The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A subscriber asked me a great question about why some women in particular that she knows find it very hard to meet men to be in a serious relationship with, even though they want to get married and have kids.  I discuss two main reasons that people find it difficult to find partners that they are attracted to, and discuss one major reason that people may not be as into you as you want. Links: Pursuer-Distancer Relationships 52 Emails To Transform Your Marriage (my book, it helps a lot with vulnerability which is a main focus of this episode!) Why Do All My Dating Relationships Fizzle Out After A Couple Of Dates? Vulnerability Is Another Word For Confidence, And Women Love It (FYI men do too)

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A listener wrote in saying that to her and other women of her age, the culture and teachings around sex for adolescents seem very fear-based. She says, "There is all this talk about consent, as if rape and rape- avoidance are the main factors in relationships. Is this a fashion or a shift in western society’s values? You are a mother of girls - how will you be coaching your daughters to deal with male attention as they get older so that they don’t feel vulnerable and can navigate relationships with confidence?"  A favorite topic!  How many times do today's anxious parents mention that sex can be WONDERFUL versus discussing the potential of assault?  Frame how you discuss sex in a positive, empowering way and you will be doing all you can to give your kids a higher likelihood for healthy open sex lives later in life. Links I mentioned: Why Being Taught That Sex Is Bad Messes You Up Free Range Parenting Thanks for listening and please write in with more topics!

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe New podcast based on a listener question!  This listener is totally not my husband sending me a voice message on his drive home or anything!  In this episode, I respond to the question, "What about when your wife just wants you to listen?  Doesn't trying to move the conversation along and cheer her up, as your suggested in your Protect Your Wife podcast, make her feel unheard and upset?" I distinguish between the different kinds of problem solving and the myth of catharsis. Related links: You Can And Should Cheer Up Your Partner Research on why catharsis doesn't work

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe If you know me, you know that I base what I talk about on what REAL couples in my office discuss and want, versus what society tells people to want.  I continually see women who want to be protected and cared for, but their husbands have no idea how to do this without being a chauvinistic jerk.  Never fear!  I am here to rescue you from this pickle.  Full disclaimer: only listen to my podcasts if you have the time to GET LAID because becoming a better man in the ways I describe may yield this bonus result. :) Related links: Stop Caring So Much What Your Wife Thinks Err On The Side Of Overprotecting Your Wife, Not Underprotecting Her PS If you need a therapist to help you grow into your full potential as a husband (or wife!), check out my group practice!

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode, I help all my listeners with small kids figure out concrete ways to get more connected couple time together. This is especially useful for all my couples who don't have family help. Share my practical tips with your partner and you two can discuss which you can try!  Related links:  100 Date Night Questions  Top 5 Reasons To Use A Paid Sitter  How To Deal With Your Partner’s Child-Related Anxiety  Having A Healthy Sex Life With Your Spouse Is Good For Your Kids, Here’s Why  Sex/Life On Netflix Sums Up What Women Yearn For In Marriage (And Some Discussion Prompts For Couples!)

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe I always discuss how toxic marital scorekeeping is... but is there any way that it can actually improve your dynamic when done differently?  Listen and learn, grasshoppers. Realize that you will be reframing your unhelpful beliefs and also, as usual, thinking deeply about their origin in your earlier life. Specifically, we will be exploring where your victim/perpetrator mentality comes from. This is basic CBT so if it works for you, therapy would likely work as well. Related links: Emotional Labor Is Not The Problem Couples You Meet in Counseling #2: The Ice Queen and the Martyr Beware Of The Person Who Is Always Being Mistreated By Exes Would All People Respond To Your Partner The Way You Do? Please subscribe to this podcast because if every time I get a paid subscriber, an angel gets its wings!  Also if you need a therapist be sure to check out my group practice Best Life Behavioral Health!

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe So many of us deal with treatment resistant depression.  What do you do when therapy and meds don't work?  I outline other ways to address your depression, and ways to reframe your life that allow you to move forward with meaning and purpose while being depressed.   "Where There Is Life, There Is Hope!" (couldn't find who originally said that quote but it applies!") Related links: What To Try When You're Depressed In Addition To Therapy and Meds What Aspects Of Depression Can Be Helped By Therapy And Which Can’t "I Have Treatment Resistant Depression, Now What?" Man's Search For Meaning Thanks for listening and please subscribe!  I appreciate everyone who has told me they are getting something from this podcast!

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode I expand on my post Men Need To Think Their Wives Are Really Hot For Things To Work and my companion post about women needing a margin of error of attraction to their husbands. Everyone deserves to be with a partner who thinks they are attractive, and all women have the deep desired to be adored.  He's only going to adore you if you are his physical type, so don't stop looking until you find a man that loves how you look!  Also, if you are in the sad situation where you're not attracted to your spouse, I give you some advice. If your husband forwards you this podcast it means he thinks you're hot and he's happy about it! Related: Here's the study I cite about women needing to be more attractive than their partners! And here's the post about the man with the wife he's not attracted to anymore. "I Found My Soulmate Online But She's Unattractive In Person" Please subscribe for bonus episodes!  Paid subscribers can email me for episode ideas and I promise a quick turnaround!  Thanks everyone!

Parents often face the challenge of raising respectful children while navigating their own childhood experiences. Discover how ungratefulness can stem from parenting styles and learn the importance of consistency and communication. The discussion offers practical scripts to promote empathy and clearly set boundaries, ensuring emotional well-being and mutual respect. Strategies highlight the connection between family history and current behavior, emphasizing gratitude as a vital lesson in child-rearing.

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe If you are a Highly Sensitive Person or tend towards anxiety/depression, it is likely you are the more difficult partner.  You may try to seem laid back or blame your demandingness on external variables, but this only serves to gaslight your partner. If you are the one who chooses most activities and has the more specific needs for routines and timing for everything from meals to sex, then you are likely the more difficult partner.  If you own this, and appreciate your partner for deferring to you, you can have a much closer and more authentic relationship.  Furthermore, you can model "owning" your issues for your kids!  Related links:  When You're The More "Difficult" Partner  Own Your Issues And Your Kids Will Learn To Own Theirs  Thanks for listening guys!  Please subscribe to my podcast and follow me on Facebook!