name, VINA, came from + why it was created How Hey! VINA works Standing up for herself The importance of human connection The obstacle that Olivia is currently facing Fears around loneliness Turning envy into admiration Seeking out specific friend groups Lady bragging + why it’s important The problems of privilege project that Olivia uses Olivia and I share our lady brags   Resources: Learn more: heyvina.com ; ladybrag.com ; vinazine.com Instagram: @heyoliviajune ; @vinazine Download: Hey! VINA Read: 4,000 Questions For Getting To Know Anyone ; 36 Questions For Falling In Love Check out: The Bliss Project March 2019 Fast Foundations Mastermind   Show Notes If my message and book had a sister, she would absolutely be today’s guest! I am thrilled to share today’s episode with guest Olivia June, the founder and CEO of fried-finding app, Hey! VINA. Olivia is also the editor in chief of VINAZINE, and the brains behind LadyBrag.com, and her work has been featured in hundreds of popular media outlets. In her free time, Olivia volunteers as a mentor, empowering and inspiring young women in foster care. This episode will leave you feeling SO inspired and SO ready to connect with new people, I just can’t wait for you to give it a listen!   Question Highlights: What is the story behind VINA? What have you noticed in your life, through connection, how it’s affected this past year for you? What is your biggest obstacle, and how are you going at it? When you are looking for your life to go in a specific direction, do you seek out those types of people? What do you think are some of the top blocks for women when it comes to connecting with other women?   Olivia June is the founder + CEO of Hey! VINA, the friend-finding app for women that connects, celebrates, and empowers women by helping them build their tribe, one right swipe at a time!   Launched in 2016, Hey! VINA has connected millions of women in 158 countries and is backed by Greylock, Tinder and NEA. Often referred to as the "Tinder for (girl) friends," Hey! VINA was named as a Best of 2017 by the App Store. Olivia is also the editor in chief of VINAZINE, a media outlet with stories and advice from and for women of the VINA community. In addition, she's the brains behind the LadyBrag.com platform, which encourages women to share their accomplishments.   A little background on Olivia's impressive career: She was the co-founder of the San Francisco wine events club, Ladies Who Vino, a community that's connected thousands of professional women over a glass of wine, and she spent and she spent six years in leadership of SparkSF, the largest philanthropic network of millennials investing in grassroots women’s organizations. Prior to dedicating herself full-time to empowering women around the world, she led community development at RocketSpace, held a marketing leadership position at General Assembly, and worked on the first American Bitcoin exchange, Tradehill. In her free time, she volunteers as a mentor to young women in the foster care system.   Olivia and her work have been featured in hundreds of media outlets including, ELLE, Cosmopolitan, Wired, The Atlantic, The Guardian, Paper Magazine, Glamour, Marie Claire, The Tyra Show, The Doctors, Fox News, Fast Company, Grazia, The Guardian, Refinery 29, HerCampus, Thrive Global, Vice, and many more Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: Why it’s so important to validate ourselves first How I searched for outside validation Powerful quotes on validation Where to go when the answer is NO Keeping your energy clean + checking in with yourself Mantras to say that will help   Resources: Check out: The Bliss Project March 2019 Fast Foundations Mastermind Where Do We Go by Lindsey Stirling   Show Notes In today’s quickie, I really wanted to talk about validation. I have been thinking SO much about validation and what it means lately, so I knew I had to share. The word validation tends to get a bad reputation because it drives us to gain approval from others– we still have to remember that we need to validate ourselves. Seeking the validation from others and then getting it doesn’t actually make us happy if we don’t love and approve ourselves. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: Our take on expectations How I push the needle + how you can too Pivots in life, and my pivot from fitness to changing lives The Bliss Project Our love of Jeni’s Ice Cream     Resources: Check out: The Bliss Project March 2019 Fast Foundations Mastermind Jeni’s Splendid Ice Cream   Show Notes Time for another Q&A Day with me and Evans! Listen in as we answer questions that you have sent in, and hear our favorite quotes of the moment! In today’s “questionably awesome” episode, Evans and I are talking about expectations, pushing the needle in your life, sensing a pivot and leaning into it, and how excited we are for the Bliss Project!   Review of the Week: @tracilinSC “Oh my gosh! Lori, you and Evans need to take the Q&A sessions on the road. I get so tickled listening to the two of you! I definitely think together you could solve a lot of worldly problems, or at least offer an amazing dose of laughter while trying. Thanks for sharing all things bliss-filled with your listeners!”   Question 1: @emilymedaglia: “A Few weeks ago you mentioned “pushing the needle work”-would love examples!”   Question 2: @letaalexandra: “What was your “pivot” point from fitness to changing lives with coaching/masterminds etc?” Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: Tracy’s story of growing up + addiction The work she did for herself The story she kept hearing as a child + the belief system it created Speaking to her younger self Navigating the in-between Taking 11 months of silence Knowing the fear and understanding it Finding the “root” Healing her relationship with women   Resources: Learn more: tracyomalley.com Instagram: @tracy_omalley Read: Grace, Grit, Guts Check out: The Bliss Project March 2019 Fast Foundations Mastermind   Show Notes I am SO excited for today’s episode because I am joined by Tracy O’Malley! Tracy is a recovery coach helping women heal their relationship to alcohol, food and drugs. She dedicated to helping women heal their internal wounds– is that not just incredible? Tracy has been in my life for a while, and she always offers so much wisdom each time we’re together. Her comeback story is BEAUTIFUL. Being able to sit down with Tracy and get deep was SO necessary and I can’t wait for you to listen.   Question Highlights: Was your work with other people always meant to happen? How do you navigate the in-between? How do you navigate the fear? What is your advice for those trying to find the root?   Tracy O’Malley is a sought after Master Transformation Coach, Power-House Entrepreneur, Key-note speaker, and Author. She has inspired people from all walks of life. She is the Queen of Tough Love and Transformation who has facilitated soul breakthroughs and sustainable change in thousands of people all over the world. With Tracy’s coaching you will tackle limiting habits, uncover hidden blind spots, navigate tough transitions, and create shifts that result in emotional, physical, spiritual, and financial freedom. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: How we apply our own meaning to things A quote I’ve been loving right now How to view the season you may be in The season I’ve been in   Resources: Check out: The Bliss Project March 2019 Fast Foundations Mastermind   Show Notes I have this theory that whenever I’m not in the place or headspace I want to be in, I try and find someone else that is in that place. It’s super important to me to find someone to speak that life back into me, and honestly, sometimes it isn’t even about the words– it’s about the vibration. Nothing is out there actually making us feel a certain way, it’s actually us taking it in and applying our own meaning to it. If we could all really look at ourselves and the season that we’re in, it’s important to remember that space is truly just a visitor– some stay longer than others, but they will leave. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook