The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

I’ve discussed in many places that porn use is not helpful for marriage, particularly in cases where there is a libido disparity and partners are trying to come closer to one another’s levels.  In this post I will address a phenomenon that many women describe in therapy, which is how differently their husbands act when they are using porn, why this happens, and how it hurts relationships! Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship Dynamics That Sabotage Closeness: https://amzn.to/3WQoA8X Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "How Seeing Your Parents In A Honeymoon Stage Impacts You." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Many clients of both genders struggle with the decision of whether to get divorced before or after the kids leave home. There are pros and cons to each decision, discussed on today's episode! Straight talk as usual. Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship Dynamics That Sabotage Closeness: https://amzn.to/3WQoA8X Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "All About Perimenopause." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Most men find it very useful to learn about responsive desire, which means needing to be touched in order to get excited. This is the kind of desire women generally have within monogamy after the honeymoon stage, and contrasts with spontaneous arousal, or being excited even before touching happens. When these men understand that responsive desire kicks in after the honeymoon stage (with some exceptions, e.g. ovulation), or with age, they start learning more about female arousal, resolve to engage in more foreplay, learn about sexual technique, or get better at massage. But there are other men who find it very upsetting to learn about responsive desire. They say that they don't even want to have sex if their partner doesn't experience spontaneous arousal, because then "she isn't really into it," or "she isn't attracted to me." This episode is for the men who find the idea of responsive desire anxiety-provoking or distressing instead of instructive. Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship Dynamics That Sabotage Closeness: https://amzn.to/3WQoA8X Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "All About Perimenopause." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

So many people who grew up in dysfunctional homes have no idea how to connect to their partners in a playful and sweet way without doing some huge gesture that can't be done very often (e.g, an expensive meal out). In this post I discuss a few little ways to make your partner feel loved, especially if you struggle with romance or daily connection! Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship Dynamics That Sabotage Closeness: https://amzn.to/3WQoA8X Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "All About Perimenopause." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Wealthy individuals often find that time is the only true currency that matters. With financial security, the focus shifts from money to meaningful experiences, prompting reflections on happiness and the burden of too many choices. The paradox of romance is explored, illustrating how unlimited options can complicate attraction and relationship decisions. Ultimately, the quest for purpose beyond wealth emphasizes the importance of altruism and nurturing relationships in achieving fulfillment.

Many very anxious people are consumed with fear of their own potential devastation or inability to cope if a bad thing were to happen to them. Some examples include: What if my partner was unfaithful or left me? What if my partner died? What if my child got ill? What if I was no longer physically attractive? What if I die earlier than expected? And so on. This episode discusses who falls prey to obsessing about these negative outcomes, why, and how to reframe these fears, guided by a more objective lens. The post about this is here:https://www.drpsychmom.com/your-life-would-always-go-on-even-if-a-bad-thing-happened/ The one I referenced later is here: https://www.drpsychmom.com/grandparents-even-when-they-were-terrible-parents-dont-generally-mess-up-grandkids/ Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship Dynamics That Sabotage Closeness: https://amzn.to/3WQoA8X Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Her Lack Of Desire Isn't Usually About You... But Sometimes It Is." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Explore the fascinating dynamics of relationship compatibility, focusing on how equally valuing a partnership can shape its success. Discover the impact of attachment styles, from secure to anxious and avoidant, on partner choices. Dive deep into the importance of open communication about needs and desires as relationships evolve. Learn how to establish and prioritize relationship goals, fostering resilience and commitment. Personal anecdotes and pop culture references bring these concepts to life in a relatable and engaging manner.

Emotional labor isn't the problem guys. This term is so widely misused it's nuts. Here's who uses it and why. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Everything Does End, Sorry To Tell You." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Anxiety can often go unrecognized, impacting personal happiness and family dynamics. The discussion highlights how fears, like identity theft, shape behaviors and relationships. There's a focus on unlearning these anxieties through therapy, including techniques to confront fears. Moreover, the cycle of inherited anxiety is examined, showing its effects on family and relationships. Strategies for healthier coping mechanisms are emphasized, empowering listeners to break free from the chains of anxious thinking.

Many people can't put themselves out there and do scary things... until they figure out a motivator that makes sense to them. For many parents, this is their kids. For women, specifically, kids can help you try hard things in your career. And for men, the kids can be your motivator to be more emotionally present in your family. Also: how I use this frame myself! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Everything Does End, Sorry To Tell You." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ